Sure our parents raised up....and lived with us....and we know each other. But
do they realy know us? When your around your parents, you act diffrently then
around your friends right? And I ask you, which one is the real you? Proably the
one around your friends, where you can talk pretty freely. You swear, you talk
about school, other friends, anime, dislike and likes, food, all sorts of stuff.
If you ask me alot, not all, but most parents only see the person they raised
outside. You can only talk about so many things with your mom or dad. They don't
see who your are when your having fun fun with your friends.
For example, my mom always tells eveybody "my son made 5000$ canadian and
wasted it all. (i made this in 1 year)" but holy **** the only thing she
has seen me buy where a few manga's and a 1 gundam. But yet she tells everybody
"he wastes it all on models and comics" WOW, she can talk ****. So
this is an example buy, she doesn't know what i acculty use most my money on,
she see's what she thinks you "would" use your money on, or on what
you would normaly buy in her eyes. But she's not my friend. My friends pretty
much know what i use my money on, i used alot on normal novels, food, a few
mangas, and my internet bill and with them.
Pretty much, you tend to open upto your friends rather then parents. So lets
think about it. How well does your mom or dad REALY know you. Or how much DON'T
they know about you? what do u think? i wanna hear some examples to.
Here's something else to think about: Even parents have been young some time,
and they do fully understand how it is to be young. Also, do you honestly think
they don't know that you act differently towards your friends than them? And of
course you would be more willing to open up to your friends. They're more likely
to take your side and give you what you WANT to hear, not necessarily what you
need to hear.
I'm not saying you're doing anything wrong with buying a Gundam model or
whatever, but you'd do well not to belittle your parents' opinions until you
reach that point where you have to take care of yourself. Or rather, when you
reach that point where you have done so for some time without having to rely on
them. Until then, let them have their small grievances with your choices alone.
(God only knows I gave my own parents a few grey ones myself at times. ^^;;
)
I guess what I'm trying to say is that your parents know you better than you
think. And when you get to their age, and they start digging up the embarrassing
stories from your youth, so will you.
My parents are scared sometimes that I might be influenced improperly by some
friends I have. My friends are exactly the oppsosite of what they think! They're
really nice people, with few bad habits, polite and all that. My mom is more
open-minded than my dad, who thinks I'm stupid if I don't listen to The Beatles.
Heh, pretty weird family, but if you don't let your parents understand your
feelings, they'll get the opposite idea. My dad calls the HIM band (my
favourite) Satan-worshipers, even though they're among the quiet part of the
metal music. So I let him think what he wants to, and I don't even bother to
explain I'm not a Satan-worshiper or anything like that, because he doesn't even
listen to me.
In the end, parents <i>can</i> know how you're really like, but only
if you let them. By the way, the thing with your mom is stupid. I spend money on
mangas and my mom lets me buy them.
To be honest, I don't think either my parents OR my friends know me that well. I
put on a certain act for each side. Sometimes I sacrifice my actual beliefs to
appease them. So, the only person that really knows who I am, is me! ^_^
......And probably a few people who don't "know" me on MT, but have
read my views. Ironic, total strangers probably know me better than my friends
and family. lol
Nope!
I only got one parent (my mom), and she doesn't know me at all!
atleast not the one I've become. In her eyes, I'm still a little kid...
And sometimes she really underestimates me, but then sometimes she expects too
much from me
and she's always comparing me with her friends kids, like:
"Look at you! You should eat more and gain some weight like (my friends
name)!"
and i'm like: "eeeh...mom, he's fat (<--don't really mean that) and I
eat alot!"
my mom: "Oh really? I haven't seen u eat that much."
me ---> "eeeehh......ok "
She still sees me as a small kid
moms.....
anyway, NO one know the real me, i mean NO ONE!
It'a maybe cuz I dont show myself to anyone, It just doesn't feel right.
