Now people, dont just look at the topic and post "yes/no, suicide is/isn't the answer!" or "suicide is the best/worst way to handle your problems"

ACTUALLY READ THROUGH... I really AM going through this right now...

I'm really depressed and am having urges of suicide, or so my friend said. I don't know whether or not it's worth living. There's so much to gain by living, but the chances are so small that it hurts.

The only girl i'll ever love was my crush. She only liked me as a friend. Recently, she got a boyfriend, and on one hand, making her feel guilty is a powerful weapon on my side. However, I don't want to see her hurt. I'd do anything for her. Still, I want her to feel and understand my love for her and the pain that it's caused.

The chances of her ever having a relationship with me is close to none, seeing as the guy she's with is better than me in every aspect. he's a lot cooler than me. He's taller than the girl by quite a few inches, and i'm like 1 or 2 inches shorter than her. He's much smarter than me. He's in UCSD already. The girl and I are both only in 11th grade. He's stronger than me, he's a better badminton player than me, and well, need I go on?

I can't forget about her, because whenever I try to, that attempt brings an image of her back into my mind, and when that happens, it never goes away for hours. Almost everything I do reminds me of her. Being at school reminds me of her.

She's got everything I could ever want in a girl. No one else i've seen is as perfect in appearance as her. No one else I've hung out with is as perfect in personality as her.

I've thought about suicide hundreds of times, I've planned suicide over 40 times, I've attempted suicide over 14 times, and I need to find a way out of this mess, whether it's life or death.

Get a grip of yourself!What would you gain by doing suicide?You're going to throw away your live just because of one girl,come on,think clearly boy.The first thing you should try to do is to forget her in this case.Try to find something to do while you try to forget her,try to really focus on something else.And you must always believe "She isn't the only one,there is other like her."Have confidence,calm yourself down and take it easy.Tell me,is she your first love?

ya,i'm agree with Komaka too!please dont do that again!i dont agree that just because of a girl then u go suicide!it is not fair u know.i think more importance is firstly u think about ur family.if u really die,then how about them?how's thier feeling?think about it!please calm down ur mind!^^gambatte to go through the problem,man!^^

Well, maybe I don't really know the feelings you're going through since I never really experiene that kind of relationship (due to the fact that I went to an all-girls school)

But, Komaka is right. You can't throw away ur life just because of one girl... Maybe you rhought I'm not really qualified to write since I never experienced this kind of relationship. But I'm a writer and I always observe people... Many kind people... and really, so what if you can't have that girl? There're still many girls in the world... First crush doesn't mean the love of your life (althogh people often used that to make romantic stories)

Anyway, just calm down... Relax and you'll find someone soon...^^, Ganbatte^^

Don't do such a nonsense thing, there's a lot of girls to meet, and surely you will find even in the near future a better girl to meet, hoy many people are living in a worse condition, people living in the misery but filled of vitality, think of this, time will give you a lot of happiness, and i don't only mean of relationship.
Also, come to thing about your relatives, you would give them a deeply sadness if you suicide.

greetings from chile, south america

You're giving up in that manner.Throwing life away that easily...its not something that you can toy with.
I understand about being depress cuz I've been through that.I get in bloody fights just to kill myself but after beating others senseless I realised its not worth to be suicidal.
You're being possesive of that girl.That's okay but how far are you going to follow this love?How long are you going to be stuck in this,thinking about suicide all the time?
There are better ones out there.
Its not your fate to be with her,somebody must be waiting for you....go on take a look.
FIND A REASON TO LIVE.
You can do it...I support you.Live on.
Don't die for someone......

... You're still so young. That's what bothers me - life has barely even started and you want to end it? There are so many beautiful things out there. You have your loved ones, your friends - they all care about you. You can't just leave them behind, they'll be very sad and overcome with grief if you do.

Also, nothing is absolute. I know you probably really do love the girl, and you say you don't want her to be unhappy. If you suddenly disappear, she would be unhappy... in fact, nobody will be.

