i sometimes feel lonely and desperate....
( i know i sound pathetic)
i cant speak when there is a girl nearby and when they look at me i cant look
back...
it may sound a bit weird but i dont really have a love feeling...
maybe its because in the past i never talked to girls and because of that i cant
even talk to them in the present.
right now, no way. You need to make friends, (that are girls) and just talk to
them and get to know 'em. Then (The girl you like for example) after you get to
know her, then you make the choice. That's all I can help you with. You need to
do the rest.
Like Inuyasha-FAN said, you should try starting with making some friends that
are girls. This would help you to be not so shy around girls that you would like
to be with. Just be yourself and you should have no problems. ^^
Personally, I think you should have more confidence in yourself, because the
simple fact that you're coming to a forum for help shows that you lack it. I
think your good guy friends that you can depend on will encourage you and help
you along the way, but they definitely don't go to the extent as us girls do for
friends :P
No , you realy don't look pathetic in any meenings... like im =]
Well you somehow remind me in old times, back then i too thought it is
imposible, but i think that felling like "i can't love" or something
will pass away by time you want . Just let it go, think of best, prepare for the
worst .Don't be affraid to make mistakes.
That is my advice. I am also a shy and lonely guy. But I am trying to find
"the other half" too. Expose yourself slowly man. Below is the first
step (couldnt credit the author cos i have only this small print piece from my
friend's "antique"). Cheers.
"Hard work and pain lie ahead. This journey of self-discovery and
transformation demands all the courage and determination you can muster. Grit
your teeth, for there is much learning to be done, and many mountains loom in
the distance. Fortunately you need climb only one at a time. Each painful lesson
will leave you, if bloodied, ever more determined to press onward. As hard steel
is tempered by heating, then quenching in cold water, so too will your character
be strengthened by the hardships you surmount. Growing hurts. If there is a
purpose to life's cruelties and tragedies, it is to make of you a better person.
It can be likened to stripping the faded and peeling paint from an antique piece
of fine cabinetry to reveal the magnificence of the natural wood grain
underneath. This lends credence to the assertion that the only truly strong and
quality people are those that have been fire-hardened and polished by adversity.
You will practice patience. You will be patient with yourself. You will be
patient with the people you relate with. You will trust that all will work out
for the best, and not force matters along. Relationships progress at their own
pace, and it is ofttimes a slow one. You will never, never give up."
Quote by forlorn-faith
"Hard work and pain lie ahead. This journey of self-discovery and
transformation demands all the courage and determination you can muster. Grit
your teeth, for there is much learning to be done, and many mountains loom in
the distance. Fortunately you need climb only one at a time. Each painful lesson
will leave you, if bloodied, ever more determined to press onward. As hard steel
is tempered by heating, then quenching in cold water, so too will your character
be strengthened by the hardships you surmount. Growing hurts. If there is a
purpose to life's cruelties and tragedies, it is to make of you a better person.
It can be likened to stripping the faded and peeling paint from an antique piece
of fine cabinetry to reveal the magnificence of the natural wood grain
underneath. This lends credence to the assertion that the only truly strong and
quality people are those that have been fire-hardened and polished by adversity.
You will practice patience. You will be patient with yourself. You will be
patient with the people you relate with. You will trust that all will work out
for the best, and not force matters along. Relationships progress at their own
pace, and it is ofttimes a slow one. You will never, never give up."
That's a good piece of knowledge u received from you're friend,
forlorn-faith.
And I think everything that was needed to be said was said already, so good luck
in the path you're taking.
yeah but still
even if i make friends (with girls)
some will only think that were just friends....
and that last one that poem is......poethic i mean its good...
Quote by shinmeiryuThis may not sound
original but.....
i sometimes feel lonely and desperate....
( i know i sound pathetic)
i cant speak when there is a girl nearby and when they look at me i cant look
back...
it may sound a bit weird but i dont really have a love feeling...
maybe its because in the past i never talked to girls and because of that i cant
even talk to them in the present.
how can i get a girlfriend this way?
You know i've been a good member here, and stayed of trouble as much as i
can......but when a see people asking for a girlfriend....i whont hold
back......
What do you think your asking anyway?
i REALLY dont want MT to turn into
another ''how can i get a girlfriend(I need a Girlfriend'' place
just like i've seen many other places turn into stuff like that
If you want more help about that, here is a friendly suggestion.....
*whispers* try looking and asking in Dating
sites
thats about that.....
EDITED: Besides THAT fact that you ask...seemingly this is also your first
thread you made just after joining......please dont join to ask simple thing
like that ok?
(well might turn out you come here alot? well anyway)
Speaking as a female, I think you should definately go with Inuyasha-FAN's
advice; it sounds like it'd be the best option, and zimmer's points make a lot
of sense, too. I don't think dating sites would be the best option, though,
since people may lie about their age, and you might end up with a very, very bad
situation on your hands. I think it'd be best if you got to know more girls
around your age, just talk to them, and slowly work on your self-confidence.
