sounds like a spoilt brat there. i supposed this kinda stuff is quite common
especially since u all gotta live together. she's tooooo pampered in my
opinion.. & that takes the fun outta living together...
my suggestion would be to kick her outta the place totally. and if $$$ is a
problem, find some other one willing to share in the community life. otherwise..
i guess it'll be harder on all of u. but if u guys are not willing to lose her
share of $$$ in the rent and all... maybe can suggest to her that she pay more
than the others so she don't help out.. while the rest of u share out the burden
of cleaning & all.. i supposed that will work..
since all of u r away from home.. i think unity is the best... since she wanna
be lazy.. ask her what she can offer of herself to be in the group.. so everyone
chip in their best offering.. say if ur hardworking.. but less well off.. you
can offer to work more than others but pay less.. while another one who is well
off but lazy can juz pay off more? i dunno.. but i think the best way is all of
u sit down & discuss this properly.. without anyone getting hot tempered...
She is just skiping her dutys, by crying her way out af it, It wouldent be nice
to see her leave but if she want everyone else to do everything for her then
maybe it is best for her to leave.
I'm suprised at the attitude of people these days, 'kick them out' I'll ask you
that there are many things people don't realise they're doing .. kicking someone
out should be the last option not the first to deal with issues. For someone to
learn there must be someone to teach them and seeing as people grow up
differently, people who worked hard when they grow up can adapt easier to
chores, some people on the other hand have been handfed so they can't easily
adapt, especially if they've been handfed their whole lives.
I know it would probably be unconscionable to simply kick her out, since you're
in a foreign place and she'd have a pretty tough time of it, but she'll need to
be broken of that habit somehow.
I don't think either that kicking her is a good idea... since you have in a way
accept to "take care" of her (but not doing her wishes). Well it could
depend on where she could go after... but she seems to be miserable.
After all a community isn't just about sharing chores, or bills. It also
provides a kind of safety and knowing that you aren't alone even if don't speak
to others make you feel more comfortable. Of course, a good relationship, at
least a respectful one is necessary.
The fact that you say that the other dislike her and that you are vexed seems to
be a good clue that you are all angry (and it's more confrontation that anything
else)... and it isn't the best way to "negociate" fairly, so I really
insist that you have to keep your coolness and look for someone who could be
your mediator.
Quote by polariesounds like a spoilt brat
there. i supposed this kinda stuff is quite common especially since u all gotta
live together. she's tooooo pampered in my opinion.. & that takes the
fun outta living together...
my suggestion would be to kick her outta the place totally. and if $$$ is a
problem, find some other one willing to share in the community life. otherwise..
i guess it'll be harder on all of u. but if u guys are not willing to lose her
share of $$$ in the rent and all... maybe can suggest to her that she pay more
than the others so she don't help out.. while the rest of u share out the burden
of cleaning & all.. i supposed that will work..
since all of u r away from home.. i think unity is the best... since she wanna
be lazy.. ask her what she can offer of herself to be in the group.. so everyone
chip in their best offering.. say if ur hardworking.. but less well off.. you
can offer to work more than others but pay less.. while another one who is well
off but lazy can juz pay off more? i dunno.. but i think the best way is all of
u sit down & discuss this properly.. without anyone getting hot
tempered...
good luck!
that seems like a good idea, thanks very much, why didn't i thought of that, i
should try that.
Quote by alminaI don't think either that
kicking her is a good idea... since you have in a way accept to "take
care" of her (but not doing her wishes). Well it could depend on where she
could go after... but she seems to be miserable.
After all a community isn't just about sharing chores, or bills. It also
provides a kind of safety and knowing that you aren't alone even if don't speak
to others make you feel more comfortable. Of course, a good relationship, at
least a respectful one is necessary.
The fact that you say that the other dislike her and that you are vexed seems to
be a good clue that you are all angry (and it's more confrontation that anything
else)... and it isn't the best way to "negociate" fairly, so I really
insist that you have to keep your coolness and look for someone who could be
your mediator.
I also wonder if all this is worth it.
indeed, but so far, vexed in my dictionary means annoyed, not yet angry, i have
only been truly angry twice that is way back in my gangster days. so i say, i am
still keeping the cool, i am still planning to give her chances, hopefully,
within the next month, she will begin to see the bigger picture.
