Sorry for the late post. lol. but I really want to answer some of these.
Quote by melmachine18Another thread as a result of my recent
experiences...is it really so beneficial to hold grudges against other people regardless of what they have done? This
thread is a little bit more for discussion, so sorry for the entrance post being so long; you all should know me by now,
heheh. smiley I won't mention any names since I know that there are some people who hold grudges against others in
different ways.
First off, it is good that you never mentioned any names. This will only produce more chaos if you did and if chaos is
brought upon by members in MiniTokyo, then you deserve a ban from the community, and you shall earn it.
I personally find grudges useless and a worthless piece of shit. I've been in that situation mind you. For 2 years
I had been angry at this person. I knew he was wrong and that I was right but in the end it was my reputation that got
destroyed. The worst part is it was me who destroyed my being.. my self-esteem. But like what the famous quote says,
there's a reason for everything and you learn from everything. Yes I did learn something. I learned a lot of things
and I learned them the hard way. Grudges do not give out anything beneficial. Remember that when you plant a grudge it
is just as good as saying that you planted a seed. Whatever the outcome is will be its fruit. Bad seeds neve bear good
fruit. Just so you have to know.
And here's a more convincing metaphor. Saying that you only "grudged/sinned" a tiny bit is as good as
saying that you are a little pregnant. It is no different with someone who is actually pregnant. Sooner or later, a
fruit will open through.
Quote by melmachine18Moving on is not something anyone should be forced to
do unless all the circumstances are assessed, so of course, I begin to hold grudge on those who force me to do such a
thing. Right now, though, I'm quite laid back and I usually let all offensive notes pass right by me because either
I'm so used to getting put down or I end up ignoring it.
I believe that moving on is the most natural and effective way for a human being to live freely. Bearing grudges only
puts you in a cage. Trust me, I have had this experience already and I know what I'm talking about. Even when other
people hold something againts you, do not burden yourself by holding something back. But that doesn't mean you have
to be nice to them or anything. Its human nature to avoid our enemies but it is godly to love them. Loving our enemies
is the hardest trial of all because it takes most of the courage in us. I had been in both situations. I did both too.
When I despised people I didn't like, I only ended up being put down not only by them but also by myself. As I
said, it might not come out at first but eventually, once feel like you don't have anyone around you anymore,
that's when you feel really lonely and that when you are putting yourself down. Being lifeless is not a good
option. It can only resolve to a broken heart.
However, if you do choose to love them, care for them and include them in your prayers, you will be blessed. I do not
mean to say anything corny because this is a tried and tested formula. It is not an instant reply, it took me a lot of
time, years even before I completely transformed myself into what I consider a being of light. There. And it had good
results and as of now, I am very very happy with my life which is so full of surprises. Both socially, emotionally,
etc.
I love life and I want to live it. Happily. I will not waste my time thinking of unnecessary thoughts that keep
repeating all over and over again. Better to let the future be untold. Who cares about bad comments. As long as you
yourself is happy, none of it would matter. Only an insecure person would hold grudges because he or she envies a
certain something of his enemy. This is true. Though we do not really get to realize it at first. Try to heal yourself
first. It will bring you peace.
Quote by melmachine18However, is there a such thing as online grudges? How
is it possible to hold a grudge against someone online? It doesn't make sense if you're not really getting a
sense of their true feelings. Online is just words; yes, the words may be arranged in such a way that you receive a
certain feeling, such as sadness or enjoyment, but still, I don't think holding grudges online is necessary unless
the person on the other side really means what they say in a way in which you can hold a grudge against
them.
Uhmm.. I think there is. Holding grudges doesn't concern whether it be online or offline. A Grudge is a form of
hatred towards a fellow being. This is not good as I have mentioned.
i know someone, several people in MiniTokyo who has a grudge on my friend and vice versa. I understand the person's
point of view but it is already of the past. Do not make this world worse as hell as it already is. You are not only
hurting that person but yourself. Do you really think that you got everything covered up by bickering and flaming that
person endlessly? I do not think so.
I also think several people in the community do not like me. I do not really know but I do not really care. Fuck off is
all I can say. And after that, I do not hold anyform of grudge. I simply walk away, confident because I always know that
I have my family, my friends and God oh God who is the most important being within me. There that says it all.
Quote by melmachine18I
don't think holding grudges is a beneficial thing because it only shows that you can't really get rid of your
problems as much as you think you could. There are many ways in which people hold grudges online and offline, such as
ignoring them or avoiding them, blocking them on an IM, or if talking to them they're more harsh and they care less
for you. I don't like it when people hold grudges against me because it makes me feel as if I did something so
terrible to them, and I know that sometimes I can be harsh and I may not say many things in a good manner. However, I do
not mean everything I say.
I am glad we are taking the same sides. Is this the reason why you took a break or something? I am just curious.
^^;
Quote by melmachine18So my
questions to you:
- Do you think it is beneficial to hold grudges against other people, or do you think it serves no purpose?
- If you do hold grudges against other people, and they are asking and willing to solve a problem they know that
could've been avoided, what will you do?
- Is holding online grudges a good thing or not?
- Do you think people can grow up holding grudges against other people? Do you think people can even get rid of their
problems holding grudges?
- No. it is not.
- I would be very delighted. Get real people. It is a very good feeling when you find out that people whom hurt you or
vice versa would want to reconcile.
- no.
- People who grow up holding grudges will never find the true beauty of life. Fuck it. I mean come on! It will only
start hurting yourself. So there, that's my opinion. hehe. imho.
