I have a few questions for everyone I just have a blatant curiosity *Smiles brightly*

1- Why do some people find it attractive that a woman carries a weapon and knows how to defend herself?
2- Why is it that some women think it is pointless to know how to defend themselves?
3- Why do some guys prefer to be the protector of the females around them?
4- An along the same line as the last q – Why does it bother some guys when a chick smaller then they are kick their ass, even in play?

Thanks all!

This is only a girl's take on these questions; feel free to respectfully (key word) correct me if I'm wrong, anyone.

Quote by Jheiracks1- Why do some people find it attractive that a woman carries a weapon and knows how to defend herself?

I love this idea because there are so many creeps out there (no offense, guys, I don't necessarily mean any of you). I mean, if a woman can defend herself against an attack from someone who wants to rape or rob her, I'm all for it. I'm not so sure about carrying a weapon, though, because those can easily get turned against you (if the assailant gets ahold of it or something).

Quote by Jheiracks2- Why is it that some women think it is pointless to know how to defend themselves?

Some women are too optimistic; they think "Oh, I'll never get attacked or anything; that kind of stuff just doesn't happen." Another reason is that some women like to play the part of the stereotypical defenseless girl who needs a "knight in shining armor" to come to her rescue. Personally, I don't understand either view; I think that knowing how to defend yourself is a very important characteristic for women today.

Quote by Jheiracks3- Why do some guys prefer to be the protector of the females around them?

That's some guys' basic natures; they want to protect the "weaker" sex (please, no one get mad at me for saying that). People are typically protective of people/things that are dear to them, and guys are no different when it comes to their girls. Besides, there's something in a guy's pride or ego that makes them feel good when they do so.

Quote by Jheiracks4- An along the same line as the last q – Why does it bother some guys when a chick smaller then they are kick their ass, even in play?

Again, I think it's a matter of male pride/ego. Either that or it comes down to competitive nature. It's hard to get beaten by someone more fragile/delicate/weaker (supposed) that you; that's how guys view it. The stereotype is that guys are better at athletics and such, so it hurts when they get beat; same goes for other kinds of games. And that's not even mentioning how their friends completely mock them for it. Anyway, I think it comes down to the pride issue and competitive spirit.

Hope this made sense to everyone.

1. I've never heard of this.
2. I wouldn't know.
3. It's just a good feeling to take care of people you care about. The fact that acts of chivalry sometimes get certain...rewards...is icing on the cake.
4. To put it simply, it hurts their pride that someone smaller than them can beat the crap out of them. And the fact that it's a person of the stereotyped "weaker" gender just adds insult to injury.

1. Coming from a male standpoint, I would say its attractive to know that your partner can take care of themselves. They are not dependant and can be trusted to be able to defend and take care of themselves. Just my thoughts...

2. Can't really comment, but perhaps they think that their partner can do it for them? Thusly excusing them from having to...

3. I guess this just goes back to our roots from when we were just mere hunter gatherers. It was the mans duty to protect his woman and some people continue that idea to today. It makes the guy feel more manly to be able to protect what is dear to him, in this case the females around him. Also on some level he wants your love and admiration and proving that he can protect you shows his capability and competence.

4. Just an ego bruise. Guys don't want lost to other guys, let alone woman....let alone a small one. According to society its mans job to protect and be manly. A man has to be strong and be able to defend himself and those around him and to not even be able to take a small girl, its like an insult.

Keep in mind not all men agree with everything said and what I said is merely my guess as to why some people and guys feel the way they do =).

Yeah i pretty much agree with clampchic

for 2. some girls think its "butch" or the like to be able to kick ass and whatever
maybe some are scared that it will scare off the guys

as for 3 and 4 yeah i think for guys its a pride thing? well i guess i can't really speak for the guys they're gonna have to speak for themselves lol ^^

as for 1. i think its wonderful if a girl can stick up for herself ^_^ i would rather not get pushed around by others

Quote by JheiracksI have a few questions for everyone I just have a blatant curiosity
*Smiles brightly* 1- Why do some people find it attractive that a woman
carries a weapon and knows how to defend herself?

