a friend i made in a game about 3-4 years ago, and his girlfriend both of whom i finally had a flip on that made me wish not to being their msn buddy any more.
this i think is gonna be a long story and made end up as a wall of text, so if youre not into that, you might aswell hit the back button now.
okay story goes that i made friends with him purely by coincidence arround 4 years ago.
it started back in the game conquer online, when this was a fairly new game.
back when you could not use real life cash on getting your levels.
we decided to share msn, as we had a common interest in anime, girls, gaming and music.
we discussed many such topics on msn and often advised each other on new anime's to watch, music to try and tips
for the game.
later on we both got tired of the game and went to try new stuff together, which went fine.
now about the same time as we changed games, he also introduced me to his girlfriend, a sweet girl about the same age as
he (he is 5 years younger than me and im 23)
his girlfriend liked chatting to me mostly about private stuff, and not as much about game or anime, even though these
were common interests among us aswell.
now while they were a nice couple she has always had a tendency to nick on me, if i would come visit her in her country.
my answer was always that i cannot afford it, since im a student and in no way rich.
through conversation with her i also later found out that they are both kids of rich couples in their countries, and are
therefore spoiled senseless.
she then proposes that she can come see me, by flying up here to visit.
personally i wouldn't mind her visiting, but if i were her i would be a little more careful than simply wanting to
jump on the next plane, to meet someone you have only met online.
now she never came to visit me though she said over and over that she would (maybe she got cold feet or maybe someone
knocked a bit of sense into her head, either way i dont care)
now about a year ago, i suddenly became more of the person they went to when they had something on their heart (real
life problems). i would try as much as possible to help them through asking questions and coming up with possible
solutions to the problems.
i really didnt mind helping them mostly, later on though it became almost too often, and they would drag friends of
their own with them into a chat with me to have me help them with social problems aswell.
now being in my early 20's but having a lot more experience than them, as said. i didnt mind helping the 2. but
i'm not a counselor i dont get paid to help them with social problems and i tried to help them as best as i can,
but i really really do not wish to counsel someone i have no clue about who is. so in the end if they dragged friends
along, i would give them a few lines of advice, but refuse to give them my full evening to hear their stories aswell.
worst is when some of them tried to add me to their msn so i could help them again, i refused that, and that at times
made the 2 angry, that i would help them but refuse helping friends of theirs, some of whom were no more than 13 years
old...
i told them that i did not want to counsel their friends or their younger siblings.
when i then started having real life trouble myself and trying to ask them advice, i would often get either a
"lol" or "dont know how to help you"
this kind of annoyed me, as i would think that in a friendship the help should be able to go both ways, and that even
though they may not be skilled at advising people, they might be able to look better through my trouble than myself.
now about a week or two ago we start playing the first game again, that we had once went away from, but while the game
had changed the ways of the community in the game had not. he wished to gain social status in the game by showing off to
everyone that he could afford using paypal as often as he wanted.
a way which i disagreed very strongly about, as these friends will turn their back the minute you arent flashing your
cash anymore, the minute they find out that you arent sharing it with them.
this and having to listen to drunken stories from him, and having his girlfriend over and over sweettalking me while,
while praising her dimwit drunken boyfriend.
i was laying on my bed an evening and decided that "well ive given alot to them, but they have given very little
back", and generally i almost felt used.
all this brings me up to deleting them as contacts, isimply found that i did not want to give advice to them anymore,
and i did not want to hear sweettalk from the girl anymore. (in general i really hate being sweettalked to by anyone as
i find it totally pointless to have someone call you sweet and sent kisses either by sms or IM, as anyone can do it in a
message while they would never dare it in real life)
if you have actually read through aaaaallll this damn rant of mine, i give you a little respect, and now wish to hear
your opinion if you think i did the right thing in stopping contact with them, if i should have done so alot earlier or
think i should re-add them, and please do argument for what you say.