Again, I must urge on the fact that you're still so young. There's a lot of territory you have yet to cover, gems hiding in dusty areas for you to unravel and many many beautiful things. Of course life is not all about being all entirely happy and perfect - there will be ups and downs.

And don't let yourself down - there's a lot to see. I wouldn't want you to miss out on seeing these things - trust me, because I know! *hugs*

well to me i think that suicide is the worst way to solve this type of problem
i think that after u died the girl or any other people will probably think that u are so foolish to do such a thing or just think of doing such a thing just because u can't go steady with her

BUT

in aother case the girl will be hurt by u for maybe forever
because she may think that she cause ur death
do u want that ?!
u said u dun want to hurt her and yet u wanna die cos of sth like this
what u say does not match
this way u may ruin her entire life !

at least she like u as a friend
friends can still hang out

ur situation is much better than a friend i have
he also have a crush on a classmate
he told her
they sort of agreed to go steady
but after a few months it didn't work out
cos the girl didn't really like him in the first place but didn't tell him when he told her !
now the guy wanna be friends
but it just fall apart
the girl dun even want to be near him or something

if u told her that u like her
that u should be thankful that she is honest with u
and that she still thinks of u as a friend

if not
maybe u got the wrong message
maybe she is just waiting for u to tell her !

REMEMBER FRIENDS ARE BETTER THAN NOTHING !

besides it really is like komaka said
also if u died i think that ur relatives and friends would be real hurt and sad

and maybe if u wait
u may have a chance if the guy is real bad
and break up with her
let her know that u are there to give support
then she will realise that u are always there to help her
then maybe she will give u a chance
if u died u would really regret it !
what if she gives u a chance !

oh ya by the way the guy i mention is quite contented in just watching her
and be near her u know
he has zero percent chance of being her boyfriend

u should go busy urself with drawing, watching anime or anything
maybe this way u will forget her
and think of a better girlfriend

and just like the others have said
CALM DOWN

merged: 12-10-2007 ~ 08:47pm
didn't notice i wrote that much hahaz...

u really shouldn't DIE
JUST LOOK AT THOSE WHO ASK U NOT TO DIE !
even though they are the ones who dunno u !

You are trying to take the easy way out of your problem, suicide doesn't solve anything and your crush would be devastated if she knows that she is the cause. If you say that you like/love her, then you definitely wouldn't want her to be guilt ridden the rest of her life.

Besides, I feel that suicide is a very cowardy way of evading your problems. Please think it through, you only get to live once, live it to the fullest. There are still tonnes of gals waiting for you to 'hit on' them.

Try to broaden your social circle and you would definitely find another gal worthy of you, or at least forget this crush of yours. When you enter university or college you will feel different, trust me.

That's all I have to say.

oooppppssss, sorry I voted wrongly. Please forgive me, I meant that I don't want you to commit suicide, not that I don't care. Gomenasai.

Suicide is not the best way to go. I'm a hypocrite for saying this because I have planned suicide so many times but never attempted. That means I still want to live somewhere in my mind. I thought my boyfriend didn't love me anymore so I thought without him I would have no life. Well, I got a disorder so some of my grief is excusable but still, it's not worth committing suicide for just one girl who doesn't give too flying figs about you. Of course, she's stupid for not noticing your pain and she could still be your friend.

Suicide is not worth it. Love is hard under 18. Wait until you become a little older. The pain will diminish at some point in time.

You sound a little obsessive there, sport. I mean... the image you have on your crush isn't exactly the healthiest I've heard, because noone will ever be able to live up to the kind of image you projected over this girl. I'd even go so far as to say it's a good thing you didn't end up with her as a girlfriend, because you probably wouldn't like getting to know her... less admirable traits.

What you need to do is grit your teeth and bear it. Whether you stick around here or don't, come back in six to eight years and THEN talk to us. I'm betting your impressions on love or life in general will be a lot different. In fact, it will. Trust me on this.