It's better if the girls are people you know through school, or your place of
worship, maybe (you know, church, mosque, temple, etc.). Additionally, RESPECT
is very important for any posible relationship, both respecting the other, as
well as yourself. Take good care of yourself, and love yourself, and show that
you are a good person who's worth the time to get to know!
Take care, and good luck.
Post Script: for gaining self-confidence, it may help to join a speech and
debate team on campus, or take the class, and Theatre's always fun! .
well...its not really the right question to ask...lol...im a girl myself and u
cant really find the answer to that...u have to find the guts and courage to
actually start talking to girls....maybe start off with one of ur closest girl
friend....start talking to her and maybe u can improve how u communicate with
girls...lol...its actually ur own way and ur own charms that can attratct a
girl...lol...not other people's judgement and decisions...try ur best and start
socializing
Pssshhhfftt. I can't get a girlfriend. But I do have a lot of girls who are
friends of mine. Put simply, just remember, my brother... Girls are just like
guys in that we're all people. Hey, good luck, yeah?
Quote by TrigunPreacherGirlPost
Script: for gaining self-confidence, it may help to join a speech and debate
team on campus, or take the class, and Theatre's always fun! .
Ok I am posting now because I strongly agree with this statement, shinmeiryu if
your a guy especially if you a shy guy which I am not to sure of you should join
a group such as this (especially if this girl you want to ask out is in one of
these groups). Also note that if you decide to do this that you will probably
get nervous and probably do something stupid while you are up there, either that
or you might just freezeup and stop talking alltogether, but after being up in
front of people a couple time you will get better at public speaking, which is a
good way to gain skills such as self confidence and charisma, which will in turn
help you ask out this girl you admire so much!
Dude, getting a girlfriend isn't easy. You might want to just get to know her
first. Become friends and talk. After, when you feel like it, ask her out. It
would feel more natural because you both were friends to begin with.
yeah..
but im searching for a girlfriend i actually dont have one in mind...
besides my anime addiction made kinda.....
you know....
searching a girl who is like a anime character....
not in looks only (i dont think there are many girlswith green hair)
yeah your not gonna find many girls that look like anime characters with green
hair. the speech class is a good thing to do. im also a shy guy and i am taking
speech this semester. when your up there doing your speech you will talk and it
will help you with your confidence.
since you you dont have any girls that are your friends when you pass by a girl
in the hallways say "hi". you know just start out small. maybe if you
sit next to a girl in class ask her for answers and start talking to her. and
say funny things in class to so that you make girls laugh or even say stupid
things, people will laugh anyway. thats what i did and girls always say im
funny.
but what will the subject be of the small talk?
the place where i live doesnt know very much about anime....
they've heard about but i dont think they know what it is...
This may not sound original but.....
i sometimes feel lonely and desperate....
( i know i sound pathetic)
i cant speak when there is a girl nearby and when they look at me i cant look back...
it may sound a bit weird but i dont really have a love feeling...
maybe its because in the past i never talked to girls and because of that i cant even talk to them in the present.
how can i get a girlfriend this way?
right now, no way. You need to make friends, (that are girls) and just talk to them and get to know 'em. Then (The girl you like for example) after you get to know her, then you make the choice. That's all I can help you with. You need to do the rest.
Like Inuyasha-FAN said, you should try starting with making some friends that are girls. This would help you to be not so shy around girls that you would like to be with. Just be yourself and you should have no problems. ^^
Personally, I think you should have more confidence in yourself, because the simple fact that you're coming to a forum for help shows that you lack it. I think your good guy friends that you can depend on will encourage you and help you along the way, but they definitely don't go to the extent as us girls do for friends :P
Hey, just go out with your friends and some of the girls and try to socialize with them. Even if it's the dumbest topic you can think of, just go with the flow and keep things simple. If you can set up the ground work with the little gatherings and such, things will work smoothly afterwards. This might sound a bit cliché, but practice makes perfect; the first girlfriend is always hard to manage, but you'll find that she'll give you enough feedback so you know where to improve next time (although this may be in an argument, it's better than nothing, right?).
Good luck; have fun; don't die.
Yeah make friends, get to know them. make the first move.
nobody is perfect =)
people have eyes, its their freedom to look and see or maybe curious =D
ask if they have the same hobbies or interest and stuff,
give her alot of praise. and please if she look at you or smile try to smile back.
This thing takes time, since you are only 15 LOL dont rush things. You have alot of time in your hand.
some tries may not work so dont give up. YOU DA MAN!
No , you realy don't look pathetic in any meenings... like im =]
Well you somehow remind me in old times, back then i too thought it is imposible, but i think that felling like "i can't love" or something will pass away by time you want . Just let it go, think of best, prepare for the worst .Don't be affraid to make mistakes.
Be Yourself At All Time!
That is my advice. I am also a shy and lonely guy. But I am trying to find "the other half" too. Expose yourself slowly man. Below is the first step (couldnt credit the author cos i have only this small print piece from my friend's "antique"). Cheers.
