back to business ^_^'
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nice is not the precise word to describe the interests in G.L (that is, if you are a serious fan of gothic
lolita).
as far as i did some research, i found something creepy X-P :
"japanese men find girls in gothic lolita dress unattractive. only those who are opposite are mostly
otaku/geeks"
this is because this fashion is mainly confined to girls' interests. they don't need to be attractive to
guys' eyes.
though you may see gothic lolita as fashion statement, the truth is, it's also some sort of girls' world
attachment. as stated in this website:
Quote: In my research, I found that for many lolita not associated with the
gothic culture, their clothing was meant to make them not a doll, but rather to bring them back to their childhood. In
Japan, children are taught from an early age the difference between "uchi"(inside, family, home) and
"soto"(outside, stranger, dirty, pollution). The clothing closely resembles the sorts of dresses a young girl
might wear before she has to go to school and become a member of society, where she interacts with the
"soto."
This is very important in Japan. When you are outside everyone will watch and critisize you for everything you do and
wear. The pressure has lead to the hikikomori phenomenon, where people (often schoolchildren), will lock themselves in
their rooms and not come out for months on end to avoid strangers. The home is where one can relax, get rid of the
pollution of strangers by changing their clothing and footwear, and feel comfortable and safe again, like they felt when
they were children.
Lolita, and its implications of childhood, is a way of taking that "uchi" and forcing it upon the
"soto". When a lolita wears her clothing, she isn't saying "look at me", she's saying
"leave me alone". In other cases, girls will move from the countryside and lose their comfort zone completely.
Sometimes the clothing reminds them of a friend or loved one who dressed lolita, and sometimes it reminds them of their
family and home. And so while not saying "go away", these girls are saying "I have nothing to hold on
to". Their clothing is a symbol of the fact that they have wrapped themselves in a makeshift home and given
themselves an identity. These girls tend to always dress lolita, and to be shy and lonely, whereas the aforementioned
group will tend to be more aloof and intimidating. They will have their friends or group, and are more likely to
critisize other lolita in order to make themselves feel better about themselves. Whichever way you look at it though,
both are trying to escape from the cruelty of society and into their own security. This is done through lolita and what
it symbolizes to them.
I think everyone has faced unjust criticism in their lives, maybe lolita more than other people. Or maybe they're
just more sensitive (or like pretty things >_< ). If I could, honestly, I would get rid of all of the people who
find meaning not in themselves, but in hating and picking on others. There's an arrogance in thinking oneself
better than others that does not bode well in the world right now, but seems to be an unfortunate part of human
nature.
(sorry, i'm not good in explaining. the worst part is i'm good in learning [but not teaching] >_< )
you can read more about G.L in this website, it's pretty much useful if you're learning about this :)
>>> http://lerman.biz/asagao/gothic_lolita/research1.html
aside, i recommend you to watch this video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GVzAxJQqRKY it's a news about
gothic lolita culture in japan. though in japanese language, you may understand how life goes by there. ^___________^
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more to write, i'll back with more info soon. (very sorry, i'm typing this despite in busy moment with stoopid
homeworks X-P )