This is an important question that many people sometimes think to themselves
about..
Have you ever fealt out of reach of lending a
helping hand to a friend or a lover? Have you ever fealt that you are our of
reach of being with you lover? Have you ever fealt that your relationship will
be ruined by long distance or lack of contact? and if so...why? Please
explain^.^
I have fealt helpless against helping someone i truly care about. And i do admit
that..long distance relationships have worried me in the past and i have felt
constantly ignored and hated by someone you love or family members.
Though this is normal...there are many difficulties in life, though most have
been cursed with many..and sometimes, like myself, a life of lonliness and
darkness, but a light is always on in the corner^.^ My light in which keeps me
alive and moving forever...the light that warms my heart and gives me hope^.^
heheheh
I appreciate detailed posts^.^
please do not be shy to explain things here..i want to know how other people
feel about this...^.^
i just recently felt out of reach with someone i love; a friend i want to start
a relationship with, but she rejected me in the sweetest way, that didn't stop
the pain though.
Everytime i'm close to her i still see her like something thats really far and
that i can't reach.
hm...sometimes...i wanna help someone, but i can't...i can't do anything to help
that person. that feeling is so awful. it feels really bad. oh, and answer to
the lovey, relationship thing, i don't know how that feels like, because...well,
i'm a bit young to have a relationship. sorry, i can't give you such a detailed
post...
For one, long distance is a challenge. Getting to know and understand the person
on the other side, especially through the internet, takes a while. For some
people, it takes a lot less time. Because the internet is mostly just an array
of words, determining feelings is difficult. However, words are easier to
believe over the internet than they are in life, and I can conclude that in real
life, you can find out something quickly if a fib is told. It's much easier to
lose a relationship in distance, but if you both are committed to each other,
then the relationship will last longer.
Quote by Nakofani just recently felt out
of reach with someone i love; a friend i want
to start a relationship with, but she rejected me in the sweetest way,
that didn't stop the pain though.
Everytime i'm close to her i still see her like something thats really
far and that i can't reach.
Ah, i understand how that can be. It is extremly difficult to fall in love with
a friend, and then be rejected T.T
Though...look at the bright side of things..rejection tells you that it kept you
from entering a relationship that might of ended up bad and would of caused you
more pain. I have faced MANY rejections over the years and numerous bad
relationships..But i am finally in a good one. It takes time to find someone who
truly loves you..trust me..i've gone through millions of heart break and many
late night movies with a tissue box and jug of ice cream^.^
Quote by toxictea23Ah, i understand
how that can be. It is extremly difficult to fall in love with a friend, and
then be rejected T.T
Though...look at the bright side of things..rejection tells you that it kept you
from entering a relationship that might of ended up bad and would of caused you
more pain. I have faced MANY rejections over the years and numerous bad
relationships..But i am finally in a good one. It takes time to find someone who
truly loves you..trust me..i've gone through millions of heart break and many
late night movies with a tissue box and jug of ice
cream^.^
Still i wanted to try i know that there is like 90% chance the she isn't the one
for me but i wanted to try. It's not love if there is no pain.
Yes I feel out of reach right now. My best friend is suffering from hearthache
at the moment and blames herself. I want to help her because I cant stand to see
her hurt like this but I feel like I cant. I'm out of reach when I try to give
her a helping hand. She was hurt and poured her soul out to me, and no matter
what I do she refuses to believe that it wasn't her fault. She blames herself
but the truth is the guy was a selfish jerk and she just cant see that no matter
what I say to her. I want to help her through this but I cant seem to reach
her...
Long distance relationships can be hard. I knew a girl who I talked to every
day but lived far away. At times I just wanted to hold her to help her through
the pain but i couldn't.... well thats life for ya.
i am one of those people who loves to help others, and be there for people and
to take care of them. I hate it when I feel like I can do nothing, no matter how
much I want to ease the person's pain and help them feel better. Mainly this
happens because all my friends are currently far from me and I can't go to them
and comfort them in person. It's much harder to comfort online or even over the
phone. A few of my friends have been having hard times lately, and though I do
talk to them online and try to help them, sometimes I feel like that's not doing
enough, and I can do nothing to help them more.
As for the love thing...heh...I know how that goes too. I've had a few
unrequited loves (most of which have faded by now), and that pain is really
hard. I asked out the two guys I had liked and they both rejected me, although
they were nice about it, and it still hurt me quite a bit. And recently my
boyfriend broke up with me, without a real reason as to why, and I could do
nothing to convince him not to go. And now he won't even speak to me. I want
to talk to him, and try to be friends, but he will have nothing to do with me.
