I know it's rather hard to tell your friends that, no matter if they are
antigay, progay or just plain don't care. But if you tell them and they treat
you like a worm or something, then they are not your friends at all. My friend
told me that she was bisexual and I personally have no problem. But if you
really do value your friends, you just don't tell them and bear the fact that
you're gay. I mean, keeping a secret takes a lot, doesn't it? I wish you good
luck with whatever decision you decide to go through with...and I guess that you
shouldn't have to take my advice at all. Just my opinion here.
Yep, what chii0103 said, if they cannot accept you as a gay, then they are not
your friends. In general, I don't really accept gay people, but I have
absolutely no problem with hanging with them. (Please don't read
"accept" as something that is negative, it's just how I say that I
don't accept their "love."
Depends, are you a guy and your friends guys or are you a girl and your friends
girls? Because if your a guy...I would probably stop being around you because
I'm anti-gay. Just my opinion, even if you didn't care =P
-death
Just like most of the people who replied in this thread say, be what you truly
are. If they really see you as their friend, they can accept you no matter what
you are. If they cannot accept you for being gay, then don't be sad. Now, you
know if they are really a true friend for you. Having a friend, or being one
isn't just for having fun and all. But it is how you value eachothers presence
as a person and as an individual.
In my opinion all the above are good advice.
But it all come down to you. do you want your to know because you dont want to
lie to them or, did you want to get more close relation with one of them.
For me i dont care if my friend is a gay, as long he know im not a gay.
I dont mind being close or become friend with a gay as long as he dont treat me
like a gay.
In other words dont act like a sisy, guys dont always chase girl or touch them
right?
act normal and treat them only as a friend, but dont act like you trying to
seduce them (because thats what irritates me), the fact you are a gay isnt the
problem i think.
wum...if they're anti gay, that's even better, that's the test of your
friendship...and anyway, in someway or the other, they'll know,or notice it, if
you are really friends with them.
If you tell them you're gay, and they are real friends, you will keep getting
along with them. If they stop talking to u, they are not really your friens.
well i say you shoud just blurt it out .. doesn`t really matter if they`re
anti-gay or not .. you say they are your friends so why be afraid .. if they are
trully your friends they will stick around [but makes it hard to believe though
.. for girls its easy to be friends with a guy that is gay .. but for guys it
kinda makes it difficult .. they get these strange ideas that your lookin`at
them in funny way and stuff .. i`m just guessin`here .. and i`m lackin`sleep so
don`t freak out of what i`m sayin`]
where was i .. ow yeah .. if you decide to tell them .. of course they would
freak out .. who wouldn`t .. and things could change either in your favour or
against it .. they could accept it .. given some time .. or totally turn their
back and pretend not to know you .. [again guessin`here .. ] .. if the second
one happens .. then dear sir those persons are not worth callin`friends ..
that `for better or for worse` is
available in friendships too .. u stick by your friend .. no matter of his
sexuality is or if he`s black or white and so on [just some examples] ..
so honestly i wish you the best of luck .. i`m clueless of how you might feel
but still i hope everythin`turns out okay
well the best advice i can give is be true to yourself so if you ... that way
then you shouldn't be afraid of this but i'm really at a lost for words on the
situation. best wishes and GOOD LUCK.
I think if they're antigay then it might not be a great idea to tell them.
Unless you know they'll accept you for who you are, maybe it isn't a good plan.
My suggestion is either find friends who like you for yourself, or figure out if
your current friends are willing to make an exception for you.
This must be really hard for you....because u can t exactly find true friends
who would completely accept u for who you are....i mean.....yah, they might TELL
you that it doesnt matter to them....but youll find that they'll separate from u
bit by bit..... i think its human nature to be like that....u cant exactly blame
them....but if they actually DO understand...u would know, and those would be
true frinds!
All I have to say is don't expect things to be
the same after you tell them (if you tell them).
A friend of mine told a group of us a couple of
of months ago that he was gay and its kinda changed the whole dynamic of the
group. While were still pretty good friends youcan still feel that sense of...I
guess seperation like he isn't one of us any more. We understand what hes going
through and even have become more aware of the old gay jokes we use to tell each
other but when it all comes down to it he's no longer the Jason (His name) we
thought we knew. I hate seeing it like that but its just the
truth.
My advice to you is if you want to get the
weight off your shoulders and you think they will be good friends in the long
run than tell them...right away. Don't wait years. Do it now and man up to
us.
There will be consequences (good or...maybe bad) but maybe it'll all be worth it
in the long run...
My friend told us he was gay. None of us have any problem with it. (mostly
because we suspected it anyway...) But I guess just tell your friends and if
they stop hanging out with you, that's their problem. Not yours.
