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I've been waitin' and waitin', how much longer can I last? Of course this is 'bout a girl.
For 4yrs I've not dated nor tried to do so, as if even know she's not with me that if I love her than being with someone else would be a facade. So my question is long should someone wait hopin' for another chance? What is considered an insane amount of time? XD

I'm not sure bout this....maybe yes maybe no.....*Arg!!!!!!!!!!!!* I'm goin insane!!!!!

Do it now!!! If you love her then tell her!!! I never had a girlfriend and I haven't loved anybody so taking my advice is asking for trouble. -_-

Quote by CowboyBebopFreakI've been waitin' and waitin', how much longer can I last? Of course
this is 'bout a girl. For 4yrs I've not dated nor tried to do so, as if
even know she's not with me that if I love her than being with someone
else would be a facade. So my question is long should someone wait
hopin' for another chance? What is considered an insane amount of time?
XD


What are you afraid of?

That's a really hard question to answer. I guess I'd say that if you think she's 'the one' then by all means, wait but if you think there's someone else out there then go for it. To me, there is no insane amount of time. I'd wait forever for that special person but if the person you're waiting for isn't the right one, then the first second would be an insane amount for time (to me that is). Did that answer your question(s)? XD

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Quote by CowboyBebopFreakI've been waitin' and waitin', how much longer can I last? Of course
this is 'bout a girl. For 4yrs I've not dated nor tried to do so, as if
even know she's not with me that if I love her than being with someone
else would be a facade. So my question is long should someone wait
hopin' for another chance? What is considered an insane amount of time?XD

What are you afraid of?

Rejection. Ever she ended it, we're really close friends and that's agony enough for me.
At one point I thought 'bout totally erasin' her from my life. XP
Is that love that I feel for her.. is it how she feels 'bout me yet didn't realize at the time?
I didn't realize it either. It is hard to explain.. ^_^'

Why did you wait 4 years long? You didnt even tried to date her? You really should do something xD... Not wait, you'll go insane than xD. I think 4 years is already an insane amount of time. If she likes you, she'll date you, if she doesnt.. than you should get over it... you cant force her to love you :).

EDIT: I just posted the same time when you did xD, but did she rejected you before? Than if so, she might not like you, than you should get over it..

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Quote by Mizuna

Quote by CowboyBebopFreakI've been waitin' and waitin', how much longer can I last? Of course
this is 'bout a girl. For 4yrs I've not dated nor tried to do so, as if
even know she's not with me that if I love her than being with someone
else would be a facade. So my question is long should someone wait
hopin' for another chance? What is considered an insane amount of time?XD

What are you afraid of?

Rejection. Ever she ended it, we're really close friends and that's agony enough for me.
At one point I thought 'bout totally erasin' her from my life. XP
Is that love that I feel for her.. is it how she feels 'bout me yet didn't realize at the time?
I didn't realize it either. It is hard to explain.. ^_^'


I figured as much. Rejection sure hits the ego hard if your not prepared.
On the other hand, you could look at it this way;
Say nothing, and continue to admire from a distance and dealing with your feeling in turmoil.
Or, let her know that you do have feelings for her, and in return, she may express her own towards you.
IF she does reject you as in getting into a relationship, the worst that could happen is that you don't speak to each other for a while due to awkwardness. As you say you two are close friends, i don't think that would break.
In the end, i guess the question is, are you prepared for Rejection? If you are, then you've nothing really to lose, and something to gain. No rush here though, i certainly don't want you to take my advice and rush into it. Whatever you decide to do, good luck to you.

Quote by HakukuronekoDo it now!!! If you love her then tell her!!! I never had a girlfriend
and I haven't loved anybody so taking my advice is asking for trouble.
-_-

people like you amazes me everyday. if you dont know what the heck you're talking about, please stfu.

there is no second chance. either you get the girl or you'll somebody's sloppy second or third if you're lucky. humans are not mind readers. she probably thinks you dont like her cuz you never bring it up. what's a girl to do? find another dude with bigger balls who shower her with affection and attention.

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Quote by CowboyBebopFreak

Quote by Mizuna

Quote by CowboyBebopFreak(...) been
waitin' and waitin', how much longer can I last? Of course
this is 'bout a girl. For 4yrs I've not dated nor tried to do so, as if
even know she's not with me that if I love her than being with someone
else would be a facade. So my question is long should someone wait
hopin' for another chance? What is considered an insane amount of
time?XD
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What are you afraid of?


Rejection. Ever she ended it, we're really close friends and that's
agony enough for me.
At one point I thought 'bout totally erasin' her from my life. XP
Is that love that I feel for her.. is it how she feels 'bout me yet
didn't realize at the time?
I didn't realize it either. It is hard to explain.. ^_^'


I figured as much. Rejection sure hits the ego hard if your not
prepared.
On the other hand, you could look at it this way;
Say nothing, and continue to admire from a distance and dealing with
your feeling in turmoil.
Or, let her know that you do have feelings for her, and in return, she
may express her own towards you.
IF she does reject you as in getting into a relationship, the worst
that could happen is that you don't speak to each other for a while due
to awkwardness. As you say you two are close friends, i don't think
that would break.
In the end, i guess the question is, are you prepared for Rejection? If
you are, then you've nothing really to lose, and something to gain. No
rush here though, i certainly don't want you to take my advice and rush
into it. Whatever you decide to do, good luck to you.

