Normally, I don't post about stuff like this, but I need to vent and I'm also curious about others' opinions on the matter.
This morning, I found out that a really good friend from high school had been avoiding her fiance for days (possibly even weeks), and then, out of the blue, she left him a note this morning, telling him she didn't think it was going to work out between them and that they were over. She also told several people that they were over, except for her fiance, who obviously found out this morning. I'm appalled that she would even do that to her fiance, especially in such a manner. Understandably, her ex-fiance is very upset.
I haven't seen to my friend since Ohayocon in January due to being busy with work and school. However, we talk on the phone and over AIM a lot. Lately, though, she hasn't been talking to me, which is bothersome because I've always been the person she comes to when something's bothering her. The last time I spoke to her was two weeks ago, and we were talking about the preparations for the wedding. As such, I only have her ex-fiance's side of the story, and I have no idea this was going on.
To give some background on these two, the ex-fiance is 23, like I am, and my friend isn't yet 20. Obviously, my friend is really young, and most relationships at this age don't last very long. People who get married in their 20s rarely stay married. Also, they'd been friends for years, and then the ex-fiance decided to move from Tennessee to Ohio last spring to be with her because they'd gotten really close. They wound up moving in with another friend, who is a slob and an altogether TERRIBLE influence on my friend and has the type of personality that most people can only handle in small doses. My friend is also a hetero-romantic asexual (look it up, it does occur) and the ex-fiance is very much a heterosexual male. That would put a strain on any relationship.
It's been a year, and while I saw this coming, due to them living with a slob and them being so young and their respective sexual orientations, it caught me by complete surprise. Would you say their breakup was inevitable due to the aforementioned reasons, or do you have another theory? What would you do if you were in this sort of situation? I just ask that you keep your responses mature. This is a very sensitive subject and I would appreciate it if everyone would show some class.