...but, well, I don't know what that "something" is.
A friend told me that I did something wrong to her. Since I don't recall
anything, I asked her about it, but she wouldn't tell me that
means I have to figure this thing out by myself!
I'm always bothered and I can't be myself whenever I did something wrong to
someone, and I always wanted to work things out. But this one's hard since I
don't know what I did
anyone dares to help this problem? give
kudos to any lol...thanks in advance, btw.
imppy! well girls are usually like that.
they make a big deal out of anything +___+
if you can't remember anything, it must be something shallow
or you need to drink memory enhancers
//
malay mo, she's just making papansin. :>
Oh, how much I dislike people that wait for others do figure out what's wrong
with them, then they realize they're just fine.
It could be that you done nothing wrong, but she just needs to settle her
emotions.
Since you can't remember but she makes such a great fuss over it, just apologize
to her like 'I'm sorry I hurt you so bad and that I'm such a careless person. I
promise that from now on I'll be more sensitive towards your feelings'.
Something like it should at least make her tell you what's wrong.
Well, clearly, you're psychic powers are sadly lacking, and you need to work on
better developing them. Seriously, though, I agree with what others have said.
If you've thougt back and honestly can't think of anything you've done that
would have upset her, tell her that. Tell her you're sorry if something you've
done has hurt her and that you'd like to talk about it and make it up to her. It
doesn't sound like you're the sort of person who would hurt a friend's feelings
on purpose, or are particularly careless with others, so whatever happened was
an honest mistake, and if you did do something that inadvertantly upset her, you
can't be expected to automatically know what it was. Maybe she needs a little
time to cool down, but if you sincerly want to make things right between you
two, there's no reason she shouldn't talk to you about it if you explain to her
how you're feeling.
Quote by lianppoperwell girls are
usually like that.
they make a big deal out of anything +___+
And if I lumped guys together from some experiences I've had I'd say they're
idiots. *roll of eyes* Don't overgeneralize, people. Statements like these only
cause unnecessary hate and discontent. And just because I'm making a big deal
out of this doesn't mean other girls do
It's always strange to me when someone pulls the "you know what you
did!" argument. It's rather unfair given that there's so many things that
we do each day and some people are so easily hurt that it's hard to realize what
we might have done. The best I can really say for you is to try again to talk to
your friend sincerely and explain to them you really have no idea what you've
done. If they still won't give I'd say they sound like they are looking for
reasons to be mad at you in which case there's no point worrying about it. If
you are honestly trying to work through whatever the problem is and they refuse
to even help you understand what you did they aren't really are friend, are
they?
Quote by UttaraWell, clearly, you're
psychic powers are sadly lacking, and you need to work on better developing
them.
Lol, I second that
I hate it when people start the 'you SHOULD KNOW what you did to me thing. If there's something wrong one should say it out loud and not make the other
one think about it. Of course you won't remember what you did to her, 'cause you
obviously didn't do it because of ill will, but by not noticing it was hurtful
toward her. I think you should talk to her and make her understand that you
didn't want to hurt her ,and that you cannot remember what it was that could've
hurt her, because you didn't mean it. IF she's still refusing to tell you it
means she's the kind of person described by ArtificialRaindrop (I don't wanna be
repetitive) and you should give up. Maybe she'll come round, maybe not, but
that's all you can do.
Don't waste any time trying to figure this out. If she won't tell you how and
why you supposedly hurt her, she can stew in her own discontent for all I care
(and, as it should be, for all you care as well.) Your reply should have gone
somewhere along the lines of: "You won't tell me? Well, fine! Then I won't
feel the slightest bit sorry for you." Feel free to add a liberal amount of
anger to that statement.
I hope noone here allow anyone to entertain people who just wants to make others
feel bad for no reason at all. This bullshit needs to stop.
This is actually my first time encountering this kind of "you should
know" problem, and I guess it also happens with other people
But anyway, I don't wanna go with the aggressive responds...yet since
this is also the first time I had *deep* problems with her and she's kinda hard
to deal with because of her mood swings and stuff.
I'll try to talk to her about it, following your advices ^^
Imp the best advice I can give you is to recount everything you two did or
didn't do the week before she got mad and if that doesn't work ask her what she
means by you did something awful. If she doesn't want to tell you simply smile
and tell her that your sorry she feels that way and wish she'd inform you of
what it is she considers you to have done wrong. If that don't work just simply
smile and let her be in time all things will work out.
That's what I'm currently doing now (: giving her a bit time, and I'll talk to
her once she's cooled down.
It's a sad thing since we won't be seeing each other for 2 months though D:
I just found out, from a help of a friend.
Yeah I think I spilled her a secret that I didn't mean that it would cause her
harm.
I thought I was just trying to help, but I guess I screw up. That's why I doubt
if I could ever help anyone ever again .-.
Well, ok.. I guess that's a very valid reason to be angry with someone, but why
didn't she just tell you that? Even if it's not exactly something you can fix.
