If one of your MT friends suddenly leaves the community, what does it do with
you?
Do you become less active yourself?
I do. One of my friends left MT without warning, and now I kinda lost motivation
to make new friends, since they could go at any time, leaving you behind. Know
what I mean?
I was wondering, how do you deal with it?
Well to answer your questions, it depends on what friend/former friend, ofcourse
depending on how good the friend was my feelings may vary from expecting it to
happen, to being shocked and wondering why they left?
Nah I wouldn't say I'll become less active cause of that, cause I know that I
can find new friends here and elsewhere, or at least I have an opportunity to.
And plus for me I have a group to operate. Can't let those members
down.
Well how do I deal with it. In the past few years I have seen friends come and
go all the time. Some I didn't care less while they left, while others I was
shocked to as why they left and still don't know the reason why today. Ofcourse
I can make assumptions as to why but it doesn't mean I know 100% exactly the
reason/s why they left.
But anyways, I guess you have to just expect it and accept that it might happen
Like I
lost quite a few good friends before, I was shocked and couldn't believe they'll
do this to me.
Well maybe your friend has a good reason he/she is leaving. You just have to
trust in what they're doing is the right decision for them and maybe you. Pray
for them too that they'll be alright if you're a believe in god.
But if that is not the case, at least this me you something. They weren't good
friends after all, just leaving me like this without a proper explanation. It
makes me feel at least a bit better knowing that. Ofcourse you still feel the
pain, but at least you know they weren't worth keeping if they pulled off such
an act and I guess time would heal your wounds.
And a good thing to do is to talk to someone you trust about it, personally I
found it to make me feel at least a bit better to talk to someone about it and
have them comfort me with at least there kind words
If you can't talk to someone about it or if there's no one to talk about it, you
can try calling those helplines where you can speak to someone about your
problems and they'll listen to you and won't judge you that harshly and even try
to offer advice on how to deal with the problem that you're having. And
everything is also kept confidential too
Anyways, hope that answers you're questions Kikyo And
please don't lose motivation making friends ok? You already at least got one
here
You can do it, I believe in your ability to make new friends
Remember if you don't do nothing, nothing will change, but if you at least try
things might change maybe even for the better
Ah well, I've been on MT for about a month or two, so I can't really say. But
seeing as how I really develop a bond with people as I get to know them, I think
I'd be really sad if that happened. Of course, I could always get their e-mail
or something, because there are more ways of communicating with somebody than
just through MT
Well......... if you have a strong bond with the person who left and if they
were one of your reasons for your stay in MT I think I would leave MT.........
Seeing that I've been here for quite a while....... and these days I cannot find
myself enjoying MT alot like I used to
But if you aren't planning on leaving, I encourage you to move on and make new
friends
No effect really. People change, it happens all the time. What interests them
now will probably change later and they may lose interest in MT. Unless you were
really relying on that person to be there then it should not affect your
decision to stay or go, instead your decision should be base off of whether you
like being on MT or not.
well older sister kikyo im still here! dont worry! ok well i just try 2 remember
them then i latter on forget about them...its hard 2 remeber them if u have many
friends. my advice is 2 just try 2 make more friends...it may seem hard but i
just ramomly go up 2 ppl and say hi and we b friends? thats wat i do! good luck!
I am on MT for 2 years and a few months now so in time I managed to get attached
on some people
well most of my friends are still active on MT
but there is a person that will always remain in my memory I still remember how
I cried when she left us for good
not only MT but this world I am still sad because of that she was a very kind
person
OH NOES! Who was it Kikyo. You don't have to tell me but I'm curious. Well, I
had a friend from china that left a long time ago. I still waited for her to
return but I guess she is gone for good. I enjoyed talking to her. She was a
nice person.
All I'm saying is that things like this happen and we should just let it go. The
world doesn't stop for catching up. It always rotates. Like Dianas, I've been
here for about a year. Not as long as some but I'll be here so long as my
interest in anime remains with me. And thats gonna be probalbly forever. Maybe
not but I assure you for a very long time.
Oh, I thought this was one of those "I'm leaving MT threads" lol,
title was deceiving.
I've been a member for almost 3 years, which is crazy as far as I noticed just
now. But as for people leaving without warning, it happens, just like every
online community you go to. You cannot expect people to be there forever, we get
older and life goes on, gets hectic, or you feel less interested in the
community for w/e reason.
My personal experience here, yes I lost a lot of cool MT friends I used to know
quite well, they're busy with other things probably. And since then I became
less active, and there's way too many members now to get to know well. Although
since then I did make some new ones. I was gone from MT for a few months here
and there, due to my work schedules and schooling, so maybe I was one of those
people leaving too xP lol.
In any case, I still remember the good ol' times, and I do still talk to the
people I've known here since the beginning. Two who I keep in contact quite
regularly is Keough and Narutofan, haha. Whom I never thought I'd become so
close to after these couple of years. But yeah as the saying goes "Life
goes on"~
I don't have any MT friends, I tend to make myself look like an ass by putting
things there in front of you rudely. It doesn't matter, I feel that it needs to
be done, and honestly I came here for some interesting forum fun and also the
nice pictures, so my feelings aren't hurt in the least. I used to be more active
but my school blocked MT so no more long, winding peices of artwork that most
people its directed at would get upset and those who understand the point nod
their heads and agree, just got the time after/before school and the
weekends.
If you feel like leaving, leave. You don't have an obligation to tell everyone,
and if you leave it means something traumatic happened or your interest was
decaying over time, thus you feel either your not able to explain yourself or
that you don't have to.
If one of your MT friends suddenly leaves the community, what does it do with you?
Do you become less active yourself?
