I'm not quite sure if someone else posted this topic before, but lately, I've
been having this strange, inhumane feeling that I wanted my ex boyfriend back.
Yeah...
So, I was wondering, "Do other guys/girls have this same feeling, or am I
just a poptart?".
Please, feel free to share your opinions. I am all open ears. In this case, open
eyes.
You're not a poptart It's
natural to wish for things to remain the same as they were before, especially if
things had been going well. People like to stick with what is comfortable, and
losing someone after being with them can cause discomfort.
Personally, I have never experienced wanting an ex back. This is probably
because I do all that I can for the relationship to work while the relationship
is going on. It takes two to have a relationship. However, if there comes a
point when nothing else can be done to mend the relationship (or in one case, if
the ex cheated on me) then there is no turning back for me.
You like Boy A.
You and Boy A can never be together, because of some "issues".
Boy B asks you out.
You agree, because you feel sorry for Boy B.
Now, you feel guilty, so you decide to tell Boy B.
You tell Boy B, you're in love with another person, and break up.
Boy B understands, but gets really hurt.
You and Boy B are still best friends.
You want to return to Boy B.
No, eh?
I can most definitely understand from where you're coming. Truly, I can. And
really, I appreciate your simple yet striking response. Then again, I'm still
human. At times, humans make stupid decisions, right? (Do not answer. Ignore.)
*tears*
Well, of course NO! I don't know because maybe your situation is different than
what I am opposing... Ugh! He's a bloody shit! I can't believe it, I was his, I
mean HIS!
Oh, maybe it's the feeling to get back together, remaining the talking in your
situation. After breaking up, its not like "oh hey hye you! How are you
doing?" Obviously the awkwardness is still there. Don't worry, it's a usual
thing on your case. In my case, ugh, go to hell!
Quote by LilKittyCrazieWell, of
course NO! I don't know because maybe your situation is different than what I am
opposing... Ugh! He's a bloody shit! I can't believe it, I was his, I mean HIS!
Oh, maybe it's the feeling to get back together, remaining the talking in your
situation. After breaking up, its not like "oh hey hye you! How are you
doing?" Obviously the awkwardness is still there. Don't worry, it's a usual
thing on your case. In my case, ugh, go to hell!
Wow. Hate your ex that much? What did he possibly do?
And as for my case, nah, I wouldn't say it's because of the awkwardness. It's
something wayyy different.
Thanks for sharing your opinion, and gosh. Whatever your ex did to you, hope
that fudgeball of a being gets what he deserves.
Sorry, I wasn't trying to make the situation not sound complicated. Love is
always complicated, isn't it?
If you want to return to Boy B, it sounds like you may have genuine feelings for
him. Talk to him and see if things can work out. However, don't go back to Boy B
unless you really, truly want to be with him.
NO. I've been single close to a year, and I was the one to end it. Sooner or
later, you'll be glad that your no longer dating them, because it may be the
right choice. :P
YA.. agree. i felt that too. but if you are those chi qing de. will take a
longer time ba.
it oso hurts if u see ur ex is attached. haha. it is just a matter of time to
get over it. =)
how is wanting your ex back "inhumane"? it might be... unwanted... but
its not inhumane~ ...what is a poptart...? mm... i think that it's normal for
you to still be attracted to your ex boyfriend.... you probably had some kind of
deep connection with him and you wish he was still with you.... why are you two
not together? perhaps the way you ended it with each other just didnt feel right
and so you kind of want to make things better between you two.... ehh.. i dont
know x_X but good luck =)
m.i.a. =)
Quote by uzumakinoaihow is wanting
your ex back "inhumane"? it might be... unwanted... but its not
inhumane~ ...what is a poptart...? mm... i think that it's normal for you to
still be attracted to your ex boyfriend.... you probably had some kind of deep
connection with him and you wish he was still with you.... why are you two not
together? perhaps the way you ended it with each other just didnt feel right and
so you kind of want to make things better between you two.... ehh.. i dont know
x_X but good luck =)
m.i.a. =)
People change, though.
and @ underseakingdom-san. If you have feelings for B, go ahead. If what you are
feeling is sympathy and guilt, don't. Speaking from a guy PoV, I'd put my
sweetheart above myself. It hurts to see someone you have feelings for couple
with another person, but i think its okay, if that couple really results in
something worthwhile & permanant. If, for example, you patch things up with
B, and he realises that you are only sorry for him, I think he might be the one
to initiate another break-up.
Not all people are like me though. And to uzumakinoai-san, not all of 'em change
for the better. True story.
