well. some of them are perhaps afraid of to be wounded or sad by other people
they like. so they have come to the conclusion that it's easier to live alone.
:'<
It is easy to live alone. I had that urge to do that myself. However, I also
know that it is very very unhealthy to shut yourself off from the rest of the
world. No man is an island in this world, and the simple act of going to work or
buying items in shops means that you have to interact with people. I am a very
shy person myself, so I used to "practice" my dialogue over and over
in my mind in preparation to talk to others. Being shy should not be the excuse
to shut oneself from the rest of the world. Even if one is hurt from past
experience, I feel that being lonely to protect yourself will cause more harm
than good.
Well maybe that people just need to be alone for a while.
Sometimes it`s nice to be alone, silence it`s soothing.
When you are angry its easy to say or do stupid things that can hurt people
around you. So it`s better to be alone and prevent the damage.
Well as far as I'm concerned, some people are too used to the loneliness, and
people in their presence therefore makes them feel uncomfortable, hence the
antisocial behavior. Others just prefer the peace and quiet which comes only by
being lonely. And others love being in "their own world" and thoughts
rather than socialize.
As for me, I became a lot more anti social (and having a stronger preference of
being lonely) because I study a lot and stay in my room very often. Alone. I get
so used to being lonesome that I no longer enjoy the company of others as much
as before. This doesn't apply to online forums such as MT though
i'm the one who like to be alone!^^coz i can feel comfortable,and like the
lonely feeling.\^^and then most of my friends are like shopping,make up and
others but i dont like it.so i'm always be alone.
yeah I agree with Pmaster4....i mean sometimes people need their space but I
think everyone needs to be around people. I really feel if someone purposefully
tries to be alone all the time that something must have happened and that maybe
they may need help?
i think the only reason why some people like to be lonely is because its
comfortable for them to be that way... they prefer the solitude over the company
of other individuals...
sometimes they are trying to be hip, "emo", "goth" or they
are antisocial...some are socialpaths that NOT being around people can be a VERY
good thing...as you see I am emotionally unstable, resulting it not knowing what
I might actually do in the future to someone so I prefer not to even have
friends...alone, lost and forgotten, it is not abnormal as doctors think, it's
just the person knows themselves better, I surely hope anyways, than anyone else
ever could so they know what they are/aren't capable of...expect the unexpected
is a good moto to live by in my case
I guess most lonely people are actually thinking in their minds a lot. For
example, one of the smartest guys in our class sits by himself at lunch and just
sits. I'm guessing they compute a lot of stuff in their heads or something. But
then, some people are just normally lonely, perhaps by some childhood trauma or
something. Who knows.
i'm one of those people (but not in the hikkikomori state...)
i think the people like me like to be alone and comfortable quite state...
thats why some people think people like me to be some lonely freak... /sob
I don't enjoy being lonely but it's the cards I feel i have been dealt. I seem
to find nice people to be around and hang out with and then within 6 months to a
year I have totally trashed that friendship by being unforgivably stupid. It's
like I go from nice guy to stupid horrible monster when I'm friends with
someone. I make them miserable.
Loneliness is something I think I am going to have accept in my life. I just
can't seem to form and maintain friendships without doing stuff to destroy them.
It's the worst kind of pain, wanting to be in a world where you have friends and
realizing that you can't have that world...no matter how hard you try.
Maybe because they're antisocial or had a really bad day? You can't really tell
when that happens, especially when that person is usually quiet and doesn't let
people know their feelings.
Heh. I try to avoid people in my school but I fail horribly D; everyone tries to
talk to me but I'm just afraid that if we become good friends or something, then
I might have to be put into their drama. So basically, I want to be left alone
because of what I've been going through recently, but people attempt to talk to
me to make me feel better. At the same time, I don't want them to be in my issue
that I need to resolve for myself.
lol this is a big subject man, one they just want to stay lonely... cause they
don't want to hurt anyone.... second, they want attention... i know it sounds
stupid but it is in fact the second major thing...... =/ they want to stand out
and be ostracized themselves .... bleh don't have time to go into details =p
like theres some that are lonely and i take that into consideration cause of
harsh lives and stuff, then there are some whether they did have harsh lives or
not..... ( one thing you cannot judge who had a harsher life... its just not
right =/ .. to compare who suffers more ) ... um anyways they start abusing the
facts and stuff like the whole, oh my life sucks, everyone hates me ( getting
more attention ) and then not dealing with it =/.... ( bleh side tracking )
They've been hurt too many times and they don't want to be hurt ever again, so
they seclude themselves from society. But yet some people find it cool to be
that mysterious loner. Or people are just not used to being around people,
probably from a bad early child hood.
I think if you just work at talking to them a little while, they'll find that
there is nothing to be afraid of when entering into society, their wounds will
start to heal and soon who knows, you might be able to become friends. Or it
could, again, be that mysterious loner.
Being alone for some people is just the way they are and some can't help being
lonely for its either he/she doesn't want to belong or the enviroment doesn't
wat him/her to belong.
well. some of them are perhaps afraid of to be wounded or sad by other people they like. so they have come to the conclusion that it's easier to live alone. :'<
It is easy to live alone. I had that urge to do that myself. However, I also know that it is very very unhealthy to shut yourself off from the rest of the world. No man is an island in this world, and the simple act of going to work or buying items in shops means that you have to interact with people. I am a very shy person myself, so I used to "practice" my dialogue over and over in my mind in preparation to talk to others. Being shy should not be the excuse to shut oneself from the rest of the world. Even if one is hurt from past experience, I feel that being lonely to protect yourself will cause more harm than good.
