For the past several months, I have fallen for one of my female friends. I asked
her to prom 2 months before, and was unaware of how much I liked her until
recently. However prom night was not how I expected it would be. I was awfully
quiet throughout the night, and full of regrets. That night I became drunk, and
came back home pretty late in the morning, to be exact, 3:30am. I filled with
sorrow and regretfulness, so I called her and told her how I felt about her. I
was crushed by her response. Only wanting to be friends. Even though this is
better than being ignored, I've been having difficulty functioning with my
school work and activities. I understand her judgement though and agree with
her. I find her to be someone I'd like to spend most of my time with. Even
though I'm really interested in her, I cannot talk to her. I haven't talked to
her for past few days now. I don't know how to talk to her...
My friends keep telling me to find someone else or I'll find someone else who is
better and feels the same way about me. But I do not want better nor worse. I
want her. However now I have to move on because she wants to be friends. I'd
like to move on, but it's really difficult. So have you ever fallen for your
friend? been in my situation? any suggestions?
Well if she just wants to be friends then there's nothing you can do really :/
but remember "friendship often ends in love, but love in friendship -
never" so you just have to be good friends and then hope for the best. Try
flirting, but not too much or your relationship may become even colder.
Well something like that never happened to me before, but it may happen real
soon, because i'm going to ask my friend out. So wish me luck :P
i wish you luck! ^.^ , hope it works out with you and your frend n_n
Quote by DxRaptorWell if she just wants
to be friends then there's nothing you can do really :/ but remember
"friendship often ends in love, but love in friendship - never" so you
just have to be good friends and then hope for the best. Try flirting, but not
too much or your relationship may become even colder.
Well something like that never happened to me before, but it may happen real
soon, because i'm going to ask my friend out. So wish me luck :P
Yeah, I fell for my best friend and we dated for a looong time but it didn't
work out in the end and I ended up being very dissapointed.
Anyway, being turned down (by a friend or not) is really unpleasent. At least
you have a good friendship base to work on. If that's what you really want. And
if there's no development, well, this girl is your friend and you like her, so
you have every reason to wish her all the happines in the world no matter what
she decides in the end.
Besides, there are a lot of other great girls in the world that you might meet
and start to like.
I know how you feel... I'm going through something similar at the moment.
There's this childhood friend of mine whom I was very fond of ever since then...
We hadnt seen each other for, like, three years or so, and then suddenly I had
to go to the city he lives in and I had no place else to stay but his. And when
I saw him waiting for me at the station... it was like... ka-BOOM - he is the One. I haven't told him
how I feel yet, but I think I'll bring myself to do it sometime soon... I hope
I'll have better luck than you though (no
offense).
As for what happened to you, there's really not much you can do about it. Just
be contented to be friends, and try to enjoy what you are given. After all, it's
better than nothing, right?
KyRei I completely understand how you feel cause I'm in the same boat(a boat
thats quickly sanking). My advice to you is to get her alone and tell her
exactly how you feel, that's what I'm going to do. Maybe she'll give you a shot,
and if not its not the end of the world try to move on, maybe someday in the
future you'll hook up.
I understand you! Actually, I fell for a friend because my other love
relationship didnt work out... but what happened was I asked her to Homecoming
and she agreed but she only wanted to go as friends but I didnt know and than
everything turned out bad. I told her how I felt and she basically rejected me
and it was akward for a while but we started to talk again. However, the worst
part isnt that it was when my other friend after she rejected me went after her
and they now start seeing each other basically... Even though, I dont like her
anymore it still hurts...
But the answer to your question is if you really really like her than never give
up because sooner or later you'll end up with her or find yourself in another
relationship... I loved this girl for 4 years and I'm not about to give up yet!
Though this may seem loserish, I dont care. I love this girl
Most relationships start from friends, so many of us (including me) have indeed
fallen in love with our friends.
I feel sorry for you too. I once confessed my feelings to a friend whom I was in
love with for 3 years (she had a boyfriend until then) but was rejected with
that stock answer "I want us to be friends only". When I persisted
with a softer approach, she instantly took the offensive on me, e.g. call
blocks, bad-mouthing and treating me like a criminal during social meetings.
Suffice to say our friendship is no more. I was crushed. She obviously could not
forget the old boyfriend and is even now dating someone else who looks so much
like him.
Lesson learnt: don't keep chasing someone who rejected you. You are more than
likely to end up emotionally hurt. There are others who deserve you better. It
may sound pessimistic but that is reality.
