can girls ever be just friends with a guy? say this guy is 100% straight and
he's like the best guy you can ever hang around with. like you connect with this
person completely and can talk for hours straight on. it's like..your best
friend but opposite sex. would you ever feel attracted to this person? and if
you do...can you even distinguish him as a friend or would rather want something
more out of it? kinda confusing, please post your thoughts so i can clarify in
any way....
Um...... I geuss that depends how you feel about him. See him more as a friend
or something else? Well I have a friend that's a guy but we're just friends. No
attraction. So this is all I could think of to post. Gomen, sorry I never
thought much about this topic.
Hmm... well.. for what it is worth.. there is nothing unethical or improper for
having someone the opposite sex as your closest friend.. As Hinotama said.. your
feelings for him is the key factor..or I should say.. both of your feelings.. If
you see him as a friend and only as such... or he feels this way..then go on
with your life as if none bothers you... However, if this is not the case and
either one or both of you share feelings for each other..then let time help it
grow stronger... A note of caution... he might only think of you as a
"sister" and that alone... with society as it is now... it is quite
common... that is all.
I think its possible, of course ive been just friends with girls where theres
just attraction and nothing more to it. But just remember it takes two too start
a relationship, if one isn't willing that just means u stay as friends if both
aggree on it... just a very odd relationship afterwards ><,
just make it clear ur not loking for love! such as look at other guys when ur
with him and say there hott and stuff, that pretty much will let him know....
"SHES NOT LOOKING AT ME THAT WAY!"
I've had a female friend for 13 years, and there have never really been any
thoughts or actions between us that would designate us as more than friends.
Personally, I pondered it and wondered how things would be if they happened to
go in that direction, but I never really took it seriously.
I can't really speak for her, but I haven't seen or heard of any reason to
believe that she's ever thought about it either. I think it's possible, it just
takes a lot of innocence and maturity, which seemingly contradict each other.
well ermmm this is kinda hard cos ive had a ''guy'' bestie for years (which has
nuthin wrong with it) except he asked me out 2 weeks ago last tuesday.....ps its
even harder cos my other bestfrend hus a girl likes himm...but yea of course its
fine for a guy to be besties with a girll
i believe that a girl and a guy can be best friends, as my best friend is a guy.
Even though i have thought about him in THAT way, i haven't actually tried to
tell him. It went away eventually, and it only lasted for a little while.
I think in schools and groups and social gatherings, if you actually hang around
with a member of the opposite sex a lot, your peers start to become really
annoying and tease you, but me and my best frd are used to it, and everyone's
stopped saying the stuff...as we both have our own relationships going on. ^^
Well... of course is it! It's just human nature...
You just have to know what's what. Sometimes, those kinds of friendship, like
you said, steps up a bit higher than what you two used to be. I guess it's just
that you two have to know your limits.
I'm a guy and my best friend is a girl. For the record, I have never thought
about her in any way other than a friend. Never would do any differently, as far
as I can tell.
On the other hand, romantic relationships I have tried to start have always been
with good friends I can communicate well with. Never been in a real
romantic-type of relationship though, so I wouldn't talk about that.
I think it is normal, as my best friend is a cute guy...I don't care how other
people think about us, we still relate to each other very well...That's nothing,
just friends!
While I don't necessarily agree with all of the premises in this theory, some
points are worth mentioning. See for yourself.
p.s. Its natural to think that there is a possiblity that you can be attracted
to your best friend (of the opposite sex) just because you both can relate to
each other. After all, attraction also involves mental appeal, and not just
physical appeal. Accepting the idea that you would like that friend to become
something more is the thing that would most likely change the way you view that
person.
Of course, a big percent of my friends are male, and were friends,
yes sometimes they do slip a "hit on" with me but they know I'm not
interested in that so they leave it be.
And one of really best friends is a guy, and we hang out a lot and go out, but
we never have had a problem
even though people like to gossip, but as long as we take it as a joke people
start to get the point we're just friends
And as for your question "would you ever feel attracted to this
person?"
My answer is yes, I have felt a attracted to him, but I know that's normal to
feel, and I know I think that cause we get along so well but I know I don't want
to ruin or friendship and that's it
^^ I agree with lunagata, completely... you still think that. I almost fell
kinda gulity that I have guy friends... and I have a boyfriend too. I talk to my
guy friends about subjects that my boyfriend and I don't talk about... nothing
too serious though, just mostly topics that I wish my boyfriend was interested
in. Make sense? Anyways, I think its good to have friends, nomatter who they
are... male or female.
can girls ever be just friends with a guy? say this guy is 100% straight and he's like the best guy you can ever hang around with. like you connect with this person completely and can talk for hours straight on. it's like..your best friend but opposite sex. would you ever feel attracted to this person? and if you do...can you even distinguish him as a friend or would rather want something more out of it? kinda confusing, please post your thoughts so i can clarify in any way....
Food for thought.