I'm constantly hidden behind my "golden mask"
well when I try to share some experiences with my mom, she's like.. *nods nods*
"ahuh...yea.. can u stop bothering me so i can watch tv now?" so
yea, she doesn't listen to me at all...
and like Azirk said, neither my parents nor my friends know the "real"
me... like after awhile, i stop trying to show myself to my parents... and i dun
think i can fully trust my friends yet..
and i mean even I don't know myself very well (God knows why..)
alot of parents DO compare their kids w/ others .. the main reason is to
"motivate" their own kids to do so-and-so... however, its the wrong
method =.="....
i mean overall, they are just doing what is good for you.. (what at least their
intentions are good)
My parents are like... they want me to be good, so I'm stuck at home a lot and
think that all I do is waste my time on the computer/drawing... while in truth I
always do my hwk first before that stuff, and I'm acing tests and everything,
and they still insist that I go on computer too much?! Gosh =.='' I need to have
some fun too... ''
My mom said that at the age of 5, she knew she would never know me. She doesn't
know much about me, either. The good thing is that she accepts it, though. I can
do almost anything I want because she knows that I will not do anything REALLY
stupid, but she doesn't know how stupid I will get. She still lets me do stuff.
My typical conversation before I leave is: Me-"I'm doing ____."
Mom/Dad-"Okay." Me-"I have a key."
What my parents and friends see, is not necceccarily everything that I am; yes,
I joke around and blend well (usually) with both demographics, but that's just
because I can understand where the adults and teenagers are coming from. We're
all human, therefore, we are all multifaceted beings.
The thing about parents having issues with us using the PC is that, to them,
it's just an object, and you probably aren't doing anything really productive on
it, other than research or typing an essay, etc.; the only computer they may be
familiar with would be the International Business Machine (IBM) format.
All this is probably a result of the "Generation Gap"; for example, my
parents were in college and High School around the time most of my teachers were
born! My parents, though, would be able to relate to my teachers better, since
both are adults, and I may be able to understand what they're talking about,
should a social conversation arise, but I'd most likely need some form of an
explaination, like examples of what they're talking about.
When our parents were our age, their form of socialising would be going down to
the drive in movie theatre, or to a malt shop; in our generation, our form of
intertainment is chatting online, or watching a film at the movies/our house, or
something like that.
Thanks for sharing this idea; it makes a lot of sense. Interesting topic! .
The only truth is that your best and closest friend REALLY know you... and most
people only develop around 2-3 of them in a life time... ^__^
Parents are old, they've had friends and stuff... most aren't around to get to
KNOW their children in-depth... then, eventually, they start to form an image
cause they've been around them for so long... and it's easier just to throw
stuff out that you assume true... ^__^
yea yea i know, im not saying that your friends know know you. But just a parent
only see's one side of us alot. Like "oh no my kid would NEVER do such a
thing" like...mby a school fight. Or if you funny at school, they don't
know it. But you generaly talk about aot more things to your friends then your
mom or dad. And yea, i'd say your best friend knows you best. But nobody knows
you 100%, not even yourself. Like around my friends i like to joke around, talk
about evrything, or random events, and i think thats who i realy am. Because im
100% comfertable with them and there all realy close. I have no need to blend
in, because there so close
Well, that question really depends on how close of a relationship you have with
your parents and how open are the lines of communication with them.
Obviously, if the parents don't talk to their kids, get to know them, they won't
know much about them. Of course, it's the same the other way around: the kids
won't know that much about their parents. I guess with low communication, the
kids tend to act more formally with them. I mean, isn't that how we normally act
with people we don't know very well? with people who are not use to the way we
usually act? So, in turn, that's how they see us. So, whenever they see
something we do that's more like who we are, they tend to be all surprised and I
guess, misjudge us.
And I guess we tend to be more open to our friends is because, well, I think
they tend to want to get to know you more. Know your likes and dislikes to see
if you have anything in common. I guess in some cases, parents already think
they know you because they raised you. So, sometimes they don't try to get to
know you more. It's probably only when they realize we're so different than they
had pictured, that they try to get to know you more.
Hahahahahaha. Humph, I'm sorry.
The fact is that our parents (if it's the case) do really care about us.
Some times, life can be really hard and outrageous and that's exactly what our
parnets doesn't want us to experience. But, in fact I have some bad news for our
parents. If what we're doign turns to be a mistake, is there where we learn waht
we shall use in our lifes to come. The should only look at us and watch, but
certainly, DON'T TALK.
Is hard to carry your parents comments or, in some cases, retributions but there
are some ways to deal with them.
How? Well, it varies from person to person, so, that I leave it up to you.
oh no no no, of course our parents care about us, im just saying that there's
soo much about us they don't know. They realy only see the person they raised
and taught. But some things we learn otside the house of course they don't know.
Like how.... i dunno somebody could have an addiction to an arcade and a mom
would never know. I'm just saying they know us alot less then they think they
do.
Not since music style changed, meanings of simple words became slang and being
isolated in our rooms addicted to internet web sites and still be considered
cool. I guess i would be confused and not understand my child as well.
