Many of my friends seem to think they're weird, but I see them as perfectly
alright; internet relationships, that is. I know this is a touchy topic for
some, but I do believe it'd really be interesting to see what others think of
this. ^_^
I, personally, think they're great. ^_^ You are not judged by how you look, but
by how you act. That... why, that's golden, in my eyes. Like the people who
posted in this thread, http://forum.minitokyo.net/showthread/15804/
, in real life, nice guys/girls usually finish last. I believe that in online
relationships, those kinds of people finish first. ^_^
Please give me your honest opinion, and thank you. ^_^
Yes I agree you are not judged by how you look but you are still judged, and I
still hate then net for that, let's also not forget that if you are a sarcastic
person, that no one on the net will understand you, atleast that's how it is for
me, anyways back on topic. Internet relationships are just like real-life
relationships a desperate ploy to fill the void of lonliness and lust, for
attention or pretty much anything, the only difference is the net is more mental
than anything.
I still stand by the statement "The net isn't real." which can be
completly true, because do you truly know the person? Do you know the facial
expression that they make when surprised? Do you know if they are male or
female? Have you spent enough time with them to know what a day is like for
them? or what their habits are? Most likely no.
I don't really approve of net relationships, but I can't really stop them and
I know that no one will care about what I say here so I'll finish by saying that
remember that this is kind of a different world than reality where you can be
anyone and almost anything, so just keep that in mind, never take the
relationship so far to where you believe it's true, absolute love.
I think internet relationships are fine. I've a frequenter at another forum
where there are a couple of internet relationships and it seems to work. People
actually met on the net, developed feelings, and eventually (years) met and got
married. Sometimes it is easier to be yourself in front of a screen, helps you
get more comfortable with the person. If you are shy, then an internet
relationship is nice and convenient.
I disagree on the habits or time spent together, if you spend years talking
about each other, then you'll know the person very well. Also a popular tool is
web cams when it comes to such a relationship.
Nice people do have a better chance at finishing first, because a 'hot' guy or
girl can't come by and sweet someone away with looks and a witty tongue. I mean
you could send pictures, but it's tougher.
Well, I guess there's nothing wrong with internet relationships. I don't have
anybody on my AIM list or my MSN Messenger list that I do not know personally,
though. There's something about chatting to random strangers that I never got a
hold on. I mean, you don't even know the other person, so what's the point? If
it's to make one feel better cuz he/she has "friends", than I truly
feel sorry for that person. The person they're talking to could be some random,
fat 52 yr old dude w/ grandkids, but pretending to be a 21 yr old girl
Whatever, just don't take internet relationships too serious. Remember: it's
still fake. It will never beat the real thing, no matter how you look at it.
They are an increasing normality these days. I see little harm, but it is still
unusual... when technology progresses, then perhaps it will be better
acknowledged. The truth is that it is communication and that's the main thing
you need for a relationship. With cameras you can see their facial expressions,
habbits, etc aswell as hear their voice and know what the look like, so the days
of 52 yr olds hiding behind a guise are dying out. My brother is currently in an
internet relationship and it appears to be working out... I had one once, but
for that reason I don't think I'll ever do it again ( long time ago now). It's
pretty much the same as having a long-distance relationship, so I don't really
care.
But here's something that you may find very interesting. Before telephones,
people used to communicate using morse code... it lead to many people talking
and falling in love through morse. Weird, huh?!
Internet relationships, like mostly everything, have some good qualities as well
as bad ones.
Pretty much all the bad ones are already mentioned in this thread, but nowone
has mentioned the benifits (other than not being judged by your looks). For me
at least, internet relationships helped me become more socialble and find out
what type of mentalities i get along best with. When you're too scared in real
life to talk about certain things with your friends or family, you can always
talk about them on the internet without fearing sideway looks, etc...
Relationships ive had on the internet have helped me redifine my sexuality,
religion, and way of thinking, but was naturally not the only factor
involved.
If you're shy and dont really know how to act around girls/guys, the internet is
a good start.
I say a good start, because by no means should you compare internet
relationships to real life ones. Even with webcams, pictures and years of
talking to someone, you will never know them as well as in real life, because
its always one-to-one contact. You dont know how that person acts around other
people, is that person is telling you the truth about their lives, ect...
We got to keep in mind that even in real life people can easily decieve you, and
on the internet it becomes so much easier.
Wow, these are all from four days ago, but, you know... ^_^;; My computer was
down, and I really was hoping to get a response to this.. I suppose I got my
wish. ^_^ Thank you, all.
