i never had one,so i was thinking whats so great about them,also id love to have
one,my main reason i came here is to exsperiance one ,but
anyway for all you who have those type of relationships,are they worth it? i
mean you cant have sex,sept cybering,which yeah who doesnt like it,and you cant
hold the person or kiss them,is it all just one big tease?
hmm well i can speak from exp,i feel the intrenet relationships are best,thou
distance place a factor in it,but just think,you find this amazing person over
the net and you find wow we are so alike,then when ya get older you can go see
them,and also ive had only 2 internet relation ships but plent of real life,and
well the real life ones royaly sucked ,but the
angel im with now is just to perfect lol ^^
I did have an internet relationship once but in my opion i think there totally
worthless i like real life relationships way better! in internet
relationships you realy cant do anything but talk to the person which after a
while gets kinda boring. I had one once but i dont think i will ever have
another internet relationship. because in a real life relationship you can hug
and kiss and hangout with the person. and in a internet one you cant.
its also hard to be shallow when you can't see the person you're talking to. it
makes you question what really makes you fall for someone.
also, if you stop liking someone after you've seen their picture, you may have
to consider whether you really are shallow after all.
its interesting.
there was a time I did... then I thought to myself... "for all I know this
might be a guy... giving a photo of his sister" but then I thought "no
she's pretty honest" but then again I was thinking "it's better to
meet a friend in real life... build a friendship then date then to immediately
date with someone over cyberspace... and who knows who they might be... but
yeeeeah... it is very troubling... but some people have great luck with it
I too
can speak from experience on this. I guess it really has to depend on how
dedicated you will be. I will say that it has it's up and down.
Every where u go u just feel like *sigh* "i will never find the perfect
gurl/guy" and next thin you notice boom here's sum one 1-3,000 miles away.
Everything seems to be clicking well and next thin you notice ur liking this
person. I will say the feelin your gettin is worth it to an extent. The only
thin that really sux is the 'Physical
Touch'. Soon after you get all hook to this person that you want to be
with him/her but reality kicks in [Assuming that your 16-18 and cannot drive
yet] The reality is your so far away that you may 'never' see them that's when the feelin will start to kick u from
behind.
I will say nothing is better than finding sum one u can be with that much is a
given. BUT at the same time Internet is always a way to escape reality and live
in that fantasy for how ever long it takes.
People will say it's a good thin and people will even disagree, u as a person
should just see how it is for you. If you like it stick with it if it feels like
you dont let it go.
I don't believe in internet love. Even if the other person is sincere; people
change from internet to real life, her/his personality can be totally different
from what you know.
Also, if you live in the other point of the planet distance is a problem, tryin
Internet love is all about patience. Getting to know the person, being at the
right age at the right time, and making arrangements so that you could
communicate with the person rather frequently are all major factors in the
evolution of internet love to real life love. One of the real indicators is if
the person on the other side begins to share stories of the past, especially the
sad parts of the past; that's kind of like a comfort factor as if the person on
the other side needs to be comforted from the sadness.
A few tips to keep in mind if you advocate internet love or are indulged in an
internet love are to make sure that you get a picture of the person on the other
side beforehand (a webcam is even better and more evident). If the person on the
other side isn't willing to show you his or her picture, then more than likely,
the appearance doesn't cut it. If you find at times that the person on the other
side doesn't display any words of love, then he or she isn't worth it. If you
find that you're getting into day to day arguments that often take the love away
from both people, then it's not worth it. There are many different factors in
maintaining online love, but they could only work out if both people absolutely trust each other. Lastly, it's a
given that personalities may be different from online to offline, such as a more
stern personality online but a frail one offline, so it's wise to find out about
that too. ^_^
huh?! What the hell? Come on! If you can't figure out for yourself which is
better....... man.......
Internet is Internet, Reality is Life. Man... i can say that it's awesome to
have a bunch of babes wanting you over the net, but i can also say that it's
hell better to have a bunch of babes wanting you in real life.
besides, sex over the net or real sex, which do you think is better? :3
Hahaha....
(....man.... internet love..... a pretty
pathetic thing....... stop it before i vomit... ..........)
Internet relationships? I'd be worried about the person I'm talking to being a
psychopath, but the chances of that are minimal... right? Anyway, I think
internet relationships shouldn't be taken as seriously as real ones of course.
They are kinda fun, only if you are just friends and have no intent getting
serious... how do you get serious on the internet?... Anyway, I don't think too
much emotion should be involved on the internet.
It may be very crazy what I am going to say but one has to be very carefull with
the emission of feelings that a person can express. Personaly I had not have
such kind of experience but I prefer to think of a love relationship as
something more concrete.
http://www.lovingyou.com/content/groups/online/content.shtml?ART=olrbenefits
- there are certainly a lot of rewarding benefits to an online relationship as
there are being with someone offline and immediate. Having a bond spiritually
and mentally is very important and thus blocks out a lot of the lust for sex,
not to mention that you are able to express your feelings without holding back.
