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I have a friend at school who has fallen for a guy 5 yeards older than her! I hear my other friends say hows it not right and I had another mate that liked someone with a even bigger age gap. I believe that age doesn't matter if you are love. What does everyone else think?

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that depends. anything 10+ is so unexceptable 4 me. i'm 13 1/2 and anyone over 10years over mine or others is clearly 2 old 4 me. XP

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just as long as he treats the girl right it's okay. if she comes back saying she got dumped because of gossiping about the age gap, FIX IT! or get another guy.... but that's just my perspective. :)

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Yu-huang

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It depends on the scenario. If the girl is 10 and guy is 20 then you have a problem.
But 10 years later when the girl is 20 and the guy is 30 it is acceptable.

Who forces time is pushed back by time; man fear the flow of time because they know that all that awaits them is death.

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Quote by Yu-huangIt depends on the scenario. If the girl is 10 and guy is 20 then you have a problem.
But 10 years later when the girl is 20 and the guy is 30 it is acceptable.

now ur speaking the language of love! :nya:

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well... i think that as long as its not more than say 5 years or so it doesnt really matter...

unless its between a thirteen year old and an eighteen year old! >_<
thats just perverted!

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I just broke up with a guy who was five years older than me, and I can say from experience that no, it isn't the best idea to date someone that much older than you. =) Especially not if one is in high school and one's going off to college *cough*. Because there's a BIG gap between the maturity levels, and the goals and expectations are different. Unless you're "fast" and "slutty," you should stick with your own age area.

-- Exception: if you're over the age of 30, age stops mattering because you've reached that place in life where.. you're mature enough to handle a relationship with such a big difference.

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Yes. Especially when one person is 13 and the other is 31. That's just pediphilia. And how much does a teenager know about love anyway? Most adults don't know what love is; It's more like the age of infatuation and raging hormones. With age comes experience, so even if both parties are adults, the older one is still kinda taking advantage of, if there say 10-20 years their senior.

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Quote by JazzYes. Especially when one person is 13 and the other is 31. That's just pediphilia. And how much does a teenager know about love anyway? Most adults don't know what love is; It's more like the age of infatuation and raging hormones. With age comes experience, so even if both parties are adults, the older one is still kinda taking advantage of, if there say 10-20 years their senior.

I don't know about 'pediphilia', do you mean pedophilia? Anyway, I do agree that teenager and most adult do not know about love.

One must remember that age may give one experience, however, it does not grant wisdom. One may be young and know more than an adult.

The real question then becomes what is love to begin with?

Who forces time is pushed back by time; man fear the flow of time because they know that all that awaits them is death.

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Love is your own definition. You define it yourself.
Age doesn't always matter until it reaches out of range. It kind of plays as an experience of it. Just that it seems odd that you would find someone who is over 10 years. Anyway, it depends on a lot of things.

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I'd say that its wrong to fall in love and get into a physical relationship with someone who is underage, since that wou;d be illigal. But if both people are over the age of consent, I'd be inclined to say that age doesn't matter (I'm 19 years old, and I'm dating a 36 year old. We've been going out for a year, we're both in love with each other, and we're both happy with the way the relationshop is going). I think there's bound to be problems with a large age gap, such as having kids for instance, but if you're talking about just the relationship itself, then I can't condemm one if there's an age gap between two people. Its quite common, and, incidentally, 5 years is absolutely nothing.

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Quote by WhenAngelsFallI just broke up with a guy who was five years older than me, and I can say from experience that no, it isn't the best idea to date someone that much older than you. =) Especially not if one is in high school and one's going off to college *cough*. Because there's a BIG gap between the maturity levels, and the goals and expectations are different. Unless you're "fast" and "slutty," you should stick with your own age area.

Your right i broke up wit a guy who was hmm 3-4 years older than me...total jerk! they dont treat ya rite and thats not the first....the other guy was 5 years older and he was sweet he treated me right...i never went out with him it was just a little weekend fling thing...but he respected me...until i didnt go all da way for him the next day he pretty much ditched me for two other girls it was sickining! but personally if they all like eachother then sure theres no prob with going out with sum one 5 years older than you just kno what your getting yourself into!