Well, yeah, there's always that flaw called "I have no idea who you really
are", but there ARE ways to work around that. Calling them, asking for a
picture-- hearing them works, you know? But online really can work out... some
conversations I have with people, I can't read them through. But there's
others-- they way they type is a language. You can tell if they're happy, or
sad, just how they type-- that's how it is with some people. Like it is in real
life, with voices-- do you guys know what I mean..?
And yeah, sarcasm is kinda hard over the net
"Dude, you suck... *sarcasm*" That would sorta work, I suppose..
^^;;
Anyways though, I don't see why so many people are against them. I mean, sure.
You've heard of stalkers, and the like... but what if the news said things that
were GOOD about these relationships? Why, I'm in one right now, and I must say,
it.. it feels pretty darn real, lol. It all depends on who you meet, I suppose.
If you were to see the outcomes of GOOD relationships, I think more people would
like it, you know? Unfortunately, they seem to have a bad reputation...
Well in some cases it does work and some cases it doesn't, tsuta.
All I have to say is to trust your instincts.
I've been around a few other friends from other forums that got to know each
other extremely well on the internet. Heck, one met up with another member, and
now they're pretty much guaranteed fallen in love.
The Internet opens up new passageways to being with more people than ever
thought possible. Me - here, I think that the net relationship can be a good
thing and a bad thing - as usual, use time as your judgment, your judgment as to
how you read the person well, and the key to reading such a person well as a
positive or negatively influential individual towards yourself or to
others.
I don't think its unusual really, that you think Internet relationships can be a
good thing and that it works. It evidently has - but like some of the people
pointed out, it's a dangerous zone to be in. Believe in what you have to - just
be careful is all I have to say here. **Bows** Take care.
I do have many qualms with it. Despite the fact you cannot be judged on
appearance, there are lots of different problems that can arise. First of all,
you can never be entirely sure that this person is who they say they are. They
can lie, they can cheat you into falling in love with someone they're not.
Internet predators exist, despite what anyone may believe. Also, how is that
relationship supposed to progress afterwards? To go and meet the person would be
the next step, but then the 'not judging on appearance' is totally foiled.
Everyone has physical standards and certain things they just can't live with
physically (or at least most) and that's only human. Physical attraction
shouldn't come first but it is partialy important, if only for a fraction. One
person may get their heart broken, and most often does.
Of course, not all relationship turn out this way, but I think if you're going
to start an Internet relationship that you should only find out about each other
on the Net and meet each other (safely, bring a friend) afterwards before
deciding if you want to carry on. In short, I don't think the anonymity or
ambiguity of the Internet is a solid foundation for a real relationship. There's
my two cents, sorry if I offended....
I don't have anything against internet relationships. People just have to keep
that sharp line between internet and real life, that's all. I do find it hard
for an internet relationship to ever be serious because it will always take a
back seat to real life and the idea of them coinciding = bad.
I have nothing against internet relationships, however from experience I find
that long distance relationships have a very low chance of success. You need to
be at least close enough to see each other on the weekends.
i know a person that he found his girlfriend from chat.. the girl is japanese
and she told me that she fell in love with him and came all the way from Japan
to Greece for him
wtf.
Quote by maiku-chani know a person
that he found his girlfriend from chat.. the girl is
japanese and she told me that she fell in love with him and came all
the way from Japan to Greece for him >_<
wtf.
What's wrong with that? It happens a lot in "normal" relationships...
love is hard to find... give people a break. I'm happy for anyone who finds it,
regardless of where.
very good point you got therem which i totally agree with. but for me, online
relationships just dont work. why? because I get so attached to them I think
about them nonostop and it kills me not being by their side, so i stay waaaaay
away from them.
Quote by tecnophreakvery good point
you got therem which i totally agree with. but for me,
online relationships just dont work. why? because I get so attached to
them I think about them nonostop and it kills me not being by their
side, so i stay waaaaay away from them.
Yeah, that's a good point actually... that aspect definitely sucked for me, too.
Like I said, it's pretty much the same as a long distance relationship... though
some could argue it's a long distance blind date... sorta less inviting when you
put it that way!
Hm...online relationships...geez, my friend's in one. Hahaha, I personally don't
enjoy them, from an observant's point of view. I've never been in a
relationship, so I really can't tell the difference. But judging from what I
know, they're useless. I mean, my friend lives two hours away from his
girlfriend, but he can only see her once a month. I see the pain in his eyes
every day at school. He loves her too much to just drop it now, since they've
been dating for nearly a year. I mean, I've never been in a relationship, true,
but if you think about it, what are the chances of you actually seeing them
periodically if they lived any farther than that? As pointed out by tecnophreak,
it is a pain not able to see them or hug or whatever else couples do. Hahaha,
personally I find "local relationships" to be painful enough when I
see others go about the dating game. Much more painful in an online
relationship. But the break up proccess might be easier on you. I suppose there
are pros and cons to everything...