He has me blocked on my messenger, and he never answered any of my emails. It
hurts me greatly. His silence almost hurts more than him actually breaking up
with me.
Heh...I think I'm getting off topic, but to answer your question, I do know how
that feels, and it is indeed very painful.
Your friendships do fade from long distances unless you keep in contact really
good. because if you are far away you meet new people. you start to forget your
old friends. you forget them and they will also aquire new friends. you drift
away and then you brake apart. forever losing that friend. happens to me all the
time.
i hate it.
dont let it happen to you its not good. keep in contact.
man i would just love to show how much i feel about being away from the one i
love its true i am away from him and i love him alot! but i feel so much sorrow
just not being able too see him because then you feel so alone and theres
nothing you can do about it..
well yah it is happening now for me O.O and its kinda true..
When i left my Ex 2 years ago i thought we woul actually keep on going even
though we were far apart from each other.... but as time grew the instant
messaging grew short and time wise and soon from Emails then simple hello's. We
even promised each other that if this wouldnt work out we would officially break
up... 3months past since i left then we did. Long distance realtionships are
hard at times because you dont know if the person is faithful to you or just a
lying scumbag (excuse me) but hey you never know.... But through it all theres
not one day i have had her in my mind wondering if shes doing fine in her life?
with her future? with her friends and family? with her new bf she has after
me....?
As long as she stays happy then i am happy too, ive dealt with the pain,
burdens, sorrows and depressions of this and through it all its nice to be a
free bird again. Actually i was her saving grace, her angel from her perspective
since most of her relationships dont go well for her you see due to the fact
most of them were jerks. But We still keep tabs on each other, our love was not
pure love actually, it seemed more like a guardian/Friendship bond love. I walk
the darkness of paths, guiding the lost souls who accidentally cross this way,
and through it all i myself consider myself "their" light to the real
way. Even though mines is darker than most people...
"Humans
are born with one wing, made by God; the man has the right while the woman has
the left. When they find each other and go together as one, they work as a team
and fly together to the heavens." ~Xenogears
I've certainly felt detatched to someone I've considered a close friend... funny
thing is that she lives about 5 mintues from my house... yet I never go there -
and when she is on MSN etc. we never talk... we used to be good friends.. don;t
know what happened there and why I can't talk to her properly/go to her
house
Quote by entocheetsI've certainly felt
detatched to someone I've considered a close
friend... funny thing is that she lives about 5 mintues from my
house... yet I never go there - and when she is on MSN etc. we never
talk... we used to be good friends.. don;t know what happened there and
why I can't talk to her properly/go to her house
:/
Sorry if this wasn't what you were looking for
Just try writing a detailed e-mail, to kind of make your friend think about
things, because the reasons for the not talking much is that she is either too
lazy, or something has happened and she doesnt want to talk because of it.
yeah i totally have. it felt so horrible...
my friends that were dating broke up and i couldnt help either one. it was a
hugs mistake for both of them and they were both so sad but i couldnt get either
of them to just...well talk. i couldnt find a way to understand one of my best
friends that day and it just feels so horrible.
Quote by himeno22yeah i totally have. it
felt so horrible...
my friends that were dating broke up and i couldnt help either one. it
was a hugs mistake for both of them and they were both so sad but i
couldnt get either of them to just...well talk. i couldnt find a way to
understand one of my best friends that day and it just feels so
horrible.
Ya, i know how thats feels. My best friend fell in love with her friend who has
always been there for her since she was little, and well they dated for a while
and he died acouple of months ago...but before he died...they had a bad break
up...based on a lot of anger and tension between them because some people around
them had been stressing them a lot, and well...i cant talk to her..at all..she's
been locked inside her room for weeks now..shes really pale>.< Though, its
best to leave people alone to think. They know if they are risking their
health...im sure they know what they are doing...do not worry and give it some
time. Just focuss on things in your life right now..
Another note
For this past year now, many stresses and hardships have been brought on young
teens and young adults..its getting extremly out of hand. And the fact that many
young people are dying and old people living...is a terrible thing to see. What
is going on?
Quote by toxictea23Ah, i understand
how that can be. It is extremly difficult to fall in love with a friend, and
then be rejected T.T
Though...look at the bright side of things..rejection tells you that it kept you
from entering a relationship that might of ended up bad and would of caused you
more pain. I have faced MANY rejections over the years and numerous bad
relationships..But i am finally in a good one. It takes time to find someone who
truly loves you..trust me..i've gone through millions of heart break and many
late night movies with a tissue box and jug of ice
cream^.^
Still i wanted to try i know that there is like 90% chance the she isn't the one
for me but i wanted to try. It's not love if there is no
pain.
