I HATE LIFE AND I WANT TO DIE . EVERYONE IS MEAN TO ME AND HATES ME, I WISH THEY WOULD JUST LEAVE ME ALONE.

WHY CAN'T I HAVE GOOD CONVERSATIONS WITH ANYONE

Hmm....Maybe it's hard for you to have a conversation because you can't find a topic that both you and the other person would be interested in? I know that that happens to me all the time. I guess that maybe you need to find a common topic to talk about.

Well doesn't everybody start conversations with what they're most comfortable with?
And I think you should as well because if you go for some weird topic that you don't even know about..... that's not gonna last long

I had the same problem. I was worried I'd offend people so I would just keep my mouth shut. After a while though, I find it very hard to keep up an argument because I've got the whole "yep whatever" attitude when I could have argued my point and proved that I was right.

If it helps, think about what you say beforehand - don't worry about people insulting you (if they do, then it's maybe because you insulted them, and if this isn't the case then they're just unpleasant) or people ignoring you (that means they're unpleasant as well). Just try and don't be afraid of just talking.

If you do, you'll just dig yourself into a deeper hole

uhmmm... i dont know what to say... but i'm like u sometimes, well, kinda, becuz i didn't last to long in solitude... maybe the transition is difficult, but don't worry u will be heard if u speaks out and defend ur words.

and is like burnoutboy & Vatican92 say... if dont feel like startin a conversation just dont do it, do it when u feel is right n when the group of pple u're sharing shares the same interest as u... u r not goin to force anyone into a conversation that it will turn out boring and weird.

just let it go... n u will return to the old u

good luck.

Everyone just leave me alone and stop posting messages

ooo iknow an ice breaker! talk about the weather or favorite items. like clothing wise or sneakers. or talk about food because everyone loves food. like me, every day for every conversation i start off with the word "pie" and everyone will just enter this funny little game of naming pies, its funny and brings up your confidence, and when the pie conversation starts to die out you choose any topic you want to talk about, whether it be about tv shows or cars or love anything, and you start to talk about it. and make sure to stare into the eyes of whoever you talk to, it shows that you're intrested in them and what they are saying. even if the person tries to avoid staring back at you, you keep on staring into they're eyes. yeah, and thats all i got twilight n_n hope it helps

I usually end up talking about video games. :p
It's really my only icebreaker.

I suck at conversation too.

I can't have a good conversation either. I don't usually want to say much anyways. Luckily my friends do more than enough talking for me and they know that I usually just listen. If you want to start a conversation with someone, sometimes complimenting them helps. Like, "I love your shoes, where did you get them?" and then continue from there. It also helps to start a conversation when you know a lot about the topic. That way you'll have a lot to say. Like if someone brings up anime I can go on forever :P
Well good luck!

I just say anything you know,well when I meet at parties of course we start with the hello and all,but you go by asking how their work is or ask them if anything interesting happened lately,or just tell them something funny you've encountered.You can also tell them comments on the party or about the host or the people.There are a lots of things you can talk about if you're not in a party of course,tell them a bit about your friends or what happened to you lately,or try to see their expression,if they're sad,you asked them what happened and comfort them,if they're happy,ask them to share it.You can also tell them about the movie you've seen,they'll usually talk to you about movies as everyone like movies.Comment on them,tell them what you think and they'll tell theirs.If you need any help,I'll be glad to help!^^

im not good with people im a very shy person but just try to froce ur self to taslk to people or just liesten to what some1 says thats what i do but then agin im not good with people and the whole verbal comunication thingy

If you're afraid your words might offend people, think before you talk. It depends on the people whom you are talking, too, I guess.

Talking about favorite things or popular events are big helps. Or, find somebody with common interest, it won't be hard to start a conversation then.

Oh, I know how you feel. I've been down that road allot of times before. But if your still having this kind of problem, then you should try doing what I do.

When I normally got nothing to say after meeting someone, I sometimes ask them questions like, "What are you into?" "Is there anything in this world you would like to change?" etc.

Just basic questions is good but not to much. But if this still doesn't work for you then you can try having them ask you questions.

If this still doesn't work then you can just listen to what they have to say and if you're interested in what their saying and if they are talking to a friend of yours then go into the conversation and talk about that subject.

Just remember one thing, don't be shy and don't hold back on what you want to say.

well it depends on what type of person you are, introvert or extrovert, this is genetically defined ive read:
Heres a piece by Brian Kim i read a few months ago, its really interesting.

Top 5 Things Every Extrovert Should Know About Introverts

Extroverts tend to be those who are more energized when around other people. They are the ones who will reach for the cell phone when alone for more than a minute, the ones who love to go out every weekend, the ones who love to chit chat, mingle, and socialize.
Introverts tend to be those who are more energized when alone with themselves. They are the ones who have to be dragged to parties, who are the first ones ready to leave after a short period of time, and who generally enjoy solitary activities such as reading, writing, and daydreaming.

The qualities and characteristics of introverts are often held in a negative light in today's world, so it's only natural that the majority of people seem to think that there's something wrong with them.
The reason why the majority of people think that there's something wrong with introverts is because the majority of people aren't very knowledgeable when it comes to introverts, in terms of why they are the way they are and why they do the things they do.
Many people tend to hold several potentially damaging misconceptions about introverts, but through no fault of their own.
I've been on both sides of the extrovert/introvert fence, and I can understand why extroverts tend to view introverts in a negative light, socially speaking, so I thought it would be best to write an article dedicated to helping extroverts understand their often very misunderstood introvert counterparts.
My hope is this article will help solve that problem by shedding some light as to why introverts are the way they are and do the things they do, so here are 5 things every extrovert should know about introverts.

