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have you ever felt a rejection/ failed?

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i just wanted to know whether you have ever felt a rejection/ failed in your life especially in matters that you think that is a big matter in your life.

honestly, i never ever felt any rejections or failures in things that i think are a big matters for me. i felt it once when i was failed to get into the univ. i wanna go but the feeling soon disappear after 4 days because i got a letter that announce i was successfully enter the univ. and now that i asked my friends, all of them had experienced it and i just wondered if any of you had felt it.

and how you deal with that rejection/ failure?

hi long time no see ^^
well of course we get rejected or fail all the time...its just a matter of how important it is to our life..
as for me, no i havent experienced any rejection or failure that is a big matter in my life..not yet..maybe in the future..we never know...
i guess if i did fail, ill just work harder to achieve what i want or just get over it cuz whats done is done...

Failure isn't something I regret. I treat failure not as an inconvenience, but a challenge that I take upon myself to overcome. Rejection is something I haven't yet experienced, but that's probably because I'm shy...

I have experience 2 of them, I failed in some subjects in the university, but it was because my ex-girlfriend, she did not past the subjects and ask the teacher to make repeat the course, and all did it, It were a total of 6 courses, I know that is stupid, but this girl one day "reject" me, well she thought that I was asking her to be my girlfriend and told me that we were only friends, so she hit me in my pride, something that I have in excess, anyway recently I broke up with her because she lied to me, not cheat on me, just lied, I could not tolerate that and her cynicism of deny the lied, I am not ok, but never ever I regret of a decision, so I am trying to get something good of this situation. So it seems that she is origin of my failures and rejections.

Ya i felt failure the first time i didnt compleate dusi and how i delt with it was took that pain and trainded twice as hard for next year and rejection i felt when a girl i loved shot me down and that im still dealing with =p

this year at the university i thought i woild enjoy actually turned into a nightmare, the classes i picked was all over the palce, time wize and day wize, and then with family issues kicking in i failled all my major class but i passed my minor classes and i want to transget to a state school, but i dont know with 4 F's i can make it in or not and my parents scre me over this semister and i cant go to school at all. i feel so left out and deprived of my education :(

Failure is not that big a problem. I just get up and try again, failure is all part of the process of finding the right answers.

You think it's failure because you accept you've been defeated. After what seemed like a downfall don't stay lying on your stomach. Get up. There's no such thing as failure. It's just the word we use to define the way we see success as a hard-to-reach element.

And about rejection, yeah I always experience that in big and small ways. I've dealt with it by choosing to not talk much anymore so that I won't feel rejected and end up hurting myself but I'm not recommending anyone to do the same thing. I handle things this way.

--wow, and that just sounds so not me when you see me in personal-- ^_^ hope I helped.

i've felt things like that before, especially when there's people who i cant call a friend.

Quote by kawaiikiyomi
well of course we get rejected or fail all the time...its just a matter of how important it is to our life..
as for me, no i havent experienced any rejection or failure that is a big matter in my life..not yet..maybe in the future..we never know...
i guess if i did fail, ill just work harder to achieve what i want or just get over it cuz whats done is done...

True I have I've been putting less and less eort into my work at school and now that I try to reedeem myself I fear it's too late, but I still have a chance, but only if I really try, otherwise I will end up bing a SuperSenior in high school,
*sigh*

uh..rejected or fails..lol...well...i guess i've a few ones...i used to forget it a few days later...a little whine and forget it..well XD you going to end death anyway there's no point on regret (well i end up deciding that i was that way..)..there's no point on break your head thinking why did you fail or something like that...well if you don't like fail or rejecteds just kill yourself..the life is full of those things

yes I've got rejections, and I failed somethimes.
but that doesn't keep me down.
there is allways next day.

I was rejected by the girl i love a while back. There's no denying it, it hurts. Bad. But we're more or less together now, but I'm just a bit afraid it might happen again.

