Do you guys think that keeping secrets from your parents is right? Do they
embarrase you when you tell them something personal to you? Is keeping secrets a
bad or a good thing?
Well, I guess it depends on how personal it is. My parents do sometimes
embarrass me in front of others when I tell them something but it's not always
the best choice to keep something from them.
When it comes to personal feelings, sometimes it's better to tell them to a good
friend my parents used to embarrasse me when i told them how i felt about
people. But there's many times when they can give some damn neat advices...
personal? i donno i think they don\'t need to know about it really...i mean they
care so much and get upset over something that to you is very trifle and
unimportant...besides, they don\'t see things the wa you do because they\'re so
overprotecive and they wanna sheild you...hell i get into trouble sometimes, so
i keep it to myself...as for advice...well it depends on the seriousness of the
situation...if you think they\'ll sccept then sure, but other than that...i
could live without it...seriously ...majorly
I think it's safe to say that everyone has kept secrets from their family, but
is it okay to do this? I mean I know everyone wants their privacy but when's the
point you have to tell them. I mean I can absolutly not tell my mum to stop
embarrassing because it's my mum and it's rude but I think I speak for the
majority when I say nobody can tell their parents to stop without afterwards
feeling a big gap between them. It's like if you don't say you will still be
embarrassed but if you do tell you might feel further away from them forever,
anyone agree?
i keep secrets from my family, only because if they know, they would abuse me.
it's wrong to do this but i don't want to get hurt at all. but sooner or later,
they'll know about my secret which would make things worse.
keeping secrets from your parents is wrong, it kinda makes things worse, i
think. if you don't share secrets with your parents, it kinda makes the word
"family" useless...
i love my parents no matter how many times they're so unreasonable, but you
know...i just don't want to get hit >__<
I think every one is entitled to things that no one else needs to know. Some
things just aren't appropriate to share with parents depending on the kind of
parent child relationship you share.
I think you can be your own judge of what is appropriate.
Depends on parents. Usually it's a good idea to keep them informed, but some
parents aren't as open to ideas. It's not good or bad, just relative to the
situation.
Quote by jasaiyajinDepends on parents.
Usually it's a good idea to keep them informed, but some parents aren't as open
to ideas. It's not good or bad, just relative to the situation.
Can't say it better
You might want to refrain from doing horrible things in the first place.
my parents dont understand privacy. it took years 4 them 2 learn what knocking
is. my mom is really nice, but too social. it takes my family half an hour to
leave anywhere, then they blame me of course, but thats something else...
anyway, my mom talks a lot.
i didn't tell my mom when i got my first period. i didnt think she would keep it
secret. i got it really early, like 5th grade, so i was embaressed and didn't
tell anyone.
i happened to find pads in the bathroom cabinet when i was cleaning. i could
guess what they were for, but i only found the really light ones, so sometimes
stuff got on my underwear. i would throw them away by stuffing them in shampoo
bottles. the bottles were metalicy plastic, so after someone threw them away,
you could throw anything away in them and no one would ever know. after awile,
my mom kind of started to figure it out, sometimes my underwear wasn't quite bad
enough to throw out, and it would get washed. she'd ask me, but i'd always find
some excuse. the worst was when i was forced 2 go swimmimg. it was a nightmare.
i was @ the pool against my will becuz some family fiend was there. he wanted to
play water tag. i wanted to move around and stay as far away from anyone as
possble. bleeding always stops instantly in the bath, maybe cuz the water is
hot, but it didn't stop in the pool. i lied that i had a headache and refused to
swim, but it was still horrible. i wanted to tell my mom, but i still didn't
think i could trust her. i didn't tell her. she found out on her own in the most
unexpected way possible. i threw out my underwear as usual, in a shampoo bottle.
somehow, someone felt that there was still something in it and put it back in
the shower. u can gess shat happened. my mom took a shower. instead of getting
shmpoo, she unscrewed the bottle, wondering why there wasn't any shampoo, and
out comes my bloody underwear.
