Quote by ZadkhiAnd to be all hot
and bothered and have sex on the brain all the time
and to want to prance around in a garter belt and stockings with some
negligee is somehow more politically correct?
Political correctness is all of the former and none of the latter. If your political hang-ups dicate the way you behave
with the guy you love, then you need to stop and reconsider some things.
Quote by ZadkhiErrr no.
Political hang ups, I think not. Personal "hang ups", quite
possibly.
It is a political hang-up. It sounds like you have a huge chip on your shoulder concerning gender politics that
cripples your ability to have fun, instead making you cringe away from anything and everything that involves the use of
a man's tendency to be stimulated by sight. While using it for manipulation is wrong, using it in the right
situation is not wrong at all. Again, relax and enjoy yourself.
Quote by ZadkhiWearing whatever
racy outfits
doesn't make me feel sexy. I don't consider putting myself through that
to be doing anything special for anyone. I'm not going to want my guy
to go and dress up in some sailor's outfit or whatever, so why would I
go and apply it to myself in reverse?
Who said it had to be racy? And besides, men on average are far more visually stimulated than women. To try to claim
that because you don't want him to dress up in a sailor outfit does not mean that he would not enjoy it if you wore
something special that you thought he would enjoy.
Quote by ZadkhiCall me selfish,
but if my own thoughts don't go in that direction,
then why should I force it?
You're selfish. You really should think about others more often if this is the way you like to shape and mold your
thoughts.
Quote by ZadkhiThe issus is is
that you're assuming that I'd even want to wear any
such things in the first place, hang-ups or not. You're also assuming
that it's a "welcome fun time" as you put oh so eloquently.
No, the issue at hand is that odds are pretty good that even if he does not voice it, he would probably enjoy it if you
did.
Quote by ZadkhiAnd please, the
logic is only circular because you yourself don't share
similar opinions and vice versa.
Now you're just ignoring the facts. Quick reference guide: I don't want to wear anything he will enjoy for
the sake of the fact that he will enjoy it. -> He obviously doesn't need it because I don't need him to
dress up like that for me. -> the fact that such things can be fun is irrelevant because he should enjoy my company,
period, despite the fact that it may actually be fun if I stop worrying about it. -> I don't want to wear
anything he will enjoy for the sake of the fact that he will enjoy it.
Just because you are too selfish to realize that he can enjoy it on top of enjoying being with you rather than instead
of enjoying being with you does not make you right.
Quote by Shkira Oooo, fetishes,
have you? Curiouser and curiouser! ~_^
Absolutely. Everyone does, at least to some minor degree, have their own preferences and kinks in that respect, whether
they own up to it or not.
