hey guys i have a question i cant seem to get a girlfriend and i dont know what
im doing wrong im not ugly, people think im nice, and i talk to people, but i
guess its because im kind of shy and i dont have alot of confidence do guys have
a opinion or suggestion on what i should do to try to meet someone
I'm quite similar to you in this aspect. In reality, I can't seem to project
myself as much as I can over the internet. Basically, I'm pretty shy in reality
and I am pretty anti-social, but I know it's a good idea to make myself known
and get involved with the everyday activities. However, I have found my girl
over the internet, and I'm mostly indoors to keep in contact with her. If I
didn't meet her over the internet, then I would've been doing completely
different things, and I definitely wouldn't be on Minitokyo as often as I am
now. If I was with my girlfriend, I would be doing so much more, but she is 900
miles away.
Okay. If you see someone you like, ask the basic questions: What is your name?
How are you doing today? Do you have a boyfriend? Then, if she says that she has
a boyfriend, then you just tell her, "Oh, well, I'm happy for you".
Talk a little longer with her, then proceed. If the girl says that she doesn't
have a boyfriend, then be sure to ask her if she is planning on getting one soon
or if she already has a person in mind. If not, keep talking with her. Make sure
you get their phone numbers so you can keep in contact. Also, try to do things
with the girl, such as take her out to the movies. Maybe you could get something
going with those basic steps.
I don't think there is actually anyhting wrong...some people just get
girlfriends faster and some just get girlfriends slower. Its nothing much to
worry about. Don't try to change for the sake of getting a girlfriend because
though it is true that some guys have more luck with girls, if you change just
to find a girlfriend, then the person your girlfriend loves isn't really you...
Am I making sense?
Quote by cardmageI don't think there is
actually anyhting wrong...some people just get girlfriends faster and some just
get girlfriends slower. Its nothing much to worry about. Don't try to change for
the sake of getting a girlfriend because though it is true that some guys have
more luck with girls, if you change just to find a girlfriend, then the person
your girlfriend loves isn't really you... Am I making sense?
Oh well...
I totally agree with cardmage. Don't chage yourself because you want a
girlfriend. There'a all kind of girls out there! Just because some dosen't like
you dosen't mean your never gonna find a person for yourself.
Things like this take time. I'm sure one day you'll find a girl that likes you
the way you are.
don't change yourself! the only thing i can tell you is just to be yourself. cuz
you never know... there could be some girl out there that likes the type of guy
you are! i've known guys, heck i dated one of them, that thought no girl would
ever like him cuz he'd never had a girlfriend. just be patient. the right girl
will come along.
I must declare now is i'm not offencing comments above, i come in no harm... But
i would say why not change for a new life or something else... that's really
depends on what to change about...
If change the way you dress? why not? Look for new fashion sense can upgrade
your confidence thru what youwear...
If change the way of communication? Use proper language... try being humor...
sometimes quite hard to do so... but you can find out what the target likes or
use some jokes to approach him/her is also a good method to raise up your
attraction...
Finally... a lot of people do change for their guy/gal... why not? if you really
love him/her sure you will change to make your lifetime partner live more
happier? right?
And how about refering to my thread that tells people how to voice out your love
???
Quote by trajelhey guys i have a question
i cant seem to get a girlfriend and i dont
know what im doing wrong im not ugly, people think im nice, and i talk
to people, but i guess its because im kind of shy and i dont have alot
of confidence do guys have a opinion or suggestion on what i should do
to try to meet someone
My advice is to skip this dating stuff and just wait till you find a wife.
Dating is nothing but trouble.
I guess you have to go out more often.
Like with your friends. It's alway easier to meat someone in group.
Don't worry, you'll find someone someday! ^_-
Quote by YingI guess you have to go out more
often.
Like with your friends. It's alway easier to meat someone in group.
Don't worry, you'll find someone someday! ^_-
i also think it helps if you put yourself out there by going out with friends
and being seen in public. if you don't want to meet someone over the
internet...then you'll probably have to get out of the house and socialize in
public settings unfortunately. and if you're in high school/college, it might
help to join clubs or things like that.
sometimes if you're too shy, girls might have a difficult time reading you and
may not be too sure if you're truly interested in them. i think melmachine
makes a good point that you should try to engage girls in conversation and be
honest...i'm sure you'll find a girl who'll appreciate what a nice guy you are!
don't give up!
Firstly, try to have more confidence You
can meet a girl anywhere. Work, old friend, lots of other places. You can just
bump into someone while walking outside. You can try going outside more.
I think is a special someone for each of us. For every Adam there is an Eve.
Changing your personality to attract others makes you all the more unattractive.