I myself am bisexual, although I haven't told anyone yet... I have a friend
that's asexual, and another that's lesbian. Homos are everywhere, so don't worry
too much. It's just that society is stupid and hasn't figured out that JESUS
LOVES EVERYONE! (and if you're not religious, it doesn't matter, because we're
all human, and it's not like it's a disease or anything.)
usual when my friends tell me they're my 1st impression...is thats kinda
hott.....its realli kool 2!..but...if they're ur real friends they'll
understand^^
I say you should just tell them. If they shun you or push you away then they
really weren't your friends to begin with. Real friends accept you for who you
are, no matter what.
I'd just tell them..but then I grew up having a few gay friends and a couple
bisexual friends. As long as it's not pushed on me, I can accept almost
anything.
Like several have said here, if your friends push you away then they're not
really friends...A couple of them may be awkard about it at first--it doesn't
mean that they hate you, just that they're getting used to the idea. But I'm
willing to bet that if they really know you, then they already suspect it and
are just waiting for you to admit it.
As for the one you want "to get closer then friends" with..I'd take it
slower with that. Finding out that your friend is gay can be hard enough on some
people but it can be harder if they know that you have a crush on
them...Especially if the person you have a crush on is straight or, for that
matter, could be gay as well and hasn't come to terms with it yet.
I have told 80% of my friends that im bi. but there is just some people that
just once your labeled at something they act completely different around you..
which is the last thing i ever wanted so i told my friends not to mention it to
eachother, just an fyi and such. with the other 20% i just did not tell because
they would be assholes about it. In my opinion only tell the people you truely
trust not to judge you.
eeeewww your sick! Just kidding^^ actually im the guy who just doesnt care about
these stuff but to tell you THERE ARE SO MANY GAYS AROUND IN THIS WORLD NOW And
the people hir sure have good suggestion's so my advice for you is TO FOLLOW
THERE SUGGESTION's.I hope your the nice gay not the GRUESOME ONE's like they
touch you or glare at you maliciously....THAT IS SICK...DONT BE THAT!
Not telling them is probably only going to lead to problems, like them setting
you up with a date you couldn't care less about. Tell them like you just told
us, outright and direct. If they can't deal with it its their problem. Its
possible you may lose a friend out of this and its possible that some may have
trouble dealing with it, but its probably going to come out sooner or later, so
you might as well get it over and done with asap.
my friends r antigay or idk there standing point on the subject and i dont know how to tell them im gay
I know it's rather hard to tell your friends that, no matter if they are antigay, progay or just plain don't care. But if you tell them and they treat you like a worm or something, then they are not your friends at all. My friend told me that she was bisexual and I personally have no problem. But if you really do value your friends, you just don't tell them and bear the fact that you're gay. I mean, keeping a secret takes a lot, doesn't it? I wish you good luck with whatever decision you decide to go through with...and I guess that you shouldn't have to take my advice at all. Just my opinion here.
yeah.. if they push you awaY then they're not your so called friends..
i'm
sure.. if they really are your friends... they would understand.. ^^
Yep, what chii0103 said, if they cannot accept you as a gay, then they are not your friends. In general, I don't really accept gay people, but I have absolutely no problem with hanging with them. (Please don't read "accept" as something that is negative, it's just how I say that I don't accept their "love."
Depends, are you a guy and your friends guys or are you a girl and your friends girls? Because if your a guy...I would probably stop being around you because I'm anti-gay. Just my opinion, even if you didn't care =P
-death
Just like most of the people who replied in this thread say, be what you truly are. If they really see you as their friend, they can accept you no matter what you are. If they cannot accept you for being gay, then don't be sad. Now, you know if they are really a true friend for you. Having a friend, or being one isn't just for having fun and all. But it is how you value eachothers presence as a person and as an individual.
Jane(^o^)
In my opinion all the above are good advice.
But it all come down to you. do you want your to know because you dont want to lie to them or, did you want to get more close relation with one of them.
For me i dont care if my friend is a gay, as long he know im not a gay.
I dont mind being close or become friend with a gay as long as he dont treat me like a gay.
In other words dont act like a sisy, guys dont always chase girl or touch them right?
act normal and treat them only as a friend, but dont act like you trying to seduce them (because thats what irritates me), the fact you are a gay isnt the problem i think.
wum...if they're anti gay, that's even better, that's the test of your friendship...and anyway, in someway or the other, they'll know,or notice it, if you are really friends with them.
i am a guy but u could of checked my page and my friends r of both genders and i do want to get closer then friends with 1 of them
If you tell them you're gay, and they are real friends, you will keep getting along with them. If they stop talking to u, they are not really your friens.
