is okay to like someone i met online? and date him in rl life?

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sweetanimegirl24

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umm...let's see...i happen to like this guy i met online alot..but i was wondering if i should meet him in real life...he lived in the same city as me...but im wondering if i should meet him..my friends says that if do want to meet him it has to be a public place..but some of the ppl i know says that i shouldn't meet him at all caz he's a stranger and he mgiht be a guy who just wants sex...so what do you think i should do?

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Oh, boy. That is a tough question. For myself, I would say not meet because in this situation I have too little information for me to judge whether you should meet this person. You said you met this person online. How long have you known him online? (I'm presuming he is male) Did he provide his real name? Since he live in the same city, did you have opportunity to have chat over telephone? Do you have common interest with him?

Since you can maintain communication via internet, don't rush and take your time. In this time and age, being too cautious is not a bad thing.

  • Jun 01, 2009

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Well, I've met my boyfriend online and it's been 3 years since we live together (he's 26 and I'm 23), but maybe this is not the right example, as we already knew each other even before meeting...however, I suggest the best thing to do is to meet him in a public place like a bar or pub during the DAY (obviously), so you can talk to each other and thus you can know him...otherwise you can have a walk with him, but what's important is that the both of you talk. Keep in contact with him, try to understand what kind of person he's...uhm, I guess I'm being repetitive but I hope I helped a little bit. :D

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okay, one: how old are you? Because unless you're at least 18, I say do not meet him. If you've known him for awhile (at least a year) then I think you should start by exchanging phone numbers (though I think this is best only if you have a cell phone; try not to give out a landline phone number). Talk to him on the phone first and then when you're an adult, I think it's all right to meet him in person, in public, and in the company of a few friends at least.

If you're over 18, then I still say start with phone conversations (and actually, a really good way to do that if both of you have mics in your computer is to talk via Skype) and then, again, when you meet him -and I see no harm in doing that- go to a public place accompanied by at least two friends (I think three at the most; don't want to have a crowd, but you don't want to be meeting him completely alone). That way not only are you in a place with other people, just to be safe, you've also got people there who know you and are there to keep an eye on things. Also, by having your friends meet him briefly, you can get their thoughts afterward.

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Gee I don't know. As pizzahutrebel said if you meet him go with a few buddies. However, keep them at a distance.... like spies.

You know why? I'm a guy and personally I will be thrown off if the girl I'm gonna meet has a bunch of friends with her sitting at the same meeting table. I will immediately leave the area. I want to meet the girl I like first.... her buddies later.

Phone numbers are good. Talk to him first. If you feel comfortable talking with him you should feel the same when you finally meet him.

I can relate to you. I've been talking to a girl online and we both agree to meet each other. But she is half-way across the planet. We have a long history online.... and after months of constantly talking with each other, meeting her has become one of my life goals.

Anyways good luck to you sweetanimegirl24.

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  • Jun 01, 2009
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I actually say yes, go for it. My best friend who I've know basicly all my life (I'm 19 btw) meet a girl on a game we both played. They started talking all the time on the game and not long after exchanged phone numbers. Everytime I would go over to his house he would be on the phone with her. Well they are in love now. We both live in Oklahoma and she lives in Georgia. My friend is actually over there right now for about two months. The point of this little story is, take a chance. If they can have a relationship that far away then you can when you live really close. You both live in the same city. Exchange phone numbers and chat. I've honestly grown apart from my friend cuz hes on the phone so much with his girlfriend.

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I don't think that would be such a great idea. I agree with mughi. I met a guy online and considered doing the same thing, since we have been chatting almost a year now. But when I looked deeper into his profile, he was pretending his whole image. Maybe try doing that?...

  • Jun 25, 2009

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you could meet him in a busy public place with a lot of people around and get to know him, I mean not everyone online are perverts, sickos, etc but the choice is yours, if it's in the same city then I would do it, but like I mentioned the choice is yours...but in all likely hood a public place would be ideal, like a mall, restaurant, etc nothing like the movies first off that might be a bad idea

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I personally think you should if you honestly think it's a good idea. Of course as pizzahutrebel said, bring friends. However, you should be careful obviously, and think carefully about whether your friends are over-reacting or not - many people are bought up thinking that everyone online is a person who just wants sex.. But they're only trying to look out for you ^^ I had once considered doing the same thing~ ...But we broke up not too long ago.. Anyway, back on subject:

Make sure you really know this guy well, and have been chatting for at least a year or two. Does he think it's a good idea for you to meet up? I know this will sound really harsh and hard to do, but try not to spend a long time with him on the first day you've met him irl, try to get home before it gets dark >.< Always, always have a friend by your side... If you want to share a kiss with him alone, do it at a later time when you feel absolute 100% comfortable with him ^^

A good thing to do is to have a Video Call online for a good long while, and then decide to meet him or not. I would advise to try to get him to come down to your city as you both lived in the same area, and both be in a familiar place, it would be more comforting~! ^^

It's your choice whether you want to or not, nobody should be forcing you.. Just be careful, and stay with your friends ^^

Good Luck, and I hope this helped (this is the first long answer I've posted -ever.). ^^

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I'd be very careful.