it was pretty funny. we still kind of laugh about it. i hav some other weird
stories like that... like i cant stand the smell of softsoap now, or i get this
vivid picture in my head of trying to wash bloody underwear...
i think im a little off track...
in some ways i was right to not tell though, even that sounds insane after my
stories. she sort of did tell, just like i was afraid she would. we were at my
aunt and uncles house and i felt sick to my stomach, so i didn't eat much, so my
mom was like "oh are u having ur period?" she practically announced
it. i felt really embarressed because my aunts boyfriend was there and i dont
know him that well and all my uncles were there, so it was really awkward. it
was even worse because then she slapped her mouth and kind of did that none of u
heard that". she was trying 2 say sorry, i guess, but i felt like it
brought more attention....
anyway, just one case. thats probably the only huge thing they ever let slip
with, but i don't really tell them much...
my life is 2 boring.
i guess it really depends what ur talking about. what do u hav to hide? some
things i think u just dont tell ur parents. u don't talk to ur parents about how
the cute guy in ur chemistry class was staring at u or how ur mad because ur
friend flirted with ur boyfriend. it just seems strange. its okay if u do (im
going 2 guess u don't tell ur parents that kind of stuff, judging by this furum
post), but i think everyone needs some privacy.
most of the stuff u don't want to tell ur parents is probably just
private.
i don't think its really wrong., but i agree with what Kyuoto said, its better 2
just avoid being bad at all. i know thats not very helpful, but its hard to find
advice that isnt relative.
...
at least whatever ur hiding cant b much more embaressing than mine...
shampoo bottles...
i personally do, cuz my parents tend to see it all in the wrong way.........cuz
if i did they look it as "omg our kids r this!" and then they get too
over protective and its so lame! like they wouldn't let us have internet till
like my uncle convince them....they were afriad that we were gonna make sum
friend online and run away wid them.........and like if we r dating sumone it
best to keep it away from them cuz then they'll give us this lecture about rape
and kidnapping.........and they'll jux get away of our studies in
school.......so basically my parents have no clue who i really am..........cuz i
jux keep my mouth shut, so i can get away from all the drama they
start........it almost like im running away from them.....but with all the
things thats happened in my past with my sister, i see that my parents want to
be more overprotected, i mean with all that crap that happened to my sister,
they're probably jux want to be better parents but sumtimes they jux need to go
away and let kids be kids...........
yeah i keep one major secret from my parents...and it's my love of
yaoi...hahaha...no seriously mum and i are pretty close but i have a feeling if
she knows she'd just have a heart attack...so man, i think she wants to live,
thus i don't tell her...hahaha
It does depend on the certain parent you have and what you are keeping secret
from them. If you are keeping secret you are gay, that will definately piss them
off most likely. If it's soemthing like maybe a secret girlfriend or just some
hidden feelings it shouldn't be too bad. They do have a tendency though to say
those to other people
yeah, don't worry I'm not keeping any secrets, one of my friend's is and I think
what she's keeping is pretty not right. Secret boyfriend for about 3 months and
she said that her mum is becoming suspecious and then was like to me, "Have
you said anything to her?" and that really hurt me that she would think I
told them. I don't because my mum is really nice and sweet but she can a bit
annoying at times but I'm okay with it
Growing up I could never keep a secret from my parents. Any time that I did
something wrong I would tell on myself because I could not stand the guilt.
Now, being a lot older, I have realized that for my mental health I have to keep
secrets from my parents. They do not need to know ever detail of my life. If
they did I would get lectures for hours even though I am 23. I swear my Mother
"Mothers" me more now then she did when I was little. It drives me
insane!
I agree with cheza, your parents does not need to know every detail of my life.
And I do keep secrets from them, it's better to be left unknown for them.
Like most people or at the least some people mentioned, it really dpeends on
your parent. If your parent is the type that will embarass you infront of
everyone, then it's better to keep it a secret. If the parent is close to you
and have a good connection then I think that you can tell them or something like
that.
