Quote by ishimihey guys so are you willing
to go to hell, blame our creator bcuz of drives?
no! it is not like that we must use our drives in the proper time...
waiting before getting married is a vital state!
I believe your point of view is based too much on religion. Please remember that
some people do not believe in god, so we could care less if we're going to hell
or not. because we simply might not believe in that. Besides, lets take a look
at the statistics: many divorces take place due to the fact that couples do not
have a satisfactory sexual life. what then? leave beside someone that will not
talk to you only because your sexual life sucks? Anyway.. if you would have had
sex before marriage, you would have known if you would sexually understand each
other in the future. However, I'm not saying this is what I support or a rule in
life. Anyway, I believe premarital sex is alright as long as you really have it
because you love the other person. Not because you are bored or you are just
looking for a good time. Well... Skutten wait for me! I'm going to hell as well!
In my point of view, there's really nothing wrong with premarital sex, as long
you know why you made love with him or her, and prepare for the
consequences.
merged: 01-12-2006 ~ 04:50pm
And, before I forget, Skutten, I am an atheist, so, if there really is a god,
I'm sure to roast in hellfire and brimstone!
Quote by littlejonny100Yeah but
kiddies dont act upon their sex drive, they act upon peer pressure and what the
movies say. If people where really acting upon their sex drives then they
wouldn't be using condoms.
I agree 100%. Little kids do it
under pressure of the older male/female.
Quote by littlejonny100Yeah but
kiddies dont act upon their sex drive, they act upon peer pressure and what the
movies say. If people where really acting upon their sex drives then they
wouldn't be using condoms.
I agree 100%. Little kids do it
under pressure of the older male/female.
I dunno if im alone to be confused here but, i had sex in my earlier teens and i
can say for sure i didnt act under peer pressure in any way :S. Am i alone with
that?
God or not, the higher the rate of sexual experiences among a group of
creatures, the higher the virulence of the STD's that exisit for that species...
in other words a higher rate of sex makes STD's more deadly.
Outside of that there is the basic family system that all governments are based
on. Without marrage these systems would fail a lot more readily, and cause even
more chaos and anarchy. The failing marrage rate, in the US at least, is seemly
due to a great lack of altruistic responsiblity... the people are more self
centered in the mondern world than they were before. This explotation of
individuallity blinds people to the needs of the community and, should it
continue, will cause the collapse of the society.
Like it or not, strict individuallity is unheathy for any society. I'm not one
for community mentality myself, but I do recognize this problem. marrage,
whether created by man or something more, is one of the strands that holds a
community together. It may not physically change anything, but it does have a
metaphysical ability of making the mind more at ease with the commitment.
Sex isn't anything bad, but it should be exercised with moderation unless you
dedicate yourself to one person, if for no other reason than to keep those damn
STD's from becoming any worst. Not nessessarily marrage, but a serious
relationship. If you can get by without marrage, good for you, but there are
many people who feel insecure without the "officialness' that the cerimony
has to offer.
You know what the medieval (and therefore all Christian) wedding ritual really
meant? It meant for you to offer your bride for the nobles (feudalism,
remember?) to spend the first night with her.
So, of course, they wanted all to be virgins. Christian weddings of today are
based on the ancient offering of your wife to the nobles to have sex with
her.
So, really, premarital sex is much better than that as long as you only have sex
with someone you really love and who really loves you - and you take
precautions.
Really, keep religion out ouf our bedrooms, for crying out loud.
Quote by XerdoYou know what the medieval
(and therefore all Christian) wedding ritual really meant? It meant for you to
offer your bride for the nobles (feudalism, remember?) to spend the first night
with her.
So, of course, they wanted all to be virgins. Christian weddings of today are
based on the ancient offering of your wife to the nobles to have sex with
her.
So, really, premarital sex is much better than that as long as you only have sex
with someone you really love and who really loves you - and you take
precautions.
Really, keep religion out ouf our bedrooms, for crying out
loud.
Oh but that is the point of those who wish to spread their beliefs... it is
rather simple to ignore however. It would be better to debate on the grounds of
religion, however, than to just tell them to go away. Many people seem to
express a certain overreaction about religious views and forget that if they
want to actually make a useful point to someone expressing such a view, they
should debate on the instigator's grounds instead of ignoring that and trying to
bring the arguement to their own. There is no good way to debate a christian
without using at least a little theology. The consequence of not doing so is
just a stalemate where a bunch of people express their views and the only output
is negative.
Premarital sex is like walking up to your boss at a job you just got and asking
him "I know I don't have the experience or responsibles as you do but, can
I get paid as much as you?" Pretty stupid question, is it?
