Here's the scenario: One of my really close friends, Jack, asked me to go to
Prom with him (at his school, not mine). Now I haven't seen the guy in over a
year, so of course I said yes! Who would turn down a chance to hang out with a
friend and go to prom?
So anyway, I later told my boyfriend about it and he blew up! Personally I don't
think it is that much of a big deal..... I need some insite on this......
Is it going to conflict with prom at your school? If it is I would have been
pissed to, but otherwise he is probably just jealous. He'll get over it or
youll get rid of him. Any way just my two cents, as a guy.
-stiks
well i can understand your bf's feeling on this one, it is a pretty big deal for
any guy, you need to understand this, guys tend to get very jealous when their
gfs go to proms with other guys. Think of us as simple beings, we are very
protective of what we think is ours, you may think that is silly and dumb way of
looking at it, but we don't react well when other guys are hanging out with our
girls.
Plus this is the prom we are talking about, it suppose to be a special social
engangement between two people in a realtionship, if you were single then it
wouldn't be such a problem, but you got a bf. He doesn't understand that you
guys are just friends, so you really need to explain and give him some kind
reassurance for him to swollow this. This is the same as him going to the prom
with another girl beside you, it will be a top pill to swollow.
i just wish you could have at least discuss this with him before you accept this
invitation, I know you have every right to do this, but it would be less
shocking to your bf if he would have known this before hand. Like every guy he
is going to say no, so I hope you understand his feeling on this, because I
would be very mad if my gf did this to me too. I hope you can talk to him about
this, try to smooth out his anger and pain. I know it does hurt. This can be a
very insenstive thing to do when you are in a relationship, and I wish you will
make it up to your bf on this. Normal I will say power for the girls in making
decision for themselves in a realtionship, but I just hope you need to
understand that this is a big deal when you decide to go to a prom with another
guy that isn't your bf, it isn't fair to him, it really doesn't matter it isn't
the prom at your school.
oh...mordin, i agree with ya, but they're just friends; gah! i hate it when they
don't pay attention to the "friend" part of the whole thing
...jeez, some guys need to learn to trust their gf's sometimes
Quote by Tiferet
T_T ...jeez, some guys need to learn to trust their gf's sometimes
No kidding.....it irks me that he is freaking out about this! Jack is a good
friend, infact he was my bestfriend last year and I want to be able to see him
again, something I have put off doing because of my boyfriend. However, this
time I want to see him.... what difference does it make that its at his prom?
Either way I would be going to visit him without my boyfriend. I have a feeling
my bf would be against me seeing him even if it wasn't at prom.
ahah well it's a stupid reaction to be mad because you go to see a friend you
haven't seen in a year...
but anyway as a stupid male I can barely understand it ^^
well just tell your boyfriend that you ll introduce jack to him later (if he is
really a good friend) if your bf would know jack I m sure he wouldn't react as
he did.
anyway be careful with jack ^^ you know how guyz are.
if he is just a guy you met one year before, and you never had close friendship
with him and now he want to see you..; that can seem suspicious...
anyway I m just tryin to give my opinion and that's probably not very useful
because I dont really know you and your boyfriend and can't really help with the
situation.
actually even if I would know you irl, I wouldn't be a good advice ^^ I m pretty
bad at it lol
so sorry if this post is useless.
Quote by Tiferetoh...mordin, i agree with
ya, but they're just friends; gah! i hate it when they don't pay attention to
the "friend" part of the whole thing
...jeez, some guys need to learn to trust their gf's sometimes
i agree with mordin to and you but hey some bf's cant help being jealous ay it's
stressing i mena its a friend right? and it's at his school, so no big deal
really in my opinion
um ok...im a girl and im agreeing witht he guys >___< wow...ok well if i
was a guy and i was your bf i would be pissed too! i mean...you have a bf and
you have this other guy asking you to prom...not good >__< like if you
didnt have a bf it would be all dandy but like mordin said guys get jealous and
dont want other men on their women. so i kinda disagree with going with your old
friend..i mean yall can always go somewhere just to hang out but going to prom
is like a bf/gf thing.
Are sure that you want to go with a person that you haven't see for a year ?
People change alot in a years of time
i can understand why he might be afraid for you but he should trust you too
I'll go with Mordin idea
I'm to lazy to type all of the stuff and I have bad spelling anyway
I'll confuse myself if I talk t_t
Quote by gundragonAre sure that you
want to go with a person that you haven't see for a year ?
People change alot in a years of time
People do change, but I don't really think that he has. We have still kept in
touch. He's updated me on plays he has been in and we have sent random emails
back and forth...... he was and is still one of my closest and best friends.
Well just to throw it out there, if he has such a problem trusting you it is
probably because if he were in the same situation he would be doing something
less than faithful. Guys tend to avoid thier weaknesses all together. And its
a good thing. Given the situation I would just talk to him straight out. Tell
him what you are feeling and that you are going with this guy because he is a
good friend. Reassure him that if anything happens you'll come running back to
your BF for protection. Then tell him how much you are looking forward to going
to prom with him and that you're really excited. The best way to handle the
problem is to convince him that there really is no problem. Lack of
communication is the number one killer of all relationships, not just romantic,
but friends and family too. No one can read your mind, you have to tell them
what you think and feel, and ask them to do the same.
