Okay, three days ago, my friend's younger sister who was 14 at the time like
nearly went into a post-traumatic coma because she could not handle the stress
the bullies had been giving her, any longer. She's been bumped into many times,
called names when she didn't even deserve it, and dirty rumors always scattered
about her, across the floor at every turn. She even had her cafeteria money
stolen, her best friend was beaten up because he tried to defend her
individuality, and now she ended up in the hospital because life as we know it
was treating her unfairly. Yes - for one specific reason mainly: Bullies. The
worst kind you'd ever meet up with at school.
This is of my deepest concern, so to all you peeps there in MT, do you let
bullies ever control your life? Like, what's the big deal, right? Do you hate
these peeps just because they unconsciously want to beat you up just to make
their pathetic lives any better? Like should we even care about them at
all?
Who here has been bullied and how many people came across bullies directly and
indirectly in their lifetimes. What is your direct feedback? Please tell me your
honest opinions about them - love them, or hate them?
Thanks a lot - that would mean a lot to my friend, actually. ^^
I'm not telling you to side with me in my opinion, I just want to hear what you
think - about if people really hate bullies or not. I mean - they are human
beings like you and I but what's the point of bullying? To make you look cooler?
I mean, I've never been in that sort of situation, but when it takes somebody's
life for granted and damages their souls in the future to come, it becomes
really sad to me.
And sometimes all you can do is just sit and hope that their mentality can get
through such a silly game.
I was a bully in my youth.
I had been bullied for most of my adolescents.
I dont' love them or hate them, they're just a part of life.
As for bullies controlling my life, I usually ignore them, although they
sometimes do influence my decisions on certain things.
I was bullied growing up (physically, verbally, etc.) and it affected me deeply.
Bullies may have their own problems that drive them to bullying, but taking out
their frustration and agression on others is unacceptable. Saying "it's a
part of life" is a cop-out; there is no excuse for repeatedly inflicting
physical and emotional trauma on someone for any reason.
Celessa, I hope your sister gets some good help and counseling. We're all told
as children that it's not right to hurt others, to turn the other cheek, and not
to sink to the bullies' level. That's BS. It's more important to learn how to
take care of yourself and protect yourself than to worry about what others might
think. Let her know that she's loved, that people care, and that you're willing
to help her through this rough time. There are plenty of things to do that can
help circumvent the bullying -- submitting and bottling up the feelings isn't
one of them.
jeez, I feel bad for your friend's sis... that's really bad.. but yeah, it can
get horribly like that. Naturally I hate bullies, I was bullied a little when I
was younger, never really controlled my life, just self-esteem, but I mostly
ignored it then. I guess people do it to give themselves some sort of status,
to be higher than others by bullying.
I feel sorry for bullies..
No matter the reason they're doing that, it's always because they have something
wrong with them.
Whether it be money, they were raised that way, they're just sick in the head..
I just plainly feel for for the lot of them. But still, it's not nice ( duh!
).
i try to defend them both, if I ever see it. I haven't seen anyone being bullied
for a looong time. ^-^
I always figured they did it because its fun. Its fun for me when I decide to
"play" with my little brother, but thats out of love, and is brought
on by him eating my food or taking stuff from my room. Bullies did it for the
violent/mean kind of fun.
Most of us were probably bullied at some time in our life. Mine was throughout
most of middle school, but those days are long past. Our bullies were pretty
mild too: verbal abuse, stealing, shoving and occasional beat-downs in the
locker rooms. I never heard of anyone at my school picking on girls though;
thats really low. Hope your friend is able to pull through this ok.
I can thank bullies for me turning out the way I did....Bullies don't help
anything at all, whats worse those that get bullied about 25% of the time become
bullies themselves...and of the worst kind too. Its simply horrible to see
someone get picked on for some stupid ass reason just to make someone else feel
better or get a good laugh. Its pathetic, you can be sure that if I see anyone
ever being bullied I'll be sure to interrupt it and make sure that it stops. I
don't want anyone to be harassed as much as I was and for as long as I was
(Kindergarden till Sophmore year of High school, I was still after that just I
stopped caring).
Though I must thank them, cause if it wasn't for them I would of found a purpose
to hate people or to motivate myself to become as strong as possible so I could
defend myself. So I must thank them for helping me find the motivation to life
weights and to know what the majority of humanity is like. Thanks bullies!
Because no matter what you never really go away, your encountered everywhere in
life and you enjoy making people feel horrible about themselves. At least now I
have inspiration to know never to become a disgrace like they are. Now I know
to be better than that! Though they aided to me becomming horrible
depressed..which I'm still working on but yeah!
Quote by miketoI was bullied growing up
(physically, verbally, etc.) and it affected
me deeply. Bullies may have their own problems that drive them to
bullying, but taking out their frustration and agression on others is
unacceptable. Saying "it's a part of life" is a cop-out; there is
no
excuse for repeatedly inflicting physical and emotional trauma on
someone for any reason.