I think that we have just taken their rebelious attitude and just kicked it up a
little bit more, i mean back in my folks days there was no such need for people
like Dr. Phil yet so many parents rely on him for their child, or their marital
problems, that is because we are just loosing our sense of morals and
responsibilities.
Well, we are of a different generation from our parents. I think our parents
understand us better than we give them credit for and like one guy said, they
tell us what they think is right, not sugar coat it like our friends. To say
that you act differently when you're with your friends and when you're with your
family shows that you have double standards. Not to mention that there's an
issue of trust and communication.
Believe me, I have that same problem too. Although, now I'm a bit more open with
my mother.
I don't really think that our parents want to know the real us. I think they
want to keep what they think, like when some of us are little, we're the most
precious gift, but then we grow up and they want us to stay a gift forever. Take
some junkies mother's, the mom's are sometimes in denial that there daughter/son
would do something like that, they think that they had raised a perfect child,
because sometimes also parents don't look at their flaws. We also (as a whole)
could sometimes put the record straight, not in a back talk way but as to say to
our parents, hey that's not me i really use my money for _____. or that's not me
i really hate that type of people. i'm somewhat open with my mom and when i have
a big problem i will always have her help me face it. and i also set records
straight with her. but still they don't really know us, they just know us
(perfect logic)
Hmm, my parents thought I'd go into computer stuff, then I decided to become an
automotive tech. They thought I was a regular ol' Star Wars/Star Trek fan, then
I lined my dresser with anime figures and a set of katana. Dad thought he had
raised me as a good ol' rock fan, now I listen to techno along with his stuff.
They still know my general behavior pretty well, but I never fail to surprise
them with my diverse interests.
Lord knows they probably aren't expecting me to ask for Vic Magnogna's
autograph, but Im still gonna do it! >:D
Quote by NoirTsubasaWell, we are of a
different generation from our parents. I think our parents understand us better
than we give them credit for and like one guy said, they tell us what they think
is right, not sugar coat it like our friends. To say that you act differently
when you're with your friends and when you're with your family shows that you
have double standards. Not to mention that there's an issue of trust and
communication.
Believe me, I have that same problem too. Although, now I'm a bit more open with
my mother.
i agree, but this. Is understand and knowing the same? i'm not sure.... but like
we have so many things we like or do that they don't see. And some parents make
such quick judments on there children just because there a parent they don't
acculty take time to think about it. Like if i were to go out, some parnets dont
ask why, and start complaining all i do it go out and have fun and not
consintrate on school. but they dont even know the reason, for all they know i
could be goin to a arcade or going to the libery. Which isn't impossible, but
some parents dont believe u even if you tell them
I believe the generation gap between parent and child is enough to warrant a
barrier between the two, however close the relationship may be. Although I would
love to think that my mom knows all about me, and it would make things a lot
easier this way, it is not so. There are only a few things I can tell her, and
then again, there are only a few things I can only tell my friends who are of
the same age as me.
So overall, no matter how close you are, it is really that age gap that
separates us from our parents. I do take my mother's advice to heart, mainly
because I know she knows me well enough to make good judgments.
Quote by NoirTsubasaWell, we are of a
different generation from our parents. I think our parents understand us better
than we give them credit for and like one guy said, they tell us what they think
is right, not sugar coat it like our friends. To say that you act differently
when you're with your friends and when you're with your family shows that you
have double standards. Not to mention that there's an issue of trust and
communication.
Believe me, I have that same problem too. Although, now I'm a bit more open with
my mother.
i agree, but this. Is understand and knowing the same? i'm not sure.... but like
we have so many things we like or do that they don't see. And some parents make
such quick judments on there children just because there a parent they don't
acculty take time to think about it. Like if i were to go out, some parnets dont
ask why, and start complaining all i do it go out and have fun and not
consintrate on school. but they dont even know the reason, for all they know i
could be goin to a arcade or going to the libery. Which isn't impossible, but
some parents dont believe u even if you tell them
See the problem with parents is that the reason why they don't tell you a reason
is because they expect that you know that they know. And trust me, usually THEY
KNOW. Parents, I've discovered, are scary people. We grow up believing them to
be our gods, and in reality, they come pretty darn close to it.
I think that they know to a degree, but the rest that they don't know? It's up
to US to explain the issue so that they will understand. And by not explaining,
we are indeed being a coward and avoiding the issue with them. I'll admit I do
the same too.
