why do people get hurt? i just dont understand it. tears, pain, and torture. here's my point of view...
i mean, i'm a total wreck right now. i can't stand my life at the moment and everything's just falling apat right infront of my face and there's nothing i can do to stop it. it seems that some other people i kno and love dearly are being hurt in one way or another. it's like..why did God make this emotion? was it a sin we commited n this is our punishment. (i am NOT blaming God for anything alright?)
first of all, my love life sucks like hell. my emotions are travelling back and forth and i just dont want to hurt this person i'm going out with even though i'm yet again losing interest in the person. that person's really nice but, he wasnt my type from the start so i guess thats why i go back n forth. i just dont want to hurt the guy anymore...and plus...i hate it when guys like me because even though i want to make them all happy, i cant split myself n give them each a piece of me. Lord knows that would help so much though. i hate myself because of this.
second, some of my so called best friends are leaving me behind. i mean even if i wait for them for 15 mins while they do their lockers they leave me behind at 5secs tops! i thought i could trust them yet they blab bout personaly things. and they even try to control how i dress. i mean for goodness sake! i love u guys but that doesnt mean i'm your rag doll that u'd only treat me nice when you want sumthing! plus, i've met other new friends who treat me wayyyyy better then they do but i dont want them to think i'm ditching them (even though i have a right to) its like, pulling me apart!!! here i go with the pull me apart n everything might turn out fine thing again.
then my parents actually want me to die! always pressure with my school. never content with me in the HONOR roll! they want me to b the top. i just want to say "hello!!! if u want the top so much why dont u achieve it urself!" they're so overprotective as well, not making me leave even the front of our house! i'm in high school!! geeze! i barely get to go out to hang with my friends (maybe twice a months IF i'm lucky). and dont even ask about boyfriends...i have to be 18 yrs old!!! yes i admit i have a boyfriend but its so hard to keep this relationship with my parents who are ready to attack any guy in a 1 meter radius from me. they always say i'm worthless and even hurt me mentally...and..physically.
after al lthses things i even hate myself the most. i hate how i loook. too fat, too ugly, i cant stand looking at myself in the mirror. i dont want to hurt anyone...i really dont, and so i end up hurting myself in the process (no not physical wound). i mean, i think i'm too nice. and even if i am, that doesn't mean people can just walk all around me!!!
CAN ANYODY PLEASE HELP ME!!?!!?! EVEN JSUT A LITTLE BIT. I KNOW THIS IS WAY PERSONAL BUT I JUST NEED HELP RIGHT NOW!! I WANT IT ALL TO MAKE SENSE....

i can feel ur pain that caused by ur parent about ur school. dun think too much wat ur parent say cause it only make ur feel stress and bad. juz do anything u that can make u feel better except for bad things. . dun 100% take advice from ur frens about how u dress cause the most important thing is be urself!!

****peace*** good luck***

Ouch. I was like you at one time. Now that I'm already 23, I knew that my parents were right all along. I'm not too social towards the others but at least that gives me the chance to improve myself on other areas, like my studies.

You should know by now that parents wants the best out of their children and I realized that.

And you don't get anything if you're been whining and complaining that "Life is unfair". But hey, life IS unfair. Get used to it.

The thing you can do is take anything and everything that comes your way. If it's an oppurtunity of some sorts, consider your next move before decide. If something gone horrendously wrong, take the time to think what went wrong and how to rectify it.

That's my view on the problem. Anything else, it's up to you.

Cute Lady Celessa has some words to say - if not it - to all of your comments

Quote by nightgoddesswhy do people get hurt? i just dont understand it. tears, pain, and
torture. here's my point of view...
i mean, i'm a total wreck right now. i can't stand my life at the
moment and everything's just falling apat right infront of my face and
there's nothing i can do to stop it. it seems that some other people i
kno and love dearly are being hurt in one way or another. it's
like..why did God make this emotion? was it a sin we commited n this is
our punishment. (i am NOT blaming God for anything alright?)

God gave us life and we were born to live whatever path we were able to walk through. He also gave us a decision whether to be good or bad.

Let me put it through this perspective - no matter where you go, someone is bound to get hurt. If you really demand the world to be void of pain, would that really be indeed possible? Not everyone is gonna play fair when taking turns on the seesaw, and not many really want to care about what's going on around in the world. You will have people who are the most kindest, sweetest people you will have ever met in your entire life, and you will meet those whose lives are completely miserable and to the brink of extinction.

No matter where you go - you cannot always steer their paths away from the inevitable, but you might as well can change your own. You'll have to live with life as it comes by the horns. Life is not fair - when one comes up - another situation comes down. That's the nature and reality of life.