Celessa, I hope your sister gets some good help and counseling. We're
all told as children that it's not right to hurt others, to turn the
other cheek, and not to sink to the bullies' level. That's BS. It's
more important to learn how to take care of yourself and protect
yourself than to worry about what others might think. Let her know that
she's loved, that people care, and that you're willing to help her
through this rough time. There are plenty of things to do that can help
circumvent the bullying -- submitting and bottling up the feelings
isn't one of them.
Good luck and let us know how it goes.
She's my friend's sister - but yes, thanks for your condolensces. Very much
appreciated here. I'm sure she'll do fine. ^^
That's sad, not the part about your sister being bullied it's sad because she
lacked the strenght and will power to just deal with it, and her friend I
commend for sticking up for her but trying to take them on alone and without any
type of weapon, I'm assuming, was just plain moronic, so what i have to say is
just deal with it damnit! Everyone has gone through this crap at one point in
their life, oh and one more thing don't threaten to shoot most of the school
because now they will go hardcore on your ass, not the bullies the cops.
that's fu.....ed UP!!!Wold is cruel........I mean people are cruel.I'm sorry for
your sister!!!!!!But people should learn how to Defence them selfs, as we know
is not that easy.....but keep trying learn some moves........or fast runnig!!!So
"live" whit this or fight whit this!!!
I've never been bullied before but heard about that sometimes. I'm totally
against them, those ones stink. Sorry to hear about your friend's sister, hope
she'll get over it soon.
I reccommend a self defense course, and a boost of self esteem. Nothing feels
better than breaking the face of someone who's made you feel bad without
remorse.
...eh bullies are just mean ppl...last yr i got into a small fight with some
seniors on freshman friday since i dont lik gettin harrassed. since it was lik
only me n my friend whose lik 5'9 vs a couple of pretty big seniors we had no
real chance of winning... anyway afta that things actually got better since they
had some respect for us now since we could fend for ourselves...thats just my
story but i have to say violence doesnt solve everythin all the time...
I'm sorry for your sister. I highly recommend learning to fight back. Either
verbally or physically will do. You'll be amazed at how easily most bullies will
fold. Only the toughest and stupidest bullies will not stop if you stand up to
them. There's not much advice that I can offer to you or your sister except:
Don't take shit from them, fight back.
"Don't get angry, get even."
(I've had minor scuffles with bullies before, but I didn't get the attention of
teachers with it, which rocked. I simply got the bullies in one physical
situation that they simply could not get out of unless I was merciful. Typically
a headlock, wrestling move, martial arts move, or just taking advantage of weak
spots on the body [It's funny, I had a mild scuffle with a friend. From a 3rd
person point of view, I lost the scuffle. But both my friend and I knew I had
the advantage easily.])
How is this thread flaming up? people are just posting their honesty
opinion.
Some people agree and disagree - but yeah, we could have settled it in the PM.
Hopefully this doesn't happen again - his opinion counted, but his comment was
very harsh in my opinion, so I had to defend my friend. How? You don't call
people weak and completely stupid that they should just give up and crawl like a
little baby. That doesn't count as flaming either, remember that - I was telling
him that he was completely ignorant of the actions he took here, and we were
defending ourselves, me defending my friend's reputation of course. End of
case.
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Thank you very much Vagrant, I will take your words so kindly too ^^
And do feel free to give out more honest opinions about bullies. I hope that all
of you can handle them or ignore them as completely nothing as all. I'd just
turn my back and walk away, so hopefully don't let your friends make the worst
of the situation when they're the next legal targets here. If it doesn't happen
to you, definitely make sure it doesn't happen to the ones you love as well. ^^
i honestly dislike bullies. Probably cuz i was bullied in one way or another
when i was a kid, but that's behind me now. Most of the time, if you showed a
hint of a backbone for yourself bullies tend to not bother you the next time.
Most bullies pick on other people because they wanna make themselves feel better
(ie. low self esteem), that's why "weaker" people or people that are
shy and timid are the main targets. If they decide to pick on you, just laugh
it off, they want you to be scared, but if you laugh instead, it'll confuse
them.
personally I, like the most of you, dislike them =p
however, they helped me ya... I used to be a crybaby whenever I am bullied and
stuff.. but then as the bullying went on.. I started to learn and control my
temper and everything.. if not for them I would get easily angered..
another of my friend is like me too =p we always give him a nickname monkey..
then he would get angry immediately but now hes like used to it he doesn't
really care..
still, my case is only mild bullying.. usually verbal and rarely into
fights..
when you are bullied when you are young, it tends to help you change to be a
stronger person.. although sometimes become bad too..
if somebody tries to bully you.. not those gangster sort, then don't walk away..
just listen to them but not do a thing.. they may keep doing but once they see
no reaction from you they will not want to bully you anymore, and find other
targets.. this my advise, doesn't always work though..