I think that girl has a problem with her attitude. She must try to change her
laziness. And she must try to interact with others nicely. And since she is
living in a community, she must contribute some work. I think that you have done
the right thing. You have tried to talk to her but she didn't try to change
herself. That's her fault for not changing her attitude.
nah.....lately, from the last three days, my friend has asked her to go to the
church, she seems to be feeling better now, just hope that now she is willing to
help her fellow community..,
i think u guy should be friends with her. once friends, u r on an equal status,
then slowly work the jobs into her. being friends means able to tell her that
this is not like home, no mom or dad to treate her like a spoi brat, if she want
to be a brat then leave
sounds like a spoilt brat there. i supposed this kinda stuff is quite common especially since u all gotta live together. she's tooooo pampered in my opinion.. & that takes the fun outta living together...
my suggestion would be to kick her outta the place totally. and if $$$ is a problem, find some other one willing to share in the community life. otherwise.. i guess it'll be harder on all of u. but if u guys are not willing to lose her share of $$$ in the rent and all... maybe can suggest to her that she pay more than the others so she don't help out.. while the rest of u share out the burden of cleaning & all.. i supposed that will work..
since all of u r away from home.. i think unity is the best... since she wanna be lazy.. ask her what she can offer of herself to be in the group.. so everyone chip in their best offering.. say if ur hardworking.. but less well off.. you can offer to work more than others but pay less.. while another one who is well off but lazy can juz pay off more? i dunno.. but i think the best way is all of u sit down & discuss this properly.. without anyone getting hot tempered...
good luck!
She is just skiping her dutys, by crying her way out af it, It wouldent be nice to see her leave but if she want everyone else to do everything for her then maybe it is best for her to leave.
Damn lazy.....kick her out I say
I'm suprised at the attitude of people these days, 'kick them out' I'll ask you that there are many things people don't realise they're doing .. kicking someone out should be the last option not the first to deal with issues. For someone to learn there must be someone to teach them and seeing as people grow up differently, people who worked hard when they grow up can adapt easier to chores, some people on the other hand have been handfed so they can't easily adapt, especially if they've been handfed their whole lives.
"Those that don't work, don't eat". <-- Hmm...
I know it would probably be unconscionable to simply kick her out, since you're in a foreign place and she'd have a pretty tough time of it, but she'll need to be broken of that habit somehow.
I don't think either that kicking her is a good idea... since you have in a way accept to "take care" of her (but not doing her wishes). Well it could depend on where she could go after... but she seems to be miserable.
After all a community isn't just about sharing chores, or bills. It also provides a kind of safety and knowing that you aren't alone even if don't speak to others make you feel more comfortable. Of course, a good relationship, at least a respectful one is necessary.
The fact that you say that the other dislike her and that you are vexed seems to be a good clue that you are all angry (and it's more confrontation that anything else)... and it isn't the best way to "negociate" fairly, so I really insist that you have to keep your coolness and look for someone who could be your mediator.
I also wonder if all this is worth it.
that seems like a good idea, thanks very much, why didn't i thought of that, i should try that.
indeed, but so far, vexed in my dictionary means annoyed, not yet angry, i have only been truly angry twice that is way back in my gangster days. so i say, i am still keeping the cool, i am still planning to give her chances, hopefully, within the next month, she will begin to see the bigger picture.
i still think kicking her out /getting angry is the worst idea.
I think that girl has a problem with her attitude. She must try to change her laziness. And she must try to interact with others nicely. And since she is living in a community, she must contribute some work. I think that you have done the right thing. You have tried to talk to her but she didn't try to change herself. That's her fault for not changing her attitude.
chuck her out of the house!!!! xdddddd
nah.....lately, from the last three days, my friend has asked her to go to the church, she seems to be feeling better now, just hope that now she is willing to help her fellow community..,
she is willing to speak to all of us now...
i think u guy should be friends with her. once friends, u r on an equal status, then slowly work the jobs into her. being friends means able to tell her that this is not like home, no mom or dad to treate her like a spoi brat, if she want to be a brat then leave
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