-Stiks
Here's the scenario: One of my really close friends, Jack, asked me to go to Prom with him (at his school, not mine). Now I haven't seen the guy in over a year, so of course I said yes! Who would turn down a chance to hang out with a friend and go to prom?
So anyway, I later told my boyfriend about it and he blew up! Personally I don't think it is that much of a big deal..... I need some insite on this......
Is it going to conflict with prom at your school? If it is I would have been pissed to, but otherwise he is probably just jealous. He'll get over it or youll get rid of him. Any way just my two cents, as a guy.
-stiks
yup, your boyfriend's either jealous or disappointed...does your boyfriend even want to go? if not, he shouldn't be "crying" about it if you ask me
well i can understand your bf's feeling on this one, it is a pretty big deal for any guy, you need to understand this, guys tend to get very jealous when their gfs go to proms with other guys. Think of us as simple beings, we are very protective of what we think is ours, you may think that is silly and dumb way of looking at it, but we don't react well when other guys are hanging out with our girls.
Plus this is the prom we are talking about, it suppose to be a special social engangement between two people in a realtionship, if you were single then it wouldn't be such a problem, but you got a bf. He doesn't understand that you guys are just friends, so you really need to explain and give him some kind reassurance for him to swollow this. This is the same as him going to the prom with another girl beside you, it will be a top pill to swollow.
i just wish you could have at least discuss this with him before you accept this invitation, I know you have every right to do this, but it would be less shocking to your bf if he would have known this before hand. Like every guy he is going to say no, so I hope you understand his feeling on this, because I would be very mad if my gf did this to me too. I hope you can talk to him about this, try to smooth out his anger and pain. I know it does hurt. This can be a very insenstive thing to do when you are in a relationship, and I wish you will make it up to your bf on this. Normal I will say power for the girls in making decision for themselves in a realtionship, but I just hope you need to understand that this is a big deal when you decide to go to a prom with another guy that isn't your bf, it isn't fair to him, it really doesn't matter it isn't the prom at your school.
No, it doesn't conflict with our prom at all.... there is a whole week difference.
Oh, we are still going to our prom.
oh...mordin, i agree with ya, but they're just friends; gah! i hate it when they don't pay attention to the "friend" part of the whole thing
...jeez, some guys need to learn to trust their gf's sometimes 
No kidding.....it irks me that he is freaking out about this! Jack is a good friend, infact he was my bestfriend last year and I want to be able to see him again, something I have put off doing because of my boyfriend. However, this time I want to see him.... what difference does it make that its at his prom? Either way I would be going to visit him without my boyfriend. I have a feeling my bf would be against me seeing him even if it wasn't at prom.
ahah well it's a stupid reaction to be mad because you go to see a friend you haven't seen in a year...
but anyway as a stupid male I can barely understand it ^^
well just tell your boyfriend that you ll introduce jack to him later (if he is really a good friend) if your bf would know jack I m sure he wouldn't react as he did.
anyway be careful with jack ^^ you know how guyz are.
if he is just a guy you met one year before, and you never had close friendship with him and now he want to see you..; that can seem suspicious...
anyway I m just tryin to give my opinion and that's probably not very useful because I dont really know you and your boyfriend and can't really help with the situation.
actually even if I would know you irl, I wouldn't be a good advice ^^ I m pretty bad at it lol
so sorry if this post is useless.
i agree with mordin to and you but hey some bf's cant help being jealous ay
it's
stressing i mena its a friend right? and it's at his school, so no big deal
really in my opinion 
um ok...im a girl and im agreeing witht he guys >___< wow...ok well if i was a guy and i was your bf i would be pissed too! i mean...you have a bf and you have this other guy asking you to prom...not good >__< like if you didnt have a bf it would be all dandy but like mordin said guys get jealous and dont want other men on their women. so i kinda disagree with going with your old friend..i mean yall can always go somewhere just to hang out but going to prom is like a bf/gf thing.
Are sure that you want to go with a person that you haven't see for a year ?
People change alot in a years of time
i can understand why he might be afraid for you but he should trust you too
I'll go with Mordin idea
I'm to lazy to type all of the stuff and I have bad spelling anyway
I'll confuse myself if I talk t_t
People do change, but I don't really think that he has. We have still kept in touch. He's updated me on plays he has been in and we have sent random emails back and forth...... he was and is still one of my closest and best friends.
Well just to throw it out there, if he has such a problem trusting you it is probably because if he were in the same situation he would be doing something less than faithful. Guys tend to avoid thier weaknesses all together. And its a good thing. Given the situation I would just talk to him straight out. Tell him what you are feeling and that you are going with this guy because he is a good friend. Reassure him that if anything happens you'll come running back to your BF for protection. Then tell him how much you are looking forward to going to prom with him and that you're really excited. The best way to handle the problem is to convince him that there really is no problem. Lack of communication is the number one killer of all relationships, not just romantic, but friends and family too. No one can read your mind, you have to tell them what you think and feel, and ask them to do the same.
-Stiks