Should this matter?

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brokenlonely

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I really like this guy i work with named Keenan. we have known each other for about a year. i really like him but the thing is that he has a baby and my mom dont want me to have that kind of stress on me but i dont care. my mom stating "its not because he is a different race than you it is because he is a father and that should be the major thing in his life right now." but he likes me 2 i just dont how much. should i try or make mom happy and leave him alone?

  • Jan 04, 2008

melymay

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Your mother is probably telling you this because she probably doesn't want you getting involved with his personal life. He has a kid after all.. But since you like him so much, I'm guessing the mother left him with the child? How cruel...

I wouldn't try anything though. Unless you find out how much he likes you.

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Everyone deserves to be with someone even if they have a child with someone else. I don't see why it would be a problem. But you have to realize that you are taking on not just this guy but you will have to be a good female role model to his child. I am not saying that you will have to be their mom, but you have to remember that they might to start to look at you that way and are you ready for that. Is this guy still involved with the mother of the child? If he is then you should stay clear till everything is completely over with him.
Well good luck and just remember to think over things carefully before jumping in!

  • Jan 04, 2008
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Your mother just cares about you, that's why she says not to hang with him. But I think you should do whatever makes you happy but at the same time be smart. Just do what your heart says.

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  • Jan 07, 2008

angelxxuan

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I don't think race/baby should even matter, love should be what matters, if you are under age then you sort of have to do what mom suggests but if you are over the age of 18 then you can listen to your mom's advice and then make your own mistakes in life, parents are there to shield us from making mistakes, for in truth this could be your best or worst mistake in your life, only you have the choice to make that judgement

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Aestus

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youre only 17 and you said you wanna be free, reason enough isnt it.
Take your time and you'll find another nice guy, maybe even a better one, at a better moment anyway.

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BlackSponge

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Lets see.
Uh, just my opinion but, the child is a key factor in this.
1 Question, is the mom still with him?
If she isn't, then if you REALLY want o go through with this, there are a couple of things you should keep in mind:
1: Are you prepared for the likelihood of parental responsibilities?
2: Does the father REALLY care about you as much as you believe, check twice as hard, just in case.
3:Are you financially pepared;job, career, education, stuff like that.

Oh, and a moms primary duty in life besides supporting a family is to help their child/dren grow up very well and be prepared to face the future challenges that await the child/dren.
I'm saying this because that's why your momma said those words to you.

Oh and if your not ready yet, just be patient.
If it doesn't work out with him, there are plenty of other fish in the sea, if you get my drift.
Be patient, you've got a whole life ahead of you.
Enjoy it as much as possible before you finally decide to settle down and raise a family of your own.

Hee-hee, you know....uh...I'm single, lol.
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  • Jan 09, 2008

melymay

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Quote by BlackSponge
Hee-hee, you know....uh...I'm single, lol.
heh.


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That was funny.

TessaLover12

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Quote by melymayYour mother is probably telling you this because she probably doesn't want you getting involved with his personal life. He has a kid after all.. But since you like him so much, I'm guessing the mother left him with the child? How cruel...

I wouldn't try anything though. Unless you find out how much he likes you.

Yeah, a baby is huge thing for anyone, but if you think you can handle that kind of responsability then by all means, comtinue on.

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  • Jan 10, 2008
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If both of you like each other, and you already have the preparation to accept the gossiping of others and willing to treat that child as your own, why not? Although i believe your mom will be angry at first but as time go pass, she will finally still accept this as you are her daughter!i have a friend whose mother remarry another guy and they are still happily living together! You have to let your mom knw your decision and your determination to face any difficulty marrying this guy...

  • Jan 14, 2008
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You will be find as long as you do not get pregnant. Better yet don't even have sex. You will likely break up with him eventually, but if you get pregnant you are doomed for life.

  • Jan 16, 2008

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