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would you FORGIVE?

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would you ever forgive if your boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on you?
Do you think that there is any excuse that can justify it?
Do you think it's possible to maintain the relationship after the cheating?

It all depends on how much u like them.
There isnt any excuse for ones actions never!
it is posible it usually happens if they are really sorry and in love with u.
thats what i have learned from some of my friends who had that problem.

well let's see he didn't cheat on me

but he said that i was "the one" we'd get married

alright so he broke up with me n said we'll get back 2gether when ur better n i still wanna be friends

well juss a few days ago he told me that we rn't getting back 2gether (even though i knew this n didn't want 2 get back 2gether) n he doesn't wanna be friends n he won't tell me y

life sux but it's ok cuz i started liking a guy almost after a month my bf broke up with me

to put it clean and simple. To me, i would leave the girl as soon as i've found out, but of course, only if she did cheat on me. As for the girl, she could do the same if i happen to cheat on her ^_^'

after all... a kickass guy like me can't possibly stay truthful, hehehe.....

Forgive: maybe.
Forget: I think that's impossible.

I always forgive, but never forget. No, that person would not be close to me, ever, but they would be forgiven.

I really dont think that you should give that person another chance if theyve cheated on you because they might just go do it again...

I honestly don't know...

I'm very close to him, and I can't see myself without him. It'd break me in half if he ever did; and he would be in for a serious beating or verbal lashing, not to mention the destruction of whatever is in reach. It'd take a while. I don't know if I'd ever be able to completely trust him again.

i really don't know... it'd be hard. If he wouldn't give up, we might be able to pick up where we left off... but the memories will always be there, and so will the suspicions. Trust is hard to earn and harder to gain back...

No, if one is commited to you and you alone, and they've expressed that to you, I don't see how they could justify cheating.

The only forgivable reason I can think of is if they were drunk, otherwise no, I wouldn't forgive them.

Honestly, I really don't know. I would have to pray about it, and consider it in great detail. In reality, that is a very complicated question. I just hope I never have to worry about it.

I will never forgive them, if they cheat on me. Relationship is suppose to be hold dear to oneself, and not to be play with.

Honestly, because it's happened to me, I really don't think so. My boyfriend of four years cheated on me with my best friend. It was a real shock and betrayel to me. Both of them are out of my life now because I just can't trust them. Isn't trust what every relationship is based on?

Isn't there already a thread on this? I'd forgive... Not much else I can do. :)

I might eventually forgive them...but I would never trust them again. We would have to complete part ways. It would have to be a really really really good excuse for me to even consider maintaing communication with them afterwards.

Love is trust and trust is love...it can't just work if you think about what your girl/boy-friend does when she/he is not with you...it's paranoi and it's never good to the heart!
But if you go thru the whole wanting to trust you again, it could work..but I think it would be always there..the whole betrayal thingy 8(

If a boy-friend did that to me I would never forgive him and I would break up with him. If I were to cheat on my boy-friend I would let him break up with me and if he would never forgive me I guess I would be fine with that.

There is no excuse for cheating. cheaters cheat because they are not truly satisfied. the friendship thing is a pretty optimistic outcome. i would have trouble trusting them anymore because of the type of person they are. but i dunno trust IS a fragile thing, so walk carefully no matter what you choose

Quote by DrakForgive: maybe.Forget: I think that's impossible.


Quote by lacusklein83Honestly, because it's happened to me, I really don't think so. My boyfriend of four years cheated on me with my best friend. It was a real shock and betrayel to me. Both of them are out of my life now because I just can't trust them. Isn't trust what every relationship is based on?

Yea I agree...perhaps you could eventually forgive someone but it'd be really hard to really trust them again...and that would definitely poison the relationship
I place a lot of weight on trustworthiness and responsibility so I don't think I could stay with someone who couldn't fulfill those

there is no exuse on cheating.
"Iwas drunk..." come on what kinda lameass excuse is that... any guy who says that is just and a$$hole
personally, I can forgive cheating...
my ex cheated on me, we came to fix things afer many fights... I didn't wanned to see her again... but she was reallly trying to make thigs up cuz for messing things up, and I decided to give her one more chance... but I judt coulnd trust her... and a relation ship without trust is not worth.

Quote by sjolleyIsn't there already a thread on this? I'd forgive... Not much else I can do. :)

Yes indeed. You, sjolley, made it in fact.

http://forum.minitokyo.net/showthread/20090/

Please use the search function to avoid making duplicate threads. :)

Edit: for the older people, here is another thread:

http://forum.minitokyo.net/showthread/19857/

I never EVER forgave anyone for cheating on me, i say it's not possible to go back to a relationship after cheating. They do it once, they're bound to do it again.(Especially if they're the one's who dumped me after i got over worked about it, they always say i over react....bla, bla, bla,)

I agree with a lot of people here. Cheating can be forgiven, because I must move on with my life. It just can never be forgotten. That person has broken all the bonds of trust with you by cheating, so I consider it hard to even be a friend after that.

It is our choices in life that define who we are.

I see that, in general, everyone thinks that cheating is something that destroys the relationship, even if we're able to forgive the person who did it. I always said that I'd never forgive, but now that I'm in a relationship, I think I wouldn't know how i would react. It would hurt me like hell, of course... I'm so close to my boyfriend that i think it would be very difficult for me to finish the relationship... but, in the other hand, if he ever cheats, that would mean he doesn't love and, therefore, doesn't deserve my love...
I think this is a quite difficult matter, we only know how we would react if it happens to us...

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