Ok Im not sure if this is the right place to post this, so if its not just move
it to the correct location.
I like Ecchi alright, and Im also in to Hentai. Anyway I told my girlfriend at
the start of our relationship, that I liked Anime, Ecchi, also and Hentai. At
First she was alright with it, and she would come look at the Hentai with me, I
thought sweet she doesnt mind it. Later on she started to find it abit bad but
still keeped looking at it with me. Now she totally hates hentai and ecchi, she
thinks its very sick, and doesnt want me viewing it, she also thinks that if I
look at any picture of an Anime girl that Im looking for it.
Its annoying because I like the stuff, and find nothing wrong with any of it,
sure it looks dodgy, but not all of it is. I know the hentai is dodgy, but I
hardly look at that anymore, I mainly look only at anime an ecchi now
days.
Also whats annoying is, she shows me these pictures last week of ecchi and some
hentai. I thought to myself sweet shes over it, she wont mind if I look at it
to.
Man I was wrong, I told her to day that I had some, and that I wanted to make
somethings in photoshop with it, and shes freaking out.
Shes saying that shes not good enough for me now, that I need cartoons, that I
dont love her, and so on.
Now im some sort of perverted freak, and she nearly ready to break up with
me.
I also brought up the topic of why did she have Ecchi and Hentai, and she said
that she was getting it for a friend. I find that hard to believe, because all
she had to do was find links and give the links to them, not download the
pictures.
This is really playing with my head, its seems to me there are 2 different sets
of rules for me and her, its just isnt fair that she can look at it and I
cant.
What should I do about it, I dont want to give up anything, but I mainly dont
want to lose her.
hmm.... i see
maybe you should show that watching Hentai or Ecchi is not as bad as she
tought. and you shoulnn't always talk about Ecchi,Anime or Hentai with her
becouse that will make her think that you are "2D Complex."
about why she had Hentai and say she sait she getting it for a friend .
actually ithink she also like it but she is embraced to tell you that so she say
she is getting it for a friend.
you have to wait untill you are with some one for a while before you can start
doing that kinda stuff! you have to wait untill you are comforatable with each
other or it may never happen and you'll just havve to do it behind her
back...
LOL ! that's a GG ! umm.. i think its more that she's comparing her to the
hentai.. she has to do what they do for yu.. lol.. im not into hentai or porn..
instead.. chicks think im ghey.. -.-; usually i find people just watching it
while their gf's arent around..
Quote by KojirohLOL ! that's a GG ! umm..
i think its more that she's comparing her to the hentai.. she has to do what
they do for yu.. lol.. im not into hentai or porn.. instead.. chicks think im
ghey.. -.-; usually i find people just watching it while their gf's arent
around..
That makes sense, maybe she does compare herself to Hentai, she shouldnt tho, I
dont want her to think that, as its not true.
I dont always talk to her about hentai or ecchi, so I dont think that it should
be a problem, its not like I mention it very week.
I do look at it when shes not here(Not with in 100km of me), but since we live
together its very hard for me and her not to be here at the same time. If she
caught me doing it behind her back she would most likely dump me, because shes
said not to do it while shes here, unless shes out of town, its the only Im I
can truely look at anything. I dont mind not looking at it while shes here, but
when shes away I have no problem doing it.
Well you can do it behind her back or you can ask her if she would rather you
look at porn... if she says yes you have problems.
another solution is to try to stop; like from hentai to ecchi to only a little
ecchi to the occasional glance.
Or you can dump her if things get to rough, but thats not helping you or her so
I wouldn't recommend that...
Ouch... your in a tough situation
Well... for starters, have a little talk about your relationship with her and
hetai/ecchi, ask what she really thinks about, though she could get tick off but
you have to tell her to listen.
Tell her why you like Ecchi/Hentai and say that she is important to you, but
this is one of your loving hobbies and that she needs top respect that as you
respect her her. Try to put this in a manner were she will listen to every word
you say.
This is what I would do in a situation like this, but I feel this could be the
right thing to do.
One day, you've gone off to work.
Your wife does some tidying up.
She finds a huge stack of porn magazines. This huge stack is more than Bill
Clinton's complete Playboy bongo collection.
She gets upset and throws them all away.
What does this tell you?
