Quote: who make young girls pregnant, runs off, denies that
child is his,
and does not take care of the mother and the child really pisses me off.
What pisses me off even more is if that same male makes another
young girl pregnant.
These kinds of males should be shot.
... See, I'm a guy who wouldn't ever leave his girlfriend no matter what happens
to her or what happens to me, and this includes pregnancy. If you're a real man,
accept your new responsibility and take care of the kid...
I agree with that, if I make a girl pregnant, then I will stay with her and
take
full responsiblity for my actions.
And yes these guy greatly deserves to be eliminate from Earth, but I think
that's being too easy on them, instead lock them up for life in a ultimate
security prison.
Yes you say that now. But when and if it happens do you truly think that your
mind will be thinking rationally?
Use condoms, morning after pills, etc. Easiest way to still have fun, without
the unwanted consequences. Nothing will prevent pregnancy 100%, but it comes
damn close to that number. Plus, you'll prevent STD's =)
With the exception of rape victims, teenage pregnancy is a case of blatant
ignorance and lack of sex education. It frustrates me how pubescent teens can be
taken advantage of like that. But it also frustrates me how if a child is old
enough to lose their virginity and get pregnant, they're not old enough to face
the consequences.
Pregnant at 12? What a way to throw away your life.
Males who make young girls pregnant, runs off, denies that child is his,
and does not take care of the mother and the child really pisses me off.
What pisses me off even more is if that same male makes another
young girl pregnant.
gurl u got the WORDS OUT OF MA MOUTH!
WELL WUT tiki223 is sayin IS THA TRUTH! STRAIGHT UP THE TRUTH!
>=0000000~~~~~!
and umm it's really sad that guys are like that if they don't wanna have that
issue, well then don't have sex! Or at least have a serious relationship that u
REALLY LOVE ur partner!
and ALL guys are like that! waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah so much SADNESS, well
some are...gee
ne ne well that's wut I THINK! *jajajajaja*
weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee~!
I agree with that, if I make a girl pregnant, then I will stay with her and
take
full responsiblity for my actions.
And yes these guy greatly deserves to be eliminate from Earth, but I think
that's being too easy on them, instead lock them up for life in a ultimate
security prison.
Yes you say that now. But when and if it happens do you truly think that your
mind will be thinking rationally?
this i do agree with but you have to keep in mind every circumstance is
diffrent....i have a friend who got a girl pregnant and at first ran...why u
ask.... cuz it scared him so bad he about soiled himself
now they have been married for over thirty years and dont tell me u wouldnt
almost piss in your pants
ofcourse we all understand mistakes and some in this culture come with
punishments ...... like did u know in biblical times the girl gets married and
with children at 13-15 and man is married and working at 14-16.....now before
you think well this kid has no clue what he is talking about ,consider
this-girls dont you feel the need to hold something and care for something at
the ages of 13-15(hence why u girls get pets) -and boys i know from personal
experience it feels really good knowing you wooped ass and got a job done! thats
the way god designed many things(it just makes sense) and for those who dont
believe in god i do not mean to insult at all
so right back to the point if a guy does get a girl pregnant well he should
stick with the girl and they decide what to do... and if the guy does run well
come on i would be a little shaken up to wouldnt
you?
Quote by JenosydesWhisperMatrixWhen
it comes to sex and getting pregnant it is quite simple...don't do it. Now the
guy will make you feel all bad because you said no and he may even get angry but
remember it doesn't make you any less of a person for saying no. If you need
better fodder than that just think of your life at 16 or 17 with a kid...it's
not fun at all. Having sex doesn't make you a woman or a man or anything like
that it just puts you in more risks of getting pregnant or getting some STD. Now
I'm 24 and am still a virgin and will remain so for the rest of my life but I
have never looked down on myself because of that. Giving into the pressure of
having sex and also doing drugs is really a weakness in my eyes. If you make a
promise then you have to stick with it. I
promised a long time ago ever to smoke, drink, or do drugs I also made the
promise that I wouldn't have sex until after I'm married and I have held onto
that. No one is worth giving up your self worth.
(Nods)
Agreed. You can do anything you set your mind to. Those who look for excuses cuz
of their own poor choices are just weak.
