Are they a good idea? I've heard stories of them working out and I've heard
horror stories.
I ask because there's a young lass at work I've become quite fond of. She's been
at our company since mid-last year and over that time we've become good friends,
not truly "close" but definitely comfortable around one another and
happy to talk about pretty much anything. As our friendship has grown I've
pretty much fallen for her, but there are two problems. First there's the whole
workplace issue - she doesn't work in the same department or even on the same
side of the building as me, but even so the company is not really that big
(<100 employees). The other problem is that she's currently dating one of the
guys in her department.
Thoughts? Opinions? On either the general idea or my specific situation (or
both), any feedback would be most welcome.
I tend to keep my working life and civilian life separate for the fact if one of
the relationships do go sour it won't effect either of my lives. But that's the
way I see it.
Since she's already dating one of the guys from the workplace, my advice would
be not to make any moves on her just yet. Why? Simple, she has feelings for that
guy at the moment and it shouldn't really be interferred with. Just be patient
and wait it out. Sooner or later you will have the opportunity to ask her out
etc. .
I think you should keep hope try always to be as nice as you can for her
Try to conserve your friendship with her
As Deathbonewitch said maybe she'll love you
Keep suporting her and if her actual relationship broke up you can always
comfort her and start going out like friends and if you could then show your
feelings
Good luck
Thanks for the input ppls. I'm still kinda wary about the whole
"relationships in the workplace" thing, but I guess I've got time to
think about it all.
Are they a good idea? I've heard stories of them working out and I've heard horror stories.
I ask because there's a young lass at work I've become quite fond of. She's been at our company since mid-last year and over that time we've become good friends, not truly "close" but definitely comfortable around one another and happy to talk about pretty much anything. As our friendship has grown I've pretty much fallen for her, but there are two problems. First there's the whole workplace issue - she doesn't work in the same department or even on the same side of the building as me, but even so the company is not really that big (<100 employees). The other problem is that she's currently dating one of the guys in her department.
Thoughts? Opinions? On either the general idea or my specific situation (or both), any feedback would be most welcome.
Well she is dating someone already so you shouldn't approach her too seriously until their relationship is over or something
I tend to keep my working life and civilian life separate for the fact if one of the relationships do go sour it won't effect either of my lives. But that's the way I see it.
Since she's already dating one of the guys from the workplace, my advice would be not to make any moves on her just yet. Why? Simple, she has feelings for that guy at the moment and it shouldn't really be interferred with. Just be patient and wait it out. Sooner or later you will have the opportunity to ask her out etc. .
Thanks guys. I probably should have mentioned that I have no intentions of making any moves until she's single again anyway; I'm not that kinda guy
Ah good, some body that has some sense of morals, how rare. Wait it out and if you stay her friends who knows, maybe she'll turn to you or something.
I think you should keep hope try always to be as nice as you can for her
Try to conserve your friendship with her
As Deathbonewitch said maybe she'll love you
Keep suporting her and if her actual relationship broke up you can always comfort her and start going out like friends and if you could then show your feelings
Good luck
Thanks for the input ppls. I'm still kinda wary about the whole "relationships in the workplace" thing, but I guess I've got time to think about it all.