Hello everyone, I'm writing to you people because my best friend it's getting married next month (October 14 to be more specific) and she's the saddest bride I had ever seen -_-.
My best friend, Denisse, has a difficult relationship with her parents, they don't trust her so they tend to be very oppresive with their permissions to her, when she was annoyed she lied to them and -in return- they scolded her a lot and so the circle goes on and on. My friend started to get a little difficult, she arrived late at home, sometimes she didn't arrived at all and never called, sometimes she said that she went to a place and instead went to another place, etc. So her parents didn't beleive in her or trust her when she started to grow up and started to say the truth. She is a good girl with a tender nature, she is a great friend who is always there when you need a hand or an advice... but lately she looks so sad and I don't know what to do to help her...
My friend is 24 years old and studies to become a teacher, she's in her last year and her parents paid her studies so -from time to time- she works part-time and earn a little bit of money, she cannot leave her house and she struggles to remain in a good relationship with her parents (especially her dad who is... a jerk, I dislike him a lot), she has a bunch of special friends (actors, producers, musicians, etc.) a bohemian factory of people ;) and started to date one of them, a 34 years old ambiguous music producer, musician and photographer, her fiancee is a very strange guy, he's very selfish and stingy, he asked her to marry him after dating for one month and he never gave her an engagement ring because he -->didn't believe in those things<-- *snort* anyway, he also never pays when they go out, sometimes he borrow money from my friend and then never return it. I feel that he has bisexual manners (I hate bisexuals the most)... I don't know how to say this but he speaks softly and he's almost delicate, he works at night and is a friend of musicians like Marilyn Mason and 8mm, he lived in San Francisco for 2 years, he had lived with at least 4 women and dated a lot more, and all of a sudden he decided that my friend was the love of his life and asked her to marry him...
NOW... my friend it's not a saint but she doesn't have HIS experience in life, HE knows what he wants and my friend doesn't, she doesn't want to get married but she has great sex with him so... I think that she has a a sex infatuation more than a love commitment with him, she has a terrible relationship with her parents, feels lonely, scared and trapped and she sees marriage as some sort of escape... I know this because I'm her only and best friend and I don't know what to do, she started to make the arrangements for her wedding and she was discouraged, stressed, annoyed and sad (she didn't even want to buy her wedding dress... or anything for that matter). She called yesterday crying saying that she will come and spend the night at my house because she didn't want to go home (she has broken up with her fiance), and she asked me to call to her parents which I did and then called two hours later saying that she was staying at her fiance (still crying) because it was late and he didn't want her to leave his house because it was dangerous x_x, in the end I told her that she should call her parents but knowing her I decided to call them myself just in case, not only she didn't call them... she lied to them again and never told them where she was so in the end I was the messenger between my friend and her parents.
Right know I don't even know what to do or what to say to her and that's why I'm here asking for your advice...
If you had a friend in this situation... what would you tell to her?
Thanks for your answers and advices.