Quote by JenosydesWhisperMatrixWhen
it comes to sex and getting pregnant it is quite simple...don't do it. Now the
guy will make you feel all bad because you said no and he may even get angry but
remember it doesn't make you any less of a person for saying no. If you need
better fodder than that just think of your life at 16 or 17 with a kid...it's
not fun at all. Having sex doesn't make you a woman or a man or anything like
that it just puts you in more risks of getting pregnant or getting some STD. Now
I'm 24 and am still a virgin and will remain so for the rest of my life but I
have never looked down on myself because of that. Giving into the pressure of
having sex and also doing drugs is really a weakness in my eyes. If you make a
promise then you have to stick with it. I
promised a long time ago ever to smoke, drink, or do drugs I also made the
promise that I wouldn't have sex until after I'm married and I have held onto
that. No one is worth giving up your self worth.
(Nods)
Well i just think thats silly to be honest...sure we dont want teen pregnancies
but whats the chance of actually getting pregnant if ure on the pills and use a
condom? 0.001%? Educating teens about having safer sex is the way
<- loves sex(oh noes i will go to hell )
Having kids is the original purpose of having sex. Getting pregent after sex
shouldn't be unexpected. There are no exuses. You either have to abort and kill
the unborn unwanted child, or have the child ruin your unprepared life.
I suppose I won't really understand this issue; I don't intend to fall pregnant
early and let it determine what will be of my life. Which, I hope, is full of
potential
But seriously, we should be educated on sex early- this information is CRUCIAL.
My mum didn't try to avoid this topic with me- I asked why male and female
bodies looked so different when I was two. And I was always attracted to those
bright condom wrappers ^^
I think we can blame society a little- we are all a little squeamish about sex.
One should be able to ask questions freely and know what the consequences and
pleasures sex gives. The rest is up to that person; whether they choose to risk
it or not.
Funny, we all are right to a certain degree in what we've said. And that's just
it. As someone mentioned before, each instance is very different for each
couple. Teenage pregnancy is a very difficult issue as there are many aspects
that need to be considered before any opinion can be said.
To a certain degree teenage pregnancy is almost inexcusable due to the very wide
availability of contraceptives... even free ones in certain clinics, aids
groups, and even countries. But then again, one cannot use what we do not know.
So sex education becomes an important factor. If we have kids getting pregnant
at 12, wouldn't the obvious measure be giving sex-ed at that age? Yes, yes... I
know some prudes who are scandalized with what I'm saying but INFORMATION IS
POWER and if teenagers are informed early on of the steps they can take to avoid
preganancy and the consequences of being pregnant at that age, and of having sex
at that age, I think many would reconsider their position on having sex, or at
least unprotected sex.
We cannot leave the issue to schools, government or religious groups. This needs
to be tackled at the family level. OK I'm not extremely comfortable talking with
my parents about sex, but hey at least they give me an honest answer. When was
the last time someone gave you an honest answer about sex wihout promoting a
specific agenda (abstinence in religious groups, sexual liberalism in
governments, etc...)? At the end of the day, the decision is going to be made by
us (or the teens), not the parents, the teacher, the president, the vicar or the
pope. We are responsible for deciding and if we have the information we need,
our decision will at least be the best one we can think of.
REMEMBER each one makes their very own decision, and if yours is abstinence, go
for it with all your heart and never look back. The same goes to those who
decide having sex, do it responsibly and be aware of the possible consequences
of your acts (unwanted pregnancies, unfulfilled sexual desires, etc...). Both
decisions will follow you throughout your life.
And if you still get pregnant in your teen years, tell your parents. In only the
smallest of circumstances they will not try to help you. Most parents love their
kids to death so, give them a chance. They are as scared as you are and they do
not know how to react. Remember they had their own hopes for your future (even
if they have not told you so) and a teen pregnancy will change all that, so it
is very scary and difficult to handle (I'm sure most want you to become the
President, the best Soccer Player, the next Nobe Prize or other stuff like
that)
Enjoy your life. That is why we are here for... to enjoy, learn and be the best
we can be.
The correct term is masturbation ... sexual act done outside of a marriage. In
case you all don't know, that's a violation of the 9th Commandment.
Somehow, I don't think that adults can't help us in matters like these. If you
ask the question without being so conscious about what you're saying, then the
adult you're consulting won't think badly of you and answer your question (ever
since I was taking up the ninth Commandment and its violations, I've been asking
my mom about masturbation ... for the sake of recitation in class, of
course).
Virgnity doesn't make a person a lesser being ... in fact I prefer being a
virgin (which is exactly whai I am now.)