Perhaps it's an act of rebellion. Maybe a certain SOMEONE pushed the to make friends non-stop.
Well maybe that people just need to be alone for a while.
Sometimes it`s nice to be alone, silence it`s soothing.
When you are angry its easy to say or do stupid things that can hurt people around you. So it`s better to be alone and prevent the damage.
to feel peace, to get close to others in a weird way, to get attention, to feel free, and som to kill them selfs in calm
They don't want to embarrass themselves in front of others, so they end up being shy and lonely.
Well as far as I'm concerned, some people are too used to the loneliness, and people in their presence therefore makes them feel uncomfortable, hence the antisocial behavior. Others just prefer the peace and quiet which comes only by being lonely. And others love being in "their own world" and thoughts rather than socialize.
As for me, I became a lot more anti social (and having a stronger preference of being lonely) because I study a lot and stay in my room very often. Alone. I get so used to being lonesome that I no longer enjoy the company of others as much as before. This doesn't apply to online forums such as MT though
i'm the one who like to be alone!^^coz i can feel comfortable,and like the lonely feeling.\^^and then most of my friends are like shopping,make up and others but i dont like it.so i'm always be alone.
i doubt anyone likes being alone all the time
yeah I agree with Pmaster4....i mean sometimes people need their space but I think everyone needs to be around people. I really feel if someone purposefully tries to be alone all the time that something must have happened and that maybe they may need help?
Well people just like to be left alone sometimes.
sometimes we've our own world, that no one can go inside, bcoz there r times that anybody around us that cant really match with us
i think the only reason why some people like to be lonely is because its comfortable for them to be that way... they prefer the solitude over the company of other individuals...
I dun think most lonely people wanna be lonely.
Not everyone converses well.
Sometimes it just the computer... haha
sometimes they are trying to be hip, "emo", "goth" or they are antisocial...some are socialpaths that NOT being around people can be a VERY good thing...as you see I am emotionally unstable, resulting it not knowing what I might actually do in the future to someone so I prefer not to even have friends...alone, lost and forgotten, it is not abnormal as doctors think, it's just the person knows themselves better, I surely hope anyways, than anyone else ever could so they know what they are/aren't capable of...expect the unexpected is a good moto to live by in my case
I'm usually a Loner. I don't usually talk to people unless I have a reason.
I guess most lonely people are actually thinking in their minds a lot. For example, one of the smartest guys in our class sits by himself at lunch and just sits. I'm guessing they compute a lot of stuff in their heads or something. But then, some people are just normally lonely, perhaps by some childhood trauma or something. Who knows.
i'm one of those people (but not in the hikkikomori state...)
i think the people like me like to be alone and comfortable quite state...
thats why some people think people like me to be some lonely freak... /sob
I don't enjoy being lonely but it's the cards I feel i have been dealt. I seem to find nice people to be around and hang out with and then within 6 months to a year I have totally trashed that friendship by being unforgivably stupid.
It's
like I go from nice guy to stupid horrible monster when I'm friends with
someone. I make them miserable.
Loneliness is something I think I am going to have accept in my life. I just can't seem to form and maintain friendships without doing stuff to destroy them.
It's the worst kind of pain, wanting to be in a world where you have friends and realizing that you can't have that world...no matter how hard you try.
Maybe because they're antisocial or had a really bad day? You can't really tell when that happens, especially when that person is usually quiet and doesn't let people know their feelings.
Heh. I try to avoid people in my school but I fail horribly D; everyone tries to talk to me but I'm just afraid that if we become good friends or something, then I might have to be put into their drama. So basically, I want to be left alone because of what I've been going through recently, but people attempt to talk to me to make me feel better. At the same time, I don't want them to be in my issue that I need to resolve for myself.
lol this is a big subject man, one they just want to stay lonely... cause they don't want to hurt anyone.... second, they want attention... i know it sounds stupid but it is in fact the second major thing...... =/ they want to stand out and be ostracized themselves .... bleh don't have time to go into details =p
like theres some that are lonely and i take that into consideration cause of harsh lives and stuff, then there are some whether they did have harsh lives or not..... ( one thing you cannot judge who had a harsher life... its just not right =/ .. to compare who suffers more ) ... um anyways they start abusing the facts and stuff like the whole, oh my life sucks, everyone hates me ( getting more attention ) and then not dealing with it =/.... ( bleh side tracking )
They've been hurt too many times and they don't want to be hurt ever again, so they seclude themselves from society. But yet some people find it cool to be that mysterious loner. Or people are just not used to being around people, probably from a bad early child hood.
I think if you just work at talking to them a little while, they'll find that there is nothing to be afraid of when entering into society, their wounds will start to heal and soon who knows, you might be able to become friends. Or it could, again, be that mysterious loner.
Being alone for some people is just the way they are and some can't help being lonely for its either he/she doesn't want to belong or the enviroment doesn't wat him/her to belong.