Also... don't keep suicide a secret... (don't know why i brought that up but
whatever)
Quote by DarkRoseofHellLike most
people or at the least some people mentioned, it really dpeends on your parent.
If your parent is the type that will embarass you infront of everyone, then it's
better to keep it a secret. If the parent is close to you and have a good
connection then I think that you can tell them or something like that.
Also... don't keep suicide a secret... (don't know why i brought that up but
whatever)
Suicide can be kept a secret, without it being wrongly kept. Some parents aren't
open minded enough to understand that their children is suffering from
depression and needs crucial help. When I tried opening the subject with her, by
starting with my lack of self-esteem, she said I should get over it. End of
subject. She then proceeded with saying that I'm acting too childish by dwelling
in this feeling.
What she doesn't understand is, certain mental problems can't go away by
themselves. Just like some illness. If you fall ill, and don't get a cure for
it, then you'll keep it forever, and it might get worse... This is how I
consider depression. Unfortunately, my father is too much of a macho to
understand anything, and mother thinks that spoiled brats are the one to want to
commit suicide. I know that if I tell her now, she won't get me help. Instead,
she'll try to help me herself, by telling me how there are people that are in
worse situation than me and that I should get over it.
To a certain extent, she's right, but she doesn't know why I want to commit
suicide in the first place. She thinks whoever wants to commit suicide is
because they feel like their life is the worst of all, which might be true to a
certain extent, but not everyone who want to commit suicide wants to for this
sole reason. There are many reasons. Mine differs from this one. But she won't
understand.
So, what do I do? I keep it a secret and somehow hope I don't get depressed
enough to get myself killed. Every once in a while, I'm at the edge of life,
when someone pulls me back. It's either my former best friend, who's my cousin,
or my current best friend.
I'm hoping that the moment I leave home, I could go find help on my
own.
So, going back on the subject of keeping secrets from your parents, yes, I keep
many secrets from them, not because I'm embarrassed or anything, but because I'm
almost sure they'll misunderstand me and our relation will begin going down the
drain.
Better not telling them about your personal interest. Otherwise, they will tell
other people about it. Last time, it make me pissed off and embarrassed!
Do you guys think that keeping secrets from your parents is right? Do they embarrase you when you tell them something personal to you? Is keeping secrets a bad or a good thing?
Yeah sometimes it does. BUtI\'ll eventually do it to get the lift of weight off my heart.
Well, I guess it depends on how personal it is. My parents do sometimes embarrass me in front of others when I tell them something but it's not always the best choice to keep something from them.
When it comes to personal feelings, sometimes it's better to tell them to a good friend
my parents used to embarrasse me when i told them how i felt about
people. But there's many times when they can give some damn neat advices...
personal? i donno i think they don\'t need to know about it really...i mean they care so much and get upset over something that to you is very trifle and unimportant...besides, they don\'t see things the wa you do because they\'re so overprotecive and they wanna sheild you...hell i get into trouble sometimes, so i keep it to myself...as for advice...well it depends on the seriousness of the situation...if you think they\'ll sccept then sure, but other than that...i could live without it...seriously ...majorly
i'd been doing that all my life.
I think it's safe to say that everyone has kept secrets from their family, but is it okay to do this? I mean I know everyone wants their privacy but when's the point you have to tell them. I mean I can absolutly not tell my mum to stop embarrassing because it's my mum and it's rude but I think I speak for the majority when I say nobody can tell their parents to stop without afterwards feeling a big gap between them. It's like if you don't say you will still be embarrassed but if you do tell you might feel further away from them forever, anyone agree?
i keep secrets from my family, only because if they know, they would abuse me. it's wrong to do this but i don't want to get hurt at all. but sooner or later, they'll know about my secret which would make things worse.
keeping secrets from your parents is wrong, it kinda makes things worse, i think. if you don't share secrets with your parents, it kinda makes the word "family" useless...
i love my parents no matter how many times they're so unreasonable, but you know...i just don't want to get hit >__<
I think every one is entitled to things that no one else needs to know. Some things just aren't appropriate to share with parents depending on the kind of parent child relationship you share.
