I'm willing to take any comments, remarks and even insults from colleagues and strangers, and don't say anything back, but around my family, which I love very much, I'm a real hothead. If they say something I don't like, I'll get angry and start saying really harsh things, which I regret later.
So is it normal to have almost zero tolerance around the ones you love most, and tolerate everything when it comes to others you barely even know?
I hope there are people who recognize this.

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The same goes for me.

I second that, the difference is that, believe it or not, I do HATE my family, and also I wont tolerate something from someone I barely know, but once they gain my respect or even my friendship, I'll tolerate almost everything

Friends over family, family over strangers, and the special person in your life goes above the rest of them

I'll destroy the world someday. Hope you can tolerate that.

Yes.
I'm from a Chinese family and we are all terribly polite....in front of each other. But then as soon as the said person is out of the house, then we talk trash about them. I seriously don't like how we're like this. There's also stuff like money and trust. My grandmother has a problem with the dark. So she insist that one of her children stay over every night. She has six kids. One lives in Albany, far away. My dad is the youngest son and guess what?! I see my dad twice a week. Yeah...but we're tolerant to other people, strangers, because we see them about once in our lifetime and then we'll never see them again. So yeah.

i have 2 be nice then if they do it over and over then i get pissed off @ them! and i get scary!

It is very normal I think. I am the same way with people who aren't family. I am quite and conservative even if I am totally angry. But when I am mad at my family I have no problem telling them so. I guess it isn't a good thing but at least it proves to them that you love them enough to be yourself.

With my family, I feel more free to express my annoyance and discontentment, but I never ever try to say mean things to my parents. They're so dear to me, as much as possible I always try to speak to them respectfully. My sister is a different case though. We have only one year age gap, and as much as we're close, we also get into fights and talk nasty. (Still we love eachother alot )

I second ealpha-scorpio's opinion..
I never say mean thing to my parents too, but I did it a lot to my sister who also did the same thing to me I guess..

Kikyo, by the terms you said familiy.. Does it include your parents?

I am very laid back unless certain things happen.
I get irritated just like everyone else when people meddle to much in my affairs but with my family, well thats family for ya so its not too big a deal.

Quote by UllI second ealpha-scorpio's opinion..
I never say mean thing to my parents too, but I did it a lot to my sister who also did the same thing to me I guess..

Kikyo, by the terms you said familiy.. Does it include your parents?

Yeah, it involves my parents as well. I try not to say anything mean to them cuz I really love them, but it just happens sometimes. I always regret it afterwards, though

Yeah, Chinese families are overly polite when in front of each other. My family has similar problems in regards to Fawna-chan's post, though not exactly the same situation... obviously, being different families...

As for myself, I can pretty much take anything thrown at me, even if it infuriates the people around me. I've only gotten angry a few times in my life, but I rarely actually yell at anyone the few times I do. I'm incredibly calm and forgiving; sometimes I wonder if I'm overly so. My mom is always worried that people will take advantage of my demeanor.

And if I yell at my parents, I feel so terrible afterwards I just don't bother to do so.

The reason you act with rage towards those you know and not towards the ones you dont is because of your comfort level around your family. Your fully comfortable around your family: You know how you can act without them ostracizing you, but you cant act the same way around strangers because they have the ability to leave you in the dust (because they lack that emotional attachment your family has)

My suggestion for rage is seeking professional help. Get some couseling. This isnt something you can will yourself out of and requires a professional psychiatrist.

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Like your style, there's nothing that is totally wrong and there's nothing totally right, you came here asking about this because you realise you do something that is not right, so the best thing you can do is learn from your mistake and repent to what you have done, if you scream to your family later when you calm down think about it for your self if you think you cross over the line than go to them and said sorry properly and try not to do it again, because human think and learns. the best way to life is follow your heart but never forget to judge your way of living. because even rules are meant to restraint not to limit or handicap you, some are meant to be broken because you know there no more meaning in it self. But for sure your family is the best friend you can got; eventhought sometimes even your own family can stab you in the back.

I dont often yell at my family, but I kinda always complain..like I have to wash dishes when its NOT my turn, and im like : "why is it still me?" but it always turn out to be ME washing dishes. I may be a little bit grumpy with my family, but they know I really love them (that's why i always finish obeying them..). Same goes with my best friend (we've known each other for like 7 years). And for the others, I'm really polite with them.

Same goes for me, i get easily pissed off by what they say and talked back or say nasty things... Erm sometimes i will regret, sometimes i will just cry alone after that... Just like on 30/8/07, i bought some cakes and chocolate for my teachers the next day to celebrate teachers day, bt my brother ate one of it and i was damn damn angry, so angry that i`m a little afraid of myself... When my mum come back from work i said " Ask your son to give back me cake". In the end my dad drove to the shopping mall and bought back one for me... There was so many times we will just quarrel abt the smallest things! My was not very good at controlling my anger and temper... erm but sometimes i tink they are really very wrong also... To other people i may be tolerance but to my family is i tend to pour out everythings. Erm maybe this is family bah, becuz they are close hence we tend to neglect their feelings too...

i never really yell and i try to stay carm in all situations! i have a very short fuse but only on the inside its like i expload someone can punch hit and call me names and i just expload but only on the inside i can pritty much take anything people thro at me and i never get angry, and to Toshie i know wat u mean about the neglect there feelings and i think thats what people like me shud do somthmes to to have a release.