No I didn't feel like this. With me it's simple you see - either safe sex or no
sex. I have a brain and I use it. I don't have to be teached in school that if I
have sex unsecured and I won't be careful enough I can destroy my and the
partners life - that's pretty obvious. I don't plan to be a father in the next
10 years at least, I want to live my life. If someone gets a girl pregnant this
soon I can only think of one thing to say to him - what the hell were you
thinking?
Well, like a lot of you guys, i think that this is still a big problem, even if
we're in countries who should prevent those kinda problems.
I don't care about the ages of the kids 'cause if they want to have fun well go
for it but the problem is can they take responsabalities even if they know the
risks they're taking?
Well maybe they don,t really realise those risks...So that's what we should be
able to thell them and teach them
"We" means school and parents and all who can help them.
They have to think about the child's future if pregnancy comes, and even about
their own futures. And like you say guys above (don't remember the names) , the
boy in this situation should take his responsabilities and he would be a real
bastard to abandon his girlfriend..and maybe go and make another kid with
another girl...course a good person wouldn't do that.
It is a big problem for the girl and the guy has to help her, if not she would
have a lot of difficulties and so will have the baby...By not being next to her,
the guy would probably ruin the kid's life and the girl's one too...
They have to know about everything
Most of the time it seems like sexuality education teachers are more likely to
focus on abstinence and less likely to provide students with information on
birth control, how to obtain contraceptive services, sexual orientation and
abortion than they were 15 years ago. I heard that they believe that by the end
of the 7th grade, students should have been taught about puberty, how HIV is
transmitted, STDs, how to resist peer pressure to have sex, implications of
teenage parenthood, abstinence from intercourse, dating, sexual abuse and
nonsexual ways to show affection.
When it comes to sex men become stupid and act before thinking. Men are at fault
but women have the final say in it. If the woman doesn't want to have sex then
she should give the guy a dirty magazine and tell him to go masturbate in the
corner or something.
I think pregnancy is acceptable at any age, provided you are married at that age
to the father of the baby. And the opposite is always true. Regardless of your
age, I think it is completely unacceptable to get pregnant while not married to
the father of the baby.
School didn't really have that big an impact about what I knew/thought about
sex, since my Mum talked to me about it as soon as I started asking questions.
As for my actual opinion about sex, teen pregnancy, etc... I'm not really sure.
I'm 19 and I have a boyfriend, and I don't think there's anything wrong with
having sex if you're a teen/not married/whatever. But I suppose I would agree,
there is such a thing as being too young. Which is most likely why its illegal
to hav sex with someone under the age of 16 in the first place.
I'm actually in the middle of doing a research project on the distribution of
condoms in public schools and I find it amazing how controversial this subject
matter can be.
In this day and age it would seem that abstinence, is some archaic word who's
meaning has been lost over the last 40 years or so. In most states the child
must first get permission from their parents before they can recieve
contraceptives from a wellness clinic or they the parent has to go with child
and a meet with a counselor, to discuss proper potection, risks, and
alternatives.
Parents need to find a way to discuss this matter with their children on an
adult level, the birds and the bees discussion just doesn't cut the mustard
anymore. It has become painfully clear that we can't leave this decision solely
to the individuals partaking in premarital intercourse.
During the teenage years your libido goes overboard and your thoughts and
actions are led purely by these urges, which for the most part, our brains
haven't developed enough psychologicaly to handle said urges. I've chosen to
abstain, but I don't try to force my opinions, because no two people see Eye to
Eye on any subject. Most especialy on one as personal as this. Sorry about the
long winded tyraid, but I guess what I'm trying to say is that there are other
alternatives out there.
If anyone is curious about some of these options, I suggest talking with your
parents, visiting your local/ campus wellness center, or you could try watching
the 40 Year Old Virgin. That could shed some light.
I, like so many persons wasn't properly educated about sex until Grade eight in
high school and my parents never told me anything about it either but I always
new that it was wrong though and I'm sixteen years old and I'm still a virgin
too. To me, sex is suppose to be a blessing, something that we are suppose to
connect male and females together, but now its being treated as some kind of
luxary used simply for pleasure. And as a result mankind is punnished in the
form of diseases (STDs). Plus, there are some of us out there who are educated
about these things, know about the risk invole and still have sex, and
umprotected sex at that and we males are at fault for this too.