well i say you shoud just blurt it out .. doesn`t really matter if they`re anti-gay or not .. you say they are your friends so why be afraid .. if they are trully your friends they will stick around [but makes it hard to believe though .. for girls its easy to be friends with a guy that is gay .. but for guys it kinda makes it difficult .. they get these strange ideas that your lookin`at them in funny way and stuff .. i`m just guessin`here .. and i`m lackin`sleep so don`t freak out of what i`m sayin`]
where was i .. ow yeah .. if you decide to tell them .. of course they would freak out .. who wouldn`t .. and things could change either in your favour or against it .. they could accept it .. given some time .. or totally turn their back and pretend not to know you .. [again guessin`here .. ] .. if the second one happens .. then dear sir those persons are not worth callin`friends ..
that `for better or for worse` is available in friendships too .. u stick by your friend .. no matter of his sexuality is or if he`s black or white and so on [just some examples] ..
so honestly i wish you the best of luck .. i`m clueless of how you might feel but still i hope everythin`turns out okay
well the best advice i can give is be true to yourself so if you ... that way then you shouldn't be afraid of this but i'm really at a lost for words on the situation. best wishes and GOOD LUCK.
I think if they're antigay then it might not be a great idea to tell them. Unless you know they'll accept you for who you are, maybe it isn't a good plan. My suggestion is either find friends who like you for yourself, or figure out if your current friends are willing to make an exception for you.
This must be really hard for you....because u can t exactly find true friends who would completely accept u for who you are....i mean.....yah, they might TELL you that it doesnt matter to them....but youll find that they'll separate from u bit by bit..... i think its human nature to be like that....u cant exactly blame them....but if they actually DO understand...u would know, and those would be true frinds!
All I have to say is don't expect things to be the same after you tell them (if you tell them).
A friend of mine told a group of us a couple of of months ago that he was gay and its kinda changed the whole dynamic of the group. While were still pretty good friends youcan still feel that sense of...I guess seperation like he isn't one of us any more. We understand what hes going through and even have become more aware of the old gay jokes we use to tell each other but when it all comes down to it he's no longer the Jason (His name) we thought we knew. I hate seeing it like that but its just the truth.
My advice to you is if you want to get the weight off your shoulders and you think they will be good friends in the long run than tell them...right away. Don't wait years. Do it now and man up to us.
There will be consequences (good or...maybe bad) but maybe it'll all be worth it in the long run...
My friend told us he was gay. None of us have any problem with it. (mostly because we suspected it anyway...) But I guess just tell your friends and if they stop hanging out with you, that's their problem. Not yours.
I myself am bisexual, although I haven't told anyone yet... I have a friend that's asexual, and another that's lesbian. Homos are everywhere, so don't worry too much. It's just that society is stupid and hasn't figured out that JESUS LOVES EVERYONE! (and if you're not religious, it doesn't matter, because we're all human, and it's not like it's a disease or anything.)
Remember, it's OK to be Gay, just as long as you don't make your friends feel uncomfortable, they should have no reason to stop being your friends.
usual when my friends tell me they're my 1st impression...is thats kinda hott.....its realli kool 2!..but...if they're ur real friends they'll understand^^
well i told my best friend he seemed pretty cool with it
I say you should just tell them. If they shun you or push you away then they really weren't your friends to begin with. Real friends accept you for who you are, no matter what.
I'd just tell them..but then I grew up having a few gay friends and a couple bisexual friends. As long as it's not pushed on me, I can accept almost anything.
Like several have said here, if your friends push you away then they're not really friends...A couple of them may be awkard about it at first--it doesn't mean that they hate you, just that they're getting used to the idea. But I'm willing to bet that if they really know you, then they already suspect it and are just waiting for you to admit it.
As for the one you want "to get closer then friends" with..I'd take it slower with that. Finding out that your friend is gay can be hard enough on some people but it can be harder if they know that you have a crush on them...Especially if the person you have a crush on is straight or, for that matter, could be gay as well and hasn't come to terms with it yet.
Good luck...You've got a long road ahead of you.
I have told 80% of my friends that im bi. but there is just some people that just once your labeled at something they act completely different around you.. which is the last thing i ever wanted so i told my friends not to mention it to eachother, just an fyi and such. with the other 20% i just did not tell because they would be assholes about it. In my opinion only tell the people you truely trust not to judge you.
eeeewww your sick! Just kidding^^ actually im the guy who just doesnt care about these stuff but to tell you THERE ARE SO MANY GAYS AROUND IN THIS WORLD NOW And the people hir sure have good suggestion's so my advice for you is TO FOLLOW THERE SUGGESTION's.I hope your the nice gay not the GRUESOME ONE's like they touch you or glare at you maliciously....THAT IS SICK...DONT BE THAT!
Not telling them is probably only going to lead to problems, like them setting you up with a date you couldn't care less about. Tell them like you just told us, outright and direct. If they can't deal with it its their problem. Its possible you may lose a friend out of this and its possible that some may have trouble dealing with it, but its probably going to come out sooner or later, so you might as well get it over and done with asap.