I have a 'hypothetical' situation...*ahem*
(this will be from a girl's point of view, if you're a guy, change all the genders).

I've known this guy for a while now. We got off on the wrong foot, but we've become very close. Recently, I introduced one of my best friends to him, and they hit it right off.

Last night, my best friend admitted to me that she liked him. But since I introduced her, I ended up talking to him more, and also realised that I like him.

The next night, in an online convo between the three of us, it all came out...And ultimately, I made a choice.
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Now the question is, what would you have chosen? Which is more important? Would you take the chance at love over your friendship? Or not? Why?

Does your friend know that you really like him too? If not, then she needs to know.

She knows, and so does he... So I'll jsut edit the first post too...

thats a hard question to answer because well
you say friends but i can't really grasp just how close you are to either of them
my answer would depend on what my friends have done for me, what i owe to them, how they would treat me in a similar position.

i would have chosen friends. to me , if i had chosen love over friends, my friend would have left me . if i choose friends , i get to have one more friend while keeping the other as well.. so its a win win situation IMO if ya chose friends. but thats just my opinion.

~jz

Well in your situation i would probably choose friendship because the friendship is developed and solid while the "love" is really just a chance at love, there's a good chance the relationship won't work out and then you've lost a friendship over it.

Friendship of course
there are only a few friends in life ( real friends )
please excuse my pure english

If she is a real friend and her friendship is very valuable to you. And think about it another way, if you lost the guy you would still have the friend. If you choose the guy if you lost him you don't have your friend niether...

Wow. This is a good thread. I kind-of have the same situation as you do. But I would chose friendship over love becuase love is a powerful word. When you two love each other, that's good, but then he might change his love for someone else and it would really hurt your feelings. Me and this girl I like are very close friends and that's all I care about. As long as we talk/ hang out together. I'm happy.

Probably friendship... I know that this is someone that you like... actually this kinda feels like something that happened a while ago to me... felt pretty crap... but then introducing friends you always have the possibility of your friends hitting it off... when it happened to me... at first I was angry... it was actually my friend who barged in and started talking to my friend... and he was kinda special to me... but then I thought to myself... I should have more faith in these people... if they hit it off then I can't say anything- I'll blame myself for being not "special" enough... and if they don't... then well... yeah... after my anger and frustration I laughed to myself at how silly I was... getting worked up over nothing ' It turns out that they didn't like each other at all lol

friendship, to me, is more important.

---------------------------------Hello Samika------------------------------

First, I like your FMA Avatar.
Secondly, my answer.....FRIENDSHIP....sincerely read on....
I was in a similar situation too, about 2yrs ago, however I didn't introduce him as a love interest to my friend, but a friend to join our circle of friends.
I've knowned him for a total of 7yrs, including the last 2yrs.
We had such a good friendship and as time went on, in our group of friends, we had more and more to talk about together and we were so in sync together.
Gradually I started to realize how much I liked him, maybe love.
XP There was even a song that would play anytime we were together, right when we walk in the gym (many times), he could turn on the radio and it plays, a car passing by when I mentioned his name. It was amazing!
My best friend and him figured out my growing feelings.
We never dated, but he got a girlfriend, I was crushed, he suddenly disappeared for 2 yrs. My best friend supported me, and was tharaputic. Told me it was him, not me.
It took me two years, this year, to finally recover, and I was determined to keep our friendship. He finally started calling back and we just met again recently.
Friendship has always been SO important to me, I don't want to jeopardize it even for love. You could say, I lost faith in love and will probably stay single.
BELIEVE ME if you value your friendship with both of them...tell her how you feel and just have him see who he is interested on his own...if he is even interested.
I....JUST... DON'T WANT YOU TO GO THROUGH THE SAME PAIN AS ME.....
I almost want to cry.....
On a better note.....we have picked up friendship where we left off little by little...I am happy for him and we can laugh together again
I sincerely HOPE IT GOES WELL FOR YOU! BEST WISHES!
Please update me on your decision. I hope to see you around MT!

Quote by Moonbeam---------------------------------Hello Samika------------------------------
First, I like your FMA Avatar.
Secondly, my answer.....FRIENDSHIP....sincerely read on....
I was in a similar situation too, about 2yrs ago, however I didn't introduce him as a love interest to my friend, but a friend to join our circle of friends.
I've knowned him for a total of 7yrs, including the last 2yrs.
We had such a good friendship and as time went on, in our group of friends, we had more and more to talk about together and we were so in sync together.
Gradually I started to realize how much I liked him, maybe love.
XP There was even a song that would play anytime we were together, right when we walk in the gym (many times), he could turn on the radio and it plays, a car passing by when I mentioned his name. It was amazing!
My best friend and him figured out my growing feelings.
We never dated, but he got a girlfriend, I was crushed, he suddenly disappeared for 2 yrs. My best friend supported me, and was tharaputic. Told me it was him, not me.
It took me two years, this year, to finally recover, and I was determined to keep our friendship. He finally started calling back and we just met again recently.
>_< Friendship has always been SO important to me, I don't want to jeopardize it even for love. You could say, I lost faith in love and will probably stay single.
believe ME if you value your friendship with both of them...tell her how you feel and just have him see who he is interested on his own...if he is even interested.
i....just... don't WANT YOU TO GO through THE SAME PAIN AS me.....
I almost want to cry.....
On a better note.....we have picked up friendship where we left off little by little...I am happy for him and we can laugh together again
I sincerely HOPE IT GOES WELL FOR YOU! BEST wishes!
Please update me on your decision. I hope to see you around MT!

Aww... that's so nice of you... ' I don't think I'll wanna fall in love with any of my friends just in case now... *sobs*

Depends on the situation.
In yours however, it seems that friendship is more important. But even then, it depends on your relationship with your friend and blah blah many factors.

I think friendship is more important in that case. The girl don't like my friend so they won't betogether for a long time... Wait and see...

friendship is more important. there is very lil true love nowadays.

In this case friendship is more important because you can't call it love, this is just a crush that might eventualy grow into love if something really happens and as time passes.
But for me love is more important that any friendship. I have been going out with my girlfriend for half an year now but I feel that she is special and she is more important to me than any of my friends or family. I feel a little bad when I realize this but she is the most important person to me. That is how much I love her and I think she feels the same.

Thank you for everyone's that replied... Yes, I thought friendship was more important too... But what if it doesn't work out for them? What if my friend and I had a fight and stopped being friends?

Anyway... I ended up choosing friendship. Because at this time, my friend means more to me.

a while ago, I was reading a manga called Parfait Tic, and there was an extra chapter at the end of volume 1. This chapter was a sweet story, and my situation reminded me of the story.

And thankyou again to everyone that replied.

This question is really hard. But I must say friendship is important. Love might be really hard to find.