I've had that happen to me, my friend sat next to me in band (in middle school
) for about 3 years, and we would play around all the time and I started to
crush on him and yea....only problem was he was a "preppy" guy and I
was just a girl in the hall. I finally managed to make my feelings for him go
back to being friends but it took me a long time and I realized this year that I
still kinda like him a bit (lucky for me my only class I had w/ him is over
so...it's kinda faded now that I dont' see him any more )...So I
guess if your trying to forget your "more than friends" feelings about
her keep tellin your self: she's just my friend, she just my friend, etc. But
that's all I can help you sorrry I don't have anythin else .
man.... I had a nice story all written out and then POW! my pc crashes ...
Anyways, this happened about 4 years ago when I was in my last year of High
school. I used to hang out with a pretty large and close group of guys and
girls. We were all pretty good friends with each other and would goto the same
parties/bars all the time. I had a crush on one of the girls in our group for a
while (I definately wouldn't call it love, to be honest I don't think I can say
I've ever experienced love) and I was considering confessing my feelings to her
at a friend's 18th b-day. I was quite confident that she felt the same about me
and knew about my feelings for her. However... the day before the party she
tells me on MSN messenger that she had been with another guy at a party the
night before... So in the end I decided not to confess and basically rejected
her at the party. Sometimes I regret what I did, but I have to admit I was
pretty pissed off at her. We remained friends (although not as close) for a year
or so after we graduated but I haven't spoken to her in a while.
hehe... here's a pretty funny story... I was back home for the Xmas after
spending my first semester at University. I was getting reeeeeaaallly drunk with
some good friends and enjoying the refreshing night air ^^. We were at the stage
of drunkedness where you start trying to talk really serious about ultra serious
things like relationships and life. It was during this drunken stupor that I
realised something... I had feelings for my friend's (let's call him T)
long-time girl friend! Luckily for me, T was passed out and fast asleep I told my
concious friend about my sudden revelation and he said to me "Dude
that's the drink talking" (except he obviously wasn't so coherent). So we
continued our merriment early into the morning. When I had fully recovered from
the binge drinking, I realised that I still had feelings for T's girlfriend. I
vowed never to tell anyone (well anyone who knows who I'm talking about :P
MiniTokyo forum doesn't count!) and kept my feelings to myself. Again I wouldn't
call it love, but when I looked at her I would say to myself "I want a girl
like her".
Sorry for the long rambling story, but I had to get it off my chest.
KyRei, if this girl (your friend) is really important to you then the first
thing you should do is to talk to her and let her know that you do value your
friendship even if it won't go beyond that (at least for now ). I
understand why you find it hard to talk to her now after you've confessed to
her, but you need to step past that and show her that your friendship is more
important. You don't need to straightaway start looking for a different girl
just to get over your friend, but keep an open mind. I hate to say this... but
in most cases if a girl doesn't find you attractive from the beginning of a
friendship then she probably won't ever. I'm assuming you'll be going to
University soon. If you're not going to the same University as her then great!
It'd be a good break for you. Experience Uni life to the fullest, meet new
people (new girls ) and make new friends. And if you still have strong feelings for
her, then remember this... "Absence makes the heart grow fonder".
Anyways good luck, I hope everything works out for the best.
I fell in love with my best friend, then he and I broke up five months later and
didn't speak for about four months. I did it again with another best friend, and
he sends me mixed signals -- I haven't told him yet. They say "don't date
your friends" for a very good reason. I don't want a repeat of what
happened before.
Quote by KidderKyRei, if this girl (your
friend) is really important to you then the first thing you should do is to talk
to her and let her know that you do value your friendship even if it won't go
beyond that (at least for now ). I
understand why you find it hard to talk to her now after you've confessed to
her, but you need to step past that and show her that your friendship is more
important. You don't need to straightaway start looking for a different girl
just to get over your friend, but keep an open mind. I hate to say this... but
in most cases if a girl doesn't find you attractive from the beginning of a
friendship then she probably won't ever. I'm assuming you'll be going to
University soon. If you're not going to the same University as her then great!
It'd be a good break for you. Experience Uni life to the fullest, meet new
people (new girls ) and make new friends. And if you still have strong feelings for
her, then remember this... "Absence makes the heart grow
fonder".
I agree with Kidder. Show her that you value your friendship with her. I know,
that's like beating yourself up, but if you're willing to try to get her to love
you back, then any suffering is worth it, ne?