(For the record, I've never ever considered suicide, much less actually tried it. I know people who has, though, even succeeding at it.

As for crushes, I've had them. Not a whole lot, but enough to have felt everything that goes with it. And, again, perspective! You need it, so give yourself some time. Pursue your hobbies, your education or whatever else you choose to do, and whenever it reminds you of her -- as I've mentioned -- grit your teeth and bear it. It will make you stronger, even if won't necessarily make you happy all the time.)

And that is my two cents. Take it as you will, and put it together with everyone else's contributions and gain whatever you can from it all. There's no need to rush into death blindly when you can still stand to gain something from all this, and I'm not only talking about your problem here.

Suicide like many had said,is never a solution to any problem,not matter what you are facing,I'm really glad actually that you have the intention to get out of this mess,this means you still want to live!Don't tell everyone you don't see the point of living,nobody does,at first its for us to find out as we live.

I have a friend whose situation it more or less like you,I tried all types of ways he still stuck to what he had believed and refused to listen,therefore I hope you will listen to many of those who will write here.

Listen,she is not the only flower,
Is she worth that much for you to throw away your life when it was given to you?
She may be a great person,but great as she may be,she is still a human like you and me.
Like animes-san said,if you did suicide,you're causing pain to the girl in turn,not only to her but to those around you,your friends and family.
The pain will go away,trust me,I know...It will go away,just go on and do your things as usual...Treat her like how you treated her before,slowly the pain and the love will slowly ebb away and you'll find yourself,more relaxed.All you need to do is just let go...
Let go of the love you had for her,but never ever let go of your life for someone,you live your life for yourself and no one,not even yourself has the right in taking away life,not even your own.Have confidence that you'll be able to be friends with her and forget the love you had.It needs a lot of courage to do so,have confidence and courage will come.

I guess I have finished what I had to say...Your life is in your own hands and none other.

Love is ALWAYS hard. I say this from experience.

There was this boy I liked in high school. He was sweet, cute, funny, kind, caring, intelligent, and interesting. My dream guy. I wanted to be with him so much. He wasn't ever interested in me. He went out with a girl that was prettier than me, taller than me, thinner than me and smarter than me. It made me feel so inadaquate, pathetic... I didn't want to live. I thought about suicide. I also had a death in the family of a person who was very close to me... so I thought about suicide even more. However, after a period of depression... I decided not to do it. I mean, why mope forever because one guy (whom I did really care about, but who obviously never wanted me the way I wanted him) was superficial about his choice in girls? Why not try again? When I thought abou the loved one that I'd lost... I thought, why ask for this person back... they were suffering to begin with and its unfair and selfish of me to ask for them back for them to be sick like they were and me to be happy they're still here.

Life is precious. Keep yours. Hold on to it, because there are more people out there. There are more people you can meet... even another girl who's even more wonderful than the one you speak of. Now I know it sounds like daydreaming, but its REALLY possible. I know because it happened to me (I explained part of this in another thread). If I'd killed myself... what would that have accomplished? Nothing. I wouldn't have made friends and helped people here at MT, gone through college, gotten a job, made new and wonderful friends for life, and I wouldn't be engaged right now to the most wonderful, sweetest, kindest man in the world! Life does go on, you've just got to keep trying. Life isn't easy, you've got to work hard and keep going.

Good luck to you. I hope that what luck I've had in finding someone for me after feeling like I did, goes to you... so that you can find happiness too. *hugs* Please try... just try again. It's difficult, but life is worth living.

Quote by ShadowOchibiThe only girl i'll ever love was my crush.