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Well, it depends on some things: 1) what kind of love, 'cause you know that hot smexy love isn't all there is, right? 2) if it is a bf/gf relationship, you'd have to follow what is said above: it doesn't really matter the number of years apart, its the years that are aprart the ones that matter (look at the example 10-20/20-30) 3) you gotta be careful, since more experienced people will want things that you may not have to offer yet, and that's almost always a reason to be dumped (WhenAngelsFall case)

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i beleive when you are young.. meaning still schooling.. you care about age diff, because it is so damn isn't it..

but when you start working, the age diff isnt so obvious isn't it..
maybe the apperance does shows.. however diff in apperance between 25 and 30 not really that transparent.

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Q: "The real question then becomes what is love to begin with?" -Yu-huang
A: " Love is your own definition. You define it yourself. -Kyuoto

That was rhetorical question.

Who forces time is pushed back by time; man fear the flow of time because they know that all that awaits them is death.

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Age matters to a point of it being "legal" even then, teenagers break the rules with some...sexual situations before they are even 18...it does happen. I've heard a friend of mine complain that a co-worker just under a year or two of him(he's 24 now) is going out with a guy in their 40's... *blinks twice and gets a cold chill* Kinda disturbing sometimes.

It's "legal" but still kinda creepy... Some things cannot be so easily explained. If you have feeling for a person and they have feelings for you, then, why not? Go for it and try and see where it goes but don't expect everything to turn out perfect just because you like him/her and she/he likes you.

Its all in the matter of perspective...i guess.

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Its depedns on the person. If he/she cares about the age difference stuff, then, its a problem. But if the person doesn't care about it, then, its okay. Weather the one he/she loves is 10 or even 20 yrs old.

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~It depends on the scenario. If the girl is 10 and guy is 20 then you have a problem.
But 10 years later when the girl is 20 and the guy is 30 it is acceptable. ~

Yeah axsactly what he said! i mean u just really like have to grow out of ure little kid age, and then not worry about ure age with the guy/girl. coz really if u are young, and ure partner is like, "Well okay i am going to cut it here for a minute sorry!" Well, alright lets see, i have had one guy in my past that i really liked, and he was 8 years older than me! Okay here is were it ges kind of dirty! XD just kidn, well... he was only like 19 or 20, and i was 8 years younger than him, so i was like 11, or 12.. So in anycase he grew up getting with another gurl, and i was in America while he was in Russia... Okay kind of like off the subject! ^_^' sorry bout that. . . .

But well i dunno, i mean like if the guy that u love and u think he loves u back like calls u a "Kid" all the time, or always pads u on ure head well.. that kind of means he is thinking of u as an little kid that he is SICKLY! in love with... No no no no no! okay well i wood like just sugjest ure gurl friend to pick! Really, if she thinks that he is THA perfect man, and even thou he is 5 years older than her, then i wood say its acceptable! I mean just to tell u i have always wanted a guy older then me coz they have had MUCh more experience, and all, and plus they dont act like those dumb asses that are like younger than me! XD lol! Well yeah thats what i think! Sorry for making u listen to all this, it really wasent nesesery, but i think i got my point! ;D Thanks for sharing ure feelings here, its nice to now u care about ure friends!
Well then take care, and i wood just say make the right choises, and make sure that that person who u like/or LOVE" doesnt treet u like a kid if he is older than u! coz that wood make some things kind of... hum... wierd! ! ! !
well then, Ci YA!
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Let's see, Since we are saying about BGR love, then i will say everyone here proves his/her point well, valid and are actual facts.

It depends on what kind of a person you really are, materialistic, carefree etc etc and how you live in the world you see from your own perspective. Age does not act as boundary for love cause the world we are living in imploys a moral set of rules one of which is;" Age can't go with Love." ! (Which i believe is a total big distraction) What i am trying to say is, don't get affected by your surrounding factors. Go with your own flow.