I'm not so religious or anything like that, I just think that you shouldn't have
sex before marriage, just because it's easier. It's the question of whether you
get pregnat or not. But I do think that if you truly love that person and that
person is not using you, then I guess, "Go for it."
i view it as a must have. when you have sex with someone you get to know a side
of them that cant be learned through talking or spending time together. i think
it vital to know that side of a person before you commit to marrige.
I think it is fine as long as it is in love that you have sex. Marriage no
longer happens so early and in fact I can't get my parents blessing until I
graduate college. Plus I only had it if I knew that person and men change after
having sex with you, which opens another side, which I am glad I was not married
after that side was revealed to me. I am fine with those who wish to wait but
God looks kindly on love so why not allow completion of love. Marriage is no
longer a thing of God but more of Man, at least now they are not arranging
marriage so much. Ugh think of in biblical time when a girl is forced to marry
other than reasons of love...
In my opinion, premarital sex is fine, as long as you accept one condition: You
can deal with the consequences.
The reason why premarital sex has such a bad connotation is because there are
those who are irresponsible and end up having a problem that they can't deal
with, such as unplanned pregnancies and STDs.
If you aren't ready to risk having kids, then don't do it. You won't get burnt
if you don't stick your hand into the fire.
Use a condom and really like the person you are doing it with. I remember
experimenting as a result of my drive at a very young age and I am very
suspisious when people talk about peer pressure that causes them to do it. If
they told you to chop off your leg are you really weak enough to comply ? Also,
I don't think the "creator" would give two hoots as there are much
more important things for him to be tormenting us with. Oh yeah, use a condom.
When it cames to this , many people will say "There Is No God
Today".
So as they say is ok as long as both love each other and on doing it just for
fun.
And Also ready for any consequences.
Welll, I'm personally against premarital sex and...since everyone's basically
flaming one another, I have my reaons and I shall uphold them. My own morals and
beliefs. I find marraige precious and something like sex is...holy.
Quote by ZaxBecause our "Creator"
gave us sex drive about 90% of world population will go to hell because of that.
Aren't we such good little kiddies.
nobody can asure u there is a hell or heaven..... I dont know it, but until the
time comes I better enjoy live(that includes having sex), u wont go to hell only
for that.....
Im OK with having premarital sex, but ofcource always using a condom to stop
spreading deseases.....
Quote by eXDream2K5I think it's
stupid. The way I see it, if two people can't wait to get between the sheets,
they won't stay married very long.
You know lots of marriages end because of BAD sex, how will you know if you dont
have it until you get married....id say it just hurt your chances of having a
long marriage(not having sex that is)
i think mostly in western culture, premarital sex is widely accepted except for
ppl with strong religious beliefs. i agree with ViN that the finally choice is
up to the person/couple.
Actually premarital sex is pretty common in many east Asian countries. Sex is
viewed much more differently than it was in the earlier part of last century, as
is one's virginity.
Nowadays, it's so much more widely accepted. That's just how society's moral
standards have evolved.
I believe your point of view is based too much on religion. Please remember that some people do not believe in god, so we could care less if we're going to hell or not. because we simply might not believe in that. Besides, lets take a look at the statistics: many divorces take place due to the fact that couples do not have a satisfactory sexual life. what then? leave beside someone that will not talk to you only because your sexual life sucks? Anyway.. if you would have had sex before marriage, you would have known if you would sexually understand each other in the future. However, I'm not saying this is what I support or a rule in life. Anyway, I believe premarital sex is alright as long as you really have it because you love the other person. Not because you are bored or you are just looking for a good time. Well... Skutten wait for me! I'm going to hell as well!
In my point of view, there's really nothing wrong with premarital sex, as long you know why you made love with him or her, and prepare for the consequences.
merged: 01-12-2006 ~ 04:50pm
And, before I forget, Skutten, I am an atheist, so, if there really is a god, I'm sure to roast in hellfire and brimstone!
I agree 100%. Little kids do it under pressure of the older male/female.
I dunno if im alone to be confused here but, i had sex in my earlier teens and i can say for sure i didnt act under peer pressure in any way :S. Am i alone with that?
God or not, the higher the rate of sexual experiences among a group of creatures, the higher the virulence of the STD's that exisit for that species... in other words a higher rate of sex makes STD's more deadly.
Outside of that there is the basic family system that all governments are based on. Without marrage these systems would fail a lot more readily, and cause even more chaos and anarchy. The failing marrage rate, in the US at least, is seemly due to a great lack of altruistic responsiblity... the people are more self centered in the mondern world than they were before. This explotation of individuallity blinds people to the needs of the community and, should it continue, will cause the collapse of the society.
