*checks age* Okay, so you'r 17. that means we're talking high school
relationships. *sigh* The thing about young love in real life is that it doesn't
last alot of times. When people get a new girlfriend or boyfriend it's like a
kid getting something brand new to play with. At first they devote all their
time and attention to it, but gradually get bored and move on. At that point
they'll realize their friends are more important than a fling (at least until
the next time). Now this isn't how all relationships work out. This is just
based on observations of my own friends. Maybe this helps alittle? If it doesn't
I'm sorry. If you want to go into more detail I might be able to help further.
(if this first attempt failed)
if you're really good friends with them, then stick it out. they probably don;t
want to lose you if you are good friends, and when the bf/gf situation calms
down, they;ll need you around.
hmm... i think its natural for them to act that way...
my opinion is quite the same with the first two, MidnightMiko &
FuriousSpark...
actually, time will solve your problem... all you have to do is wait...
and eventually, your friend will tell you things about him/her & her/his
lover, be a good listener if that happens...
so that your friend will realize you're there for him/her...
and after that... you won't be ignored...
hehe... basically an observation... try doing that... if you want...
haven't experienced that situation but i thought of a solution just for you! XP
Quote by MidnightMiko*checks age*
Okay, so you'r 17. that means we're talking high school
relationships. *sigh* The thing about young love in real life is that
it doesn't last alot of times. When people get a new girlfriend or
boyfriend it's like a kid getting something brand new to play with. At
first they devote all their time and attention to it, but gradually get
bored and move on. At that point they'll realize their friends are more
important than a fling (at least until the next time). Now this isn't
how all relationships work out. This is just based on observations of
my own friends. Maybe this helps alittle? If it doesn't I'm sorry. If
you want to go into more detail I might be able to help further. (if
this first attempt failed)
uh...i've the same problem kirchu . but well..he start to have gf 3 years ago
and they still are togheter all day...i supposed that you can't do nothing about
it
on the begin those two start callin me..but well i don't fell like staying with
a couple for watch them ..well 2 years alone without social live is what i've
get for that .
ah, the infamous bf/gf ignore friend issue. well in defense of your friends i
found out that they have to devote many many many hours to their bf/gf,
otherwise the bf/gf might get jealous saying "you hang out with that
girl/guy than you do with me!" blah blah blah. Then again they could also
be devoting too much time with them and not having enough time to spend with
you. What to do in this situation really depends on you and if you'll still be
their friend even though they don't devote as much time to you as before or you
could voice how you feel and deal with the situation from there. Best of luck
to you =)
Bhe.. this is a toughie. Kirchu you bring up so many excellent
points.^^
Well, I have my 2 closest friends to be with, and they never will ditch me for
their boyfriend. There are a lot of guys revolving around us, but we all seem to
get along very, very well. At least, no one knows yet. ^_~
What I would do, is to talk to them. Get their attention and show them that her
friend cares for her, even though she's found her special someone. You might
also want to try talking to the guy, so you can stick into them some more. I
know I'm not very helpful, but this is all I can say. I hope it helps.^^
I'm going through a similar situation, though the weird thing is that my friends
aren't going out, they are just being way too good friends and ignoring me in
the spot. Things are changing, and learning the lesson of how people are, so I
ignore them from time to time, and if they feel like hanging with me, then it's
all cool.
The strange part of this is that only my he friend hangs with me, she doesn't.
Seems like she doesn't like me. =/
Don't worry, it's normal if your friend starts neglecting you because he/she is
in a new relationship. Try to see it from his/her point of view. You want to get
off to a good start and have a good foundation to build on, or sometime they
might be embarrassed to show that they're in a relationship. Give it some
time.
But after a while and they're still neglecting you, you need to let him/her
know,
What would you do if your friends starts having boyfriend/girlfriend and starts ignoring you?
This is kind of what's happening to me right now, but I'll just ignore them cuz it's their business and look for other friends to be with.
Yeah, I kind of learned that lesson. The whole experience of it all wasn't really...fun.
*checks age* Okay, so you'r 17. that means we're talking high school relationships. *sigh* The thing about young love in real life is that it doesn't last alot of times. When people get a new girlfriend or boyfriend it's like a kid getting something brand new to play with. At first they devote all their time and attention to it, but gradually get bored and move on. At that point they'll realize their friends are more important than a fling (at least until the next time). Now this isn't how all relationships work out. This is just based on observations of my own friends. Maybe this helps alittle? If it doesn't I'm sorry. If you want to go into more detail I might be able to help further. (if this first attempt failed)
if you're really good friends with them, then stick it out. they probably don;t want to lose you if you are good friends, and when the bf/gf situation calms down, they;ll need you around.
or, if they suck, then time to move on from them.
hmm... i think its natural for them to act that way...
XP
my opinion is quite the same with the first two, MidnightMiko & FuriousSpark...
actually, time will solve your problem... all you have to do is wait...
and eventually, your friend will tell you things about him/her & her/his lover, be a good listener if that happens...
so that your friend will realize you're there for him/her...
and after that... you won't be ignored...
hehe... basically an observation... try doing that... if you want...
haven't experienced that situation but i thought of a solution just for you!
That's pretty good.
Love = Toys
uh...i've the same problem kirchu . but well..he start to have gf 3 years ago and they still are togheter all day...i supposed that you can't do nothing about it
on the begin those two start callin me..but well i don't fell like staying with a couple for watch them ..well 2 years alone without social live is what i've get for that .
ah, the infamous bf/gf ignore friend issue. well in defense of your friends i found out that they have to devote many many many hours to their bf/gf, otherwise the bf/gf might get jealous saying "you hang out with that girl/guy than you do with me!" blah blah blah. Then again they could also be devoting too much time with them and not having enough time to spend with you. What to do in this situation really depends on you and if you'll still be their friend even though they don't devote as much time to you as before or you could voice how you feel and deal with the situation from there. Best of luck to you =)
I'd congratulate my friend and life still goes on coz i understand that he/she has to spend time with his/her lover so its ok haha.
Bhe.. this is a toughie. Kirchu you bring up so many excellent points.^^
Well, I have my 2 closest friends to be with, and they never will ditch me for their boyfriend. There are a lot of guys revolving around us, but we all seem to get along very, very well. At least, no one knows yet. ^_~
What I would do, is to talk to them. Get their attention and show them that her friend cares for her, even though she's found her special someone. You might also want to try talking to the guy, so you can stick into them some more. I know I'm not very helpful, but this is all I can say. I hope it helps.^^
I'm going through a similar situation, though the weird thing is that my friends aren't going out, they are just being way too good friends and ignoring me in the spot. Things are changing, and learning the lesson of how people are, so I ignore them from time to time, and if they feel like hanging with me, then it's all cool.
The strange part of this is that only my he friend hangs with me, she doesn't. Seems like she doesn't like me. =/
Beats me.
Got no friends.
Freshman in high school...
And surrounded by idiots while there.
i do what i always do...be alone anyways
Discontinuation of friendship affective immediately.
Don't worry, it's normal if your friend starts neglecting you because he/she is in a new relationship. Try to see it from his/her point of view. You want to get off to a good start and have a good foundation to build on, or sometime they might be embarrassed to show that they're in a relationship. Give it some time.
But after a while and they're still neglecting you, you need to let him/her know,