i have this close friend..he is a boy... he told me he loves me but i dont know what to say...its not that i dont like him... its just that we are close friends..... guys i need help...plsplspls what should i do????

Ok, calm first.....breathe in, out.....
Now, he is a close friend only right? Hmmm.....in that case....the best option to take...is this: Sit down firmly with him and have a serious chat. Ask if he meant it...as in seriously....then if you decide that he's telling the truth and not fooling you ....then you may begin to work on his heart. By that I mean tell him that you don't think of him that way! Say that you see him as a close friend only. Then maybe try and get him into another girl perhaps.....there are lots of possibilities to deal with this situation. But......it depends on this guy a lot! What kind of person is he? If he's violent, then you must be very careful about how you put your words......and if he's soft....then make him feel better after telling him the bad news. I'm not much experienced but I hope this at least helps you a bit. ^_^;; Good luck ok?

Never ever try to avoid, kill all contacts or the sort with him.

Never ever try to gain support from your (both parties) friends by giving lies or even half-truths, so that they will see the boy as the bad guy.

Never ever substitute 'serious talk' with e-mailing, IM and anything that avoids directly meeting and speaking with him. That is just as good as nothing.

The last person who pulled that on me no longer has my respects as a person, let alone a friend (whom, I may add, I have known for the past 5 years). She should have spoken directly with me and, hard it would have been on me, it would have preserved our friendship (and her own dignity).

Regards.

Oh, and I thought this was some kind of joke. How to break a boys heart. Put a knife through it.

Honesty is always the best policy. At least that's what I like to tell myself. Tell him you only want to be friends, but use enough tact as to not either upset him or crush him totally. I hope you can do this, as you know this person better than we do. So you might want to think about what you're going to say to them first. Just to make sure they can't take it the wrong way.

aye these kind's of situation's are nerve wrecking you shoud tell him the truth, he should be a man about it and accept your decision and feeling's, i mean you cannot put yourself in a situation where your friendship will end if you say those word's back or say yes to him asking you out or anything relationship related....

Honesty is always the best policy. But personally, I think I would avoid the issue. Just be his friend. Do the things you've always done together. Don't make a big deal out of it. From personal experience, I'll say that when I've been in this case, I never realized that I cared for him more--till I saw him with a girlfriend.... And now, after I realize that I loved him too-- all we'll ever be is friends. So you see what my opinion is worth...

i think the presentation is very important. you need to make sure he knows you sure. if he thinks he can win you over later his feelings won't change. unfortunately i think the best way to ensure a continued friendship is to crush his hopes completely. it sounds harsh, but otherwise you're going to have to deal with this constantly from him. you don't don't have to be mean about it, but you do need to be decisive, confident, and unyielding.

thank you guys.... i've made up my mind... i going to tell the truth....thank you guys......thanks a lot.........

I hope its not too late for me to say something. I think you should tell him the truth right from your heart. Its better to tell him now than later. If you avoid this, its going to get even worse. If he asks you out or something kindly rejected him. Whatever you do don't say yes if you don't want to. When you break up you might lose a really vaulable friendship of your. Believe I've been there... Good luck with it^^

don't "break his heart" as you put it. that's just cruel.

don't avoid him, don't lie to him, don't do anything that would cause him to lose respect for you. talk to him, face to face, and tell him the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. don't monopolize the conversation, either; let him say his piece, and don't interrupt him when he's talking.

if his feelings for you are genuine, then I dunno what you can do. good luck.

just say this: i like u and i marry u right now j/k
no say this: i like u but only as close friends and not as lovers. i hope youll understand it

i did what you told me.......... i told him to stay as my friend....
thanx guys... i really appreciated those advice..............

You're welcome. Good to know things turned out well between you.

yeah.... i thought my hearts gonna blow.....but he did take it well... that's why he's really special for me... hope that this will never affect our friendship.....

oh well... thank you

yeah, too late for me to give opinion now since i didnt see it earlier.

but after reading all that i believe most of wat the ppl said above would have been similar to my opinions. i'm glad everything turned out fine between you and the guy though!

good luck in future relationships

man, i had the same problem a few years back... i had this close guy friend and he soon later kinda "showed" his feelings... i was really annoyed. i rejected his presents *oh yes i can be pretty nasty when it comes to these circumstances* i mean, like, i literally threw everything he gave to me back at him.

piece of advice, though - don't do this.

wow your pretty cruel....
well i think he doesnt deserve to be treated like that because he's nice.......

first do you have a bf coz he might no know that you got a bf tell him first that or if you don't like him say you got a bf ^^

so hows your relastionship with him now? (btw ur topic sentance seemed like it was about something else at first. ) Evrything is well? still speak to him? lol

Quote by Ne-yofirst do you have a bf coz he might no know that you got a bf
tell him first that or if you don't like him say you got a bf ^^

he knows that i dont have any bf (ever) since we are close friends..

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Quote by cloud811so hows your relastionship with him now? (btw ur topic sentance seemed like it was about something else at first. ) Evrything is well? still speak to him? lol

we only communicate through text now because we study in different schools..
he did ask me out last summer but i agve many excuses.. lol...
because i dont like to go with him alone.. i wanted it to be a group date..

Tell him you only want him as a close freind.

well have you done anything to make him say he loves you? for instance kissed him or anything. Cause if you did there was a message mixed or something. What you could tell him is "I value our friendship, but I do not see you as a boyfriend." DONT SAY "Let's just be friends" because that's demeaning the value of your friendship. But do not avoid him. Things will just get awkward. That's how things ended between me and my friend when I told her I liked her.

Let him down easy it would be the best way to do it.

Quote by Benjikun7well have you done anything to make him say he loves you? for instance kissed him or anything. Cause if you did there was a message mixed or something. .

nop i didnt do such thing.. maybe he develop that feeling because im the only girl that were so close to him..
he's the kind of guy that doesnt mind girls too much..