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Um...... I geuss that depends how you feel about him. See him more as a friend or something else? Well I have a friend that's a guy but we're just friends. No attraction. So this is all I could think of to post. Gomen, sorry I never thought much about this topic.
Hmm... well.. for what it is worth.. there is nothing unethical or improper for having someone the opposite sex as your closest friend.. As Hinotama said.. your feelings for him is the key factor..or I should say.. both of your feelings.. If you see him as a friend and only as such... or he feels this way..then go on with your life as if none bothers you... However, if this is not the case and either one or both of you share feelings for each other..then let time help it grow stronger... A note of caution... he might only think of you as a "sister" and that alone... with society as it is now... it is quite common... that is all.
Long story short: There's no problem.
I've got more friends-who-are-girls than I have friends-who-are-guys, and honestly, I love it. Always have someone I can talk to when I need to ^^
I think its possible, of course ive been just friends with girls where theres just attraction and nothing more to it. But just remember it takes two too start a relationship, if one isn't willing that just means u stay as friends if both aggree on it... just a very odd relationship afterwards ><,
just make it clear ur not loking for love! such as look at other guys when ur with him and say there hott and stuff, that pretty much will let him know.... "SHES NOT LOOKING AT ME THAT WAY!"
I've had a female friend for 13 years, and there have never really been any thoughts or actions between us that would designate us as more than friends. Personally, I pondered it and wondered how things would be if they happened to go in that direction, but I never really took it seriously.
I can't really speak for her, but I haven't seen or heard of any reason to believe that she's ever thought about it either. I think it's possible, it just takes a lot of innocence and maturity, which seemingly contradict each other.
well ermmm this is kinda hard cos ive had a ''guy'' bestie for years (which has nuthin wrong with it) except he asked me out 2 weeks ago last tuesday.....ps its even harder cos my other bestfrend hus a girl likes himm...but yea of course its fine for a guy to be besties with a girll
when i was in germany..my best friend was a girl :P
i wish that i have a gal bestfriend...sometime...
i believe that a girl and a guy can be best friends, as my best friend is a guy. Even though i have thought about him in THAT way, i haven't actually tried to tell him. It went away eventually, and it only lasted for a little while.
I think in schools and groups and social gatherings, if you actually hang around with a member of the opposite sex a lot, your peers start to become really annoying and tease you, but me and my best frd are used to it, and everyone's stopped saying the stuff...as we both have our own relationships going on. ^^
Well... of course is it! It's just human nature...
You just have to know what's what. Sometimes, those kinds of friendship, like you said, steps up a bit higher than what you two used to be. I guess it's just that you two have to know your limits.
I'm a guy and my best friend is a girl. For the record, I have never thought about her in any way other than a friend. Never would do any differently, as far as I can tell.
On the other hand, romantic relationships I have tried to start have always been with good friends I can communicate well with. Never been in a real romantic-type of relationship though, so I wouldn't talk about that.
I think it is normal, as my best friend is a cute guy...I don't care how other people think about us, we still relate to each other very well...That's nothing, just friends!
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While I don't necessarily agree with all of the premises in this theory, some points are worth mentioning. See for yourself.
p.s. Its natural to think that there is a possiblity that you can be attracted to your best friend (of the opposite sex) just because you both can relate to each other. After all, attraction also involves mental appeal, and not just physical appeal. Accepting the idea that you would like that friend to become something more is the thing that would most likely change the way you view that person.
almost 80% of my friends is girl. but i don't really care about it, as long as i can keep myself as their friends not something else
as long as you can keep them as friends and nothing else... so your saying you dont want a girlfriend as a relationship?... are you o.o,,, ggg...aa
If 80% of your friends are girls... and you have 100 friends... then you need to make that 20%guys 79%girls 1%girlfriend
I have a best friend and his a guy....but hey I have special feeling for him ^_^
You can develop feelings sometimes. Some people mix love and friendship when it's with the opposite sex for some reason... I don't know why...
Yes, you can, nothing wrong with it
Yeah I suppose you could, in fact im friends with some girls, and im 100% straight. Have no sexual attraction to them whatsoever.
well, there is nothing wrong with having someone of the opposite sex as a close friend.
people people, be more open-minded ne~
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Of course, a big percent of my friends are male, and were friends,
yes sometimes they do slip a "hit on" with me but they know I'm not interested in that so they leave it be.
And one of really best friends is a guy, and we hang out a lot and go out, but we never have had a problem
even though people like to gossip, but as long as we take it as a joke people start to get the point we're just friends
And as for your question "would you ever feel attracted to this person?"
My answer is yes, I have felt a attracted to him, but I know that's normal to feel, and I know I think that cause we get along so well but I know I don't want to ruin or friendship and that's it
^^ I agree with lunagata, completely... you still think that. I almost fell kinda gulity that I have guy friends... and I have a boyfriend too. I talk to my guy friends about subjects that my boyfriend and I don't talk about... nothing too serious though, just mostly topics that I wish my boyfriend was interested in. Make sense? Anyways, I think its good to have friends, nomatter who they are... male or female.