Most of my friends just want sex and nothing else. Though it seems like most
people these days just like to mess around. I'm in it for love... and will
always be. Sex means nothing to me when it's just giving yourself away to just
anyone. What ever happen to saving your self for the one you truly love. I hear
stories from my friends about lining up a girl and even tag team one ( gang bang
). So I just wanted know what you guys ( girls and guys ) think about this
issue. And why you put your self in that position. What's makes you, you...
Cause I always believe when all the fun and games are over... all that matters
is the one you love. This is to everybody ( players, cheaters, lonely guy,
lovers )
There are two different things. Being with a person for love / sex. Or having
sex with a person because of love / lust. For the first part. It's not really
worth your time being with a person if all you're getting out of it is sex. The
second part can swing both ways. Friends with benefits are nice. Sometimes you
have needs, but I think that would be devaluating sex with a person you love.
I do not intend to save myself for the one I love...but..since I dont think of
sleeping with anyone I can find it will probably be the one I love who will take
my virginity ^^
but, I acually couldnt care less
I mean...its not something trival for me..this sexthing that is..
Sex, love, and the interrelationship between the two is complex -- hey, if it
was simple, there wouldn't be so many songs and books written about it, would
there? They are also incredibly powerful motivators that can drive people to
attempt heroic or criminal deeds.
i don't think there's one right answer for any person, and the answer also
changes over time for everyone. Many people see youth as the time to learn
about yourself, and this includes learning about sex and love. Just because you
have friends who hook up just for the sex doesn't mean they won't change their
ideas as they get older.
Our experiences shape our opinions, and since sex and love are so powerful they
can have dramatic effects on opinions, too. I've had sex without love, love
without sex, and combinations in between. In my experience, the absolute
tip-top best is sex with your dearest and closest friend, because the heat and
passion of love and sex change with time but true friendship lasts forever.
When you reach a level of maturity where the person you love is also your best
friend, the world is a fantastic place. And the sex ain't bad, either.
<g>
So don't look at it as either-or. It's a continuum, people move along the
continuum during a lifetime, and learn to enjoy the place you're currently at.
I would say love, because it lasts longer and is more meaningful. I don't care
much for sex, I'd rather love the person for who they are and not for physical
reasons only.. it's just more fullfilling and I'm not obsessed with sex due to
my experiences with it.. sex is I believe a part of a relationship, not a base
though, love should be, otherwise it won't last, and that's nothing worthwhile
in my view.. Interesting question DarkSavior ^-^
It's true that sex is a part of life, but I wouldn't just have sex w/ anyone. At
less not with more then one person at a time. Though most guys would love to a
have a threesome but that's all lust. Even for a moment you felt important, but
not in your heart. And I don't want to fall in that category. Just save your
self for someone who loves you for you. Not meaning you have to be a virgin.
Just don't give your self so easily that's all.
Quote by DarkSaviorThough most guys
would love to a have a threesome but that's all lust. Even for a moment you felt
important, but not in your heart.
--<snip>--
Just don't give your self so easily that's all.
Um, pardon me for intruding, but if you haven't had sex, how can you say what
it's really about? Or what the result is afterward? Or what a threesome is
like, or what you feel afterward?
It is more accurate for you to say: "I wouldn't have a threesome because
to me it's all about lust. I would feel important for a moment, but there
wouldn't be any love in my heart." You can speak from your own experience,
or lack of it, and say how you feel or how you think it would affect you; but to
extend it and say that because you feel that way, others do too, is not
accurate.
As I said before, experience shapes views. To me, sex without more is not very
interesting or exciting. To draw an analogy, a truly great meal consists of
multiple courses, with multiple dishes, and combinations of different flavors,
textures, and sensations. You remember the great meals and look back on them
with pleasure. By contrast, if you have only one dish for a meal, over time you
quickly tire of it and find it's not very satisfying or filling.
Relationships are similar. You need multiple layers of interaction to
appreciate the true rewards. To return to the analogy, while some may be
gorging on chocolate and calling it fantastic, others like yourself have the
desire to wait for a properly-presented and served meal in order to reap the
full enjoyment of what it can offer. *That* is something you can say without
fear of contradiction, and I can heartily endorse that sentiment.