Okay, three days ago, my friend's younger sister who was 14 at the time like nearly went into a post-traumatic coma because she could not handle the stress the bullies had been giving her, any longer. She's been bumped into many times, called names when she didn't even deserve it, and dirty rumors always scattered about her, across the floor at every turn. She even had her cafeteria money stolen, her best friend was beaten up because he tried to defend her individuality, and now she ended up in the hospital because life as we know it was treating her unfairly. Yes - for one specific reason mainly: Bullies. The worst kind you'd ever meet up with at school.
This is of my deepest concern, so to all you peeps there in MT, do you let bullies ever control your life? Like, what's the big deal, right? Do you hate these peeps just because they unconsciously want to beat you up just to make their pathetic lives any better? Like should we even care about them at all?
Who here has been bullied and how many people came across bullies directly and indirectly in their lifetimes. What is your direct feedback? Please tell me your honest opinions about them - love them, or hate them?
no one should control your life but urself.
I feel sorry to hear about ur friend' sister.
Hope she get better in time.
About bullies they're just lonely according to psychology.
Well i have no real solution to this , as I've never met one.
but maybe bullies are to be avoided.
Just don't play or hang around with them.
Can't really say much, but seeing this post I"m against them .
just against them
like calisqo said ^^
total agreee ^^
Thanks a lot - that would mean a lot to my friend, actually. ^^
I'm not telling you to side with me in my opinion, I just want to hear what you think - about if people really hate bullies or not. I mean - they are human beings like you and I but what's the point of bullying? To make you look cooler? I mean, I've never been in that sort of situation, but when it takes somebody's life for granted and damages their souls in the future to come, it becomes really sad to me.
And sometimes all you can do is just sit and hope that their mentality can get through such a silly game.
I was a bully in my youth.
I had been bullied for most of my adolescents.
I dont' love them or hate them, they're just a part of life.
As for bullies controlling my life, I usually ignore them, although they sometimes do influence my decisions on certain things.
I was bullied growing up (physically, verbally, etc.) and it affected me deeply. Bullies may have their own problems that drive them to bullying, but taking out their frustration and agression on others is unacceptable. Saying "it's a part of life" is a cop-out; there is no excuse for repeatedly inflicting physical and emotional trauma on someone for any reason.
Celessa, I hope your sister gets some good help and counseling. We're all told as children that it's not right to hurt others, to turn the other cheek, and not to sink to the bullies' level. That's BS. It's more important to learn how to take care of yourself and protect yourself than to worry about what others might think. Let her know that she's loved, that people care, and that you're willing to help her through this rough time. There are plenty of things to do that can help circumvent the bullying -- submitting and bottling up the feelings isn't one of them.
Good luck and let us know how it goes.
jeez, I feel bad for your friend's sis... that's really bad.. but yeah, it can get horribly like that. Naturally I hate bullies, I was bullied a little when I was younger, never really controlled my life, just self-esteem, but I mostly ignored it then. I guess people do it to give themselves some sort of status, to be higher than others by bullying.
I feel sorry for bullies..
No matter the reason they're doing that, it's always because they have something wrong with them.
Whether it be money, they were raised that way, they're just sick in the head.. I just plainly feel for for the lot of them. But still, it's not nice ( duh! ).
i try to defend them both, if I ever see it. I haven't seen anyone being bullied for a looong time. ^-^
I never encountered any bullies in my life. But regardless, people who pick on others should be badly punished.
I always figured they did it because its fun. Its fun for me when I decide to "play" with my little brother, but thats out of love, and is brought on by him eating my food or taking stuff from my room. Bullies did it for the violent/mean kind of fun.
Most of us were probably bullied at some time in our life. Mine was throughout most of middle school, but those days are long past. Our bullies were pretty mild too: verbal abuse, stealing, shoving and occasional beat-downs in the locker rooms. I never heard of anyone at my school picking on girls though; thats really low. Hope your friend is able to pull through this ok.
I can thank bullies for me turning out the way I did....Bullies don't help anything at all, whats worse those that get bullied about 25% of the time become bullies themselves...and of the worst kind too. Its simply horrible to see someone get picked on for some stupid ass reason just to make someone else feel better or get a good laugh. Its pathetic, you can be sure that if I see anyone ever being bullied I'll be sure to interrupt it and make sure that it stops. I don't want anyone to be harassed as much as I was and for as long as I was (Kindergarden till Sophmore year of High school, I was still after that just I stopped caring).