Right now, she's thinking:
1. She is not attractive to you.
2. She thinks you don't love her.
3. She doesn't like the idea other women are a more turn on than herself.
4. She fear you don't like having sex with her.
5. She could lose her self-esteem.
If I was her friend, I'd advise her to dump you. Your continue refusal to stop
looking at HENTAI without regarding her feelings is just very f***ing selfish of
you!
I admit, I look at hentai occassionally, but I don't get obsessed over hentai
like you do.
*cough late virginity loss cough*
In fact, if I actually knew her and liked her in real life, I would steal her
off you (which would be so pathetically easy).
So, I'll write out my solution to your problem (if you haven't figured it
already).
STOP LOOKING AT HENTAI AND START TO RESPECT HER FEELINGS, OR ELSE YOU WILL NOT
HAVE A GIRLFRIEND AND WILL LABEL YOU A PERVERT WHICH COULD STOP YOU FROM GETTING
ANOTHER GIRLFRIEND (when your current girlfriend has dumped you) IN FUTURE.
ok ok I hope this helps
Maybe she doesnt undertsand how an cartoon can pleasure you more then a normal
porn.
Start watching the normal human porn instead thats probubly were she is getting
the whole she isnt good enough for you thing.Its because you like cartoon more
then human.
and sh must think if human porn girls dont satisfy you then how can she.
Let her know that you want more then hentia but one question why do you watch
hentai if you can F*** your girl friend ?
or is it that you dont?
If thats the reason go a head and watch hentai but tell her thats why.
If not then you shouldnt watch hentai at all when you have a girl
friend.
And any way there are some things you just dont tell women.
I dont look at it as much as you guys seem to think, Im not obsessed about it,
its just something I would look at like once in awhile(I said in first post I
hardly look at it). I pay more attention to her than anything else in the world,
and she knows it, I tell her everyday how I feel about her.
What I was complaining about here, was how she went from liking it, to totally
hating it, and the fact that she was getting it on the computer, and then
complaining about me getting it.
Maybe I should have said in the first post, when I told her about hentai, said
told me she had already looked at it before.
Then tell her this hentai/ecchi problem, she could be nervous and doesn't want
to share her impressions with you, my thoghts only though, but tell
her!
As a BF, you should be sorting out problems in your relationship WITH HER!
You'll never know the truth unless you talk to her about it!
wow....that sure suck...
i actually tink she going too deep into ur live...lol
hentai and ecchi is pretty private.....
like watching porn...
who the heck tells people"I WATCH PORN"
i jus find that kinda wierd.....and plus...its 100%normal for sum1 to watch
hentai
or u can jus watch hentai and ecchi wen she not around :P
Umm.. what can i say. this happened maybe because she doesn't trust u, or is
that u haven't done much things to show her ur love towards her. If she really
likes u and the relationship between u is TRULY strong, this would NOT had
happened.
If i were u...
i would APOLOGIZE to her, say sorry to her, tell her that its all my fault that
this happened...
i would DO what ever it takes to she could forgive me..so she would be
happy..
i would SHOW that i truly love her at any cost. i would talk with her, exchange
our thoughts more deeply and find out what i can do to fix this.
i would PROVE to her that she is more important to me than those anime girls. i
would ask her what she wants, if she needs any help at something..
i would ASK that if any of my traits does not saticify her.. i would change my
personality for her, if that will make her happy..
well those r what i would do...try them...i can't guarantee this will work.
Quote by AJS13I pay more attention to her
than anything else in the world, and she knows it, I tell her everyday how I
feel about her.
Well, if you said so. Moreover you said she knows it (sure?). Sorry for
insisting but it's to make sure you both shared the same point of view.
Quote by AJS13 What I was complaining about
here, was how she went from liking it, to totally hating it, and the fact that
she was getting it on the computer, and then complaining about me getting
it.
I think that you should go straight with her. Just talk to her, face to face.
First about the feelings you have for her, so that you both agree about what you
both feel about each other.
Then about what you think of ecchi and hentai animes and ask her if something
bothers her about this but tell her to tell the truth and don't stop her (even
if the atmosphere is starting to burn, let her say everything she has in her
heart).
Finally, after hearing her point of view, ask her about you watching ecchi and
hentai. Don't forget to remind her that no hentai and ecchi can replace her. She
needs to think that she is special and it is up to you to show her that she is
at your eyes.
Good luck, pal.