Believe me, I have that same problem too. Although, now I'm a bit more open with
my mother.[/quote
i agree, but this. Is understand and knowing the same? i'm not sure.... but like
we have so many things we like or do that they don't see. And some parents make
such quick judments on there children just because there a parent they don't
acculty take time to think about it. Like if i were to go out, some parnets dont
ask why, and start complaining all i do it go out and have fun and not
consintrate on school. but they dont even know the reason, for all they know i
could be goin to a arcade or going to the libery. Which isn't impossible, but
some parents dont believe u even if you tell them
See the problem with parents is that the reason why they don't tell you a reason
is because they expect that you know that they know. And trust me, usually THEY
KNOW. Parents, I've discovered, are scary people. We grow up believing them to
be our gods, and in reality, they come pretty darn close to it.
I think that they know to a degree, but the rest that they don't know? It's up
to US to explain the issue so that they will understand. And by not explaining,
we are indeed being a coward and avoiding the issue with them. I'll admit I do
the same too.
Oh i tell them, just they seem to believe me yet they bring up all the crap
points during a convo with there friends like "my son uses all his money on
comics" and im like wtf woman do u not understand i have bills to pay, not
to mention u only give me money to eat at home and shelter. U dont give me
spending cash, i thought we been through this. yet she pretends it never
happends during chat with my family. So does she get it or not!?!
Sure our parents raised up....and lived with us....and we know each other. But do they realy know us? When your around your parents, you act diffrently then around your friends right? And I ask you, which one is the real you? Proably the one around your friends, where you can talk pretty freely. You swear, you talk about school, other friends, anime, dislike and likes, food, all sorts of stuff. If you ask me alot, not all, but most parents only see the person they raised outside. You can only talk about so many things with your mom or dad. They don't see who your are when your having fun fun with your friends.
For example, my mom always tells eveybody "my son made 5000$ canadian and wasted it all. (i made this in 1 year)" but holy **** the only thing she has seen me buy where a few manga's and a 1 gundam. But yet she tells everybody "he wastes it all on models and comics" WOW, she can talk ****. So this is an example buy, she doesn't know what i acculty use most my money on, she see's what she thinks you "would" use your money on, or on what you would normaly buy in her eyes. But she's not my friend. My friends pretty much know what i use my money on, i used alot on normal novels, food, a few mangas, and my internet bill and with them.
Pretty much, you tend to open upto your friends rather then parents. So lets think about it. How well does your mom or dad REALY know you. Or how much DON'T they know about you? what do u think? i wanna hear some examples to.
Here's something else to think about: Even parents have been young some time, and they do fully understand how it is to be young. Also, do you honestly think they don't know that you act differently towards your friends than them? And of course you would be more willing to open up to your friends. They're more likely to take your side and give you what you WANT to hear, not necessarily what you need to hear.
I'm not saying you're doing anything wrong with buying a Gundam model or whatever, but you'd do well not to belittle your parents' opinions until you reach that point where you have to take care of yourself. Or rather, when you reach that point where you have done so for some time without having to rely on them. Until then, let them have their small grievances with your choices alone. (God only knows I gave my own parents a few grey ones myself at times. ^^;; )
I guess what I'm trying to say is that your parents know you better than you think. And when you get to their age, and they start digging up the embarrassing stories from your youth, so will you.
My parents are scared sometimes that I might be influenced improperly by some friends I have. My friends are exactly the oppsosite of what they think! They're really nice people, with few bad habits, polite and all that. My mom is more open-minded than my dad, who thinks I'm stupid if I don't listen to The Beatles. Heh, pretty weird family, but if you don't let your parents understand your feelings, they'll get the opposite idea. My dad calls the HIM band (my favourite) Satan-worshipers, even though they're among the quiet part of the metal music. So I let him think what he wants to, and I don't even bother to explain I'm not a Satan-worshiper or anything like that, because he doesn't even listen to me.
In the end, parents <i>can</i> know how you're really like, but only if you let them. By the way, the thing with your mom is stupid. I spend money on mangas and my mom lets me buy them.
To be honest, I don't think either my parents OR my friends know me that well. I put on a certain act for each side. Sometimes I sacrifice my actual beliefs to appease them. So, the only person that really knows who I am, is me! ^_^ ......And probably a few people who don't "know" me on MT, but have read my views. Ironic, total strangers probably know me better than my friends and family. lol
Nope!