If sex becomes part of the plan, then it's kind of like a thought ahead;
everything online is like a thought ahead. After time, even when the two people
are together, they will be comfortable communicating each other. Most of all, in
most online relationships, the people are loved for who they are. I do know that
there are drawbacks especially with the trust issue, but again, absolute trust
between you and the person on the other side must be established. So I wouldn't
consider an online relationship pathetic or sad because some online
relationships actually get much farther than some offline.
i agree with SilverDrago89. the are dangerous. that other person can say they
are anyone, can get any picture they want and give it to you and so on. just me
though.
I was in one twice and to tell you the truth it's basically really just someone
to tell your problems to, or just to talk to or some crap like that, what i
really find pathetic(yes I did do it also but I had the hardest time trying to
type this crap out), is when people do that crap like, "awwwww, I love you,
no I love you!, well I love you more! etc... so cute, adorable(I'm looking at
you CY!)" and then basically when you're in one almost half of it is drama
the other half making googly eyes at each other *blech* So that's my stance! do
i have research to back it up probably not! do I care? hell no!
okay im definitely not 16
*gomen*..*gets chased out*...
but i met my bf online as friends at first and then i met him in reality.. ^_^
good thing is that we don't live far away. we're still going on really
smoothly~~
erm erm, i really think an online relationship is pointless. i mean, yeah the
disadvantage is that you possibly won't get to meet him/her. cyber sexing is
dumb lol, i'd rather do the real thing than just seeing dirty words @_@;.. (but
remember im still... not even 16 lol) .. well, try avoiding getting into online
relationships. it's just a waste of time.
yeah i see yas all points both good and bad,but life is sometimes worth a risk
thou right,and sometimes it could be for the good,but what i think in my opion a
internet relation ship is good for,is company,thats all really,cuzz liek ya said
you cant touch see or feel,so comfort of knowing your loved its basicallly all
theres to it i think,which thats not wrong either i dont think.
I met my girlfriend off AOL back in summer of 2001 and we hit it off almost
immediately...the same night we started typing, she asked for my phone number
and said she wanted to talk on the phone. We stayed up literally all night for
the next few nights. 5 days later, she came and met me...we kissed the moment we
saw each other and even though we were shy around each other at first, we were
all over each other like it was nobody's business near the end of the night. We
had broken up around early 2002 though and it was a bad breakup.
I chose to never talk to her again but one fateful night in April of 2003, I
came home drunk and decided to IM her for the hell of it. She caught me online 2
days later and we talked about what's been goin on in our lives and I thought
that was it. She came down and saw me that same night at 2 in the morning in
Manhattan and she ended up coming over and stayed the night...we even slept in
my bed together! We immediately fell in love again that night...and we've been
together ever since!
So basically, don't count the internet out. You can meet some great people from
it and you can definitely build friendships much faster than you would normally,
since you have that extra time to think about what you'd wanna "say."
Another bonus is that people tend to open up a lot more on the net, so it didn't
take long to know what kind of sexual fantasies and stuff people have. My only
advice is that should you wanna pursue some type of relationship, don't just go
for anyone on the net....at least make sure they're within distance, send you
pictures and at least have a convo on the phone sometime to see how genuine they
are. And if you decide to meet up, ask if you can bring a friend or meet
somewhere that has lots of people around.
Quote by JiZamesSo basically, don't count
the internet out. You can meet some great people from it and you can definitely
build friendships much faster than you would normally, since you have that extra
time to think about what you'd wanna "say." My only advice is that
should you wanna pursue some type of relationship, don't just go for anyone on
the net....at least make sure they're within distance, send you pictures and at
least have a convo on the phone sometime to see how genuine they are.
Agreed. Sometimes, even offline doesn't cut it because you
notice everyone around your presence and then decide it's not the best of places
to go searching for someone. However, for internet, distance, appearance, and
the proper communication are important factors for these kinds of relationships
to work out. It's more than likely that a relationship in which the two are just
a few hundred miles apart will work out, but a relationship in which the two
people are thousands of miles apart or overseas won't work out. Some fear that
going for people offline requires a lot of prompt social skills which is
something they may not have or may not be ready for, so they give up and go on
the internet where the pace is a bit slower. ^_^
wisely said mel,i agree with this 100% see the internet is just like a phone,you
meet somebody,and this way you get to know them before you meet them,they pour
thee soul to you,but yeah sometimes you have the fakes,but aske yourself,how
honest are you really,imean theres things i would never tell ANYBODY,cuz well
there just complicated things to discuss,but internet relationships happen
alot,and work out alot,i have a buddy in england and his girl is in america,they
see each other i think a couple times a year,and they say the love is great,thou
i couldnt live that way,like me as soon as i get my licenes im going to kasses
house if not sooner,cuz i want to be with my baby girl,
i never had one,so i was thinking whats so great about them,also id love to have one,my main reason i came here is to exsperiance one
,but
anyway for all you who have those type of relationships,are they worth it? i
mean you cant have sex,sept cybering,which yeah who doesnt like it,and you cant
hold the person or kiss them,is it all just one big tease?