I get that a lot from girls....... but I keep on going and one day I will find her.

everyday of my life i feel rejected/failed/failure/loser and it has nothing to do with girls infact i have no problem with girls its the fact that ive wasted away 14 years of my life and only on my 14th birthday i decided to change, before i was a goody good, did my homework never got into fights, blonde hair blue eyes, neat haircut, always did good in sports, fastest in class/area, very fit...and then it hit me on my 14th birthday...what a waste ive missed out on all the fun after that day i decided to change now i play computer, i dont play or do any sports i only workout, now i do extreme sports not gay ethletics and tennis, now i snowbaord and surf, now i play computer and never do homework, but the main thing that disappointed me was when i went to a rave and realised what i was missing out on, im still 14 and i always go to raves, even though most are r18 i go to every 1 that i can get into, now i am growing my hair long and getting dreads ,even though you have to be 16 to get a tattoo my mates dad has a tattoo parlor and hes gonna give me 1 and i play electric guitar now instead of classical, i still need to do so many things until i am satisfied!

merged: 02-11-2006 ~ 06:24pm
"I was rejected by the girl i love a while back. There's no denying it, it hurts. Bad. But we're more or less together now, but I'm just a bit afraid it might happen again."

1. you do not know what love is, i know exactly what you felt and i know it is not love, and yes it hurts, it hurts real bad and it will for a while until you realise stuff the girls, focus on yourself and they will come to you, and dont be afraid to change, since im growing my hair i can gel it and i did for 3 years, now every1 laughs thinks its funny but ill be the one laughing when ive got my dreads!

2. you have to get over it, listin to some hard trance/trance and u'll get an emotional uprising that will make you feel a lot better.

3. this is the link to the website of the raves i always go to, there is a net radio on it for all the sad/deeply hurt people here listen to a station on it and ull feel much better, i recomend trance, hard trance but they are all good through my eyes!

It depends what it is and how big for me. For example if it is a low mark at dancing then I get upset at the moment but I just get over it and try harder. But if I get rejected from a school I have applied for (which has never happened^_^) then I would cry.

wow! rustycoconut, i adore your answer very much! ^_^ how old are you? i mean... you look so mature and i just sumtimes find a person who could talk about what i've never thought or change my mind about sth. ^_^ you're rock! about your problems... i think, it's a good thing that you know what are your mistakes and the next steps is how you turn the "rock" that you thought it is a stumble rock into a stone path for your walk. ^_^ you will know what you should do... hope you find it. "never say it's too late" ^_^

guys... thanks for all of your comment in my thread! ^_^ it's really worthy... and hope for the best to all of ya! i still welcome any of your share ^_^ lol.

Failure and rejection do hurt, but I always get over them fairly quickly. The important thing to remember is that it's better to fail or be rejected, than to never even try in the first place, and wonder if you could have succeeded or not.

Well, at the moment Im having a feeling of what it will seem to be a long term failure. See my father wanted me to take this particular course in uni, but i chose sumthing different. Now im worried that when i do eventually graduate, I wont be able to achieve the things he always wanted me to. Everyday I wake up feeling I've failed him so bad...not that he's treated me any different, but in the back of my mind i can see him dissapointed, and you know how it goes when u have disappointed ur parents.

Failing is a part of life though. Being rejected or failing is tough cause it hurts your pride and ego. I suggest maybe to remembner that succes cannot happening until many failures for most of the time.

well.. failure hurts... but i can't deny that it is a part of life... and life was never meant to be easy... one has to work for it... one has to feel hurt inorder to know what is joy...

yah, i agree with xiaodick.. since we all humans, failure n rejection was a natural things i guess ^^ eventhough we failed once, twice or even almost everyday, but i'm sure there must be something we can take from it. i experienced the same problem with u, failed to enter my fav univ. i felt so sad, angry n hate my self alot.. but then i think 'i can't stand like this forever' i must change. at least doing better for tomorrow..
so, all i can say is forget the past. just keep running,hoping, n praying for tomorrow.. goodluck to u! ^^

I fail with my dad in SEO (search Engine Optimization) work Every Day. :(

I think everybody has, but its good in a way. Like Thomas Edison said, he didn't fail 1000 times, he just learned a 1000 ways it wouldn't work. Not only is failure common (if not seemingly, and dishearteningly a little too common), but as long as it is also a learning experience it isn't a total loss.

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