I think that you need to work on getting over her. I know that probably sounds
harsh but it is the best thing for you. You don't have to run out and find
someone new just work on coming to terms with the fact that you are going to get
to be with her. I don't think that being friends with her is a good idea. A
relationship where one person has romantic feelings about the other almost never
works out. I have tried it many times and it has only worked out once and that
was because the guy turned out to be gay. Seriously, moving on is the best thing
that you can do for yourself. Just let her know that being close to her is too
hard for you because you are reminded that you always want more then just
friends. But if you can handle being just friends then I commend you!
Just please don't become one of those weird obsessive people that can only think
about this one person. Don't spend the next 2 years of your life bummed out over
this person! You are better then that and you deserve to be happy with someone
else. Not to constantly be thinking of what you could have had with someone
else. So go on and be sad for a while and then pick yourself up and go back out
there and find someone else to be happy with!
I think personally, its best to be friends with someone first before going out
with them or having interest in them. Also...i erm...*cough* have some interest
in a few of my friends but i kinda have my doubts with some of them considering
the circumstances or sitatuations.
if you ever need someone to talk to about this matter or whatever, feel free to
PM me, i know quite a bit about relationships and such myself.
I like the way you write KyRei!
Yea, it's natural to fall for your friend. Can a man and woman ever just be
friends? I don't think it's true. I've fallen for guyfriends sometimes, too and
so has my friends. But you know what, even though they want to be in the
"friend zone," it's ok, you just have to realize that it's not the
right person that has come along yet. Value your friendships and know for sure
that you are doing the right thing before confessing. I hope you find the girl
who will sweep you off your feet. Haha, that's so cliche, but have hope. It's
the only thing that gets you going, I guess
i wouldnt say that im in love with my best friend, but i really do like her. but
i dont like her as a girlfriend (guess that means i shouldnt be there then)....
its something eles that i cant really decribe.
anyway.... KyRei, what you can do is:
a) tell her how you feel and that you still want to be friends and wait for
someone eles to come into your life
b) tell that you want to be with her and risk losing her and her friendship
c) dont tell her anything, repair the friendship and keep her close and keep a
look out for some else
i'ld go with c. that way if she ever decides to go for you, you'll be ready
Quote by OdeenaI know how you feel... I'm
going through something similar at the moment. There's this childhood friend of
mine whom I was very fond of ever since then... We hadnt seen each other for,
like, three years or so, and then suddenly I had to go to the city he lives in
and I had no place else to stay but his. And when I saw him waiting for me at
the station... it was like... ka-BOOM -
he is the One. I haven't told him how I feel yet, but I think I'll bring myself
to do it sometime soon... I hope I'll have better luck than you though (no
offense).
As for what happened to you, there's really not much you can do about it. Just
be contented to be friends, and try to enjoy what you are given. After all, it's
better than nothing, right?
LOL I'm in love with my best guy friend... he likes me too xD
I dunno why... I guess it's because we're happy and comfortable with eachother
and being together?
Right now I think I fell in love with my friend,I know him like 14 years,but
just now,when we see each other maybe just two times a year,I feel that I like
him more and more,I dunno why...but I'm too shy to confess to him,becouse he
probably thinks of me just as a friend,and maybe he has a girlfriend too...^^;
For the past several months, I have fallen for one of my female friends. I asked her to prom 2 months before, and was unaware of how much I liked her until recently. However prom night was not how I expected it would be. I was awfully quiet throughout the night, and full of regrets. That night I became drunk, and came back home pretty late in the morning, to be exact, 3:30am. I filled with sorrow and regretfulness, so I called her and told her how I felt about her. I was crushed by her response. Only wanting to be friends. Even though this is better than being ignored, I've been having difficulty functioning with my school work and activities. I understand her judgement though and agree with her. I find her to be someone I'd like to spend most of my time with. Even though I'm really interested in her, I cannot talk to her. I haven't talked to her for past few days now. I don't know how to talk to her...
My friends keep telling me to find someone else or I'll find someone else who is better and feels the same way about me. But I do not want better nor worse. I want her. However now I have to move on because she wants to be friends. I'd like to move on, but it's really difficult. So have you ever fallen for your friend? been in my situation? any suggestions?
well once in 7th grade, but now my fren likes me now
To me.. Not too sure.. Now mayb but... haiz how! So stress
If you'd like to post something, please don't make it short. I dont want this thread to be closed.
Well if she just wants to be friends then there's nothing you can do really :/ but remember "friendship often ends in love, but love in friendship - never" so you just have to be good friends and then hope for the best. Try flirting, but not too much or your relationship may become even colder.
Well something like that never happened to me before, but it may happen real soon, because i'm going to ask my friend out. So wish me luck :P
i wish you luck! ^.^ , hope it works out with you and your frend n_n
Nope, not even once
Yeah, I fell for my best friend and we dated for a looong time but it didn't work out in the end and I ended up being very dissapointed.