We males take advantage of a girl's heart, knowing full well that she doesn't
want to have sex and because she cherishes the relationship and you so much she
is willing to compromise with us males. Now don't get me wrong, there are
females out there who want to have sex as much as us but still, we are the ones
in control of the relationship and we have been given the responsbility of
protecting a girls body, even if it is from ourselves.
But the real sickning thing is that males have unprotected sex with a female,
she gets pregnant and we don't stand up and take responsiblit for our actions,
dening any claims made against us and as a result, we've not only ruined a girls
future but we're not going to be there to support them in their time of need.
The same females we told them lines to about 'how much we love them, and how we
can't to without them.' Its really sick.
In school there have to be a specila kind of lesson every years in which
teenagers have to ask their questions about sex and in which they get the
informations about this subject!
I think it is really sad if a girl about 15 years gets pregnant and her life is
totally ruined afterwards. Personally I know a girl who is 16 now and she gets
twins next month. She went in my class when I was 12 and now she already got
children to take care of and she has no school exam... It is really sad and I
wish that someday people will take this subject more seriously!
lol, we do have some kind of lesson, or i had
when i lived in belgium and was in the language school, we had 1 week where the
males where in groups and females in groups, and we had lessons about
it.
and the year after at the normal school we had lesseon about sex, and being safe
when having sex lessons, that was for a more time, kinda a bit long, lol, then
there was one where 2 classes teamed up and had sex lessons and quiz about sex,
lol
in the end one of the female students had to go up and try to put a condom on a
plastic ........ ah, think i should stop there
so in america the teachers are to scared eh? funny funny *nods* indeed
i once saw a girl from my old school, she was about 15-16 and had a boyfriend,
he was about 30 or abov, well atleast he had grey hair -.- and also his bard was
and he was old looking, they kissed and so at times o.o
I've had sex ed classes since I was in 5th grade, and a former friend attempted
to rape me when I was in high school -- attempted rape, not rape, my honor is
still intact. Those classes, threats from my mom, and the experience with the
friend convinced me to remain a virgin until I get married. I'm still a virgin,
and I intend to keep it that way. I've always looked down on those who give in
to peer pressure and have sex before marriage.
Pregnancy is just one risk teens face. Most STDs like herpes can be spread via
skin contact.
My friend Lyndsay said that once when she was at the hospital for something, a
10-year-old black girl was there having a baby. I was horrified.
There's no dishonor in not having sex. In fact, it's more honorable -- and safer
-- to not do it.
Quote by DanaelWe cannot leave the issue
to schools, government or religious groups. This needs to be tackled at the
family level. OK I'm not extremely comfortable talking with my parents about
sex, but hey at least they give me an honest answer. When was the last time
someone gave you an honest answer about sex wihout promoting a specific agenda
(abstinence in religious groups, sexual liberalism in governments, etc...)? At
the end of the day, the decision is going to be made by us (or the teens), not
the parents, the teacher, the president, the vicar or the pope. We are
responsible for deciding and if we have the information we need, our decision
will at least be the best one we can think of.
REMEMBER each one makes their very own decision, and if yours is abstinence, go
for it with all your heart and never look back. The same goes to those who
decide having sex, do it responsibly and be aware of the possible consequences
of your acts (unwanted pregnancies, unfulfilled sexual desires, etc...). Both
decisions will follow you throughout your life.
I totally
agree with you, Danael. Schools can only do so much. My boyfriend probably let
most of the sex education go through one ear and out the other =.=;; .. Thank
goodness I'm saving for marriage.. lol.. ><;; .. But this personal
decision was not inspired by my school; it was inspired by my mother and talking
to me about it, as young as 12 years old. Embarassing, and o_O at the time.. but
I'm really thankful for it now. I think her talking to me about it let me set my
goal to stay a virgin early, making it easier for me to keep it.
i feel that today, sex and having a child are two very diffrent things now. i
know many of you might not like or agree with this but it is true. not to say
kids are having sex for all the wrong reasons. if you want to have sex with
someone at a young age out of love but neither of you are ready for a child
useing protection to prevent it is fine. what needs to be done, insted of people
constently trying to stop kids from having sex is teach them and make sure they
are wll aware of the risk, and make proctection easy to get. safe sex or not
kids want it and wont wait.
Yes you say that now. But when and if it happens do you truly think that your mind will be thinking rationally?