I totally agree with you. I just found that my x had a baby with his x. It can
hurt, but without tha sad things in life then we would never get experience.
Quote by Foxy-Panther
I totally agree with you. I just found that my x had a baby with his x.
It can hurt, but without tha sad things in life then we would never get
experience.
yeah...my first bf. when we were going out we got along great. but out of then
air he dumped me and now ignores me. i don't wanna lose touch with him but he
doesn't want anything to do with me. so i just stop trying.
i still want to be his friend but if he doesn't...then the last friendliest
thing i can to do for him is let him be.
Quote by curiouslittlevixenyeah...my
first bf. when we were going out we got along great. but out
of then air he dumped me and now ignores me. i don't wanna lose touch
with him but he doesn't want anything to do with me. so i just stop
trying.
i still want to be his friend but if he doesn't...then the last
friendliest thing i can to do for him is let him be.
That's pretty much exactly what is happeningto me, but this guy wasn't my first
boyfriend. But still it's a very hard thing to go through...
o.O hmm...i guess the last time something like that happened to me was the last
day of school in 8th grade...since i was going to a different high school than
the rest of my friends it was really hard...other than that i'm not sure of what
else...
This is an important question that many people sometimes think to themselves about..
Have you ever fealt out of reach of lending a helping hand to a friend or a lover? Have you ever fealt that you are our of reach of being with you lover? Have you ever fealt that your relationship will be ruined by long distance or lack of contact?
and if so...why? Please explain^.^
I have fealt helpless against helping someone i truly care about. And i do admit that..long distance relationships have worried me in the past and i have felt constantly ignored and hated by someone you love or family members.
Though this is normal...there are many difficulties in life, though most have been cursed with many..and sometimes, like myself, a life of lonliness and darkness, but a light is always on in the corner^.^ My light in which keeps me alive and moving forever...the light that warms my heart and gives me hope^.^ heheheh
I appreciate detailed posts^.^
please do not be shy to explain things here..i want to know how other people feel about this...^.^
i just recently felt out of reach with someone i love; a friend i want to start a relationship with, but she rejected me in the sweetest way, that didn't stop the pain though.
Everytime i'm close to her i still see her like something thats really far and that i can't reach.
hm...sometimes...i wanna help someone, but i can't...i can't do anything to help that person. that feeling is so awful. it feels really bad. oh, and answer to the lovey, relationship thing, i don't know how that feels like, because...well, i'm a bit young to have a relationship. sorry, i can't give you such a detailed post...
For one, long distance is a challenge. Getting to know and understand the person on the other side, especially through the internet, takes a while. For some people, it takes a lot less time. Because the internet is mostly just an array of words, determining feelings is difficult. However, words are easier to believe over the internet than they are in life, and I can conclude that in real life, you can find out something quickly if a fib is told. It's much easier to lose a relationship in distance, but if you both are committed to each other, then the relationship will last longer.
Ah, i understand how that can be. It is extremly difficult to fall in love with a friend, and then be rejected T.T
Though...look at the bright side of things..rejection tells you that it kept you from entering a relationship that might of ended up bad and would of caused you more pain. I have faced MANY rejections over the years and numerous bad relationships..But i am finally in a good one. It takes time to find someone who truly loves you..trust me..i've gone through millions of heart break and many late night movies with a tissue box and jug of ice cream^.^
Still i wanted to try i know that there is like 90% chance the she isn't the one for me but i wanted to try. It's not love if there is no pain.
Yes I feel out of reach right now. My best friend is suffering from hearthache at the moment and blames herself. I want to help her because I cant stand to see her hurt like this but I feel like I cant. I'm out of reach when I try to give her a helping hand. She was hurt and poured her soul out to me, and no matter what I do she refuses to believe that it wasn't her fault. She blames herself but the truth is the guy was a selfish jerk and she just cant see that no matter what I say to her. I want to help her through this but I cant seem to reach her...
Long distance relationships can be hard. I knew a girl who I talked to every day but lived far away. At times I just wanted to hold her to help her through the pain but i couldn't.... well thats life for ya.
Oye..the story of my life.
i am one of those people who loves to help others, and be there for people and to take care of them. I hate it when I feel like I can do nothing, no matter how much I want to ease the person's pain and help them feel better. Mainly this happens because all my friends are currently far from me and I can't go to them and comfort them in person. It's much harder to comfort online or even over the phone. A few of my friends have been having hard times lately, and though I do talk to them online and try to help them, sometimes I feel like that's not doing enough, and I can do nothing to help them more.