Anyway, being turned down (by a friend or not) is really unpleasent. At least you have a good friendship base to work on. If that's what you really want. And if there's no development, well, this girl is your friend and you like her, so you have every reason to wish her all the happines in the world no matter what she decides in the end.
Besides, there are a lot of other great girls in the world that you might meet and start to like.
Good luck.
I know how you feel... I'm going through something similar at the moment. There's this childhood friend of mine whom I was very fond of ever since then... We hadnt seen each other for, like, three years or so, and then suddenly I had to go to the city he lives in and I had no place else to stay but his. And when I saw him waiting for me at the station... it was like... ka-BOOM - he is the One. I haven't told him how I feel yet, but I think I'll bring myself to do it sometime soon... I hope I'll have better luck than you though
(no
offense).
As for what happened to you, there's really not much you can do about it. Just be contented to be friends, and try to enjoy what you are given. After all, it's better than nothing, right?
KyRei I completely understand how you feel cause I'm in the same boat(a boat thats quickly sanking). My advice to you is to get her alone and tell her exactly how you feel, that's what I'm going to do. Maybe she'll give you a shot, and if not its not the end of the world try to move on, maybe someday in the future you'll hook up.
I understand you! Actually, I fell for a friend because my other love relationship didnt work out... but what happened was I asked her to Homecoming and she agreed but she only wanted to go as friends but I didnt know and than everything turned out bad. I told her how I felt and she basically rejected me and it was akward for a while but we started to talk again. However, the worst part isnt that it was when my other friend after she rejected me went after her and they now start seeing each other basically... Even though, I dont like her anymore it still hurts...
But the answer to your question is if you really really like her than never give up because sooner or later you'll end up with her or find yourself in another relationship... I loved this girl for 4 years and I'm not about to give up yet! Though this may seem loserish, I dont care. I love this girl
Most relationships start from friends, so many of us (including me) have indeed fallen in love with our friends.
I feel sorry for you too. I once confessed my feelings to a friend whom I was in love with for 3 years (she had a boyfriend until then) but was rejected with that stock answer "I want us to be friends only". When I persisted with a softer approach, she instantly took the offensive on me, e.g. call blocks, bad-mouthing and treating me like a criminal during social meetings. Suffice to say our friendship is no more. I was crushed. She obviously could not forget the old boyfriend and is even now dating someone else who looks so much like him.
Lesson learnt: don't keep chasing someone who rejected you. You are more than likely to end up emotionally hurt. There are others who deserve you better. It may sound pessimistic but that is reality.
Regards.
yes.. i hv fallen for a fren whom i hv known seen childhood... i wish so hard it would not happen but it did.. im offically in love with her..
I've had that happen to me, my friend sat next to me in band (in middle school
) for about 3 years, and we would play around all the time and I started to
crush on him and yea....only problem was he was a "preppy" guy and I
was just a girl in the hall. I finally managed to make my feelings for him go
back to being friends but it took me a long time and I realized this year that I
still kinda like him a bit (lucky for me my only class I had w/ him is over
so...it's kinda faded now that I dont' see him any more 
)...So I
guess if your trying to forget your "more than friends" feelings about
her keep tellin your self: she's just my friend, she just my friend, etc. But
that's all I can help you sorrry I don't have anythin else 
.
man.... I had a nice story all written out and then POW! my pc crashes
...
Anyways, this happened about 4 years ago when I was in my last year of High school. I used to hang out with a pretty large and close group of guys and girls. We were all pretty good friends with each other and would goto the same parties/bars all the time. I had a crush on one of the girls in our group for a while (I definately wouldn't call it love, to be honest I don't think I can say I've ever experienced love) and I was considering confessing my feelings to her at a friend's 18th b-day. I was quite confident that she felt the same about me and knew about my feelings for her. However... the day before the party she tells me on MSN messenger that she had been with another guy at a party the night before... So in the end I decided not to confess and basically rejected her at the party. Sometimes I regret what I did, but I have to admit I was pretty pissed off at her. We remained friends (although not as close) for a year or so after we graduated but I haven't spoken to her in a while.
hehe... here's a pretty funny story... I was back home for the Xmas after spending my first semester at University. I was getting reeeeeaaallly drunk with some good friends and enjoying the refreshing night air ^^. We were at the stage of drunkedness where you start trying to talk really serious about ultra serious things like relationships and life. It was during this drunken stupor that I realised something... I had feelings for my friend's (let's call him T) long-time girl friend! Luckily for me, T was passed out and fast asleep
I told my
concious friend about my sudden revelation and he said to me "Dude 
that's the drink talking" (except he obviously wasn't so coherent). So we
continued our merriment early into the morning. When I had fully recovered from
the binge drinking, I realised that I still had feelings for T's girlfriend. I
vowed never to tell anyone (well anyone who knows who I'm talking about :P
MiniTokyo forum doesn't count!) and kept my feelings to myself. Again I wouldn't
call it love, but when I looked at her I would say to myself "I want a girl
like her".