"Hard work and pain lie ahead. This journey of self-discovery and transformation demands all the courage and determination you can muster. Grit your teeth, for there is much learning to be done, and many mountains loom in the distance. Fortunately you need climb only one at a time. Each painful lesson will leave you, if bloodied, ever more determined to press onward. As hard steel is tempered by heating, then quenching in cold water, so too will your character be strengthened by the hardships you surmount. Growing hurts. If there is a purpose to life's cruelties and tragedies, it is to make of you a better person. It can be likened to stripping the faded and peeling paint from an antique piece of fine cabinetry to reveal the magnificence of the natural wood grain underneath. This lends credence to the assertion that the only truly strong and quality people are those that have been fire-hardened and polished by adversity. You will practice patience. You will be patient with yourself. You will be patient with the people you relate with. You will trust that all will work out for the best, and not force matters along. Relationships progress at their own pace, and it is ofttimes a slow one. You will never, never give up."
That's a good piece of knowledge u received from you're friend, forlorn-faith.
And I think everything that was needed to be said was said already, so good luck in the path you're taking.
yeah but still
even if i make friends (with girls)
some will only think that were just friends....
and that last one that poem is......poethic i mean its good...
HMMMM i'd like to know myself?
Huh?
sorry but that last one is kinda confusing...
You know i've been a good member here, and stayed of trouble as much as i can......but when a see people asking for a girlfriend....i whont hold back......
What do you think your asking anyway?
i REALLY dont want MT to turn into another ''how can i get a girlfriend(I need a Girlfriend'' place
just like i've seen many other places turn into stuff like that
If you want more help about that, here is a friendly suggestion.....
*whispers* try looking and asking in Dating sites
thats about that.....
EDITED: Besides THAT fact that you ask...seemingly this is also your first thread you made just after joining......please dont join to ask simple thing like that ok?
(well might turn out you come here alot? well anyway)
Speaking as a female, I think you should definately go with Inuyasha-FAN's advice; it sounds like it'd be the best option, and zimmer's points make a lot of sense, too. I don't think dating sites would be the best option, though, since people may lie about their age, and you might end up with a very, very bad situation on your hands. I think it'd be best if you got to know more girls around your age, just talk to them, and slowly work on your self-confidence. It's better if the girls are people you know through school, or your place of worship, maybe (you know, church, mosque, temple, etc.). Additionally, RESPECT is very important for any posible relationship, both respecting the other, as well as yourself. Take good care of yourself, and love yourself, and show that you are a good person who's worth the time to get to know!
.
Take care, and good luck.
Post Script: for gaining self-confidence, it may help to join a speech and debate team on campus, or take the class, and Theatre's always fun!
Well if those tips i will come very far...
but Tias i apoligize for this thread
however i wasn't the first one who started the girlfriend things....
merged: 07-05-2006 ~ 03:29am
ow one more thing i've joined it because i really am a fan of anime's
if the first thread fails
the second will succeed
well...its not really the right question to ask...lol...im a girl myself and u cant really find the answer to that...u have to find the guts and courage to actually start talking to girls....maybe start off with one of ur closest girl friend....start talking to her and maybe u can improve how u communicate with girls...lol...its actually ur own way and ur own charms that can attratct a girl...lol...not other people's judgement and decisions...try ur best and start socializing
But what if there is no close girl friend...
but guts....
thats something that people are born with....
its hard too get also....
HAHAHAHAHAH
god that is funny the only answer is to just be you let people see who you are and a girl will exept that and have you as hers.
Pssshhhfftt. I can't get a girlfriend. But I do have a lot of girls who are friends of mine. Put simply, just remember, my brother... Girls are just like guys in that we're all people. Hey, good luck, yeah?
Ok I am posting now because I strongly agree with this statement, shinmeiryu if your a guy especially if you a shy guy which I am not to sure of you should join a group such as this (especially if this girl you want to ask out is in one of these groups). Also note that if you decide to do this that you will probably get nervous and probably do something stupid while you are up there, either that or you might just freezeup and stop talking alltogether, but after being up in front of people a couple time you will get better at public speaking, which is a good way to gain skills such as self confidence and charisma, which will in turn help you ask out this girl you admire so much!
That way won't work. Not talking to her won't help at all. Ask her out, if she says yes - good for you. If no, whatever.
Dude, getting a girlfriend isn't easy. You might want to just get to know her first. Become friends and talk. After, when you feel like it, ask her out. It would feel more natural because you both were friends to begin with.
yeah..
but im searching for a girlfriend i actually dont have one in mind...
besides my anime addiction made kinda.....
you know....
searching a girl who is like a anime character....
not in looks only (i dont think there are many girlswith green hair)
yeah your not gonna find many girls that look like anime characters with green hair. the speech class is a good thing to do. im also a shy guy and i am taking speech this semester. when your up there doing your speech you will talk and it will help you with your confidence.
since you you dont have any girls that are your friends when you pass by a girl in the hallways say "hi". you know just start out small. maybe if you sit next to a girl in class ask her for answers and start talking to her. and say funny things in class to so that you make girls laugh or even say stupid things, people will laugh anyway. thats what i did and girls always say im funny.
but what will the subject be of the small talk?
the place where i live doesnt know very much about anime....
they've heard about but i dont think they know what it is...