hmm well i can speak from exp,i feel the intrenet relationships are best,thou distance place a factor in it,but just think,you find this amazing person over the net and you find wow we are so alike,then when ya get older you can go see them,and also ive had only 2 internet relation ships but plent of real life,and well the real life ones royaly sucked
,but the
angel im with now is just to perfect lol ^^
I did have an internet relationship once but in my opion i think there totally worthless
i like real life relationships way better! in internet
relationships you realy cant do anything but talk to the person which after a
while gets kinda boring. I had one once but i dont think i will ever have
another internet relationship. because in a real life relationship you can hug
and kiss and hangout with the person. and in a internet one you cant.
its also hard to be shallow when you can't see the person you're talking to. it makes you question what really makes you fall for someone.
also, if you stop liking someone after you've seen their picture, you may have to consider whether you really are shallow after all.
its interesting.
there was a time I did... then I thought to myself... "for all I know this might be a guy... giving a photo of his sister" but then I thought "no she's pretty honest" but then again I was thinking "it's better to meet a friend in real life... build a friendship then date then to immediately date with someone over cyberspace... and who knows who they might be... but yeeeeah... it is very troubling... but some people have great luck with it
Every where u go u just feel like *sigh* "i will never find the perfect gurl/guy" and next thin you notice boom here's sum one 1-3,000 miles away. Everything seems to be clicking well and next thin you notice ur liking this person. I will say the feelin your gettin is worth it to an extent. The only thin that really sux is the 'Physical Touch'. Soon after you get all hook to this person that you want to be with him/her but reality kicks in [Assuming that your 16-18 and cannot drive yet] The reality is your so far away that you may 'never' see them that's when the feelin will start to kick u from behind.
I will say nothing is better than finding sum one u can be with that much is a given. BUT at the same time Internet is always a way to escape reality and live in that fantasy for how ever long it takes.
People will say it's a good thin and people will even disagree, u as a person should just see how it is for you. If you like it stick with it if it feels like you dont let it go.
I don't believe in internet love. Even if the other person is sincere; people change from internet to real life, her/his personality can be totally different from what you know.
Also, if you live in the other point of the planet distance is a problem, tryin
Internet love is all about patience. Getting to know the person, being at the right age at the right time, and making arrangements so that you could communicate with the person rather frequently are all major factors in the evolution of internet love to real life love. One of the real indicators is if the person on the other side begins to share stories of the past, especially the sad parts of the past; that's kind of like a comfort factor as if the person on the other side needs to be comforted from the sadness.
A few tips to keep in mind if you advocate internet love or are indulged in an internet love are to make sure that you get a picture of the person on the other side beforehand (a webcam is even better and more evident). If the person on the other side isn't willing to show you his or her picture, then more than likely, the appearance doesn't cut it. If you find at times that the person on the other side doesn't display any words of love, then he or she isn't worth it. If you find that you're getting into day to day arguments that often take the love away from both people, then it's not worth it. There are many different factors in maintaining online love, but they could only work out if both people absolutely trust each other. Lastly, it's a given that personalities may be different from online to offline, such as a more stern personality online but a frail one offline, so it's wise to find out about that too. ^_^
huh?! What the hell? Come on! If you can't figure out for yourself which is better....... man.......
Internet is Internet, Reality is Life. Man... i can say that it's awesome to have a bunch of babes wanting you over the net, but i can also say that it's hell better to have a bunch of babes wanting you in real life.
besides, sex over the net or real sex, which do you think is better? :3 Hahaha....
(....man.... internet love..... a pretty pathetic thing....... stop it before i vomit... ..........)
dude i aint questioning that lol, i prefer real life babes
and yeah real life sex is another plus,im asking why do you all like it?
Internet relationships? I'd be worried about the person I'm talking to being a psychopath, but the chances of that are minimal... right? Anyway, I think internet relationships shouldn't be taken as seriously as real ones of course. They are kinda fun, only if you are just friends and have no intent getting serious... how do you get serious on the internet?... Anyway, I don't think too much emotion should be involved on the internet.
It may be very crazy what I am going to say but one has to be very carefull with the emission of feelings that a person can express. Personaly I had not have such kind of experience but I prefer to think of a love relationship as something more concrete.