Quote by miketobut if you haven't had sex,
how can you say what it's really about? Or what the result is afterward? Or what
a threesome is like, or what you feel afterward? It is more accurate for you to
say: "I wouldn't have a threesome because to me it's all about lust. I
would feel important for a moment, but there wouldn't be any love in my
heart." You can speak from your own experience, or lack of it, and say how
you feel or how you think it would affect you; but to extend it and say that
because you feel that way, others do too, is not accurate.
You should note that most post from anyone is they own opinion...
And I'm not saying am a virgin ( I have a kid ) but from what I know from my own
experience is that if you don't have respect for your own body, who would? Yes,
I had the chance too but I didn't. And I respect your opinion about this too. As
for everyone else should just say how they feel. It's a poll for a reason ^_^ .
What about just like? I'll probably never fall in love and I don't just want sex
all the time. Most of the time though, lust is what gets me to notice a female.
Well, there is lust in love really. I love my boyfriend madly but at the same
time, I lust for him greatly too. xP Though I would never do anything sexual
with anyone unless I really loved them. If what I want is just pleasure, I'll
masturbate. ;o
there's only one answer for me. that is: saving it for the one I love.
love is not about sex (for me anyway).
and I could go on argumenting why you or I have to wait, but as you all know it
is depend on what you believe is good for you, so I'll just post a quick one
while voting at the same time.
Sex without love is like masturbation: ten seconds of ecstasy, then you're left
sticky and alone.
Sex with love is sharing each other completely. You cuddle or bask in the
moment afterwards, but you know that when you wake up the next morning the
person is going to be there next to you. They won't leave your side. They
didn't do it for the quick fix, they did it to be with you, make you feel good,
and made to feel good all at once.
Personally, I want love. Sex seems nice, but that's just my instinct acting up.
Emotional and mental comfort is probably the best thing I could have right now.
Some people just want the physically pleasure of sex. I want something longer
lasting, and dear.
I believe that sex should be saved for someone you love. Becuase when you
truely fall in love you will regret not saving it. I don't nessicarily think it
should be saved for after marraige but definatly for someone you truely love.
and I don't believe that anyone who is 17 years old can figure out who they
truely love.
I've yet to find a person who said "when I was 17 I had it all figured
out... I knew what love was and I knew what I wanted to do with my life I knew
it all at 17".
I've decided that minitokyo hates me and likes to tell me it didn't send
anything through so I have to resend it then look like a fool who double posted
;_;
For me, lust is something I feel initially towards something that looks se~xy.
But love, I believe, is what remains after that initial feeling of lust has worn
off. Do you have sex with someone you love or lust after? Both, I guess.
However, lust for someone lasts for an instant, whereas love is more a feeling
of security and trust...warmth, I guess. Personally, I go for both, because who
knows? Lust really feels like love at times, and idk about u guys but I'm still
human and make mistakes... In the long run, love lasts and that is what I'll be
after.
Quote by Belldandy428and I don't
believe that anyone who is 17
years old can figure out who they truely love.
~Bell
I'd say that's really wrong. People find love at all different times in their
life. Some don't find it till they're older, some find when they're young. Just
all depends on the person. I have known people that found who they truly love
while still in highschool, etc.
ask them when they are 24 if they still think that what they found in HS was
really "true love". Of all the people I've known in my life, none of
them have said "when I was in High school and I thought I was in REAL love,
it was the real thing" most of them say "wow I had no idea about
anything at that age, man was I immature"
Quote by Belldandy428ask them when
they are 24 if they still think that what they found in
HS was really "true love". Of all the people I've known in my life,
none of them have said "when I was in High school and I thought I was
in REAL love, it was the real thing" most of them say "wow I had no
idea about anything at that age, man was I immature"
~Bell
If they weren't truly in love, why have they been married for years now then? :P
Everyone finds love at different times in life. It's just kinda close minded to
say you have to be older to realize what love is. Everyone has different
experiences in life, everyone grows at different rates. but yes, I have several
friends that have been happily married to their "high school love" for
years now. But you know, alot of people go their whole life without ever truly
finding love. So it's just different for everyone.
Touchy, complex, subject. In some ways, this could get religious. I mean, in
the abstinence part that is. Saving yourself and whatnot. I suppose, it is
really a matter of morals and ethics. And for me personally, I will try to save
myself. But uhhh....no gaurentees, but I try. I definitely can't say anything
about someone who has sex almost as a hobby, not going to force my opinions on
them. These are just my personal feelings after all. So, I suppose, you can
have sex without love, but I would never want to. Definitely voted for love.