I've been in net relationships before. Personally, I'm not going to get into
another net relationship, they sucks from my statepoint and also cause more then
then real life relationships.
But if someone is in a online relationship, I have no problem with it and if it
works out for them, congrats for them.
Many of my friends seem to think they're weird, but I see them as perfectly alright; internet relationships, that is. I know this is a touchy topic for some, but I do believe it'd really be interesting to see what others think of this. ^_^
I, personally, think they're great. ^_^ You are not judged by how you look, but by how you act. That... why, that's golden, in my eyes. Like the people who posted in this thread, http://forum.minitokyo.net/showthread/15804/ , in real life, nice guys/girls usually finish last. I believe that in online relationships, those kinds of people finish first. ^_^
Please give me your honest opinion, and thank you. ^_^
Yes I agree you are not judged by how you look but you are still judged, and I still hate then net for that, let's also not forget that if you are a sarcastic person, that no one on the net will understand you, atleast that's how it is for me, anyways back on topic. Internet relationships are just like real-life relationships a desperate ploy to fill the void of lonliness and lust, for attention or pretty much anything, the only difference is the net is more mental than anything.
I still stand by the statement "The net isn't real." which can be completly true, because do you truly know the person? Do you know the facial expression that they make when surprised? Do you know if they are male or female? Have you spent enough time with them to know what a day is like for them? or what their habits are? Most likely no.
I don't really approve of net relationships, but I can't really stop them and I know that no one will care about what I say here so I'll finish by saying that remember that this is kind of a different world than reality where you can be anyone and almost anything, so just keep that in mind, never take the relationship so far to where you believe it's true, absolute love.
I think internet relationships are fine. I've a frequenter at another forum where there are a couple of internet relationships and it seems to work. People actually met on the net, developed feelings, and eventually (years) met and got married. Sometimes it is easier to be yourself in front of a screen, helps you get more comfortable with the person. If you are shy, then an internet relationship is nice and convenient.
I disagree on the habits or time spent together, if you spend years talking about each other, then you'll know the person very well. Also a popular tool is web cams when it comes to such a relationship.
Nice people do have a better chance at finishing first, because a 'hot' guy or girl can't come by and sweet someone away with looks and a witty tongue. I mean you could send pictures, but it's tougher.
Well, I guess there's nothing wrong with internet relationships. I don't have anybody on my AIM list or my MSN Messenger list that I do not know personally, though. There's something about chatting to random strangers that I never got a hold on. I mean, you don't even know the other person, so what's the point? If it's to make one feel better cuz he/she has "friends", than I truly feel sorry for that person. The person they're talking to could be some random, fat 52 yr old dude w/ grandkids, but pretending to be a 21 yr old girl
Whatever, just don't take internet relationships too serious. Remember: it's still fake. It will never beat the real thing, no matter how you look at it.
They are an increasing normality these days. I see little harm, but it is still unusual... when technology progresses, then perhaps it will be better acknowledged. The truth is that it is communication and that's the main thing you need for a relationship. With cameras you can see their facial expressions, habbits, etc aswell as hear their voice and know what the look like, so the days of 52 yr olds hiding behind a guise are dying out. My brother is currently in an internet relationship and it appears to be working out... I had one once, but for that reason I don't think I'll ever do it again ( long time ago now). It's pretty much the same as having a long-distance relationship, so I don't really care.
But here's something that you may find very interesting. Before telephones, people used to communicate using morse code... it lead to many people talking and falling in love through morse. Weird, huh?!
i'm also a firm supporter of online relationships. after all, i'm in a realtionship with a member from this site ^_^ and i know i'm not the only one
Internet relationships, like mostly everything, have some good qualities as well as bad ones.
Pretty much all the bad ones are already mentioned in this thread, but nowone has mentioned the benifits (other than not being judged by your looks). For me at least, internet relationships helped me become more socialble and find out what type of mentalities i get along best with. When you're too scared in real life to talk about certain things with your friends or family, you can always talk about them on the internet without fearing sideway looks, etc...
Relationships ive had on the internet have helped me redifine my sexuality, religion, and way of thinking, but was naturally not the only factor involved.
If you're shy and dont really know how to act around girls/guys, the internet is a good start.
I say a good start, because by no means should you compare internet relationships to real life ones. Even with webcams, pictures and years of talking to someone, you will never know them as well as in real life, because its always one-to-one contact. You dont know how that person acts around other people, is that person is telling you the truth about their lives, ect...
We got to keep in mind that even in real life people can easily decieve you, and on the internet it becomes so much easier.
Wow, these are all from four days ago, but, you know... ^_^;; My computer was down, and I really was hoping to get a response to this.. I suppose I got my wish. ^_^ Thank you, all.