I don't think it would be that great. They could be lying to you.
http://www.lovingyou.com/content/groups/online/content.shtml?ART=olrbenefits - there are certainly a lot of rewarding benefits to an online relationship as there are being with someone offline and immediate. Having a bond spiritually and mentally is very important and thus blocks out a lot of the lust for sex, not to mention that you are able to express your feelings without holding back. If sex becomes part of the plan, then it's kind of like a thought ahead; everything online is like a thought ahead. After time, even when the two people are together, they will be comfortable communicating each other. Most of all, in most online relationships, the people are loved for who they are. I do know that there are drawbacks especially with the trust issue, but again, absolute trust between you and the person on the other side must be established. So I wouldn't consider an online relationship pathetic or sad because some online relationships actually get much farther than some offline.
http://www.lovingyou.com/content/groups/online/ - more information is on the page. ^_^
Meh, I still think that online relationships are a bit risky.
i agree with SilverDrago89. the are dangerous. that other person can say they are anyone, can get any picture they want and give it to you and so on. just me though.
yeah I agree with SilverDragon89 too..too risky
I was in one twice and to tell you the truth it's basically really just someone to tell your problems to, or just to talk to or some crap like that, what i really find pathetic(yes I did do it also but I had the hardest time trying to type this crap out), is when people do that crap like, "awwwww, I love you, no I love you!, well I love you more! etc... so cute, adorable(I'm looking at you CY!)" and then basically when you're in one almost half of it is drama the other half making googly eyes at each other *blech* So that's my stance! do i have research to back it up probably not! do I care? hell no!
I met my wife on AIM
wow @__@;..
okay im definitely not 16
*gomen*..*gets chased out*...
but i met my bf online as friends at first and then i met him in reality.. ^_^ good thing is that we don't live far away. we're still going on really smoothly~~
erm erm, i really think an online relationship is pointless. i mean, yeah the disadvantage is that you possibly won't get to meet him/her. cyber sexing is dumb lol, i'd rather do the real thing than just seeing dirty words @_@;.. (but remember im still... not even 16 lol) .. well, try avoiding getting into online relationships. it's just a waste of time.
yeah i see yas all points both good and bad,but life is sometimes worth a risk thou right,and sometimes it could be for the good,but what i think in my opion a internet relation ship is good for,is company,thats all really,cuzz liek ya said you cant touch see or feel,so comfort of knowing your loved its basicallly all theres to it i think,which thats not wrong either i dont think.
I met my girlfriend off AOL back in summer of 2001 and we hit it off almost immediately...the same night we started typing, she asked for my phone number and said she wanted to talk on the phone. We stayed up literally all night for the next few nights. 5 days later, she came and met me...we kissed the moment we saw each other and even though we were shy around each other at first, we were all over each other like it was nobody's business near the end of the night. We had broken up around early 2002 though and it was a bad breakup.
I chose to never talk to her again but one fateful night in April of 2003, I came home drunk and decided to IM her for the hell of it. She caught me online 2 days later and we talked about what's been goin on in our lives and I thought that was it. She came down and saw me that same night at 2 in the morning in Manhattan and she ended up coming over and stayed the night...we even slept in my bed together! We immediately fell in love again that night...and we've been together ever since!
So basically, don't count the internet out. You can meet some great people from it and you can definitely build friendships much faster than you would normally, since you have that extra time to think about what you'd wanna "say." Another bonus is that people tend to open up a lot more on the net, so it didn't take long to know what kind of sexual fantasies and stuff people have.
My only
advice is that should you wanna pursue some type of relationship, don't just go
for anyone on the net....at least make sure they're within distance, send you
pictures and at least have a convo on the phone sometime to see how genuine they
are. And if you decide to meet up, ask if you can bring a friend or meet
somewhere that has lots of people around.
Agreed. Sometimes, even offline doesn't cut it because you notice everyone around your presence and then decide it's not the best of places to go searching for someone. However, for internet, distance, appearance, and the proper communication are important factors for these kinds of relationships to work out. It's more than likely that a relationship in which the two are just a few hundred miles apart will work out, but a relationship in which the two people are thousands of miles apart or overseas won't work out. Some fear that going for people offline requires a lot of prompt social skills which is something they may not have or may not be ready for, so they give up and go on the internet where the pace is a bit slower. ^_^
wisely said mel,i agree with this 100% see the internet is just like a phone,you meet somebody,and this way you get to know them before you meet them,they pour thee soul to you,but yeah sometimes you have the fakes,but aske yourself,how honest are you really,imean theres things i would never tell ANYBODY,cuz well there just complicated things to discuss,but internet relationships happen alot,and work out alot,i have a buddy in england and his girl is in america,they see each other i think a couple times a year,and they say the love is great,thou i couldnt live that way,like me as soon as i get my licenes im going to kasses house if not sooner,cuz i want to be with my baby girl,