Use condoms, morning after pills, etc. Easiest way to still have fun, without the unwanted consequences. Nothing will prevent pregnancy 100%, but it comes damn close to that number. Plus, you'll prevent STD's =)
With the exception of rape victims, teenage pregnancy is a case of blatant ignorance and lack of sex education. It frustrates me how pubescent teens can be taken advantage of like that. But it also frustrates me how if a child is old enough to lose their virginity and get pregnant, they're not old enough to face the consequences.
Pregnant at 12? What a way to throw away your life.
gurl u got the WORDS OUT OF MA MOUTH!
WELL WUT tiki223 is sayin IS THA TRUTH! STRAIGHT UP THE TRUTH! >=0000000~~~~~!
and umm it's really sad that guys are like that if they don't wanna have that issue, well then don't have sex! Or at least have a serious relationship that u REALLY LOVE ur partner!
and ALL guys are like that! waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah so much SADNESS, well some are...gee
ne ne well that's wut I THINK! *jajajajaja*
weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee~!
this i do agree with but you have to keep in mind every circumstance is diffrent....i have a friend who got a girl pregnant and at first ran...why u ask.... cuz it scared him so bad he about soiled himself
now they have been married for over thirty years and dont tell me u wouldnt almost piss in your pants
ofcourse we all understand mistakes and some in this culture come with punishments ...... like did u know in biblical times the girl gets married and with children at 13-15 and man is married and working at 14-16.....now before you think well this kid has no clue what he is talking about ,consider this-girls dont you feel the need to hold something and care for something at the ages of 13-15(hence why u girls get pets) -and boys i know from personal experience it feels really good knowing you wooped ass and got a job done! thats the way god designed many things(it just makes sense) and for those who dont believe in god i do not mean to insult at all
so right back to the point if a guy does get a girl pregnant well he should stick with the girl and they decide what to do... and if the guy does run well come on i would be a little shaken up to wouldnt
you?
haahaa sorry i do like to rant
The infantile
Agreed. You can do anything you set your mind to. Those who look for excuses cuz of their own poor choices are just weak.
Well i just think thats silly to be honest...sure we dont want teen pregnancies but whats the chance of actually getting pregnant if ure on the pills and use a condom? 0.001%? Educating teens about having safer sex is the way
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<- loves sex(oh noes i will go to hell
*edit* although i respect your choice
Having kids is the original purpose of having sex. Getting pregent after sex shouldn't be unexpected. There are no exuses. You either have to abort and kill the unborn unwanted child, or have the child ruin your unprepared life.
I suppose I won't really understand this issue; I don't intend to fall pregnant early and let it determine what will be of my life. Which, I hope, is full of potential
But seriously, we should be educated on sex early- this information is CRUCIAL. My mum didn't try to avoid this topic with me- I asked why male and female bodies looked so different when I was two. And I was always attracted to those bright condom wrappers ^^
I think we can blame society a little- we are all a little squeamish about sex. One should be able to ask questions freely and know what the consequences and pleasures sex gives. The rest is up to that person; whether they choose to risk it or not.
Funny, we all are right to a certain degree in what we've said. And that's just it. As someone mentioned before, each instance is very different for each couple. Teenage pregnancy is a very difficult issue as there are many aspects that need to be considered before any opinion can be said.
To a certain degree teenage pregnancy is almost inexcusable due to the very wide availability of contraceptives... even free ones in certain clinics, aids groups, and even countries. But then again, one cannot use what we do not know. So sex education becomes an important factor. If we have kids getting pregnant at 12, wouldn't the obvious measure be giving sex-ed at that age? Yes, yes... I know some prudes who are scandalized with what I'm saying but INFORMATION IS POWER and if teenagers are informed early on of the steps they can take to avoid preganancy and the consequences of being pregnant at that age, and of having sex at that age, I think many would reconsider their position on having sex, or at least unprotected sex.
We cannot leave the issue to schools, government or religious groups. This needs to be tackled at the family level. OK I'm not extremely comfortable talking with my parents about sex, but hey at least they give me an honest answer. When was the last time someone gave you an honest answer about sex wihout promoting a specific agenda (abstinence in religious groups, sexual liberalism in governments, etc...)? At the end of the day, the decision is going to be made by us (or the teens), not the parents, the teacher, the president, the vicar or the pope. We are responsible for deciding and if we have the information we need, our decision will at least be the best one we can think of.