1. If a person is introverted, it does NOT mean they are shy or anti-social.
This is probably THE biggest misconception that extroverts tend to have when it comes to introverts.
And you can't really blame them for having that kind of misconception.
Extroverts tend to have to drag introverts to parties, to convince them to go and sell them on attending social engagements. When introverts politely decline, extroverts automatically assume that something might be wrong so they always ask if everything's all right and of course, everything is all right. It's just a common misunderstanding. When extroverts see a pattern like this developing, they automatically assume that introverts are shy or anti-social as that can be the only logical explanation to them.
What's more, when extroverts try to engage introverts in small talk, it seems like they hit a brick wall.
Add to that, most extroverts see that introverts tend to be fond of engaging in solitary activities such as reading, writing, and daydreaming.
Well, if it walks like a duck, talks like a duck, it must be a duck right?
Wrong.

Introverts have more brain activity in their frontal lobes and when these areas are activated through solitary activity, introverts become energized through processes such as problem solving, introspection, and complex thinking.
Extroverts on the other hand tend to have more activity in the back of their brain, areas that deal with processing sensory information from the external world, so they tend to search for external stimuli in the form of interacting with other people and the outside world to energize them.
There's a deeper science to this that involves differences in the levels of brain chemicals such as acetylcholine and dopamine in extroverts and introverts, but I won't get into that.
The bottom line is that introverts are just wired differently than extroverts. There's nothing wrong with them. They just become energized through different processes depending on where the majority of their brain activity takes place.
Granted there are introverts who may be shy and anti-social, but that's just a coincidence that perpetuates the myth that ALL introverts are like that.
You'll find that all introverts are fine just the way they are until people begin to subtly suggest otherwise.

2. Introverts tend to dislike small talk.
If you really want to engage an introvert in conversation, skip the small talk. Introverts tend to love deep conversations on subjects that interest them. They love to debate, go past the superficial and poke around the depths in people's minds to see what's really going on in there. Most, if not all introverts tend to regard small talk as a waste of time, unless it's with someone new they just met.
This characteristic probably contributes to another misconception that extroverts have of introverts - the misconception that all introverts are arrogant.
Why?
Because extroverts notice that introverts don't talk that much with other people. Therefore, extroverts assume that introverts think they're too good to talk to others, hence arrogant and that's hardly the case.
It's just a matter of preference.
Extroverts thrive on small talk.
Introverts abhor it.
There's nothing wrong with either choice, it's just a matter of preference.
This brings us to the third point.

3. Introverts do like to socialize â? only in a different manner and less frequently than extroverts.
Yes, itâ?s true. Contrary to the majority of public opinion, introverts do like to socialize, but again, only in a different manner and less frequently than extroverts.
Introverts love anything that involves deep conversation. They get energized by discussing subjects that are important to them and they love see what and how other people think, to connect the dots, to dig deep, to find root causes, to use logical thinking via debate in conversation, etc.
And what's more, introverts can do a lot of things extroverts are naturally good at - give great speeches, schmooze with everyone, be the life of the party, charm the socks off of total strangers - but only for a short period of time. After that, they need time for themselves which brings us to the fourth point.

4. Introverts need time alone to recharge.
Extroverts tend to think introverts have something against them as they constantly seem to refuse generous invites to social engagements. Introverts do appreciate the offers, but it's just that they know it will take a lot of energy out of them if they pursue these social functions.
They need time alone like they need food and water. Give them their space. There's nothing wrong with them. They're not depressed and they're not sad. They just need time alone to recharge their batteries.

5. Introverts are socially well adjusted.
Most introverts are well aware of all the social nuances, customs, and mannerisms when it comes to interacting with other people, but they simply don't socialize as much as extroverts, which makes it easy for extroverts to assume that introverts are not socially well adjusted, as they have not seen much evidence of them interacting with other people.
This just exacerbates previous misconceptions and gives way to labeling introverts as nerds, geeks, loners, etc.
It's easy to understand why society tends to value extroverts over introverts. Human beings have lived in a tribal society so having to interact frequently with people came to be a regarded as a very good skill when it came to survival.
But because of this high value placed on extroversion, introverts tend to feel trapped and find themselves in a catch 22 situation.
Do introverts stay true to who they are and risk social alienation and isolation or do introverts conform and join the extroverted side, pretending to be somebody they're not just to fit in?
This is precisely why I wrote this article, because if the extroverts can become more educated about introverts, introverts will be able to feel free to stay true to who they are, and that's a good thing from society's point of view.
Trying to turn an introverted person into an extroverted person is detrimental because it gives off a subtle suggestion that there is something wrong with them, hampering their self worth and esteem when there is absolutely nothing wrong in the first place.
There's nothing wrong with introverts.
In fact, introverts are the leading pioneers of advancements in human civilization. Albert Einstein, Issac Newton, Charles Darwin are a few introverts that come to mind, just to name a few.
And for those of you not interested in science, but pop culture, you'll be surprised to see a lot of well known names in Hollywood are introverts as well. Julia Roberts, Steven Spielberg, Tom Cruise to name a few as well.
And for those interested in sports, Michael Jordan and Tiger Woods come to mind as athletes who are introverts as well.
Introverts have a lot to bring to the table. They have an amazing ability to discover new thoughts, an uncanny ability to focus, to concentrate, to connect the dots, to observe and note things that most people miss, to listen extremely well and are often found having a rich and vivid imagination as well.

The more extroverts become knowledgeable about introverts, the less tension and misunderstanding there will be among the two.
So if you're an introvert reading this, send a copy of this article to all your extrovert friends so they can get a better idea of what you're all about.
It's time to finally clear the air.