I think you can be your own judge of what is appropriate.
Depends on parents. Usually it's a good idea to keep them informed, but some parents aren't as open to ideas. It's not good or bad, just relative to the situation.
Can't say it better
You might want to refrain from doing horrible things in the first place.
its good to keep some things from your parents. but some things they should really know
depends on ur parents and what ur hiding.
my parents dont understand privacy. it took years 4 them 2 learn what knocking is. my mom is really nice, but too social. it takes my family half an hour to leave anywhere, then they blame me of course, but thats something else... anyway, my mom talks a lot.
i didn't tell my mom when i got my first period. i didnt think she would keep it secret. i got it really early, like 5th grade, so i was embaressed and didn't tell anyone.
i happened to find pads in the bathroom cabinet when i was cleaning. i could guess what they were for, but i only found the really light ones, so sometimes stuff got on my underwear. i would throw them away by stuffing them in shampoo bottles. the bottles were metalicy plastic, so after someone threw them away, you could throw anything away in them and no one would ever know. after awile, my mom kind of started to figure it out, sometimes my underwear wasn't quite bad enough to throw out, and it would get washed. she'd ask me, but i'd always find some excuse. the worst was when i was forced 2 go swimmimg. it was a nightmare. i was @ the pool against my will becuz some family fiend was there. he wanted to play water tag. i wanted to move around and stay as far away from anyone as possble. bleeding always stops instantly in the bath, maybe cuz the water is hot, but it didn't stop in the pool. i lied that i had a headache and refused to swim, but it was still horrible. i wanted to tell my mom, but i still didn't think i could trust her. i didn't tell her. she found out on her own in the most unexpected way possible. i threw out my underwear as usual, in a shampoo bottle. somehow, someone felt that there was still something in it and put it back in the shower. u can gess shat happened. my mom took a shower. instead of getting shmpoo, she unscrewed the bottle, wondering why there wasn't any shampoo, and out comes my bloody underwear.
it was pretty funny. we still kind of laugh about it. i hav some other weird stories like that... like i cant stand the smell of softsoap now, or i get this vivid picture in my head of trying to wash bloody underwear...
i think im a little off track...
in some ways i was right to not tell though, even that sounds insane after my stories. she sort of did tell, just like i was afraid she would. we were at my aunt and uncles house and i felt sick to my stomach, so i didn't eat much, so my mom was like "oh are u having ur period?" she practically announced it. i felt really embarressed because my aunts boyfriend was there and i dont know him that well and all my uncles were there, so it was really awkward. it was even worse because then she slapped her mouth and kind of did that none of u heard that". she was trying 2 say sorry, i guess, but i felt like it brought more attention....
anyway, just one case. thats probably the only huge thing they ever let slip with, but i don't really tell them much...
my life is 2 boring.
i guess it really depends what ur talking about. what do u hav to hide? some things i think u just dont tell ur parents. u don't talk to ur parents about how the cute guy in ur chemistry class was staring at u or how ur mad because ur friend flirted with ur boyfriend. it just seems strange. its okay if u do (im going 2 guess u don't tell ur parents that kind of stuff, judging by this furum post), but i think everyone needs some privacy.
most of the stuff u don't want to tell ur parents is probably just private.
i don't think its really wrong., but i agree with what Kyuoto said, its better 2 just avoid being bad at all. i know thats not very helpful, but its hard to find advice that isnt relative.