Like it or not, strict individuallity is unheathy for any society. I'm not one for community mentality myself, but I do recognize this problem. marrage, whether created by man or something more, is one of the strands that holds a community together. It may not physically change anything, but it does have a metaphysical ability of making the mind more at ease with the commitment.
Sex isn't anything bad, but it should be exercised with moderation unless you dedicate yourself to one person, if for no other reason than to keep those damn STD's from becoming any worst. Not nessessarily marrage, but a serious relationship. If you can get by without marrage, good for you, but there are many people who feel insecure without the "officialness' that the cerimony has to offer.
You know what the medieval (and therefore all Christian) wedding ritual really meant? It meant for you to offer your bride for the nobles (feudalism, remember?) to spend the first night with her.
So, of course, they wanted all to be virgins. Christian weddings of today are based on the ancient offering of your wife to the nobles to have sex with her.
So, really, premarital sex is much better than that as long as you only have sex with someone you really love and who really loves you - and you take precautions.
Really, keep religion out ouf our bedrooms, for crying out loud.
Oh but that is the point of those who wish to spread their beliefs... it is rather simple to ignore however. It would be better to debate on the grounds of religion, however, than to just tell them to go away. Many people seem to express a certain overreaction about religious views and forget that if they want to actually make a useful point to someone expressing such a view, they should debate on the instigator's grounds instead of ignoring that and trying to bring the arguement to their own. There is no good way to debate a christian without using at least a little theology. The consequence of not doing so is just a stalemate where a bunch of people express their views and the only output is negative.
Premarital sex is like walking up to your boss at a job you just got and asking him "I know I don't have the experience or responsibles as you do but, can I get paid as much as you?" Pretty stupid question, is it?
You wouldn't buy pants without trying them on first, right?
i beleive if two people love eachother then it is fine.
..not everyone here believes in "the creator" and will not be taunted by going to "hell"
and i think its perfectly fine before marriage
I'm not so religious or anything like that, I just think that you shouldn't have sex before marriage, just because it's easier. It's the question of whether you get pregnat or not. But I do think that if you truly love that person and that person is not using you, then I guess, "Go for it."
i view it as a must have. when you have sex with someone you get to know a side of them that cant be learned through talking or spending time together. i think it vital to know that side of a person before you commit to marrige.
I think it is fine as long as it is in love that you have sex. Marriage no longer happens so early and in fact I can't get my parents blessing until I graduate college. Plus I only had it if I knew that person and men change after having sex with you, which opens another side, which I am glad I was not married after that side was revealed to me. I am fine with those who wish to wait but God looks kindly on love so why not allow completion of love. Marriage is no longer a thing of God but more of Man, at least now they are not arranging marriage so much. Ugh think of in biblical time when a girl is forced to marry other than reasons of love...
In my opinion, premarital sex is fine, as long as you accept one condition: You can deal with the consequences.
The reason why premarital sex has such a bad connotation is because there are those who are irresponsible and end up having a problem that they can't deal with, such as unplanned pregnancies and STDs.
If you aren't ready to risk having kids, then don't do it. You won't get burnt if you don't stick your hand into the fire.
Use a condom and really like the person you are doing it with. I remember experimenting as a result of my drive at a very young age and I am very suspisious when people talk about peer pressure that causes them to do it. If they told you to chop off your leg are you really weak enough to comply ? Also, I don't think the "creator" would give two hoots as there are much more important things for him to be tormenting us with. Oh yeah, use a condom.
When it cames to this , many people will say "There Is No God Today".
So as they say is ok as long as both love each other and on doing it just for fun.
And Also ready for any consequences.
Premarital sex is rampant in the western soceity and I dont think it's gonna really slow down anytime soon >.>
But premarital sex in some countries and cultures rarely occurs. It just all depends on your cultures and beliefs.
Welll, I'm personally against premarital sex and...since everyone's basically flaming one another, I have my reaons and I shall uphold them. My own morals and beliefs. I find marraige precious and something like sex is...holy.
nobody can asure u there is a hell or heaven..... I dont know it, but until the time comes I better enjoy live(that includes having sex), u wont go to hell only for that.....
Im OK with having premarital sex, but ofcource always using a condom to stop spreading deseases.....
I think it's stupid. The way I see it, if two people can't wait to get between the sheets, they won't stay married very long.
You know lots of marriages end because of BAD sex, how will you know if you dont have it until you get married....id say it just hurt your chances of having a long marriage(not having sex that is)
i think mostly in western culture, premarital sex is widely accepted except for ppl with strong religious beliefs. i agree with ViN that the finally choice is up to the person/couple.
Actually premarital sex is pretty common in many east Asian countries. Sex is viewed much more differently than it was in the earlier part of last century, as is one's virginity.
Nowadays, it's so much more widely accepted. That's just how society's moral standards have evolved.
Edit: typo