Haha, the automatic email collectors/bots out there would grab the email address you posted there, DernierCri-friend,
and you're gonna receive *plenty* of 'presents, alright...^^ spam presents!
Oh, but I'd conribute this little sappy excerpt from a book that my friend urges me to read ^^... it might help
somewhat... it's a Christian book, BTW (haha, Im definitely no Christian but I'm open to lots of
views/perspectives that make sense to me)... I do hope it helps you out, friend, in affirming your love to your partner!
Haha, darkness and love -- truly a romantique pairing. (and yes, I'll send something nice to the email,
k?)
The Five Languages of Love
(excerpts from the book)
How many times do we hear about people not feeling loved by their partner, much to the partner's surprise and
frustration? According to Gary Chapman, author of "The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to
Your Mate" it is often the case that love is there and being expressed, but not in the "language" that
the loved one understands. Each of us has a primary language of love…ways that we express love and things we see
as expressions of love. If we can learn and use each other's love language, we can increase the quality in our
relationships.
Gary identifies these five love languages as:
*Words of Affirmation. An unsolicited compliment, a kind word, and words of
encouragement are very powerful. Mark Twain once said "I can live for two months on a good
compliment."
*Quality Time. This means togetherness and personal connection, not just being
physically nearby. Learn to have a quality conversation, really listening to each other. Take time to have fun together.
Do things you each enjoy; explore new activities together.
*Receiving Gifts. The message here is that the gift giver was thinking of you and
wanted to let you know. Expense is not the main thing – it’s the meaning. A favorite treat picked up on
the way home or a card for no reason sends a priceless message.
*Acts of Service. Cooking, washing the car, laundry can be acts of love.
Challenge the stereotypes. Doing something that is helpful to your loved one will be noticed, if it is their language of
love.
*Physical Touch. A hug, a kiss, holding hands, and sexual intercourse are all
ways of communicating love. Research indicates that positive physical contact is important to emotional health; some say
you need four hugs a day.
Do you know your partner's primary love language? If you aren't communicating your love in ways your partner
understands, your relationship may suffer.
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