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i think you should to met him but be careful and in a public place like your friends says x__x or if you are sure that he is a good man there's no problem but.. you saw he in a webcam or something like that? or you spoke with him via phone or mic..? :/ if you don't do this things i think you should to do! maybe he give you a photos of him but you're can't be sure if this photos are of him or not.. for that i say about the web cam..

i like a guy that i met online too xD.. i understand you ^^

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I like a guy i met online too ^^
If u choose on going, choose a public place with plenty of movement and go for it ;D

  • Jul 11, 2009

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Probably if he actually is the guy you thought he was. I would think most people would act differently online, usually better.

  • Jul 13, 2009
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meet him in a public place and be careful :)
make sure there's people around

  • Jul 13, 2009
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i met my friends from the net sometimes too. but i never dated anyone i know online.

when it comes to relationship no matter where you meet the person always be careful.

  • Jul 16, 2009

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If you are going to meet this guy, then I definitely think that you should meet in a public place. Also, you could invite your friends to come along and just kind of hang out in the background. That way, they can 'rescue' you if you're uncomfortable with this guy, or they could help you out if you need to get away. If the don't come, I would definitely let people know where you're going to be. And if you move from that place, then also let people know. If you have a phone, it could just be as simple as sending a text. But I would definitely be cautious and set up precautions just so you're safe.

However, there's nothing wrong with meeting up with people you've only known online. The same for dating. I know people sometimes look down on couples who met online, but people can honestly end up happy. So good luck! And be safe!

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Depends on how much you trust your online friend/Stranger

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Quote by o0--Butterfly--0oI personally think you should if you honestly think it's a good idea. Of course as pizzahutrebel said, bring friends. However, you should be careful obviously, and think carefully about whether your friends are over-reacting or not - many people are bought up thinking that everyone online is a person who just wants sex.. But they're only trying to look out for you ^^ I had once considered doing the same thing~ ...But we broke up not too long ago.. Anyway, back on subject:

Make sure you really know this guy well, and have been chatting for at least a year or two. Does he think it's a good idea for you to meet up? I know this will sound really harsh and hard to do, but try not to spend a long time with him on the first day you've met him irl, try to get home before it gets dark >.< Always, always have a friend by your side... If you want to share a kiss with him alone, do it at a later time when you feel absolute 100% comfortable with him ^^

A good thing to do is to have a Video Call online for a good long while, and then decide to meet him or not. I would advise to try to get him to come down to your city as you both lived in the same area, and both be in a familiar place, it would be more comforting~! ^^

It's your choice whether you want to or not, nobody should be forcing you.. Just be careful, and stay with your friends ^^

Good Luck, and I hope this helped (this is the first long answer I've posted -ever.). ^^

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  • Oct 08, 2009

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Well,
if i were you, maybe i wouldn't meet him...
Why?
Then answer my question,
What made you interested with him?
Can you prove it by yourself that anything that he said wasn't a lie?
He might just pretending, right?
You just had a chat with him and do you know how his REAL character?
Do you ever think what might happens if the person is (180 degrees) different from the person that you know?
But, if you really think that he's a good person and you really loves or had an interest in him,
then i suggest you to meet him...

Well, you must consider it carefully first (by yourself)!
I just can say "Good luck"...
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  • Oct 10, 2009
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it's ok but maybe its hard to you to feel such different emotions for one person

  • Oct 10, 2009

z827

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OF COURSE NOT.If you know that there are heaps of online "predators" on the net,how can you meet him! Either way,if your still persistent,bring several friends with you for each and every meeting.

  • Oct 17, 2009
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I think it's dangerous to do that

  • Nov 07, 2009

pureblood98

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hmmmm.... yeah... if you really connect and that there is a "something"..... plus he must be a very nice person....

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If you do meet, do it safely in a public place. You may not connect in real life, so don't expect too much. Trust your instincts on this one.

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