Though I must thank them, cause if it wasn't for them I would of found a purpose to hate people or to motivate myself to become as strong as possible so I could defend myself. So I must thank them for helping me find the motivation to life weights and to know what the majority of humanity is like. Thanks bullies! Because no matter what you never really go away, your encountered everywhere in life and you enjoy making people feel horrible about themselves. At least now I have inspiration to know never to become a disgrace like they are. Now I know to be better than that! Though they aided to me becomming horrible depressed..which I'm still working on but yeah!
She's my friend's sister - but yes, thanks for your condolensces. Very much appreciated here. I'm sure she'll do fine. ^^
That's sad, not the part about your sister being bullied it's sad because she lacked the strenght and will power to just deal with it, and her friend I commend for sticking up for her but trying to take them on alone and without any type of weapon, I'm assuming, was just plain moronic, so what i have to say is just deal with it damnit! Everyone has gone through this crap at one point in their life, oh and one more thing don't threaten to shoot most of the school because now they will go hardcore on your ass, not the bullies the cops.
that's fu.....ed UP!!!Wold is cruel........I mean people are cruel.I'm sorry for your sister!!!!!!But people should learn how to Defence them selfs, as we know is not that easy.....but keep trying learn some moves........or fast runnig!!!So "live" whit this or fight whit this!!!
I've never been bullied before but heard about that sometimes. I'm totally against them, those ones stink. Sorry to hear about your friend's sister, hope she'll get over it soon.
If this thread continued to flame up, I will have to close it.
How is this thread flaming up? people are just posting their honesty opinion.
I reccommend a self defense course, and a boost of self esteem. Nothing feels better than breaking the face of someone who's made you feel bad without remorse.
...eh bullies are just mean ppl...last yr i got into a small fight with some seniors on freshman friday since i dont lik gettin harrassed. since it was lik only me n my friend whose lik 5'9 vs a couple of pretty big seniors we had no real chance of winning... anyway afta that things actually got better since they had some respect for us now since we could fend for ourselves...thats just my story but i have to say violence doesnt solve everythin all the time...
I'm sorry for your sister. I highly recommend learning to fight back. Either verbally or physically will do. You'll be amazed at how easily most bullies will fold. Only the toughest and stupidest bullies will not stop if you stand up to them. There's not much advice that I can offer to you or your sister except: Don't take shit from them, fight back.
"Don't get angry, get even."
(I've had minor scuffles with bullies before, but I didn't get the attention of teachers with it, which rocked. I simply got the bullies in one physical situation that they simply could not get out of unless I was merciful. Typically a headlock, wrestling move, martial arts move, or just taking advantage of weak spots on the body [It's funny, I had a mild scuffle with a friend. From a 3rd person point of view, I lost the scuffle. But both my friend and I knew I had the advantage easily.])
Some people agree and disagree - but yeah, we could have settled it in the PM. Hopefully this doesn't happen again - his opinion counted, but his comment was very harsh in my opinion, so I had to defend my friend. How? You don't call people weak and completely stupid that they should just give up and crawl like a little baby. That doesn't count as flaming either, remember that - I was telling him that he was completely ignorant of the actions he took here, and we were defending ourselves, me defending my friend's reputation of course. End of case.
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Thank you very much Vagrant, I will take your words so kindly too ^^
And do feel free to give out more honest opinions about bullies. I hope that all of you can handle them or ignore them as completely nothing as all. I'd just turn my back and walk away, so hopefully don't let your friends make the worst of the situation when they're the next legal targets here. If it doesn't happen to you, definitely make sure it doesn't happen to the ones you love as well. ^^
i honestly dislike bullies. Probably cuz i was bullied in one way or another when i was a kid, but that's behind me now. Most of the time, if you showed a hint of a backbone for yourself bullies tend to not bother you the next time. Most bullies pick on other people because they wanna make themselves feel better (ie. low self esteem), that's why "weaker" people or people that are shy and timid are the main targets. If they decide to pick on you, just laugh it off, they want you to be scared, but if you laugh instead, it'll confuse them.
I hate bullies. They are essentially facists on a smaller scale. I don`t see how anyone or any schools can tolerate them.
personally I, like the most of you, dislike them =p
however, they helped me ya... I used to be a crybaby whenever I am bullied and stuff.. but then as the bullying went on.. I started to learn and control my temper and everything.. if not for them I would get easily angered..
another of my friend is like me too =p we always give him a nickname monkey.. then he would get angry immediately but now hes like used to it he doesn't really care..
still, my case is only mild bullying.. usually verbal and rarely into fights..
when you are bullied when you are young, it tends to help you change to be a stronger person.. although sometimes become bad too..
if somebody tries to bully you.. not those gangster sort, then don't walk away.. just listen to them but not do a thing.. they may keep doing but once they see no reaction from you they will not want to bully you anymore, and find other targets.. this my advise, doesn't always work though..