Cuz its just hot. And it means you don't have to be afraid of hurting them when you play around with them. (*dreams away*)

Quote by Jheiracks2- Why is it that some women think it is pointless to know how to
defend themselves?

Cuz they still think that its our job as guy's to do that. (stupid idea cuz you wanted to be at the same level as men so i think that you would have to be able to defend ourself). Or they think that it will scare off a guy,

Quote by Jheiracks3- Why do some guys prefer to be the protector of the females around
them?

Cuz the "bad-guy will be suprised when he see's al those hot girls and then he is dead because they don't like to be looked at like a piece of meat and they get angry and they have guns (bad combo XP)

Quote by Jheiracks4- An along the same line as the last q – Why does it bother some guys
when a chick smaller then they are kick their ass, even in play?
Thanks all!

Cuz they still think that girls ar weak. Let me tell you there not. THey have powers, if they would use it a men would be like a lam so calm etc.

1. I think men think it is attractive when women exercise or do sports because they wear skin-tight clothing. Guys like to be around "cool" girls, an impressive factor. A girl they can show off to their friends.
2. Some women believe that no matter how strong they get, guys will always be bigger and be able to overpower them. In addition they have a "delicate" fear of becoming like those body-building women. (NO joke! My friend is like this! lol)
3. I think society's image of guys as provieders, makes them feel like they need to be able to protect and provide for the "family". I think it can be sweet, but they can go overboard.
4. I agree with Jinpun, a definate ego bruise. They like to be able to show the girl that they will stand up for her, like in the olden days when they had to defend a woman's honor by fist fight.

hmmm. probably dominatrix (also they wear skimpy stuff when they kick butt)
or cus they look cute when they're angry... dunno

some gals choose to want to be able to protect themselves without having their boy protect them. In a way it's like independence. You don't need to rely on anyone.

For guys protecting gals, I'm sure the gals would wanna protect their boy as well. In a way it's a gesture of love that you don't want someone to get hurt- or it can also be interpreted as power in a relationship--- either one... whatever don't know

i haven't kicked a guy's butt before though (as in literally) I've stomped on feet and pinched, but not yet have I kicked Soon probably, I will

Quote by JheiracksI have a few questions for everyone I just have a blatant curiosity
*Smiles brightly* 1- Why do some people find it attractive that a woman
carries a weapon and knows how to defend herself?
2- Why is it that some women think it is pointless to know how to
defend themselves?
3- Why do some guys prefer to be the protector of the females around
them?
4- An along the same line as the last q – Why does it bother some guys
when a chick smaller then they are kick their ass, even in play?
Thanks all!

As for #1 Spike said it best in the Cowboy Bebop Movie "I love a girl who can kick my ass." But seriously for me it is attractive in the opposite sex because it means that I won't have to worry about them getting jumped in a dark alley, if they know how to defend themselves and could beat the stuffing out of your common street thug.

#2 I think this is because women want the romantic "Knight in shining armor" deal.

#3 These guys either want to be the "Knight in shining armor" or are insecure in their manhood and protecting a member of the opposite sex makes them feel more "manly"

#4 Similar to #3, these guys are insecure in their manhood and think that having the stuffing beat out of them by a small female makes them less of a man. In reality if you know what you are doing in a fight size doesn't matter as much as you would think. Don't get me wrong if you are big and know how to use it you can get an edge against a lot of people in fights, I'm just saying it doesn't always matter.

i agree with jinpun and clampchic! ^_^ nya nyan!!
1. it's cool b/c of course the guy doesn't have to worry bout his gallie
2. b/c some girls either think they can't do it or they have someone to do that for them and they don't think it's necessary or they just dont think they need to know. ^_^
3. Just male instinct and makes them feel wanted/needed/good inside ^_^
4. ego/pride ^_^ or b/c they don't like losing ^_^

This my point of view on your questions.

1. It's attractive when girls can defend themselves because they are independant and can hold their own in a fight in the event they get attacked and u are not there to stop that attack, plus when they beat us up they can comfort us like no other hhaha.

2. don't know really maybe it's because they figure someone will be always there to help them...