Sorry for the long rambling story, but I had to get it off my chest.
KyRei, if this girl (your friend) is really important to you then the first thing you should do is to talk to her and let her know that you do value your friendship even if it won't go beyond that (at least for now
). I
understand why you find it hard to talk to her now after you've confessed to
her, but you need to step past that and show her that your friendship is more
important. You don't need to straightaway start looking for a different girl
just to get over your friend, but keep an open mind. I hate to say this... but
in most cases if a girl doesn't find you attractive from the beginning of a
friendship then she probably won't ever. I'm assuming you'll be going to
University soon. If you're not going to the same University as her then great!
It'd be a good break for you. Experience Uni life to the fullest, meet new
people (new girls 
) and make new friends. And if you still have strong feelings for
her, then remember this... "Absence makes the heart grow fonder".
Anyways good luck, I hope everything works out for the best.
I fell in love with my best friend, then he and I broke up five months later and didn't speak for about four months. I did it again with another best friend, and he sends me mixed signals -- I haven't told him yet. They say "don't date your friends" for a very good reason. I don't want a repeat of what happened before.
I agree with Kidder. Show her that you value your friendship with her. I know, that's like beating yourself up, but if you're willing to try to get her to love you back, then any suffering is worth it, ne?
best of luck to you!
I think that you need to work on getting over her. I know that probably sounds harsh but it is the best thing for you. You don't have to run out and find someone new just work on coming to terms with the fact that you are going to get to be with her. I don't think that being friends with her is a good idea. A relationship where one person has romantic feelings about the other almost never works out. I have tried it many times and it has only worked out once and that was because the guy turned out to be gay. Seriously, moving on is the best thing that you can do for yourself. Just let her know that being close to her is too hard for you because you are reminded that you always want more then just friends. But if you can handle being just friends then I commend you!
Just please don't become one of those weird obsessive people that can only think about this one person. Don't spend the next 2 years of your life bummed out over this person! You are better then that and you deserve to be happy with someone else. Not to constantly be thinking of what you could have had with someone else. So go on and be sad for a while and then pick yourself up and go back out there and find someone else to be happy with!
I want to thank everyone for their input on my situation. Now I'm not as sad as before. Thank you all for your concern and care!
I think personally, its best to be friends with someone first before going out with them or having interest in them. Also...i erm...*cough* have some interest in a few of my friends but i kinda have my doubts with some of them considering the circumstances or sitatuations.
if you ever need someone to talk to about this matter or whatever, feel free to PM me, i know quite a bit about relationships and such myself.
sure..
most of the times is a friend before girlfriend/boyfriend..
but only most..
I like the way you write KyRei!
Yea, it's natural to fall for your friend. Can a man and woman ever just be friends? I don't think it's true. I've fallen for guyfriends sometimes, too and so has my friends. But you know what, even though they want to be in the "friend zone," it's ok, you just have to realize that it's not the right person that has come along yet. Value your friendships and know for sure that you are doing the right thing before confessing. I hope you find the girl who will sweep you off your feet. Haha, that's so cliche, but have hope. It's the only thing that gets you going, I guess
i wouldnt say that im in love with my best friend, but i really do like her. but i dont like her as a girlfriend (guess that means i shouldnt be there then).... its something eles that i cant really decribe.
anyway.... KyRei, what you can do is:
a) tell her how you feel and that you still want to be friends and wait for someone eles to come into your life
b) tell that you want to be with her and risk losing her and her friendship
c) dont tell her anything, repair the friendship and keep her close and keep a look out for some else
i'ld go with c. that way if she ever decides to go for you, you'll be ready
LOL I'm in love with my best guy friend... he likes me too xD
I dunno why... I guess it's because we're happy and comfortable with eachother and being together?
Right now I think I fell in love with my friend,I know him like 14 years,but just now,when we see each other maybe just two times a year,I feel that I like him more and more,I dunno why...but I'm too shy to confess to him,becouse he probably thinks of me just as a friend,and maybe he has a girlfriend too...^^;