My boyfriend goes to Iraq for a year because he's in the army... and that's what
he does. He's in the Infantry to be exact. He's been in the army for about a
year now and I won't get to talk to him for basically an entire year. He also
got accepted into West Point Military Academy in New York (I live in Florida)
and I wouldn't dream of inhibiting him from doing what he wants to with his
life. That will be another 4 years of relatively minimal contact, but i've been
with him for about a year, i've known him for two years and he was talking about
asking me to marry him, I guess he's been thinking that he doesn't want to keep
me from living my life "normally".
He doesn't want to talk about this over the phone (which is understandable) and
i'm flying up to Iowa on the 4th to see him and his family for the holiday. I'm
not sure what to think about all this, my plan was to first make sure he doesn't
get killed or injured in Iraq first and then go from there because people do
change when they get back from war and I have to focus on school and it keeps me
out of trouble. He asked me "how upset would you be if we broke up?"
and a million things went through my mind at once. He didn't do the ball-less
thing and break up with me on the phone like some stupid highschool romance
movie, i'm just wondering why he can't make a decision like an adult should and
stick to it...
i'm just really confused and any advice on this would be much
appreciated.
and just so you weren't biased when you first read this, i am 16 years of age,
i'll be 17 this september and my boyfriend just turned 20 about a week and a
half ago. The age difference is 3 years, 3 months and neither of us is a
dumbass.
i think long distance relationships r hard...
u have to have a lot of strength n patience to not fool around wit someone else
while they're gone..
cus its easy to get lonely
like, jus askin urself...how long can u wait before movin on?
but while hes gone, jus try to keep in touch as much as u can...
letters, phone calls, wutever
but i think after thats over and done wit, and u finally get to see each other
again...
hopefullly ur relationship will only be strengthened by the time spent away from
each other
i am also in the army. i'm going to iraq in july. i leave a wife and two
childern. i have had to leave them before and i can tell you it is never easy.
time apart can have one of two outcomes. first the two of you will fall apart
due to the stress and pressure. if the relationship is not strong everything
will get in the way and then it is just better to go your seperate ways. be
honest with yourself. if you want it to work then it can.
the other path is hard. it requires sacrifice and devotion by both people. if
you have a strong relationship the time appart will only make you relationship
stronger. after 13 years and countless deployments i'm still married and doing
fine.
This is a hard question, but... although you migh really love him, you are
definitely too much young to think about marriage... You may think you are not,
but believe me, you'll think again in a few years and you will think the same as
me. Do what you want, and follow your heart, but... Think very much what you are
going to do, and when you have think it very carefully... THINK AGAIN
Think about how heart broken you would be if he died in Iraq, and that will
tell you if you truly love him. Also concider the fact of is it worth taking the
risk that he might die because you might want someone with a higher life
expectancy. If you love him enough to take that chance that he might die, then
go for it! !6 is alittle too young to be thinking of marrige, but in a few years
if you still feel the same and if he survives, then it's a good idea. I know
that if someone i cared deeply for or loved went to to war, i would not abandon
them on my life. I would take that chance no matter what and suffer the
conciquences if something were to happen to that person in the line of duty. But
thats just me.....
long distance relationships are always hard....especially when you talk of
military thingy *reminisces Pearl Harbor*......lolz, is that how you feel?like
being in the movie Pearl Harbor?w/ your guy going to battle?
well like the other said before me, follow your heart....if you really love
him...it's worth the wait and the sacrifice........
My boyfriend goes to Iraq for a year because he's in the army... and that's what he does. He's in the Infantry to be exact. He's been in the army for about a year now and I won't get to talk to him for basically an entire year. He also got accepted into West Point Military Academy in New York (I live in Florida) and I wouldn't dream of inhibiting him from doing what he wants to with his life. That will be another 4 years of relatively minimal contact, but i've been with him for about a year, i've known him for two years and he was talking about asking me to marry him, I guess he's been thinking that he doesn't want to keep me from living my life "normally".
He doesn't want to talk about this over the phone (which is understandable) and i'm flying up to Iowa on the 4th to see him and his family for the holiday. I'm not sure what to think about all this, my plan was to first make sure he doesn't get killed or injured in Iraq first and then go from there because people do change when they get back from war and I have to focus on school and it keeps me out of trouble. He asked me "how upset would you be if we broke up?" and a million things went through my mind at once. He didn't do the ball-less thing and break up with me on the phone like some stupid highschool romance movie, i'm just wondering why he can't make a decision like an adult should and stick to it...
i'm just really confused and any advice on this would be much appreciated.
and just so you weren't biased when you first read this, i am 16 years of age, i'll be 17 this september and my boyfriend just turned 20 about a week and a half ago. The age difference is 3 years, 3 months and neither of us is a dumbass.
Well i will hope and pray for his safe return to you.
Follow your heart. If you really love him, stick with him. He'll come safely back home when he's done over there in Iraq.
i think long distance relationships r hard...
u have to have a lot of strength n patience to not fool around wit someone else while they're gone..
cus its easy to get lonely
like, jus askin urself...how long can u wait before movin on?
but while hes gone, jus try to keep in touch as much as u can...
letters, phone calls, wutever
but i think after thats over and done wit, and u finally get to see each other again...
hopefullly ur relationship will only be strengthened by the time spent away from each other
anyways, i hope this helped ^___^
i am also in the army. i'm going to iraq in july. i leave a wife and two childern. i have had to leave them before and i can tell you it is never easy. time apart can have one of two outcomes. first the two of you will fall apart due to the stress and pressure. if the relationship is not strong everything will get in the way and then it is just better to go your seperate ways. be honest with yourself. if you want it to work then it can.
the other path is hard. it requires sacrifice and devotion by both people. if you have a strong relationship the time appart will only make you relationship stronger. after 13 years and countless deployments i'm still married and doing fine.
This is a hard question, but... although you migh really love him, you are definitely too much young to think about marriage... You may think you are not, but believe me, you'll think again in a few years and you will think the same as me. Do what you want, and follow your heart, but... Think very much what you are going to do, and when you have think it very carefully... THINK AGAIN
Think about how heart broken you would be if he died in Iraq, and that will tell you if you truly love him. Also concider the fact of is it worth taking the risk that he might die because you might want someone with a higher life expectancy. If you love him enough to take that chance that he might die, then go for it! !6 is alittle too young to be thinking of marrige, but in a few years if you still feel the same and if he survives, then it's a good idea. I know that if someone i cared deeply for or loved went to to war, i would not abandon them on my life. I would take that chance no matter what and suffer the conciquences if something were to happen to that person in the line of duty. But thats just me.....
long distance relationships are always hard....especially when you talk of military thingy *reminisces Pearl Harbor*......lolz, is that how you feel?like being in the movie Pearl Harbor?w/ your guy going to battle?
well like the other said before me, follow your heart....if you really love him...it's worth the wait and the sacrifice........