Quote by nightgoddessfirst of all, my love life sucks like hell. my emotions are travelling
back and forth and i just dont want to hurt this person i'm going out
with even though i'm yet again losing interest in the person. that
person's really nice but, he wasnt my type from the start so i guess
thats why i go back n forth. i just dont want to hurt the guy
anymore...and plus...i hate it when guys like me because even though i
want to make them all happy, i cant split myself n give them each a
piece of me. Lord knows that would help so much though. i hate myself
because of this.

No one said that finding true love is perfect. Enduring the path of love is something not easily walked upon easily by everyone. As they say - love hurts. Take the time necessary to reheal those open wounds of yours, and find out truly who loves you through the worst of times. If you noticed the right one sticking by you throughout your whole ordeal, or several hints as to why they would really care for you, then you will realize what true love really means - but it always won't work towards your favor, as to seeing that not all will be leaning towards you, nor you leaning towards them in a fashionable manner. Pick the one who is right for you - as I mentioned, it takes time.

Quote by nightgoddesssecond, some of my so called best friends are leaving me behind. i mean
even if i wait for them for 15 mins while they do their lockers they
leave me behind at 5secs tops! i thought i could trust them yet they
blab bout personaly things. and they even try to control how i dress. i
mean for goodness sake! i love u guys but that doesnt mean i'm your rag
doll that u'd only treat me nice when you want sumthing! plus, i've met
other new friends who treat me wayyyyy better then they do but i dont
want them to think i'm ditching them (even though i have a right to)
its like, pulling me apart!!! here i go with the pull me apart n
everything might turn out fine thing again.

I had friends like that who used to "claim" to be my friends - but when the call arised and I was in a situation, not many were willing to back me up - so I obviously got rid of them in a calm and polite manner - the issue really shouldn't be a biggy, and it's a no brainer.

If you don't sense your friends being your true friends, why be around with them when they don't even care about you? Be around those who actually do care, for once. Better to have friends who stick up to you, then those who simply don't give any moments about you at all.

Quote by nightgoddessthen my parents actually want me to die! always pressure with my
school. never content with me in the honor roll! they want me to b the
top. i just want to say "hello!!! if u want the top so much why dont u
achieve it urself!" they're so overprotective as well, not making me
leave even the front of our house! i'm in high school!! geeze! i barely
get to go out to hang with my friends (maybe twice a months IF i'm
lucky). and dont even ask about boyfriends...i have to be 18 yrs old!!!
yes i admit i have a boyfriend but its so hard to keep this
relationship with my parents who are ready to attack any guy in a 1
meter radius from me.

Same with my friend. I convinced her to live her dream, rather than be forced by her parents. She nearly committed suicide but I saved her through a heart-wrenching encounter, and we discussed about it for a week. She had the courage to tell her parents that she wants to do what she was interested in, and shocked - the parents - still as loving as ever, even though they treat her poorly, gave in.

I had to support her that entire week, and it wasn't easy to influence them, but I told them only a child can go so far - when they grow up, the only best thing is to reflect and let your loved ones go... Amen to that one, by obviously me - haha.

Quote by nightgoddess they always say i'm worthless and even hurt me
mentally...and..physically.

Words mean nothing - if they hurt you physically, try to tell a very close friend you can trust or call someone who really thinks of this as a serious matter, and hopefully they can do what is right for you. Going against your parents is tough, I know how you feel - but sometimes if you let in, you aren't really winning yourself.

Quote by nightgoddessafter al lthses things i even hate myself the most. i hate how i loook.
too fat, too ugly, i cant stand looking at myself in the mirror. i dont
want to hurt anyone...i really dont, and so i end up hurting myself in
the process (no not physical wound). i mean, i think i'm too nice. and
even if i am, that doesn't mean people can just walk all around me!!!
CAN anyody please HELP me!!?!!?! EVEN JSUT A little BIT. I KNOW THIS is
way personal BUT I JUST NEED HELP right now!! I WANT IT ALL TO MAKE
SENSE....

You make yourself sound so terrible - and I don't like giving out sympathy points.

Ever heard of the saying - Nice girls finish last? Well, sometimes you will be torn apart - and you will wonder "Why me? Why am I being treated so poorly when I was just being nice to everyone around here, around my surroundings, all around my whole entire life?"

What can I say? I hate it when people get underappreciated - and no, I don't believe you are ugly or fat - that low self-esteem really isn't going to do you any good - and you know yourself better. Let's just say - you are sad and you feel defeated because no one values you for your self worth. Well let me put it this much into perspective.

Be yourself, be free. Don't listen to what the others have to say. If you give into yourself so easily, then you are doing them a favor by hurting yourself permanently and letting them win for once, and they will keep pushing you down more and more, and deeper and deeper, further and further, filled with constant and constant remorse, regret, and frustration.