"
moms.....
I only got one parent (my mom), and she doesn't know me at all!
atleast not the one I've become. In her eyes, I'm still a little kid...
And sometimes she really underestimates me, but then sometimes she expects too much from me
and she's always comparing me with her friends kids, like:
"Look at you! You should eat more and gain some weight like (my friends name)!"
and i'm like: "eeeh...mom, he's fat (<--don't really mean that) and I eat alot!"
my mom: "Oh really? I haven't seen u eat that much."
me ---> "eeeehh......ok
She still sees me as a small kid
anyway, NO one know the real me, i mean NO ONE!
It'a maybe cuz I dont show myself to anyone, It just doesn't feel right.
I'm constantly hidden behind my "golden mask"
well when I try to share some experiences with my mom, she's like.. *nods nods* "ahuh...yea.. can u stop bothering me so i can watch tv now?"
so
yea, she doesn't listen to me at all...
and like Azirk said, neither my parents nor my friends know the "real" me... like after awhile, i stop trying to show myself to my parents... and i dun think i can fully trust my friends yet..
and i mean even I don't know myself very well (God knows why..)
alot of parents DO compare their kids w/ others .. the main reason is to "motivate" their own kids to do so-and-so... however, its the wrong method =.="....
i mean overall, they are just doing what is good for you.. (what at least their intentions are good)
My parents are like... they want me to be good, so I'm stuck at home a lot and think that all I do is waste my time on the computer/drawing... while in truth I always do my hwk first before that stuff, and I'm acing tests and everything, and they still insist that I go on computer too much?! Gosh =.='' I need to have some fun too...
''
My mom said that at the age of 5, she knew she would never know me. She doesn't know much about me, either. The good thing is that she accepts it, though. I can do almost anything I want because she knows that I will not do anything REALLY stupid, but she doesn't know how stupid I will get. She still lets me do stuff. My typical conversation before I leave is: Me-"I'm doing ____." Mom/Dad-"Okay." Me-"I have a key."
What my parents and friends see, is not necceccarily everything that I am; yes, I joke around and blend well (usually) with both demographics, but that's just because I can understand where the adults and teenagers are coming from. We're all human, therefore, we are all multifaceted beings.
.
The thing about parents having issues with us using the PC is that, to them, it's just an object, and you probably aren't doing anything really productive on it, other than research or typing an essay, etc.; the only computer they may be familiar with would be the International Business Machine (IBM) format.
All this is probably a result of the "Generation Gap"; for example, my parents were in college and High School around the time most of my teachers were born! My parents, though, would be able to relate to my teachers better, since both are adults, and I may be able to understand what they're talking about, should a social conversation arise, but I'd most likely need some form of an explaination, like examples of what they're talking about.
When our parents were our age, their form of socialising would be going down to the drive in movie theatre, or to a malt shop; in our generation, our form of intertainment is chatting online, or watching a film at the movies/our house, or something like that.
Thanks for sharing this idea; it makes a lot of sense. Interesting topic!
The only truth is that your best and closest friend REALLY know you... and most people only develop around 2-3 of them in a life time... ^__^
Parents are old, they've had friends and stuff... most aren't around to get to KNOW their children in-depth... then, eventually, they start to form an image cause they've been around them for so long... and it's easier just to throw stuff out that you assume true... ^__^
yea yea i know, im not saying that your friends know know you. But just a parent only see's one side of us alot. Like "oh no my kid would NEVER do such a thing" like...mby a school fight. Or if you funny at school, they don't know it. But you generaly talk about aot more things to your friends then your mom or dad. And yea, i'd say your best friend knows you best. But nobody knows you 100%, not even yourself. Like around my friends i like to joke around, talk about evrything, or random events, and i think thats who i realy am. Because im 100% comfertable with them and there all realy close. I have no need to blend in, because there so close
Well, that question really depends on how close of a relationship you have with your parents and how open are the lines of communication with them.
Obviously, if the parents don't talk to their kids, get to know them, they won't know much about them. Of course, it's the same the other way around: the kids won't know that much about their parents. I guess with low communication, the kids tend to act more formally with them. I mean, isn't that how we normally act with people we don't know very well? with people who are not use to the way we usually act? So, in turn, that's how they see us. So, whenever they see something we do that's more like who we are, they tend to be all surprised and I guess, misjudge us.