REMEMBER each one makes their very own decision, and if yours is abstinence, go for it with all your heart and never look back. The same goes to those who decide having sex, do it responsibly and be aware of the possible consequences of your acts (unwanted pregnancies, unfulfilled sexual desires, etc...). Both decisions will follow you throughout your life.
And if you still get pregnant in your teen years, tell your parents. In only the smallest of circumstances they will not try to help you. Most parents love their kids to death so, give them a chance. They are as scared as you are and they do not know how to react. Remember they had their own hopes for your future (even if they have not told you so) and a teen pregnancy will change all that, so it is very scary and difficult to handle (I'm sure most want you to become the President, the best Soccer Player, the next Nobe Prize or other stuff like that)
Enjoy your life. That is why we are here for... to enjoy, learn and be the best we can be.
Intercourse even when not married? Le gasp!
The correct term is masturbation ... sexual act done outside of a marriage. In case you all don't know, that's a violation of the 9th Commandment.
Somehow, I don't think that adults can't help us in matters like these. If you ask the question without being so conscious about what you're saying, then the adult you're consulting won't think badly of you and answer your question (ever since I was taking up the ninth Commandment and its violations, I've been asking my mom about masturbation ... for the sake of recitation in class, of course).
Virgnity doesn't make a person a lesser being ... in fact I prefer being a virgin (which is exactly whai I am now.)
No I didn't feel like this. With me it's simple you see - either safe sex or no sex. I have a brain and I use it. I don't have to be teached in school that if I have sex unsecured and I won't be careful enough I can destroy my and the partners life - that's pretty obvious. I don't plan to be a father in the next 10 years at least, I want to live my life. If someone gets a girl pregnant this soon I can only think of one thing to say to him - what the hell were you thinking?
Well, like a lot of you guys, i think that this is still a big problem, even if we're in countries who should prevent those kinda problems.
I don't care about the ages of the kids 'cause if they want to have fun well go for it but the problem is can they take responsabalities even if they know the risks they're taking?
Well maybe they don,t really realise those risks...So that's what we should be able to thell them and teach them
"We" means school and parents and all who can help them.
They have to think about the child's future if pregnancy comes, and even about their own futures. And like you say guys above (don't remember the names) , the boy in this situation should take his responsabilities and he would be a real bastard to abandon his girlfriend..and maybe go and make another kid with another girl...course a good person wouldn't do that.
It is a big problem for the girl and the guy has to help her, if not she would have a lot of difficulties and so will have the baby...By not being next to her, the guy would probably ruin the kid's life and the girl's one too...
They have to know about everything
Most of the time it seems like sexuality education teachers are more likely to focus on abstinence and less likely to provide students with information on birth control, how to obtain contraceptive services, sexual orientation and abortion than they were 15 years ago. I heard that they believe that by the end of the 7th grade, students should have been taught about puberty, how HIV is transmitted, STDs, how to resist peer pressure to have sex, implications of teenage parenthood, abstinence from intercourse, dating, sexual abuse and nonsexual ways to show affection.
When it comes to sex men become stupid and act before thinking. Men are at fault but women have the final say in it. If the woman doesn't want to have sex then she should give the guy a dirty magazine and tell him to go masturbate in the corner or something.
I think pregnancy is acceptable at any age, provided you are married at that age to the father of the baby. And the opposite is always true. Regardless of your age, I think it is completely unacceptable to get pregnant while not married to the father of the baby.
School didn't really have that big an impact about what I knew/thought about sex, since my Mum talked to me about it as soon as I started asking questions.
As for my actual opinion about sex, teen pregnancy, etc... I'm not really sure. I'm 19 and I have a boyfriend, and I don't think there's anything wrong with having sex if you're a teen/not married/whatever. But I suppose I would agree, there is such a thing as being too young. Which is most likely why its illegal to hav sex with someone under the age of 16 in the first place.
I'm actually in the middle of doing a research project on the distribution of condoms in public schools and I find it amazing how controversial this subject matter can be.
In this day and age it would seem that abstinence, is some archaic word who's meaning has been lost over the last 40 years or so. In most states the child must first get permission from their parents before they can recieve contraceptives from a wellness clinic or they the parent has to go with child and a meet with a counselor, to discuss proper potection, risks, and alternatives.
Parents need to find a way to discuss this matter with their children on an adult level, the birds and the bees discussion just doesn't cut the mustard anymore. It has become painfully clear that we can't leave this decision solely to the individuals partaking in premarital intercourse.
