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Should parents have a right to spank/whip misbehaved children?

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Shadowdawn

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Halllllo everyone, i'mm sooo soory i took so long, but i was on an internship in Japan for half of the summer!!!(please forgive me???).
Anyway, i was wondering if you agree with the law put down in some countries that, disables parents from whiping, beating, spanking, or using any means of physical force to punish their misbehaved children. I realize that while this law wasn't prohibited, some parents took it to the extreme, and abused the child. However all of the older people i know say that because their parents spanked or whiped them, they became better people. I find this hard to beleive (i was never hit) , but could it be true?
Ok, please tell me your veiws and opinions on this topic, and have fun!

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I think It's fine for parents to use physical force for discipline, not abuse, Because we all know that some kids need it.

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I saw it seems okay to disipline their child by spanking.........but it must not go as far as to injure your child to the point where they have to for example see medical help.....I dunno in my personal experience my parents use tu use it as a scare factor to make sure we behaved well....not saying I didn't behave well when I was young...I was a very good little child...

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A little discipline never hurt anyone but it should be done only when it has to be done and it shouldn't have to go to the point of abuse either.

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Discipline would be needed for many kids. But there shouldn't be abuse.

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i believe that discipline is necessary or else children will never learn respect. i was spanked as a child and i turned out (reasonably) fine! XP but it should never get to the point where it becomes abusive... so then the question comes up... where to draw the line? couldn't any kind of physical punishment be considered abuse? it's kind of a double edged sword... if you ban it outright then some kids may never learn how to respect their parents, but it you allow it then based on the judgement of the parents, abuse will continue to happen.

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They have the right. But they should not abuse it.

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Some physical punishment should be used in disciplining children but only to a certain point. But it should be used too much or it will be considered abuse.

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I think parents should be allowed to discipline kids physically, I was hit as a kid, you learn quickly when pains involved.

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I ever saw in the news that a mother spank her child in the supermarket because he threw a tamtrum to buy some tit bits. A passerby saw it and actually inform the goverment to sue the mother for child abuse... The mother was found guilty and jailed for 2 weeks... -_-

i think 'spare the rod and spoil the child' is very true. I think spanking is required to discipline the child, but we need to explain what he have done wrongly before we do it.

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I believe spanking is okay but I wouldn't punch, kick, strangle, or even shake a kid. Just the plain flat hand spanking but they have to do something seriously bad. I have friends who don't believe in spanking I guess they haven't seen a naughty kid yet.

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I am for it. Gotta make it hurt, otherwise they just get mean.

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i'm for it, i got hit as a kid, i'll promise you kids get hit once they will think twice before doing something stuiped

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We discussed this topic in some detail here:

http://forum.minitokyo.net/showthread/27672/

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I see no reason to allow it so no.
Here in Sweden it's illegal to punish your children in that kind of way.

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Obviously, some sort of punishment is needed, and if administered properly, smacking not whipping is probably the best means of doing so. It's an effective deterent, but it only takes a few seconds to administer, which means there's no prolonged period in which a parent has to place conditions on the access of their love for the child. I'm certain glad I was smacked intelligently and responsibly as a child.

Having said that, there is one big problem with it which is that an awful lot of parents aren't responsible enough to do it properly. If it's ever done in anger, or used in a situation where the child wasn't aware that what they were doing was wrong, then that is bad.

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Quote by minebannObviously, some sort of punishment is needed, and if administered
properly, smacking not whipping is probably the best means of
doing so. It's an effective deterent, but it only takes a few seconds
to administer, which means there's no prolonged period in which a
parent has to place conditions on the access of their love for the
child. I'm certain glad I was smacked intelligently and responsibly as
a child.
Having said that, there is one big problem with it which is that an
awful lot of parents aren't responsible enough to do it properly. If
it's ever done in anger, or used in a situation where the child wasn't
aware that what they were doing was wrong, then that is bad.

yes, the problem is with parents not taking responsability for their children but I still think violence is the wrong way to tackle the problem.
Groundning them from going out late at night, from using the computer, watching TV or whatever is a better way to punish them. It also forced the child to come up with something else to do and that need creativity and that's only good. I'm not saying that this method would work with any child but I think it's better than violence.

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Sometimes bad children need a little bit discipline! If parents have no other choice as the spanking then it is the only possible way if they do not want to pay money for a person who do the job for them... In that case: Yes sometimes violence is needed!

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I work in retail and it is truely annoying when a bad child comes through and isn't punished. I see it at least once a weekend. A kid comes through and starts screaming and crying that they want something, two scenarios may then occur:
A) The child gets wacked and will cry for a minute and then behave and everyone will be happy, except for the kids for about a minute after been wacked
B) The parents think if they ignore their kid they'll get over it. The kid screams and screams the whole time annoying the staff, the customers, the parents. No one wins from that.

This is the reality of what happens day to day....Some people may say you should be able to put up with your child but what about other people. On the above i wish to stress that the children i see are just hit once on the backside........this is not considered abuse as far as i see.

As for the mother who was sent to gaol (jail) for hitting her child, this is just a hunch but the woman who reported her probably had a pet at home who she thought it just to smack as punishment when it urinated in the house.....this of course is just training a pet.....but don't children need training too?

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hell no...no spanking

if you spank and whip you are babaric XD

come on its children your talking about........if you spank them

they are gonna think its ok and do it to there kids....its just wrong...

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I think that spanking should be allowed, but parents must be careful in how they use it. It should be used for discipline (and not because a child is being annoying but doing nothing wrong) and it should be used sparingly. If you use it too much, the child becomes desensitized to it. If you use it too forcefully, it's flat out abuse. There is a fine line between disciplining and abusing your child.

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spanking should be allowed but whipping hasn't been used since i don't know when. i used to be spanked but now, my mom just yells at me. spanking does have it's benefits for the parents and the child will have learned his/her lessson, but if it's too much spanking, then i think it's called child abuse...

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One of my good friends ( who is coincidently my hair dresses ) got the metal buckle on a leather whip a few times, but she said that the memory of the incident faded over time, so does time truly erase anyhting?

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A little swat on the butt never hurt me. puf. if i was my mom i would have done the same thing. sometimes verbal scolding doesn't effect children so parents have to resort to physical. i'm sure they don't like doing it. but if the kid is being really bad. it works. alot of people imagine the extreme of this and look down upon it. but i wonder if the people saying this have children of their own...maybe that would change their veiws.

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