Love isn't the catalyst for why people become strung-up idiots.
People are the catalyst for being strung-up idiots.
Too many politically correct american terms and none of them can really be used to describe the situation you're
trying to show. People who naturally ignore all and only care about their lover have more issues elsewhere than actually
with the concept of love itself.
Blindness, awkwardness and overly-preened mannerisms are all a by-product of the
romantically handicapped.
Love has always been simple to do and simple to keep. Problem is, many people aren't
suited for it and can't live life knowing they're either alone, as they become a public nuisance. If
they're being figuratively blind then there's a reason they are in a relationship, simple as that.
Idk about you but I have a significant other as a twin to my own likes and dislikes, but
staying in a relationship with her would mean nothing is ever going to change for me. Liking the same things, agreeing
on the same things, eating at the same places with no real objection makes the relationship bland and empty, I'm
better off dating myself and taking myself out to eat.
The only benefit I see in having a 'twin' you're in a relationship with, is
the benefit of sex without any form of entitlement felt on the other end, which seems to be why everyone marries these
days - if that's not a deterrent than it'll be great to date yourself.
No, having a person with similar beliefs and likes is *not* a good relationship depending on what you're in it for.
There's no compatible personality either because personalities aren't that easy to understand, not in this
century with so many multiracial people who are cross-bred with very wild genes that mutated and evolved overtime to
give us some extremes.
I have many active relationships and they are all women with something to be proud of. Be
it intelligence, wealth, luxury or even something as simple as having a nice, pleasant life where she gets to feel the
wind blow her hair as she rolls around her garden - they are what I like to call grounded women. Women with no real
issues that threaten their happiness.
They have not caused me a single problem and for good reason. Their personality can be as incompatible as you want it to
be but as long as their happiness is present, it doesn't matter what kind of personality you have. It'll only
serve to position you on the pie chart.
The problems lie elsewhere.
I've found many more women who *I* found completely boring to talk to and some of them
can be both compatible and incompatible - yet I've slowly, over the
course of time removed them in the most painless way possible and am no longer associating with them, but I do entertain
- since that's what I tell myself would be the morally correct thing to do. They can completely suck and be broken,
or otherwise be boring to talk to, or even look like the standard blue ocean whale when comparing sizes - but they are
still women.
I don't know about you, but perhaps I had better luck with meeting girls who I
didn't have compulsion to marry just because we spend time with each other using time we're willing to
sacrifice for whatever reason? I can't say. Each of them I know have different nationalities and upbringings,
can't really get any more diverse than that - but the point wasn't to prostrate my relationships.
The point is that all of them are active, moreso now since it's winter and they're all making plans to spend
time with people they believe deserves the time. Saying all of them are 'supposedly compatible' is a pretty
wide stretch bordering on nonsense.
I'm sure many people have done and experienced the exact same thing I have,
irregardless of social and personal compatibility. In cases like this, you can't even have a proper foundation for
anything since the very reason it was founded was the very reason it was destroyed or just blatantly not possible.
Gauging relationships by personality/cloning and what have you is already wrong.
In practicality, lets say Val's personality conflicts with mine - I'm pretty sure
I can make her happy regardless, as long as I don't screw up her day which is essentially what relationships are
about. Not screwing up the others day.
Saying "Well GL I mean both of you are completely different but hey it might work but
maybe it might not" is a stupid argument for stupid people - but is also what separates the virgins from the crowd,
I suppose. Taking so many middle grounds in fear of being proven wrong is not only something an intellectually afraid
person would do, it also makes an individual more ignorant than they could normally be.
Relationships and the people in them suffer from physical and mental 'issues' for
very specific reasons, yet you need only 2 real things to know about them and those things are if they are meant to have
one, or not.
In the long run, everything else is irrelevant as they produce the same results - like I said in a previous thread, stay
married for 60 years. From 30 to 90, pull it off, then come back to tell me about your journey.
If you've never had a relationship last more than 30 years without needing to jump
ship to the next pollinated flower, I think I can pinup another problem on your refrigerator.