Just be yourself, who cares. You must believe in who you are. Try to believe you can achieve anything, so you can prove to your parents and your so-called friends that you are indeed very important. Use this as a step or a ladder to prove yourself that you are indeed the better one. Because when you prove them all wrong, you will feel very sweet and hopeful - and whether you want to rub this sort of vengance upon them is up to you - really.

Live your life with possibly little or no regrets. You are still young - there is still time for change.

I am not giving you hope, but I am giving you the strength and support you need to making yourself a stronger and more-spirited individual. You can accomplish anything if you set your mind, and your heart filled with dedication into it.

This may have well been officially my longest post ever on MT, and I wasted half-an-hour of my time pretty much sitting here and dealing this for you. You should be proud that even someone who is a complete stranger from you actually does care.

Good-bye nightgoddess, and best of luck towards your recovery.

well about your parents, i don't know you say they 'protect' you from guys and don't want you to hang out etc, but at the same time they hurt you??
i'd say that they do love you, but they don't know how to show it, you know like most parents who want their kids to do better than they did........ human nature can't be changed
btw, i used to think like you do, but when i think deeply about it, i think i want to seem nice to myself, saying i don't want to hurt anyone, but in fact it was just selfish self destruction, masochism in a way

but well to solve your problem, why don't you speak to someone ?? do you really have no real friends??........ because we on MT cannot really help you in this situation. you have to sort it out by yourself, that's how you become stronger
yeah life is hard, so you have to become harder than it to survive, be strong (which doesn't mean you have to be bad or insensitive of course), follow the flow and try to change your path little by little, that's how it works

haven't been of great help, but hope you can handle the thing by yourself

You're hurting because you're concerned about how others think about you, and how others feel, and overstressed by everything around you. It's fine to be concerned about these things, but you shouldn't be so concerned as you are.

When I was your age I wasn't thinking about boyfriends or girfriends. I guess I had it easy that way. I think it is easier if you don't think about that much. . . A lot of it isn't all its cracked up to be. . you expect too much, feelings change and don't last, love is just a thrill and desire and something new, then it goes away.

I bet venting like this made you feel better some. That helps.

You've got to keep an inner peace, and realize people do bear through all these things. There's pain, people get hurt, but it's going to be alright in the end. Tell that to yourself, and to anyone who needs to hear it.

Make some quiet time to realize things pass, and you have a place to rest.

It's going to be alright in the end, so more at peace now. Be hurt, but be at peace too. This too shall pass. Happiness shall come again. Happiness can be here now too even while hurting is here. It all doesn't have to be one feeling.

We can't get too wrapped up in ourselves and our own feelings. Or someone else's. If we want to be healthy emotionally and help others, we have to keep ourselves at breathing easily.

Easy now. Easily. Easy. Smile.

You're on the honor roll. You've got lots of friends, some childish who gossip a lot. That's normal. Enjoy it. Except nothing more than how things are. Everything's fine, whatever you've got. Enjoy what's there. It's good to be a teen if you want it to be.

I think the true-friends problem is something that many many other would like to have too, included myself. There are many people who I know , but all of them are only mates. I always dreamed about a real friend who I can go play in the woods or just run or who I can talk to.Actually I never had those who claims to be my friends.I was just looked like people dont really need real friends anymore.I agree with Celessa, that if you do have some friends who are not really your friends you should politely and slowly leave them. Maybe you should make them said out that they dont really care about you,with some special test, so they would eventually realize that they arent that close to you. Or there is always the way of truth, to tell them cautiounly about those things that you think they did wrong. There can be always the misunderstanding thing,that you think that they dont care about you at all,but if you would ask them about those things, that why didnt they show up or like that, they could prove that it wasnt because they dont care about you.

When I was a little younger,I thought that it is easy to get some friends who are really those who you would like to be with or have.But I realized after a couple of dissapointment that it wont go that easy.I think you need to search for them very hard,or just wait for them to appear. While you are doing that search and waiting you need to be strong and willed. You have to learn how to survive in this world without too much dissapointments, and how to shield yourself against the bad and selfish emotions of many others. For me I this was the only solution.I usually think about happy things while in this waiting and searching ,and think that, those who harm me with bad thoughs or words are just nobodies

i am telling you that do not Worry. There is someone out there for you wom you will meet one day and I am sure he is still waiting for you too.

i really dont get why we get hurt either, but i can say from experiance that no matter how dark your future or present life looks it always gets better so dont get so depressed. and please dont do something crazy like trying to hurt your self!!!

omg... dunno but U know.. U try dont hurn any1 if some1 dont try hurt me. Unfortunatelly i dont fell any pain =P so dunno why some1 try to hust himself if some1 hurt him

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