I do agree with you. (And sorry, I read over the fact that shes your close friend :). Good luck.

Quote by CowboyBebopFreakI've been waitin' and waitin', how much longer can I last? Of course this is 'bout a girl.
For 4yrs I've not dated nor tried to do so, as if even know she's not with me that if I love her than being with someone else would be a facade. So my question is long should someone wait hopin' for another chance? What is considered an insane amount of time? XD

well it's better that u don't wait and give it a goal cause the longer u wait the more chance of loosing hope since she might fall in love with someone else.

First of all, is she your friend or just someone you know? If she's your friend and she's not with someone for the time being then go ahead and tell her, it's good to express your feelings to her so that you don't have to wonder if she likes you or not, you'll get your answer after you ask.
If she's just someone you know, make friends with her, try to show her how good you are and after a while you may have your decision, who knows since you'll be friend with her, you think that it would be better if you two stay to be friends. Otherwise, just tell her that you like her.
4 years are too much. For me after 6 months to 1 year is the ideal time to say you like someone ;)

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Quote by HakukuronekoDo it now!!! If you love her then tell her!!! I never had a girlfriend
and I haven't loved anybody so taking my advice is asking for trouble.
-_-


people like you amazes me everyday. if you dont know what the heck you're talking about, please stfu.
there is no second chance. either you get the girl or you'll somebody's sloppy second or third if you're lucky. humans are not mind readers. she probably thinks you dont like her cuz you never bring it up. what's a girl to do? find another dude with bigger balls who shower her with affection and attention.

Whoa.. hang on a second there. ><
We are constantly hangin' out and going places. She probably gets the most attention/affection from me more than any of her other friends. 'Bout there's no second chance is possible. I've tried to bring it up but I'm just so freakin' shy darnit! XD
All my friends are entertwined. what happens to one to affect all the others. If I do this and well I'm incorrect then I'm sure I'll get her upset and then everyone else will be really mad at me as well. And it goes against who I am, I try so so hard not to hurt any of friends.
My record is clean, my rep is known.

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Quote by burnout

Quote by HakukuronekoDo it now!!! If you love her then
tell her!!! I never had a girlfriend
and I haven't loved anybody so taking my advice is asking for trouble.
-_-


people like you amazes me everyday. if you dont know what the heck
you're talking about, please stfu. there is no second chance. either
you get the girl or you'll somebody's sloppy second or third if you're
lucky. humans are not mind readers. she probably thinks you dont like
her cuz you never bring it up. what's a girl to do? find another dude
with bigger balls who shower her with affection and attention.


Whoa.. hang on a second there. &gt;&lt; We are constantly hangin' out
and going places. She probably gets the most attention/affection from
me more than any of her other friends. 'Bout there's no second chance
is possible. I've tried to bring it up but I'm just so freakin' shy
darnit! XD All my friends are entertwined. what happens to one to
affect all the others. If I do this and well I'm incorrect then I'm
sure I'll get her upset and then everyone else will be really mad at me
as well. And it goes against who I am, I try so so hard not to hurt any
of friends. My record is clean, my rep is known.

my gf used to be one of my friends back in high school. i've known her for 4 years before we started going out in college. three years later we're still together and making wedding plans. our hooking up didnt change a thing between me and my friends. problem is on your end. do you think she is the one. will you be able to commit. and being shy is your problem. none of us on MT can change that for you. time for you to grow some balls and be a man.

Quote by CowboyBebopFreakI've been waitin' and waitin', how much longer can I last? Of course this is 'bout a girl.
For 4yrs I've not dated nor tried to do so, as if even know she's not with me that if I love her than being with someone else would be a facade. So my question is long should someone wait hopin' for another chance? What is considered an insane amount of time? XD


4 years?! what the heck are you waiting for?! =/

Quote by burnouttime for you to grow some balls and be a man.


Haha. Gotta love that quote. I wonder, if your female, what do you 'grow' to be a woman.

Quote by Mizuna

Quote by burnouttime for you to grow some balls and be a man.


Haha. Gotta love that quote. I wonder, if your female, what do you 'grow' to be a woman.

you grow some tits and demand your fair share.

i dont know what to say. if you know that you can see her and spend time with her, just tell her that you like her. im just going to stay single now

wait and hope for a chance? if You want something, try to get it now, before time runs out, you never know what might happen bro, you'll regret it if you wait long enough and the result isn't what you wanted. And if you do it now, even if outcomes not good, atleast you know you've tried

Haven't you told her that you love her ? 4 years is pretty long, you know maybe she waits that the guy declares first... the answer may be not what you want but at least you'll know. And you could move on. You may regret it later.

But if you decide to declare, be sure that it's really love and not a great friendship, and don't make it sound that she'll lose your friendship if her fellings aren't the same. But if she doesn't give you a definite answer, not everything is lost, she may have to discover her true feelings or to consider other things in a new ligth. After all life is complicate.

As long as you need.

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