No one can ever truly say that. That's just an assumption people make because they currently have strong feelings. I'm not going to tell you a bunch of "Sweet Nothings" because I could be lying to you if I told you "everything will be alright", because I quite frankly don't know that, because life is an unpredictable thing. You've said that you care about her and want her to understand your feelings, but do you actually care about how she feels? If she thinks of you as a friend why would you contemplate killing yourself if you know that she cares about you? Life's not candy and butterflies all the time, but killing yourself isn't going to help. There are plenty of people who live through hell each day and still keep going, and fight to live, but you're too quick to through it away over a girl when you're still so young. There's Millions upon Millions of people in the world, so saying that she's the only girl you'll ever love is very naive.

Quote by NorthyYou sound a little obsessive there, sport. I mean... the image you have on your crush isn't exactly the healthiest I've heard, because noone will ever be able to live up to the kind of image you projected over this girl. I'd even go so far as to say it's a good thing you didn't end up with her as a girlfriend, because you probably wouldn't like getting to know her... less admirable traits.

I have to agree with Northy on this. You sound to me like you're painting a picture of her, but don't necessarily really know her, in which case I'd argue you don't really love her but are attaching yourself to her. Also, you haven't even left highschool left. What do you think the chances are of the two of you ending up in the same college? Could you handle separation like that?

Look, there are plenty of fish in the sea. You're probably more likely to find love outside of High school, where peer pressure and false ideas and preconceived views of love runs rampant. Give yourself time and look around you- or better yet, just go on for now. You have time to find the girl who's truly right for you- someone who will love you back and for who you are. Time is something you no longer have when you're dead.

1. First up if you've failed 14 times, I dont think you have it in you to commit suicide. Go ahead do it. Cant can you? PANSY. Quit whining.
2. You cant see the point of living because there isn't one. But does there need to be one. Just go forth and amuse yourself. I recommend finding a good video game or perhaps another girl if you desire. But I'd say better to go for the sure thing( video games ) and search for the girl on the side. And If you find a good one dump the game and if/when she turns sour dump her and buy another game or hobby. Rinse repeat.
3. Most likely her relationship with that guy will not work out so just sit and wait. Pull up a chair and watch the show when the shit hits the fan. Then you can get her on the rebound while shes in a weakened state.
4. If you're desperate and have money im sure someone could "remove" this guy from the picture. However it may be worse than nothing at all so use your best judgement.
5. If she is gone absolutely beyond hope, in this guys arms forever, engaged,...etc try thinking about how YOU obviously loved her more than anything and SHE abandoned you for another and then magnify that about ten thousand times. Does if make you angry now? Yes? It is a good thing. Turn you anger into hatred and leave her to suffer the miserable life she has chosen for herself and rest assured there is a VERY special place in Hell with her name on it.
6 Or you could just tell her parents (unless they dont care what she does) that she and her boyfriend are having sex, drinking, or maybe thats hes so much older than her, or something along that lines. Or by any means sabotage their relationship. She might hate she might never talk to you again. But for one glimpse of hope to be with her you would risk it right. It might work it might not. Its better than no shot at all. It might make you feel better to hurt her the same way she hurt you.

No matter what you do as long as no major laws ( i could care less about the little ones) are broken you should do anything in you power to better your circumstance. And dont worry about ruining her life because if this guy was the one for her then nothing you could do would brake them up. But HE is not the one for HER. Right?

That is all noble creature go forth and try your best! Failure is not an option.

Ah...well, I can't really say that I understand what you're going through as I've no experience yet on such things...but I was surprised that someone just three years older than me would...you know. Well, I can''t possibly add anything to what these more experienced people have already told you, just don't give up yet. I mean, I had a childhood friend who died at a young age, we were very close. What I'm trying to say is that some are taken away just when they're starting to live their lives...and their loved ones become very sad and hurt. So, think about them, and just find away to be happy. Aaa...I'm not making a lot of sense, am I? Sorry^^Hey, I'm sure you'll find someone else that you'll be happy with, look at all these people who care about what you're going through..you will be missed, don't let yourself believe that you won't be. Happy Christmas and keep your head up* hugs *

Oh, and XRW175P6MQ4-san, your post was very funny for some reason^^Oh well, maybe my sense of humor is really messed up:)

I don't think that she will last very long with this dude. So just sit back and relax and when she finaly calls it off with him go, then move in and talk to her about how you really feel. Lossing a girl is not worth killing yourself over, believe me. If you think you are going to kill yourself then just close your eyes (unless your driving or something then which pull over) and count backwards from 10, hey it worked for me and now I have found a girl and I am loving life.