3. I wouldn't say we only prefer well in my opinion it's like a reflex to get her out of harms way, some guys still believe they always can be the knight in shining armor and who always protect the lady but it would seem times are changing and we are now seeing girls being able to protect themselves which i have no problem with. It's comforting to know that in the event a situation arise and u can't get to her in time to protect her she is on top of the situation while looking hot doing it hahha.

4. It's not only that a chick beat them but they lost on the whole if u didn't notice we males compete on eveything sports (basketball), videogames (arena), even sometimes we compare who has the hottest chick, so to answer your question it sucks when we lose. If i got beat from a chick it means she has skill and u should value a person with skill plus if i was to get upset it would be because i lost and wasn't skilled enough not because i got beat by a chick.

Hope this answers some of your questions Jheiracks

1. No idea (it is kinda sexy though )

2.DOn't know any girl like that

3.The spirit of knighthood maybe? I do it all the time

4.i don't know, but I guess most guys think that it's embarasing losing to a girl. I don't know why really.

There's just something really attractive about a girl who can kick your ass. I'm not sure why. It does not extend (at least for me) to "carrying a weapon." A girl who can shoot me? Not so attractive...no more than she already is, anyway. A girl who can bust out some moves and lay me out with her bare hands (and feet)? Oooooh...

As for question number two...I don't know. You'd have to ask a woman about why some don't feel like they need to. But, and this is just a guess, I think that a lot of women are unfortunately raised to think that it is a man's job to protect them, and that being able to protect themselves is...I don't know, wrong, or something.

I love protecting people. Girls in particular, but that's just 'cause girl's rock. I don't know, it's in our nature. We love to protect others. I don't care if they're male or female, if I percieve someone to need it, I'm more than happy to help. When it comes to companionship, more than anything else, I just want someone I can protect. Even if they don't need it. It makes me feel needed. I guess that's what it comes down to. We want to feel needed.

I don't lose to girls often...but I don't exactly get into fights with girls either. Mostly I lose to them in other things. Video games...board games...card games...bets...you name it. At least for me it isn't the fact that they're girls, it's the fact that they beat me. I hate losing. But...a lot of guys are raised to think that girls are weaker than boys. I know from experience and from my upbringing that this isn't true, but that's just how some guys are raised. Losing to another guy is ok, from their standpoint, because at least guys are at the same level. Girls are weaker than guys...if you lose to someone who's supposed to be weaker than you, well, I assume that'd be quite embarrassing.

1- I think it's the fact that a woman like that is confident, independent, strong-willed, and athletic. Just look at Jennifer Garner (Alias), Mila Jovovich and Michelle Rodriguez (Resident Evil) and Jessica Biel (Blade: Trinity). As for the weapon, it's a phallic symbol.

2- I've never met a woman like that, either.

3- It's a part of chivalry that hasn't completely died. Most guys I know (even myself) feel the need to protect women from harm and some females appreciate that. I AM NOT saying that women are weak, but protecting them gives us a confidence boost that we are strong, manly men and we are able to protect people we care about. But some feminists may also take exception.

4- Because those guys are insecure about themselves and misogynistic.

Thank you for bringing up this lively discussion, Jheiracks!

*Snickers* Glad everyone is getting into the topic! Heh, you know I guess I should probably add to it *chuckles*

Quote by rancor03As for #1 Spike said it best in the Cowboy Bebop Movie "I love a girl
who can kick my ass."

I sooooo Love that!!

1- I myself know how to protect myself and carry knives when I feel it convenient or just fro extra security. Being from a big city I know from experience that no one ever comes to your rescue so it's up to you to take the initiative and defend yourself. Guy finding it intriguing just happens to be a side affect at times - I guess I like to view it as a form of respect well, at lest from the guy friends I can put on the ground and keep them there (in play).

2- Back in the day when I used to fight seriously then the person (guy or girl) I fought always got pissed at me because either I knew what I was doing and it wasn't just a b**ch fight. Where guys were concerned they seemed to just get pissed because I knew what the hell to do and since they started it they feel worse having been beaten by a girl. *chuckles* An personal it bothers me when other females see self protection as something to be left to someone else, I'll never understand that concept.
Why is it that some women think it is pointless to know how to defend themselves?