I do. One of my friends left MT without warning, and now I kinda lost motivation to make new friends, since they could go at any time, leaving you behind. Know what I mean?
I was wondering, how do you deal with it?
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Hey Kikyo
Well to answer your questions, it depends on what friend/former friend, ofcourse depending on how good the friend was my feelings may vary from expecting it to happen, to being shocked and wondering why they left?
Nah I wouldn't say I'll become less active cause of that, cause I know that I can find new friends here and elsewhere, or at least I have an opportunity to. And plus for me I have a group to operate. Can't let those members down.
Well how do I deal with it. In the past few years I have seen friends come and go all the time. Some I didn't care less while they left, while others I was shocked to as why they left and still don't know the reason why today. Ofcourse I can make assumptions as to why but it doesn't mean I know 100% exactly the reason/s why they left.
But anyways, I guess you have to just expect it and accept that it might happen
Like I
lost quite a few good friends before, I was shocked and couldn't believe they'll
do this to me.
Well maybe your friend has a good reason he/she is leaving. You just have to trust in what they're doing is the right decision for them and maybe you. Pray for them too that they'll be alright if you're a believe in god.
But if that is not the case, at least this me you something. They weren't good friends after all, just leaving me like this without a proper explanation. It makes me feel at least a bit better knowing that. Ofcourse you still feel the pain, but at least you know they weren't worth keeping if they pulled off such an act and I guess time would heal your wounds.
And a good thing to do is to talk to someone you trust about it, personally I found it to make me feel at least a bit better to talk to someone about it and have them comfort me with at least there kind words
If you can't talk to someone about it or if there's no one to talk about it, you can try calling those helplines where you can speak to someone about your problems and they'll listen to you and won't judge you that harshly and even try to offer advice on how to deal with the problem that you're having. And everything is also kept confidential too
You can check my group page: http://lonelydepressed-group.minitokyo.net/ for the links to those helplines, it covers all countries
Anyways, hope that answers you're questions Kikyo
And
please don't lose motivation making friends ok? You already at least got one
here 
You can do it, I believe in your ability to make new friends 
Remember if you don't do nothing, nothing will change, but if you at least try things might change maybe even for the better
Ah well, I've been on MT for about a month or two, so I can't really say. But seeing as how I really develop a bond with people as I get to know them, I think I'd be really sad if that happened. Of course, I could always get their e-mail or something, because there are more ways of communicating with somebody than just through MT
Well......... if you have a strong bond with the person who left and if they were one of your reasons for your stay in MT I think I would leave MT......... Seeing that I've been here for quite a while....... and these days I cannot find myself enjoying MT alot like I used to
But if you aren't planning on leaving, I encourage you to move on and make new friends
No effect really. People change, it happens all the time. What interests them now will probably change later and they may lose interest in MT. Unless you were really relying on that person to be there then it should not affect your decision to stay or go, instead your decision should be base off of whether you like being on MT or not.
Thats my two cents worth
well older sister kikyo im still here! dont worry! ok well i just try 2 remember them then i latter on forget about them...its hard 2 remeber them if u have many friends. my advice is 2 just try 2 make more friends...it may seem hard but i just ramomly go up 2 ppl and say hi and we b friends? thats wat i do! good luck!
Thanks guys for the comments
Ur point
of views are refreshing and make me feel better too 
So, I'm gonna get going, gotta make some new friends around here, lol
Theres alot of kind people on this forum, so try to get to know someone and carry on.
I am on MT for 2 years and a few months now so in time I managed to get attached on some people
well most of my friends are still active on MT
but there is a person that will always remain in my memory I still remember how I cried when she left us for good
not only MT but this world I am still sad because of that she was a very kind person
I dont have any friend here on MT cos im not so active here. So this issue doesnt really affect me much. i will still submit art and scan.
OH NOES! Who was it Kikyo. You don't have to tell me but I'm curious. Well, I had a friend from china that left a long time ago. I still waited for her to return but I guess she is gone for good. I enjoyed talking to her. She was a nice person.
All I'm saying is that things like this happen and we should just let it go. The world doesn't stop for catching up. It always rotates. Like Dianas, I've been here for about a year. Not as long as some but I'll be here so long as my interest in anime remains with me. And thats gonna be probalbly forever. Maybe not but I assure you for a very long time.
Oh, I thought this was one of those "I'm leaving MT threads" lol, title was deceiving.
I've been a member for almost 3 years, which is crazy as far as I noticed just now. But as for people leaving without warning, it happens, just like every online community you go to. You cannot expect people to be there forever, we get older and life goes on, gets hectic, or you feel less interested in the community for w/e reason.
My personal experience here, yes I lost a lot of cool MT friends I used to know quite well, they're busy with other things probably. And since then I became less active, and there's way too many members now to get to know well. Although since then I did make some new ones. I was gone from MT for a few months here and there, due to my work schedules and schooling, so maybe I was one of those people leaving too xP lol.
In any case, I still remember the good ol' times, and I do still talk to the people I've known here since the beginning. Two who I keep in contact quite regularly is Keough and Narutofan, haha. Whom I never thought I'd become so close to after these couple of years. But yeah as the saying goes "Life goes on"~
I don't have any MT friends, I tend to make myself look like an ass by putting things there in front of you rudely. It doesn't matter, I feel that it needs to be done, and honestly I came here for some interesting forum fun and also the nice pictures, so my feelings aren't hurt in the least. I used to be more active but my school blocked MT so no more long, winding peices of artwork that most people its directed at would get upset and those who understand the point nod their heads and agree, just got the time after/before school and the weekends.
If you feel like leaving, leave. You don't have an obligation to tell everyone, and if you leave it means something traumatic happened or your interest was decaying over time, thus you feel either your not able to explain yourself or that you don't have to.