And I guess we tend to be more open to our friends is because, well, I think they tend to want to get to know you more. Know your likes and dislikes to see if you have anything in common. I guess in some cases, parents already think they know you because they raised you. So, sometimes they don't try to get to know you more. It's probably only when they realize we're so different than they had pictured, that they try to get to know you more.
Well, anyway, that's my take on it.
Hahahahahaha. Humph, I'm sorry.
The fact is that our parents (if it's the case) do really care about us.
Some times, life can be really hard and outrageous and that's exactly what our parnets doesn't want us to experience. But, in fact I have some bad news for our parents. If what we're doign turns to be a mistake, is there where we learn waht we shall use in our lifes to come. The should only look at us and watch, but certainly, DON'T TALK.
Is hard to carry your parents comments or, in some cases, retributions but there are some ways to deal with them.
How? Well, it varies from person to person, so, that I leave it up to you.
oh no no no, of course our parents care about us, im just saying that there's soo much about us they don't know. They realy only see the person they raised and taught. But some things we learn otside the house of course they don't know. Like how.... i dunno somebody could have an addiction to an arcade and a mom would never know. I'm just saying they know us alot less then they think they do.
Not since music style changed, meanings of simple words became slang and being isolated in our rooms addicted to internet web sites and still be considered cool. I guess i would be confused and not understand my child as well.
I think that we have just taken their rebelious attitude and just kicked it up a little bit more, i mean back in my folks days there was no such need for people like Dr. Phil yet so many parents rely on him for their child, or their marital problems, that is because we are just loosing our sense of morals and responsibilities.
my parents are the opposite of me, they wish i would spend the whole day in parties but i prefer to stay home and listen to mozart or the beatles =P
stupid!
nothing to say.
Well, we are of a different generation from our parents. I think our parents understand us better than we give them credit for and like one guy said, they tell us what they think is right, not sugar coat it like our friends. To say that you act differently when you're with your friends and when you're with your family shows that you have double standards. Not to mention that there's an issue of trust and communication.
Believe me, I have that same problem too. Although, now I'm a bit more open with my mother.
I don't really think that our parents want to know the real us. I think they want to keep what they think, like when some of us are little, we're the most precious gift, but then we grow up and they want us to stay a gift forever. Take some junkies mother's, the mom's are sometimes in denial that there daughter/son would do something like that, they think that they had raised a perfect child, because sometimes also parents don't look at their flaws. We also (as a whole) could sometimes put the record straight, not in a back talk way but as to say to our parents, hey that's not me i really use my money for _____. or that's not me i really hate that type of people. i'm somewhat open with my mom and when i have a big problem i will always have her help me face it. and i also set records straight with her. but still they don't really know us, they just know us (perfect logic)
Hmm, my parents thought I'd go into computer stuff, then I decided to become an automotive tech. They thought I was a regular ol' Star Wars/Star Trek fan, then I lined my dresser with anime figures and a set of katana. Dad thought he had raised me as a good ol' rock fan, now I listen to techno along with his stuff. They still know my general behavior pretty well, but I never fail to surprise them with my diverse interests.
Lord knows they probably aren't expecting me to ask for Vic Magnogna's autograph, but Im still gonna do it! >:D
i agree, but this. Is understand and knowing the same? i'm not sure.... but like we have so many things we like or do that they don't see. And some parents make such quick judments on there children just because there a parent they don't acculty take time to think about it. Like if i were to go out, some parnets dont ask why, and start complaining all i do it go out and have fun and not consintrate on school. but they dont even know the reason, for all they know i could be goin to a arcade or going to the libery. Which isn't impossible, but some parents dont believe u even if you tell them
I believe the generation gap between parent and child is enough to warrant a barrier between the two, however close the relationship may be. Although I would love to think that my mom knows all about me, and it would make things a lot easier this way, it is not so. There are only a few things I can tell her, and then again, there are only a few things I can only tell my friends who are of the same age as me.
So overall, no matter how close you are, it is really that age gap that separates us from our parents. I do take my mother's advice to heart, mainly because I know she knows me well enough to make good judgments.
See the problem with parents is that the reason why they don't tell you a reason is because they expect that you know that they know. And trust me, usually THEY KNOW. Parents, I've discovered, are scary people. We grow up believing them to be our gods, and in reality, they come pretty darn close to it.
I think that they know to a degree, but the rest that they don't know? It's up to US to explain the issue so that they will understand. And by not explaining, we are indeed being a coward and avoiding the issue with them. I'll admit I do the same too.