Well, yeah, there's always that flaw called "I have no idea who you really are", but there ARE ways to work around that. Calling them, asking for a picture-- hearing them works, you know? But online really can work out... some conversations I have with people, I can't read them through. But there's others-- they way they type is a language. You can tell if they're happy, or sad, just how they type-- that's how it is with some people. Like it is in real life, with voices-- do you guys know what I mean..?
And yeah, sarcasm is kinda hard over the net
"Dude, you suck... *sarcasm*" That would sorta work, I suppose..
^^;;
Anyways though, I don't see why so many people are against them. I mean, sure. You've heard of stalkers, and the like... but what if the news said things that were GOOD about these relationships? Why, I'm in one right now, and I must say, it.. it feels pretty darn real, lol. It all depends on who you meet, I suppose. If you were to see the outcomes of GOOD relationships, I think more people would like it, you know? Unfortunately, they seem to have a bad reputation...
Again, sorry for such a late reply...
Well in some cases it does work and some cases it doesn't, tsuta.
All I have to say is to trust your instincts.
I've been around a few other friends from other forums that got to know each other extremely well on the internet. Heck, one met up with another member, and now they're pretty much guaranteed fallen in love.
The Internet opens up new passageways to being with more people than ever thought possible. Me - here, I think that the net relationship can be a good thing and a bad thing - as usual, use time as your judgment, your judgment as to how you read the person well, and the key to reading such a person well as a positive or negatively influential individual towards yourself or to others.
I don't think its unusual really, that you think Internet relationships can be a good thing and that it works. It evidently has - but like some of the people pointed out, it's a dangerous zone to be in. Believe in what you have to - just be careful is all I have to say here. **Bows** Take care.
I do have many qualms with it. Despite the fact you cannot be judged on appearance, there are lots of different problems that can arise. First of all, you can never be entirely sure that this person is who they say they are. They can lie, they can cheat you into falling in love with someone they're not. Internet predators exist, despite what anyone may believe. Also, how is that relationship supposed to progress afterwards? To go and meet the person would be the next step, but then the 'not judging on appearance' is totally foiled. Everyone has physical standards and certain things they just can't live with physically (or at least most) and that's only human. Physical attraction shouldn't come first but it is partialy important, if only for a fraction. One person may get their heart broken, and most often does.
Of course, not all relationship turn out this way, but I think if you're going to start an Internet relationship that you should only find out about each other on the Net and meet each other (safely, bring a friend) afterwards before deciding if you want to carry on. In short, I don't think the anonymity or ambiguity of the Internet is a solid foundation for a real relationship. There's my two cents, sorry if I offended....
I don't have anything against internet relationships. People just have to keep that sharp line between internet and real life, that's all. I do find it hard for an internet relationship to ever be serious because it will always take a back seat to real life and the idea of them coinciding = bad.
I have nothing against internet relationships, however from experience I find that long distance relationships have a very low chance of success. You need to be at least close enough to see each other on the weekends.
i know a person that he found his girlfriend from chat.. the girl is japanese and she told me that she fell in love with him and came all the way from Japan to Greece for him
wtf.
What's wrong with that? It happens a lot in "normal" relationships... love is hard to find... give people a break. I'm happy for anyone who finds it, regardless of where.
very good point you got therem which i totally agree with. but for me, online relationships just dont work. why? because I get so attached to them I think about them nonostop and it kills me not being by their side, so i stay waaaaay away from them.
Yeah, that's a good point actually... that aspect definitely sucked for me, too. Like I said, it's pretty much the same as a long distance relationship... though some could argue it's a long distance blind date... sorta less inviting when you put it that way!
Hm...online relationships...geez, my friend's in one. Hahaha, I personally don't enjoy them, from an observant's point of view. I've never been in a relationship, so I really can't tell the difference. But judging from what I know, they're useless. I mean, my friend lives two hours away from his girlfriend, but he can only see her once a month. I see the pain in his eyes every day at school. He loves her too much to just drop it now, since they've been dating for nearly a year. I mean, I've never been in a relationship, true, but if you think about it, what are the chances of you actually seeing them periodically if they lived any farther than that? As pointed out by tecnophreak, it is a pain not able to see them or hug or whatever else couples do. Hahaha, personally I find "local relationships" to be painful enough when I see others go about the dating game. Much more painful in an online relationship. But the break up proccess might be easier on you. I suppose there are pros and cons to everything...
I've been in net relationships before. Personally, I'm not going to get into another net relationship, they sucks from my statepoint and also cause more then then real life relationships.
But if someone is in a online relationship, I have no problem with it and if it works out for them, congrats for them.