When my ex and I broke up, we were assuming we'd get back together later on. I
kept looking forward to that day a week after we broke up..but then i was like
"wtf am i doing? this guy hasn't treated me right now, so there's not much
of a chance things will get any better" So, I moved on and now I barely
even think about him. We're still friends though, but I don't want to get back
together with him. There are plenty more guys out there
Only one time, when I was dancing with him on a party. That was so sweet. But
then I remembered why i dumped him. I don't regret, even thought that he dance
perfectly
I'm not quite sure if someone else posted this topic before, but lately, I've been having this strange, inhumane feeling that I wanted my ex boyfriend back. Yeah...
So, I was wondering, "Do other guys/girls have this same feeling, or am I just a poptart?".
Please, feel free to share your opinions. I am all open ears. In this case, open eyes.
You're not a poptart
It's
natural to wish for things to remain the same as they were before, especially if
things had been going well. People like to stick with what is comfortable, and
losing someone after being with them can cause discomfort.
Personally, I have never experienced wanting an ex back. This is probably because I do all that I can for the relationship to work while the relationship is going on. It takes two to have a relationship. However, if there comes a point when nothing else can be done to mend the relationship (or in one case, if the ex cheated on me) then there is no turning back for me.
What if it was much more complicated than that?
You like Boy A.
You and Boy A can never be together, because of some "issues".
Boy B asks you out.
You agree, because you feel sorry for Boy B.
Now, you feel guilty, so you decide to tell Boy B.
You tell Boy B, you're in love with another person, and break up.
Boy B understands, but gets really hurt.
You and Boy B are still best friends.
You want to return to Boy B.
Hm. How can that be explained?
No.
No, eh?
I can most definitely understand from where you're coming. Truly, I can. And really, I appreciate your simple yet striking response. Then again, I'm still human. At times, humans make stupid decisions, right? (Do not answer. Ignore.) *tears*
Fudge. Mudge. Pudge. Tudge. Wudge. Nudge. Gudge. Budge.
Wah. Gah. Dah. Mah. Fah. Rah. Pah. Nah.
LAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! Ah-pooey!
Okay. I'm done lamenting and venting over my oh-so-dandy life.
Oh, and by the way, thanks.
If you like Boy B, then return to him... but this time, make sure of one thing... that you LOVE him!
Well, of course NO! I don't know because maybe your situation is different than what I am opposing... Ugh! He's a bloody shit! I can't believe it, I was his, I mean HIS!
Oh, maybe it's the feeling to get back together, remaining the talking in your situation. After breaking up, its not like "oh hey hye you! How are you doing?" Obviously the awkwardness is still there. Don't worry, it's a usual thing on your case. In my case, ugh, go to hell!
Wow. Hate your ex that much? What did he possibly do?
And as for my case, nah, I wouldn't say it's because of the awkwardness. It's something wayyy different.
Thanks for sharing your opinion, and gosh. Whatever your ex did to you, hope that fudgeball of a being gets what he deserves.
Sorry, I wasn't trying to make the situation not sound complicated. Love is always complicated, isn't it?
If you want to return to Boy B, it sounds like you may have genuine feelings for him. Talk to him and see if things can work out. However, don't go back to Boy B unless you really, truly want to be with him.
NO. I've been single close to a year, and I was the one to end it. Sooner or later, you'll be glad that your no longer dating them, because it may be the right choice. :P
at one point in time, yes i did have that kind of a feeling but not anymore
yes it would feel awkward at first but it will pass
YA.. agree. i felt that too. but if you are those chi qing de. will take a longer time ba.
it oso hurts if u see ur ex is attached. haha. it is just a matter of time to get over it. =)
how is wanting your ex back "inhumane"? it might be... unwanted... but its not inhumane~ ...what is a poptart...? mm... i think that it's normal for you to still be attracted to your ex boyfriend.... you probably had some kind of deep connection with him and you wish he was still with you.... why are you two not together? perhaps the way you ended it with each other just didnt feel right and so you kind of want to make things better between you two.... ehh.. i dont know x_X but good luck =)
m.i.a. =)
Did that a few times, never again.
If there's a reason they became an 'ex' in the first place, it will still be there.
People change, though.
and @ underseakingdom-san. If you have feelings for B, go ahead. If what you are feeling is sympathy and guilt, don't. Speaking from a guy PoV, I'd put my sweetheart above myself. It hurts to see someone you have feelings for couple with another person, but i think its okay, if that couple really results in something worthwhile & permanant. If, for example, you patch things up with B, and he realises that you are only sorry for him, I think he might be the one to initiate another break-up.
Not all people are like me though. And to uzumakinoai-san, not all of 'em change for the better. True story.
When my ex and I broke up, we were assuming we'd get back together later on. I kept looking forward to that day a week after we broke up..but then i was like "wtf am i doing? this guy hasn't treated me right now, so there's not much of a chance things will get any better" So, I moved on and now I barely even think about him. We're still friends though, but I don't want to get back together with him. There are plenty more guys out there
Only one time, when I was dancing with him on a party. That was so sweet. But then I remembered why i dumped him. I don't regret, even thought that he dance perfectly
only once