I thought lust would come close to love, but it seems like everyone rather be
with someone they love, then some one they just want to have sex with. But I
guess love can lead to lust,and lust can lead to love. Life has a funny way of
working.
Well, I'll say Love, but honestly, I'm only human and there's only so much
temptation a person can take I suppose. Still, thats not exactly something I'll
really contemplate about until it happens.
Most of my friends just want sex and nothing else. Though it seems like most people these days just like to mess around. I'm in it for love... and will always be. Sex means nothing to me when it's just giving yourself away to just anyone. What ever happen to saving your self for the one you truly love. I hear stories from my friends about lining up a girl and even tag team one ( gang bang ). So I just wanted know what you guys ( girls and guys ) think about this issue. And why you put your self in that position. What's makes you, you... Cause I always believe when all the fun and games are over... all that matters is the one you love. This is to everybody ( players, cheaters, lonely guy, lovers )
There are two different things. Being with a person for love / sex. Or having sex with a person because of love / lust. For the first part. It's not really worth your time being with a person if all you're getting out of it is sex. The second part can swing both ways. Friends with benefits are nice. Sometimes you have needs, but I think that would be devaluating sex with a person you love.
I do not intend to save myself for the one I love...but..since I dont think of sleeping with anyone I can find it will probably be the one I love who will take my virginity ^^
but, I acually couldnt care less
I mean...its not something trival for me..this sexthing that is..
Interesting question, DarkSavior.
Sex, love, and the interrelationship between the two is complex -- hey, if it was simple, there wouldn't be so many songs and books written about it, would there? They are also incredibly powerful motivators that can drive people to attempt heroic or criminal deeds.
i don't think there's one right answer for any person, and the answer also changes over time for everyone. Many people see youth as the time to learn about yourself, and this includes learning about sex and love. Just because you have friends who hook up just for the sex doesn't mean they won't change their ideas as they get older.
Our experiences shape our opinions, and since sex and love are so powerful they can have dramatic effects on opinions, too. I've had sex without love, love without sex, and combinations in between. In my experience, the absolute tip-top best is sex with your dearest and closest friend, because the heat and passion of love and sex change with time but true friendship lasts forever. When you reach a level of maturity where the person you love is also your best friend, the world is a fantastic place. And the sex ain't bad, either. <g>
So don't look at it as either-or. It's a continuum, people move along the continuum during a lifetime, and learn to enjoy the place you're currently at.
I would say love, because it lasts longer and is more meaningful. I don't care much for sex, I'd rather love the person for who they are and not for physical reasons only.. it's just more fullfilling and I'm not obsessed with sex due to my experiences with it.. sex is I believe a part of a relationship, not a base though, love should be, otherwise it won't last, and that's nothing worthwhile in my view.. Interesting question DarkSavior ^-^
It's true that sex is a part of life, but I wouldn't just have sex w/ anyone. At less not with more then one person at a time. Though most guys would love to a have a threesome but that's all lust. Even for a moment you felt important, but not in your heart. And I don't want to fall in that category. Just save your self for someone who loves you for you. Not meaning you have to be a virgin. Just don't give your self so easily that's all.
right hand? that has to handle a mouse. erm, actually I picked love, because that would be the path I'm on.
Um, pardon me for intruding, but if you haven't had sex, how can you say what it's really about? Or what the result is afterward? Or what a threesome is like, or what you feel afterward?
It is more accurate for you to say: "I wouldn't have a threesome because to me it's all about lust. I would feel important for a moment, but there wouldn't be any love in my heart." You can speak from your own experience, or lack of it, and say how you feel or how you think it would affect you; but to extend it and say that because you feel that way, others do too, is not accurate.
As I said before, experience shapes views. To me, sex without more is not very interesting or exciting. To draw an analogy, a truly great meal consists of multiple courses, with multiple dishes, and combinations of different flavors, textures, and sensations. You remember the great meals and look back on them with pleasure. By contrast, if you have only one dish for a meal, over time you quickly tire of it and find it's not very satisfying or filling.