As for the love thing...heh...I know how that goes too. I've had a few unrequited loves (most of which have faded by now), and that pain is really hard. I asked out the two guys I had liked and they both rejected me, although they were nice about it, and it still hurt me quite a bit. And recently my boyfriend broke up with me, without a real reason as to why, and I could do nothing to convince him not to go. And now he won't even speak to me.
I want
to talk to him, and try to be friends, but he will have nothing to do with me.
He has me blocked on my messenger, and he never answered any of my emails. It
hurts me greatly. His silence almost hurts more than him actually breaking up
with me.
Heh...I think I'm getting off topic, but to answer your question, I do know how that feels, and it is indeed very painful.
Your friendships do fade from long distances unless you keep in contact really good. because if you are far away you meet new people. you start to forget your old friends. you forget them and they will also aquire new friends. you drift away and then you brake apart. forever losing that friend. happens to me all the time.
i hate it.
dont let it happen to you its not good. keep in contact.
man i would just love to show how much i feel about being away from the one i love its true i am away from him and i love him alot! but i feel so much sorrow just not being able too see him because then you feel so alone and theres nothing you can do about it..
well yah it is happening now for me O.O and its kinda true..
When i left my Ex 2 years ago i thought we woul actually keep on going even though we were far apart from each other.... but as time grew the instant messaging grew short and time wise and soon from Emails then simple hello's. We even promised each other that if this wouldnt work out we would officially break up... 3months past since i left then we did. Long distance realtionships are hard at times because you dont know if the person is faithful to you or just a lying scumbag (excuse me) but hey you never know.... But through it all theres not one day i have had her in my mind wondering if shes doing fine in her life? with her future? with her friends and family? with her new bf she has after me....?
As long as she stays happy then i am happy too, ive dealt with the pain, burdens, sorrows and depressions of this and through it all its nice to be a free bird again. Actually i was her saving grace, her angel from her perspective since most of her relationships dont go well for her you see due to the fact most of them were jerks. But We still keep tabs on each other, our love was not pure love actually, it seemed more like a guardian/Friendship bond love. I walk the darkness of paths, guiding the lost souls who accidentally cross this way, and through it all i myself consider myself "their" light to the real way. Even though mines is darker than most people...
"Humans are born with one wing, made by God; the man has the right while the woman has the left. When they find each other and go together as one, they work as a team and fly together to the heavens." ~Xenogears
I've certainly felt detatched to someone I've considered a close friend... funny thing is that she lives about 5 mintues from my house... yet I never go there - and when she is on MSN etc. we never talk... we used to be good friends.. don;t know what happened there and why I can't talk to her properly/go to her house
:/
Sorry if this wasn't what you were looking for
Just try writing a detailed e-mail, to kind of make your friend think about things, because the reasons for the not talking much is that she is either too lazy, or something has happened and she doesnt want to talk because of it.
yeah i totally have. it felt so horrible...
my friends that were dating broke up and i couldnt help either one. it was a hugs mistake for both of them and they were both so sad but i couldnt get either of them to just...well talk. i couldnt find a way to understand one of my best friends that day and it just feels so horrible.
Ya, i know how thats feels. My best friend fell in love with her friend who has always been there for her since she was little, and well they dated for a while and he died acouple of months ago...but before he died...they had a bad break up...based on a lot of anger and tension between them because some people around them had been stressing them a lot, and well...i cant talk to her..at all..she's been locked inside her room for weeks now..shes really pale>.< Though, its best to leave people alone to think. They know if they are risking their health...im sure they know what they are doing...do not worry and give it some time. Just focuss on things in your life right now..
Another note
For this past year now, many stresses and hardships have been brought on young teens and young adults..its getting extremly out of hand. And the fact that many young people are dying and old people living...is a terrible thing to see. What is going on?
I totally agree with you. I just found that my x had a baby with his x. It can hurt, but without tha sad things in life then we would never get experience.
Oh lord, thats a terrible thing to here>.<
yeah...my first bf. when we were going out we got along great. but out of then air he dumped me and now ignores me. i don't wanna lose touch with him but he doesn't want anything to do with me. so i just stop trying.
i still want to be his friend but if he doesn't...then the last friendliest thing i can to do for him is let him be.
no, i haven't.
i try to avoid long-distance relationships.
That's pretty much exactly what is happeningto me, but this guy wasn't my first boyfriend. But still it's a very hard thing to go through...
o.O hmm...i guess the last time something like that happened to me was the last day of school in 8th grade...since i was going to a different high school than the rest of my friends it was really hard...other than that i'm not sure of what else...