3- I'd have to go with the knight in shining amour complex *smiles* not that it isn't cute when the timing is well executed, but being that all of the people who know me know for a fact that I can take care of myself and if a confrontation should a rise the guys still try to step between me and the danger I find it somewhat insulting. *Shrugs* I feel like they either have no expectation that I can deal with a difficult situation in a non-violent manner, or they are just trying to protect the small (5'4") chicky behind them

4- Guys really do look like ruffled peacocks when you put them on the ground face down with their arm and fingers twisted behind them *snickers* My best friend is used to getting put down, the other guys I play with get 'beat' by me and then go and fight the other guys even more rigorously - that or they make an excuse they it was just 'good luck' when it comes to me Rrrriiiggghhhhttttt *shrugs* Just bugs me and I was hoping for some outside opinions *Smiles brightly* Thanks Everyone so much for your comments! It gave me some interesting insight!

This topic has the best title ever. How eyecatching.
And lots of men find a strong woman sexy. They think its a big turn on. I've never had anyone tell me how sexy being defenseless was so..I never encountered it.

Quote by Jheiracks I feel like they either have no expectation that I can deal with a difficult situation in a non-violent manner, or they are just trying to protect the small (5'4") chicky behind them

4- Guys really do look like ruffled peacocks when you put them on the ground face down with their arm and fingers twisted behind them *snickers* My best friend is used to getting put down, the other guys I play with get 'beat' by me and then go and fight the other guys even more rigorously - that or they make an excuse they it was just 'good luck' when it comes to me Rrrriiiggghhhhttttt

Reflex maybe for protecting you anyways? Even though you are capable, I think it'd be nice that they don't take it for granted at the same time. I mean, you can always be too over confident. And even if you are capable, maybe they don't like seeing you in that sort of situation so they do step in for you? Just a thought. If I was in your position, I rather have them there in the first place and not have to wait for me to try my moves first and then have them come to my rescue if anything goes wrong. *shrugs* That's just me though and I'm not capable of defending myself really, so I guess that says a lot

As for them trying harder after being beat by you... I think it's still the pride thing. Maybe they're disappointed, but don't want to look bad at the same time. So the next time they go at it, they put more effort into making sure they're the one that wins. As for the luck thing, they're probably being insecure and just blowing off your win as luck so they don't feel crappy about it. Oh well. You should be proud of your accomplishments and your abilities anywayz! ^^

1. Well, I really like tomboyish girls. I dunno, there's just something about them that is just... (hot!!!!).... attractive.

I can't answer number two, not being a girl and all,
and I don't really agree with the last two.

Quote by JheiracksI have a few questions for everyone I just have a blatant curiosity
*Smiles brightly* 1- Why do some people find it attractive that a woman
carries a weapon and knows how to defend herself?
2- Why is it that some women think it is pointless to know how to
defend themselves?
3- Why do some guys prefer to be the protector of the females around
them?
4- An along the same line as the last q – Why does it bother some guys
when a chick smaller then they are kick their ass, even in play?
Thanks all!

1. They dont, thats just fetishes, weird ones...
2. Cause they hang around decent guys.
3. Makes you look big?
4. Dunno?

Hmm. I don't find it too terribly attractive that a girl can kick ass, in the sense she can beat people up. That's practically the same as a guy kicking ass, anyone can do it if they put their mind to it. I'm sad when anyone beats me at something, boy or girl. In the end, all humans are insuperior to robots and vampires.

Quote by Masaru-SanHmm. I don't find it too terribly attractive that a girl can kick ass. That's practically the same as a guy kicking ass, anyone can do it if they put their mind to it. I'm sad when anyone beats me at something, boy or girl. In the end, all humans are insuperior to robots and vampires.

What about vampire hunters?

Why would you hunt vampires? I kill Vampire Hunters!

*Busts up laughing* Okay then, a bit off topic are we? An a little side note! I've had a rough past and had the $hit beat out of me on a few different occasions for nothing that was my doing, just wrong place wrong time. I sort of figured out the hard way that bing on your own really means just that and gaining the self control and disiplining myself so that I could protect myself was diffucult. An now when I mock fight with my friends it isn't to show them that I am better than they are it is just for the fun and love of it. Moving your body and using it how it was meant to be used is an almost blissful feeling *grins*