Relationships are similar. You need multiple layers of interaction to appreciate the true rewards. To return to the analogy, while some may be gorging on chocolate and calling it fantastic, others like yourself have the desire to wait for a properly-presented and served meal in order to reap the full enjoyment of what it can offer. *That* is something you can say without fear of contradiction, and I can heartily endorse that sentiment.
--Mike
You should note that most post from anyone is they own opinion...
And I'm not saying am a virgin ( I have a kid ) but from what I know from my own experience is that if you don't have respect for your own body, who would? Yes, I had the chance too but I didn't. And I respect your opinion about this too. As for everyone else should just say how they feel. It's a poll for a reason ^_^ .
What about just like? I'll probably never fall in love and I don't just want sex all the time. Most of the time though, lust is what gets me to notice a female.
Well, there is lust in love really. I love my boyfriend madly but at the same time, I lust for him greatly too. xP Though I would never do anything sexual with anyone unless I really loved them. If what I want is just pleasure, I'll masturbate. ;o
there's only one answer for me. that is: saving it for the one I love.
love is not about sex (for me anyway).
and I could go on argumenting why you or I have to wait, but as you all know it is depend on what you believe is good for you, so I'll just post a quick one while voting at the same time.
Sex without love is like masturbation: ten seconds of ecstasy, then you're left sticky and alone.
Sex with love is sharing each other completely. You cuddle or bask in the moment afterwards, but you know that when you wake up the next morning the person is going to be there next to you. They won't leave your side. They didn't do it for the quick fix, they did it to be with you, make you feel good, and made to feel good all at once.
Personally, I want love. Sex seems nice, but that's just my instinct acting up. Emotional and mental comfort is probably the best thing I could have right now. Some people just want the physically pleasure of sex. I want something longer lasting, and dear.
I believe that sex should be saved for someone you love. Becuase when you truely fall in love you will regret not saving it. I don't nessicarily think it should be saved for after marraige but definatly for someone you truely love. and I don't believe that anyone who is 17 years old can figure out who they truely love.
I've yet to find a person who said "when I was 17 I had it all figured out... I knew what love was and I knew what I wanted to do with my life I knew it all at 17".
~Bell
I've decided that minitokyo hates me and likes to tell me it didn't send anything through so I have to resend it then look like a fool who double posted ;_;
For me, lust is something I feel initially towards something that looks se~xy. But love, I believe, is what remains after that initial feeling of lust has worn off. Do you have sex with someone you love or lust after? Both, I guess. However, lust for someone lasts for an instant, whereas love is more a feeling of security and trust...warmth, I guess. Personally, I go for both, because who knows? Lust really feels like love at times, and idk about u guys but I'm still human and make mistakes... In the long run, love lasts and that is what I'll be after.
I'd say that's really wrong. People find love at all different times in their life. Some don't find it till they're older, some find when they're young. Just all depends on the person. I have known people that found who they truly love while still in highschool, etc.
ask them when they are 24 if they still think that what they found in HS was really "true love". Of all the people I've known in my life, none of them have said "when I was in High school and I thought I was in REAL love, it was the real thing" most of them say "wow I had no idea about anything at that age, man was I immature"
~Bell
If they weren't truly in love, why have they been married for years now then? :P Everyone finds love at different times in life. It's just kinda close minded to say you have to be older to realize what love is. Everyone has different experiences in life, everyone grows at different rates. but yes, I have several friends that have been happily married to their "high school love" for years now. But you know, alot of people go their whole life without ever truly finding love. So it's just different for everyone.
Touchy, complex, subject. In some ways, this could get religious. I mean, in the abstinence part that is. Saving yourself and whatnot. I suppose, it is really a matter of morals and ethics. And for me personally, I will try to save myself. But uhhh....no gaurentees, but I try. I definitely can't say anything about someone who has sex almost as a hobby, not going to force my opinions on them. These are just my personal feelings after all. So, I suppose, you can have sex without love, but I would never want to. Definitely voted for love.
I thought lust would come close to love, but it seems like everyone rather be with someone they love, then some one they just want to have sex with. But I guess love can lead to lust,and lust can lead to love. Life has a funny way of working.
Well, I'll say Love, but honestly, I'm only human and there's only so much temptation a person can take I suppose. Still, thats not exactly something I'll really contemplate about until it happens.
Its hard for me to choose but I can't really side by love because its hard for me yet lust is a no no as I try to control =p