But I do think having more confidence is a big help. That doesn't require you to
change anything, but it will allow to to project the best of yourself.
i think getting a gf/bf is related to friendship connections. if you have 2
friends with the same sex i hardly believe you would get a gf/bf. and i don't
think love in the first sight is a good thing, it has never worked for me. i've
never had the courage to go to speak to them..
hey guys i have a question i cant seem to get a girlfriend and i dont know what im doing wrong im not ugly, people think im nice, and i talk to people, but i guess its because im kind of shy and i dont have alot of confidence do guys have a opinion or suggestion on what i should do to try to meet someone
I'm quite similar to you in this aspect. In reality, I can't seem to project myself as much as I can over the internet. Basically, I'm pretty shy in reality and I am pretty anti-social, but I know it's a good idea to make myself known and get involved with the everyday activities. However, I have found my girl over the internet, and I'm mostly indoors to keep in contact with her. If I didn't meet her over the internet, then I would've been doing completely different things, and I definitely wouldn't be on Minitokyo as often as I am now. If I was with my girlfriend, I would be doing so much more, but she is 900 miles away.
Okay. If you see someone you like, ask the basic questions: What is your name? How are you doing today? Do you have a boyfriend? Then, if she says that she has a boyfriend, then you just tell her, "Oh, well, I'm happy for you". Talk a little longer with her, then proceed. If the girl says that she doesn't have a boyfriend, then be sure to ask her if she is planning on getting one soon or if she already has a person in mind. If not, keep talking with her. Make sure you get their phone numbers so you can keep in contact. Also, try to do things with the girl, such as take her out to the movies. Maybe you could get something going with those basic steps.
I don't think there is actually anyhting wrong...some people just get girlfriends faster and some just get girlfriends slower. Its nothing much to worry about. Don't try to change for the sake of getting a girlfriend because though it is true that some guys have more luck with girls, if you change just to find a girlfriend, then the person your girlfriend loves isn't really you... Am I making sense?
Oh well...
I totally agree with cardmage. Don't chage yourself because you want a girlfriend. There'a all kind of girls out there! Just because some dosen't like you dosen't mean your never gonna find a person for yourself.
Things like this take time. I'm sure one day you'll find a girl that likes you the way you are.
Just be yourself.
I think there's a girl out there that just likes you the way you are.
don't change yourself! the only thing i can tell you is just to be yourself. cuz you never know... there could be some girl out there that likes the type of guy you are! i've known guys, heck i dated one of them, that thought no girl would ever like him cuz he'd never had a girlfriend. just be patient. the right girl will come along.
I must declare now is i'm not offencing comments above, i come in no harm... But i would say why not change for a new life or something else... that's really depends on what to change about...
If change the way you dress? why not? Look for new fashion sense can upgrade your confidence thru what youwear...
If change the way of communication? Use proper language... try being humor... sometimes quite hard to do so... but you can find out what the target likes or use some jokes to approach him/her is also a good method to raise up your attraction...
Finally... a lot of people do change for their guy/gal... why not? if you really love him/her sure you will change to make your lifetime partner live more happier? right?
And how about refering to my thread that tells people how to voice out your love ???
http://forum.minitokyo.net/showthread/19509/
My advice is to skip this dating stuff and just wait till you find a wife. Dating is nothing but trouble.
I guess you have to go out more often.
Like with your friends. It's alway easier to meat someone in group.
Don't worry, you'll find someone someday! ^_-
i also think it helps if you put yourself out there by going out with friends and being seen in public. if you don't want to meet someone over the internet...then you'll probably have to get out of the house and socialize in public settings unfortunately. and if you're in high school/college, it might help to join clubs or things like that.
sometimes if you're too shy, girls might have a difficult time reading you and may not be too sure if you're truly interested in them. i think melmachine makes a good point that you should try to engage girls in conversation and be honest...i'm sure you'll find a girl who'll appreciate what a nice guy you are! don't give up!
Firstly, try to have more confidence
You
can meet a girl anywhere. Work, old friend, lots of other places. You can just
bump into someone while walking outside. You can try going outside more.
thanks guys ill keep these things in mind and i appreciate your comments
I think is a special someone for each of us. For every Adam there is an Eve. Changing your personality to attract others makes you all the more unattractive.
But I do think having more confidence is a big help. That doesn't require you to change anything, but it will allow to to project the best of yourself.
Good luck!! ^_^
i think getting a gf/bf is related to friendship connections. if you have 2 friends with the same sex i hardly believe you would get a gf/bf. and i don't think love in the first sight is a good thing, it has never worked for me. i've never had the courage to go to speak to them..