During the teenage years your libido goes overboard and your thoughts and actions are led purely by these urges, which for the most part, our brains haven't developed enough psychologicaly to handle said urges. I've chosen to abstain, but I don't try to force my opinions, because no two people see Eye to Eye on any subject. Most especialy on one as personal as this. Sorry about the long winded tyraid, but I guess what I'm trying to say is that there are other alternatives out there.
If anyone is curious about some of these options, I suggest talking with your parents, visiting your local/ campus wellness center, or you could try watching the 40 Year Old Virgin. That could shed some light.
I, like so many persons wasn't properly educated about sex until Grade eight in high school and my parents never told me anything about it either but I always new that it was wrong though and I'm sixteen years old and I'm still a virgin too. To me, sex is suppose to be a blessing, something that we are suppose to connect male and females together, but now its being treated as some kind of luxary used simply for pleasure. And as a result mankind is punnished in the form of diseases (STDs). Plus, there are some of us out there who are educated about these things, know about the risk invole and still have sex, and umprotected sex at that and we males are at fault for this too.
We males take advantage of a girl's heart, knowing full well that she doesn't want to have sex and because she cherishes the relationship and you so much she is willing to compromise with us males. Now don't get me wrong, there are females out there who want to have sex as much as us but still, we are the ones in control of the relationship and we have been given the responsbility of protecting a girls body, even if it is from ourselves.
But the real sickning thing is that males have unprotected sex with a female, she gets pregnant and we don't stand up and take responsiblit for our actions, dening any claims made against us and as a result, we've not only ruined a girls future but we're not going to be there to support them in their time of need. The same females we told them lines to about 'how much we love them, and how we can't to without them.' Its really sick.
In school there have to be a specila kind of lesson every years in which teenagers have to ask their questions about sex and in which they get the informations about this subject!
I think it is really sad if a girl about 15 years gets pregnant and her life is totally ruined afterwards. Personally I know a girl who is 16 now and she gets twins next month. She went in my class when I was 12 and now she already got children to take care of and she has no school exam... It is really sad and I wish that someday people will take this subject more seriously!
lol, we do have some kind of lesson, or i had
when i lived in belgium and was in the language school, we had 1 week where the males where in groups and females in groups, and we had lessons about it.
and the year after at the normal school we had lesseon about sex, and being safe when having sex lessons, that was for a more time, kinda a bit long, lol, then there was one where 2 classes teamed up and had sex lessons and quiz about sex, lol
ah, think i should stop there
in the end one of the female students had to go up and try to put a condom on a plastic ........
so in america the teachers are to scared eh? funny funny *nods* indeed
and he was old looking, they kissed and so at times o.o
i once saw a girl from my old school, she was about 15-16 and had a boyfriend, he was about 30 or abov, well atleast he had grey hair -.- and also his bard was
I've had sex ed classes since I was in 5th grade, and a former friend attempted to rape me when I was in high school -- attempted rape, not rape, my honor is still intact. Those classes, threats from my mom, and the experience with the friend convinced me to remain a virgin until I get married. I'm still a virgin, and I intend to keep it that way. I've always looked down on those who give in to peer pressure and have sex before marriage.
Pregnancy is just one risk teens face. Most STDs like herpes can be spread via skin contact.
My friend Lyndsay said that once when she was at the hospital for something, a 10-year-old black girl was there having a baby. I was horrified.
There's no dishonor in not having sex. In fact, it's more honorable -- and safer -- to not do it.
I totally agree with you, Danael. Schools can only do so much. My boyfriend probably let most of the sex education go through one ear and out the other =.=;; .. Thank goodness I'm saving for marriage.. lol.. ><;; .. But this personal decision was not inspired by my school; it was inspired by my mother and talking to me about it, as young as 12 years old. Embarassing, and o_O at the time.. but I'm really thankful for it now. I think her talking to me about it let me set my goal to stay a virgin early, making it easier for me to keep it.
Parenting.. not easy, is it? ..
i feel that today, sex and having a child are two very diffrent things now. i know many of you might not like or agree with this but it is true. not to say kids are having sex for all the wrong reasons. if you want to have sex with someone at a young age out of love but neither of you are ready for a child useing protection to prevent it is fine. what needs to be done, insted of people constently trying to stop kids from having sex is teach them and make sure they are wll aware of the risk, and make proctection easy to get. safe sex or not kids want it and wont wait.