Quote by AyamaelWell, i'm
sorry Mordin, i just had to do it (and Iyasis encouraged me,
but ran away when i asked her to do it lol). Hope you'll forgive me...
^^... Actually, it's not an answer to your thread coz' it's true that a
lot of girls do that.... It's just that, as Cy himself stated, nice
girls also finish last (i'm a living proof of that, 21 years old, and
i've never been asked out on a date, however, i'm the first person guys
come to for help and advice for anything... and i'm serious!). Now, i'm
also gonna generalize... (for anyone who wants to see Mordin's thread :
http://forum.minitokyo.net/showthread/15758/
Nice girls have similar problem as the one’s Mordin pointed out for
nice guys: girls that are shy, serious, and who may not be the
prettiest or popular girl, yet are truly genuine, sincere, and
kind-hearted are always left out. Guys will go for the hot chick that
is outspoken, popular, flirty, and more open, etc but in the end, that
girl is probably gonna dump them after finding someone else that is
more "up-to-date" and more popular, so to speak... Okay, i know many
girls like that, but i'll give you the exemple of a girl i grew up
with. She changed boyfriends every week, if not days... Not only that,
she got one of the nicest guy in our school, and when i say nicest, i
mean it : he was willing to sacrifice everything for her, but she
cheated on him, manipulated him and so on. Eventually, she made him
just like her. Now he's one of those guys who considers girls as
collecting toys... (basically, the description of Mordin's
sleezebag...) No wonder, he's probably never gonna trust a girl
again... I really feel bad for him...
I guess it is a fact we are attracted to people who are
self-confident... Another issue is the reputation of each gender when
it comes to their behaviour and activities…, Iyasis mentioned that I
should also talk about the "dating double standard ". In short, if a
guy goes out with a lot of girls and basically is a player, they are
perceived as a "stud", "ladiesman" and admired and idolized by both
their male and female peers. Conversely, if a female does the exact
same thing, and goes out with a lot of guys, they are negatively
labelled as a "slut", among other unpleasant names, and often frowned
upon by those same peers.
Well, you're right it's nice to get this off our chest Mordin ^^...i'm
sorry again.. *runs away now*
LOL, I am running out of drink for guys and gals now. :D hey Ayamael, I see you got one up on me. :D Well I tried to
avoid joining this thread until I can find the right words that I wanted to say. :) I understand your frustration,
because nice girls do suffer the similar circumstance nice guys goes through. I will bow to those nice girls that is
willing to give us nice guys a chance. Hey, I think it just isn't fair certain girls that are shy gets the lousy
end of the stick. :) The double standard between the genders does make girls' life more miserable than guys, and I
will admit that when it comes to reputation in dating, the girls have it rough. As you stated it, the preception is so
different between guys that date a lot compare to girls that date a lot. I do give you nice gals props for facing so
many social pressure as a woman, and I appreciate you gals very much. :) I like nice girls if you haven't already
notices, so if I ever seen you nice gals in real life, Ayamael, Celessa, Skysong, and all the other nice mt girls, I
will make it a point to do my best to show you us nice guys are good for you ladies. ;) Btw, Ayamael, it feels great to
this off my chest too. :D
Quote by CelessaNow I'll
hate to admit, that even though people may consider me to be one of the most beautiful, personality-crazed girl out
there, the truth is that you don't find many of these people as nice, and although I hate to boast, I'm one of
those nice girls as well. **Raises her hands**
...............
When a guy leaves a nice compliment, I will return one in respects, especially to a stranger. I know good guys and
terrible guys out there - I take value of friends as great and I don't like to talk behind one's back. I keep
it bottled up or I'll tall the person straight up when it is considered appropriate. And I don't turn a blind
eye on people's opinions all the time. I'm more of those girls who like to stay back and listen to what they
have to say, though I'll admit some people bore me. Then I just stand up and walk away, saying I feel tired. I know
I don't like offending them, but I hate people when they stick on to me because of my looks - this girl is one
clever one to boot.
So to all the beautiful girls out there like me with the brain power - filled with kindness and spiritual feelings at
heart, this is for you! Unique and very very rare we are! **Chugs on a root beer** Girl power
rules!
"most beautiful, personality-crazed girl" I guess you just give me a new image of you princess. :D lol the
girl power image also fits you very well. Now on a serious note, on behalf of the guys I do thank you and the rest of
the girls for listen to our side of story before pounding on our heads. :D j/k It is nice to see someone actually care
enough to listen to all sides of the argument before deciding one's own opinion, and I thank all nice girls who do
such kind thing. :)
Quote by skysongAyamael is my
hero! I have basically the same problem you do -_- I'm
not outspoken and flirty, and I seem to many times act as the advice
giver. Still, i have never been on a date...I work hard in school, and
I'm not a big party person, so guys put me into this 'smart girl'
category where I'm only good for helping people with school stuff...I
really hate that...I really don't consider myself all that smart, its
just that I feel it important to do well in school. But then I feel
labeled, and perhaps that puts guys off a bit, I don't really
know...hmmm...its so hard to understand! Thing is, I like helping
people as much as I can, and many guys don't want to be with a 'goody,
goody' but I can't help it if I'm a bit like that! I have always been
taught to respect people, and to be friendly...its just the way I am,
and I don't think I should have to change that.
Well skysong, i have you know that I consider smart girls very attractive, and there is nothing in being ashame of being
a hard working and successful person. Those guys that got put off by it just don't know anything. :) I salute you
for being a helpful and hard working gal, so you should feel pride in your own personality. I know a lot of nice guys
are dying to meet someone like you offline. :D
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Now all of that being said, my praise for all of you nice gals are honest and true, but one question I got to get it
out. HOW DO I FIND YOU girls? YOU ladies don't exctaly FALL OUT OF THE SKY THE LAST TIME I check. :)