...but, well, I don't know what that "something" is.
A friend told me that I did something wrong to her. Since I don't recall anything, I asked her about it, but she wouldn't tell me
that
means I have to figure this thing out by myself!
I'm always bothered and I can't be myself whenever I did something wrong to someone, and I always wanted to work things out. But this one's hard since I don't know what I did
anyone dares to help this problem?
give
kudos to any lol...thanks in advance, btw.
imppy! well girls are usually like that.
they make a big deal out of anything +___+
if you can't remember anything, it must be something shallow
or you need to drink memory enhancers
//
malay mo, she's just making papansin. :>
Oh, how much I dislike people that wait for others do figure out what's wrong with them, then they realize they're just fine.
It could be that you done nothing wrong, but she just needs to settle her emotions.
Since you can't remember but she makes such a great fuss over it, just apologize to her like 'I'm sorry I hurt you so bad and that I'm such a careless person. I promise that from now on I'll be more sensitive towards your feelings'.
Something like it should at least make her tell you what's wrong.
lol, i think i've the same problem as u.
that's not gonna work
Well, clearly, you're psychic powers are sadly lacking, and you need to work on better developing them. Seriously, though, I agree with what others have said. If you've thougt back and honestly can't think of anything you've done that would have upset her, tell her that. Tell her you're sorry if something you've done has hurt her and that you'd like to talk about it and make it up to her. It doesn't sound like you're the sort of person who would hurt a friend's feelings on purpose, or are particularly careless with others, so whatever happened was an honest mistake, and if you did do something that inadvertantly upset her, you can't be expected to automatically know what it was. Maybe she needs a little time to cool down, but if you sincerly want to make things right between you two, there's no reason she shouldn't talk to you about it if you explain to her how you're feeling.
And if I lumped guys together from some experiences I've had I'd say they're idiots. *roll of eyes* Don't overgeneralize, people. Statements like these only cause unnecessary hate and discontent. And just because I'm making a big deal out of this doesn't mean other girls do
It's always strange to me when someone pulls the "you know what you did!" argument. It's rather unfair given that there's so many things that we do each day and some people are so easily hurt that it's hard to realize what we might have done. The best I can really say for you is to try again to talk to your friend sincerely and explain to them you really have no idea what you've done. If they still won't give I'd say they sound like they are looking for reasons to be mad at you in which case there's no point worrying about it. If you are honestly trying to work through whatever the problem is and they refuse to even help you understand what you did they aren't really are friend, are they?
Lol, I second that
I hate it when people start the 'you SHOULD KNOW what you did to me thing.
If there's something wrong one should say it out loud and not make the other
one think about it. Of course you won't remember what you did to her, 'cause you
obviously didn't do it because of ill will, but by not noticing it was hurtful
toward her. I think you should talk to her and make her understand that you
didn't want to hurt her ,and that you cannot remember what it was that could've
hurt her, because you didn't mean it. IF she's still refusing to tell you it
means she's the kind of person described by ArtificialRaindrop (I don't wanna be
repetitive) and you should give up. Maybe she'll come round, maybe not, but
that's all you can do.
Don't waste any time trying to figure this out. If she won't tell you how and why you supposedly hurt her, she can stew in her own discontent for all I care (and, as it should be, for all you care as well.) Your reply should have gone somewhere along the lines of: "You won't tell me? Well, fine! Then I won't feel the slightest bit sorry for you." Feel free to add a liberal amount of anger to that statement.
I hope noone here allow anyone to entertain people who just wants to make others feel bad for no reason at all. This bullshit needs to stop.
This is actually my first time encountering this kind of "you should know" problem, and I guess it also happens with other people
since
this is also the first time I had *deep* problems with her and she's kinda hard
to deal with because of her mood swings and stuff.
But anyway, I don't wanna go with the aggressive responds...yet
I'll try to talk to her about it, following your advices ^^
thanks again, guys :3 that was really helpful.
Imp the best advice I can give you is to recount everything you two did or didn't do the week before she got mad and if that doesn't work ask her what she means by you did something awful. If she doesn't want to tell you simply smile and tell her that your sorry she feels that way and wish she'd inform you of what it is she considers you to have done wrong. If that don't work just simply smile and let her be in time all things will work out.
That's what I'm currently doing now (: giving her a bit time, and I'll talk to her once she's cooled down.
It's a sad thing since we won't be seeing each other for 2 months though D:
Maybe she just wants attention, you spilled her secrets, or maybe you do treat her like a friend anymore or leave her behind.
I just found out, from a help of a friend.
Yeah I think I spilled her a secret that I didn't mean that it would cause her harm.
I thought I was just trying to help, but I guess I screw up. That's why I doubt if I could ever help anyone ever again .-.
Well, ok.. I guess that's a very valid reason to be angry with someone, but why didn't she just tell you that? Even if it's not exactly something you can fix.
yeah maybe she was looking for more attention