I agree with Feenixdeathdeal on this :

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It's "legal" but still kinda creepy... Some things cannot be so easily explained. If you have feeling for a person and they have feelings for you, then, why not? Go for it and try and see where it goes but don't expect everything to turn out perfect just because you like him/her and she/he likes you.

Its all in the matter of perspective...i guess.

We are all too Judgemental. That's the flaw of been us. That's why we have the term; "Perfectionist". Everyone wants someone on their "wishlist" or i term it, the Criteria. Boys called it the "Perfect Angel" or Salvation. Girls term it, " The Right One" or commonly, "Mr Right". About why, i'll leave it to your vivid imagination.


Quote by kiokorenay703~It depends on the scenario. If the girl is 10 and guy is 20 then you have a problem.
But 10 years later when the girl is 20 and the guy is 30 it is acceptable. ~

Yeah axsactly what he said! i mean u just really like have to grow out of ure little kid age, and then not worry about ure age with the guy/girl. coz really if u are young, and ure partner is like, "Well okay i am going to cut it here for a minute sorry!" Well, alright lets see, i have had one guy in my past that i really liked, and he was 8 years older than me! Okay here is were it ges kind of dirty! XD just kidn, well... he was only like 19 or 20, and i was 8 years younger than him, so i was like 11, or 12.. So in anycase he grew up getting with another gurl, and i was in America while he was in Russia... Okay kind of like off the subject! ^_^' sorry bout that. . . .

But well i dunno, i mean like if the guy that u love and u think he loves u back like calls u a "Kid" all the time, or always pads u on ure head well.. that kind of means he is thinking of u as an little kid that he is SICKLY! in love with... No no no no no! okay well i wood like just sugjest ure gurl friend to pick! Really, if she thinks that he is THA perfect man, and even thou he is 5 years older than her, then i wood say its acceptable! I mean just to tell u i have always wanted a guy older then me coz they have had MUCh more experience, and all, and plus they dont act like those dumb asses that are like younger than me! XD lol! Well yeah thats what i think! Sorry for making u listen to all this, it really wasent nesesery, but i think i got my point! ;D Thanks for sharing ure feelings here, its nice to now u care about ure friends!
Well then take care, and i wood just say make the right choises, and make sure that that person who u like/or LOVE" doesnt treet u like a kid if he is older than u! coz that wood make some things kind of... hum... wierd! ! ! !
well then, Ci YA!
~Kioko~

A fine answer! Good one there!


Although Age does pose a mighty problem cause of generation gaps, topics to talk about and etc etc. Cause as we grow older and become much more self-aware of our life, that's where our morality kicks in. Hell, i can even tell you it even affects your Job and moral issues! However, since its BGR, Age can go with love as long as both individuals are matured enough, knows what they are handling with and what's going on. Cause most of the time, people become aware and self-conscious about how fragile this issue really is through life experiences.

(Heck, if Square reveals that Aerith is over 400 yr old and Cloud is in his Teens, woah...)

Take the Korean Drama series, "My Bride is 18". It's a fairly good example. Age cannot outmatch time as time cannot outmatch Love.

Correct me if i am seriously wrong. I am open.

Age doesn't matter in love. It's acceptance.

Like i say, 'Let as Time runs."

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Quote by JazzYes. Especially when one person is 13 and the other is 31. That's just pediphilia. And how much does a teenager know about love anyway? Most adults don't know what love is; It's more like the age of infatuation and raging hormones. With age comes experience, so even if both parties are adults, the older one is still kinda taking advantage of, if there say 10-20 years their senior.

My bf is 4 years older than me. The older the guy is, the more expectations he has. Try not to get a love partner too much older than you. I had a classmate who, at the age of 18 had a 31year old boyfriend. The gap is too big. I can think of another example: in my country there is a public couple the girl is 18 and the man is 50 or so(he's even older than the girl's father!), so no matter what others say...age DOES matter

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Feh, pedophilia is a red herring scare perpetuated by feminist elites and the corrupt family courts systems in anglicised countries. I say, who gives a crap...If that brand love is illegal in your country for political engineering reasons, whisk yourselves away to the woods, and bring lots of claymore mines with you, and maybe a rifle or two. Enough resisters will destroy these terribly unjust double standards and force them to capitulate.

