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Having girlfriends/boyfriends at a young age??

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I wax wondering what your opinion is. Mine is that I think you should wait till after college or high school, because if you have them while in school you will be distracted from your grades, and, since youth make many mistakes, it's better, in my opinion, not to have a bf/gf than get your heart broken. Besides, what are the chances of you staying with the person anyway? I think you should only date somebody if you have intentions of marrying them. But, if you have a bf/gf at an early age, you will have "experience" on a future bf/gf. So, what do you think?

All this imho:

i think you should get a SO(significant other) when you're emotionally and mentally prepared. (If it's just for the status, then it's a pretty pointless relationship but then the persons who have that kind of relationships already know that.) Some people mature quicker than others, so there's really no way you tell when it's right for "them", only when it's right "for you". Early relationships are often indication of interest in the topic, though. I mean, I wasn't really interested in dating someone until college and guys responded to that. I didn't have a bf till college. When you're interested, you behave differently. It's important to realize how to behave early enough that you still have a chance at catching that guy you like. Later on -- he's taken. (Same for girls).

well idk. it seems like kids are maturing faster and faster these days... i've got a lil sister in 6th grade and she always talks about her friends and who's "dating" whom... i didnt have my first "serious" relationship until i was a junior in high school! at a young age i don't think that kids can have a serious relationship... it's more about having fun than thinking about marriage or having your heart broken. also they can't really go anywhere without a parent chaperone. personally, i don't mind them going out on "dates", but not kissing and all that.

i think people can't tell someone not to fall in love when thy are still in school. if it happens then it happens, but students should focus on their work as well. as of me, i'm trying to study hard and boyfriend come after.

I don't think it's that they're actually maturing faster, but they want to.

In elementary school kids are having crushes on their teachers and as you reach Jr. High girls are having a different 'boyfriend' by the week. I think it's an image thing. Gives the teenyboppers something to gossip about and makes them feel important.

At what age do you think they're capable of having a 'serious' relationship? O_o

Quote by Shkira I don't think it's that they're actually maturing faster, but they want to.
In elementary school kids are having crushes on their teachers and as you reach Jr. High girls are having a different 'boyfriend' by the week. I think it's an image thing. Gives the teenyboppers something to gossip about and makes them feel important.

Yup, that's how I see it in my school too. I mean, my classmates were getting bfs/gfs when we were only 11 years old! As for me, I try to focus on my studying first. If ever I do get into a relationship while I'm in high school, I'm sure I wouldn't take it too seriously.

Well having a relationship in highschool is usually something that just happens, unless ur one of those ppl who's looking for a bf/gf, but if u start liking someone its really not ur fault. Its true it could possibily effect someones studies, but it all depends on the person and how they organize their priorities. Its pretty common in my school for people to be in a couple, of course not to me tho lol. Its probably true that a high school relationship will never last, or thats what the stats seem to show at least. Of course being in a relationship can be pretty fun for the time being, and if i ever find that someone i wouldnt hesitate to make it into something. Gotta enjoy your youth, lol, theres room for things other than studing.. specially since studing doesnt even take me long.

Most of the relationships I had when I was in Jr High and High School were a distraction so I guess I agree. I don't know that not dating is the way to go, but I certainly think people in school should remember that, while important in their own right, relationships are best when handled with care and other responsibilities shouldn't be ignored over them.

I think the age only matters if it distracts you from school. If you are young, have a bf/gf, and aren't distracted it's all good. As for breakups... it'll happen eventually might as well get ready for disapointments.

Man really? I don't have a bf cause all of the guys at my school are jerks.....-_-.....;;; and I'm in high school!!! >.<

*agrees with Cagari*
Most of the guys at my highschool are either so occupied with their social status or athletics that I don't think they have matured enough to know that they often act like jerks. I've seen jr. high students make out in front of a classroom and it made me shudder. I think most people have to wait till they get out of highschool (*cough* reason for still being single *cough* ^^ )

I believe that is my personal opinion because i am young child and i believe to have a girlfriend in young age isn't so good for two reasons first you aren't so matute aan second you don't know what means really love.But if you have a girlfriend you learn from young age what is love and this love stay in your heart and never forget.The same i believe do and with girls :)

It's not so much the influence they have on a person's studies. What I don't get is what they think they're going to get out of it.

From what I've seen teens fall in and out of love everyday, on a whim. That's not even real, they just get infatuated with the hotties or "in" with "the crowd".

There's SOME high school sweethearts who get married and are happy later in life, but that's a small exception to my belief that relationships among young, school age kids will lead to no where.

well I think you are right to have have a boy in high school or college but even if you have it before you always have to think about school first, also no matter what some how or someday you'll have your heart broken by somebody is something that has to happen.

I'm in 7th grade and I know what you're saying. When I was younger I used to think that dating was stupid and that you should wait until you're older, but now I realized that you can't really put an age on falling in love. I understand that the older you are, the more emotionally prepared you might be, but no ones really prepared to have their heart broken anyway so maybe if you get into the dating thing younger, you'll be more experienced I guess.

I've had a bf every year since I was 12 and it hasn't distracted me yet. :D

my first gf was when I was 5.... *shrugs*


Im fine, a bit of a psycho but Im fine...

I really think you should wait though, not because of the studies, but because of the emotion that's in it. It's just......really.....weird to me if you have a bf/gf at a young age.....

Age doesn't matter, maturity does. It just so happens that one's age can usually be used to measure one's maturity. :o

Quote by SharinganKnightmy first gf was when I was 5.... *shrugs*
Im fine, a bit of a psycho but Im fine...

wow that's cool :d

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i have no bf and I don't need one, anyway :D

Quote by animeangel188I'm in 7th grade and I know what you're saying. When I was younger I used to think that dating was stupid and that you should wait until you're older, but now I realized that you can't really put an age on falling in love. I understand that the older you are, the more emotionally prepared you might be, but no ones really prepared to have their heart broken anyway so maybe if you get into the dating thing younger, you'll be more experienced I guess.

If you're mature enough at that age. There shouldn't be a problem with it.

I think teens should wait til their senior year of high school to date, but I think that waiting til their senior year of college would be even better. Hanging out with the opposite sex is all fine and good, but dating is a huge distraction. I would know; when I dated my last of three boyfriends, my grades went up a bit, but after he dumped me, they plummeted because I was too hung up on him to pay attention in class.

you need the expeirience. if you didn't have it everybody would suck at dating. alot of people i know are starting to date around 14
them is the golden years and Grades. it is really just for your future. and we do have alot oftime to do stuff.
we will go on a late date

Well, i think it doesn't really matter what age because when ur 17 years old and down you don't really know anything about love. At this point you can't really tell the diffrence between loving someone or just being attacted to them. As long as the relationship does'nt go to far, age really does'nt matter. I mean i started having gf's since i was 11 and i never actually loved any of them until i met my current gf

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