I have not voted the poll becuz it doesn`t matter whether i care what you are going through if you really wanna die! Don`t suicide, you will knw how silly you are when time passed and had calm down... You may think the gurl is perfect for you, but how do you knw if you will meet a gurl better then her in the future? how do you knw she is the only one that personality suit you best? If two person really love each other, it doesn`t matter how different they are, they will try to tolerate and be together... Even if you suicide for her, will she be grateful? will she be happy? Love cannt be force, let her go and it free both of you! Don`t think that you are not good enough or not that outstanding, everyone will have their own positive point, their own talent... Use this time to find it and develop urself into a much more outstanding person! I believe your life will be better and time will heal your wound...

We all go through problems. I'm going through a lot right now myself, but suicide is not the answer. You should try talking to your doctor. He/She might recommend you to a therapist/psychiatrist. They might put you on anti-depressants. Give that a try. Try talking to someone, they can help!

So, the girl broke your heart, ok. If you commit suicide, you'll break more than one heart, if not, than a lot of them of a lot of people.
Hold on, the girl is perfect? If that's the case, what if another girl was perfect just like her? Would you fall in love with this new girl? Is her (the girl you know) or her attributes that you love so much?

Also, you say that this girl has her boyfriend and they're off their "happily ever after," if you love her so much, why can't you be happy for her? You want her to be happy, right? Ultimately if she does become happy, you didn't actually help her towards that happiness, right? If so, then all you really can do is just give her an invisible blessing and hope for the best.

If you keep telling yourself that this girl is the only one for you, then someday, the girl you would fall in love with and be loved back by will be brushed away and you miss that opportunity.

It doesn't always work out. Shit happens to EVERYONE. All we as people can do is stand up and move forward. You can't say you've made to the end when you didn't even walk there.

Please don't commit suicide.U R so young, U need to live, U need to meet another girl, to fall in love again,brother.Hold on, try to forget this sadness, talk to your family and friends.You can stand up!

okay, what you should do is call a suicide hotline... they're anonymous, and they should be able to help you out
alternatively tell your doctor; he/she will definitely keep it confidential, and can point you in the right direction
consult a professional... from your description, this is a very serious problem and should be taken very seriously

Quote by KomakaTell me,is she your first love?

well, i've had a crush before, but never had a girlfriend before.

Quote by TheFleaI don't think that she will last very long with this dude. So just sit back and relax and when she finaly calls it off with him go, then move in and talk to her about how you really feel. Lossing a girl is not worth killing yourself over, believe me. If you think you are going to kill yourself then just close your eyes (unless your driving or something then which pull over) and count backwards from 10, hey it worked for me and now I have found a girl and I am loving life.

really? it's been months already. just wondering, but how long do they usually last?

Quote by blulitYou should try talking to your doctor. He/She might recommend you to a therapist/psychiatrist.

Is there a way i could do this without my family (especially my parents) ever finding out?

Quote by Saa-chanwhat you should do is call a suicide hotline...

Yeah, but the problem is that i never have time alone in the house to call... Like i said above to blulit, I can't let any of my family know.

This girl... she's nice, really friendly, 4.0 student, and she's always willing to help me out in school when i have problems. She's really cute, and it's fun to chat and hang out with her.

Like i mentioned before, I've found it really hard to forget about her. Almost everything I do and nearly everywhere I go, reminds me of her. But my friend said maybe i could use her as motivation to try harder and do better at school?

You have to be very stupid to do such thing...There is nothing that I can't handle...maybe you too..why have to kill yourself...