Oh...excuse me got off track, no I don't think it matters.
My sister got married at 15 and my brother in law got locked up for a year since she wasn't legal federally (even though they were married in a different country thus should have had immunity from it even after becoming a citizen), but once she grew old enough he got let out and it was magically okay. :( I get kind of irritable whenever that term is thrown around because of that. >=(
Good thing I'm in a good mood today or I would start ranting like the Unabomber.
I say if you're going to be so invasive of other peoples' lives you must not have a lot of interesting things happening in your own...damn drama whores. >.<

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Quote by Aimee1991well... i think that as long as its not more than say 5 years or so it doesnt really matter...

unless its between a thirteen year old and an eighteen year old! >_<
thats just perverted!

That's still perverted....

Quote by KrawczykFeh, pedophilia is a red herring scare perpetuated by feminist elites and the corrupt family courts systems in anglicised countries. I say, who gives a crap...If that brand love is illegal in your country for political engineering reasons, whisk yourselves away to the woods, and bring lots of claymore mines with you, and maybe a rifle or two. Enough resisters will destroy these terribly unjust double standards and force them to capitulate.

Oh...excuse me got off track, no I don't think it matters.
My sister got married at 15 and my brother in law got locked up for a year since she wasn't legal federally (even though they were married in a different country thus should have had immunity from it even after becoming a citizen), but once she grew old enough he got let out and it was magically okay. :( I get kind of irritable whenever that term is thrown around because of that. >=(
Good thing I'm in a good mood today or I would start ranting like the Unabomber.
I say if you're going to be so invasive of other peoples' lives you must not have a lot of interesting things happening in your own...damn drama whores. >.<


How could you let your sister destroy her life so early.....>__<

You're a bad brother...and he was a pedophile~
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back to the subject...yes age matters...

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does it matter that a 15 yr old falls in love wit a 20 yr old?
yes

do 15 yr olds still fall in love wit 20 yr olds anyways?
yes

the prob is the changes they go thru as they age....
one experiences things before the other,
instead of them sharing the same experiences at the same time

the further apart the age, the less things they have to share

but hey, if a 15 yr old and a 25 yr old r in luv...
and 30 yrs later when they're 35 and 45, and they're still in luv together...
then much respect to that couple

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Quote by Aimee1991well... i think that as long as its not more than say 5 years or so it doesnt really matter...

unless its between a thirteen year old and an eighteen year old! >_<
thats just perverted!

That's still perverted....

Quote by KrawczykFeh, pedophilia is a red herring scare perpetuated by feminist elites and the corrupt family courts systems in anglicised countries. I say, who gives a crap...If that brand love is illegal in your country for political engineering reasons, whisk yourselves away to the woods, and bring lots of claymore mines with you, and maybe a rifle or two. Enough resisters will destroy these terribly unjust double standards and force them to capitulate.

Oh...excuse me got off track, no I don't think it matters.
My sister got married at 15 and my brother in law got locked up for a year since she wasn't legal federally (even though they were married in a different country thus should have had immunity from it even after becoming a citizen), but once she grew old enough he got let out and it was magically okay. :( I get kind of irritable whenever that term is thrown around because of that. >=(
Good thing I'm in a good mood today or I would start ranting like the Unabomber.
I say if you're going to be so invasive of other peoples' lives you must not have a lot of interesting things happening in your own...damn drama whores. >.<


How could you let your sister destroy her life so early.....>__<

You're a bad brother...and he was a pedophile~
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back to the subject...yes age matters...


You're insane. What backwoods hick country are you from?
This incident was in the US, in the interest of hiding his identity I won't say the state though. Pitiful troll, try harder next time...
Perhaps learn from these lovely people. ;P
She'd been a fully grown woman for a whole year where I come from btw. :D

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