Grudges aren't worth keeping. People tend to hold a grudge when they are unable to let go of it or forgive the other and
tends to originate from hate. It is a good reminder to the one holding the grudge for whatever the person did the
other's disliking. Another purpose might be that one expresses their grudge on the other to force negative feelings,
such as responsibility (person might not actually have been responsible), guilt, depression, hate, etc. Many things are
possible depending on the grudge and how the other reacts to it.
In general, they kind of expect something from the other, so if you're someone that has a grudge held upon, then perhaps
staying natural with a sense of ignoring the other might help.
Personally, I don't hold grudges and when I do, I am pretty airy about it as there are enough things in life to put my
mind on..such as chocolates and a certain bunny to put on the bbq.
@Usagi-kun: Bullies don't hold grudges on their targets, the targets are simply easy targets to boost confidence, unless
they're jelly of course. Well, as a kid you can easily fall to parents and teachers unlike when you're an adult.
- They are definitely not worth keeping, having them every now and then is completely human though.
- Grudges are one of those things that either does nothing or harm
- Grudges usually prolong the situation. When something is over, it is remembered by a grudge.
- Grudges are fine to have if the other is a terrible person (in a general way of "bad" example: can't help
but hold a grudge for whoever is responsible for getting your pet killed), it's just you might bother yourself with it.
- They tend to be harmful, one way or the other. The one holding the grudge might disable him or herself to do certain
things, while if they express their grudge on someone, the other might get hurt in some way.