...
at least whatever ur hiding cant b much more embaressing than mine...
shampoo bottles...
i personally do, cuz my parents tend to see it all in the wrong way.........cuz if i did they look it as "omg our kids r this!" and then they get too over protective and its so lame! like they wouldn't let us have internet till like my uncle convince them....they were afriad that we were gonna make sum friend online and run away wid them.........and like if we r dating sumone it best to keep it away from them cuz then they'll give us this lecture about rape and kidnapping.........and they'll jux get away of our studies in school.......so basically my parents have no clue who i really am..........cuz i jux keep my mouth shut, so i can get away from all the drama they start........it almost like im running away from them.....but with all the things thats happened in my past with my sister, i see that my parents want to be more overprotected, i mean with all that crap that happened to my sister, they're probably jux want to be better parents but sumtimes they jux need to go away and let kids be kids...........
yeah i keep one major secret from my parents...and it's my love of yaoi...hahaha...no seriously mum and i are pretty close but i have a feeling if she knows she'd just have a heart attack...so man, i think she wants to live, thus i don't tell her...hahaha
It does depend on the certain parent you have and what you are keeping secret from them. If you are keeping secret you are gay, that will definately piss them off most likely. If it's soemthing like maybe a secret girlfriend or just some hidden feelings it shouldn't be too bad. They do have a tendency though to say those to other people
yeah, don't worry I'm not keeping any secrets, one of my friend's is and I think what she's keeping is pretty not right. Secret boyfriend for about 3 months and she said that her mum is becoming suspecious and then was like to me, "Have you said anything to her?" and that really hurt me that she would think I told them. I don't because my mum is really nice and sweet but she can a bit annoying at times but I'm okay with it
Growing up I could never keep a secret from my parents. Any time that I did something wrong I would tell on myself because I could not stand the guilt.
Now, being a lot older, I have realized that for my mental health I have to keep secrets from my parents. They do not need to know ever detail of my life. If they did I would get lectures for hours even though I am 23. I swear my Mother "Mothers" me more now then she did when I was little. It drives me insane!
I agree with cheza, your parents does not need to know every detail of my life. And I do keep secrets from them, it's better to be left unknown for them.
I've been keeping an extremely stupid secret from my parents for the last 7 years...
other than that, I'm generally very open with my parents.
Like most people or at the least some people mentioned, it really dpeends on your parent. If your parent is the type that will embarass you infront of everyone, then it's better to keep it a secret. If the parent is close to you and have a good connection then I think that you can tell them or something like that.
Also... don't keep suicide a secret... (don't know why i brought that up but whatever)
Suicide can be kept a secret, without it being wrongly kept. Some parents aren't open minded enough to understand that their children is suffering from depression and needs crucial help. When I tried opening the subject with her, by starting with my lack of self-esteem, she said I should get over it. End of subject. She then proceeded with saying that I'm acting too childish by dwelling in this feeling.
What she doesn't understand is, certain mental problems can't go away by themselves. Just like some illness. If you fall ill, and don't get a cure for it, then you'll keep it forever, and it might get worse... This is how I consider depression. Unfortunately, my father is too much of a macho to understand anything, and mother thinks that spoiled brats are the one to want to commit suicide. I know that if I tell her now, she won't get me help. Instead, she'll try to help me herself, by telling me how there are people that are in worse situation than me and that I should get over it.
To a certain extent, she's right, but she doesn't know why I want to commit suicide in the first place. She thinks whoever wants to commit suicide is because they feel like their life is the worst of all, which might be true to a certain extent, but not everyone who want to commit suicide wants to for this sole reason. There are many reasons. Mine differs from this one. But she won't understand.
So, what do I do? I keep it a secret and somehow hope I don't get depressed enough to get myself killed. Every once in a while, I'm at the edge of life, when someone pulls me back. It's either my former best friend, who's my cousin, or my current best friend.
I'm hoping that the moment I leave home, I could go find help on my own.
So, going back on the subject of keeping secrets from your parents, yes, I keep many secrets from them, not because I'm embarrassed or anything, but because I'm almost sure they'll misunderstand me and our relation will begin going down the drain.
Better not telling them about your personal interest. Otherwise, they will tell other people about it. Last time, it make me pissed off and embarrassed!
i have a lot of secrets that i keep from my parents....
they think they know me well...
but i am still full of secrets...
its better that way.....