Quote by ccc109 If i were u...
i would APOLOGIZE to her, say sorry to her, tell her that its all my fault that
this happened...
i would DO what ever it takes to she could forgive me..so she would be
happy..
i would SHOW that i truly love her at any cost. i would talk with her, exchange
our thoughts more deeply and find out what i can do to fix this.
i would PROVE to her that she is more important to me than those anime girls. i
would ask her what she wants, if she needs any help at something..
Totally agree with that. Insist on these points. They are all important.
Quote by KordoxWhy should he apologize? He
hasnt done anything wrong, or did i miss something?
If you want a relationship to last, never blame the girl. Blaming her will do
nothing but increase the tension. But of course make sure she doesn't overuse
this as an advantage.
Quote by KordoxWhy should he apologize? He
hasnt done anything wrong, or did i miss something?
If you want a relationship to last, never blame the girl. Blaming her will do
nothing but increase the tension. But of course make sure she doesn't overuse
this as an advantage.
Maybe it's because she 'might' (not that she is) be taking this advantage
without even knowing. It's relationship must involve two people and both are
import, not the guy or girl, but both.
Whell i dont have a girl-friend so i dont have this kide of problem Whel just my
sis sometime murmur what kind of shit i m waching i just ignore her! I say:
"bug of this not your business what i m waching ":D
Ok Im not sure if this is the right place to post this, so if its not just move it to the correct location.
I like Ecchi alright, and Im also in to Hentai. Anyway I told my girlfriend at the start of our relationship, that I liked Anime, Ecchi, also and Hentai. At First she was alright with it, and she would come look at the Hentai with me, I thought sweet she doesnt mind it. Later on she started to find it abit bad but still keeped looking at it with me. Now she totally hates hentai and ecchi, she thinks its very sick, and doesnt want me viewing it, she also thinks that if I look at any picture of an Anime girl that Im looking for it.
Its annoying because I like the stuff, and find nothing wrong with any of it, sure it looks dodgy, but not all of it is. I know the hentai is dodgy, but I hardly look at that anymore, I mainly look only at anime an ecchi now days.
Also whats annoying is, she shows me these pictures last week of ecchi and some hentai. I thought to myself sweet shes over it, she wont mind if I look at it to.
Man I was wrong, I told her to day that I had some, and that I wanted to make somethings in photoshop with it, and shes freaking out.
Shes saying that shes not good enough for me now, that I need cartoons, that I dont love her, and so on.
Now im some sort of perverted freak, and she nearly ready to break up with me.
I also brought up the topic of why did she have Ecchi and Hentai, and she said that she was getting it for a friend. I find that hard to believe, because all she had to do was find links and give the links to them, not download the pictures.
This is really playing with my head, its seems to me there are 2 different sets of rules for me and her, its just isnt fair that she can look at it and I cant.
What should I do about it, I dont want to give up anything, but I mainly dont want to lose her.
hmm.... i see
maybe you should show that watching Hentai or Ecchi is not as bad as she
tought. and you shoulnn't always talk about Ecchi,Anime or Hentai with her
becouse that will make her think that you are "2D Complex."
about why she had Hentai and say she sait she getting it for a friend .
actually ithink she also like it but she is embraced to tell you that so she say she is getting it for a friend.
well if you dont want to give up her theres only one thing you can do, dont look at no more ecchi or hentai, or dont tell her your looking at it.
you have to wait untill you are with some one for a while before you can start doing that kinda stuff! you have to wait untill you are comforatable with each other
or it may never happen and you'll just havve to do it behind her
back...
LOL ! that's a GG ! umm.. i think its more that she's comparing her to the hentai.. she has to do what they do for yu.. lol.. im not into hentai or porn.. instead.. chicks think im ghey.. -.-; usually i find people just watching it while their gf's arent around..
That makes sense, maybe she does compare herself to Hentai, she shouldnt tho, I dont want her to think that, as its not true.
I dont always talk to her about hentai or ecchi, so I dont think that it should be a problem, its not like I mention it very week.
I do look at it when shes not here(Not with in 100km of me), but since we live together its very hard for me and her not to be here at the same time. If she caught me doing it behind her back she would most likely dump me, because shes said not to do it while shes here, unless shes out of town, its the only Im I can truely look at anything. I dont mind not looking at it while shes here, but when shes away I have no problem doing it.
Also what does GG mean?
Well you can do it behind her back or you can ask her if she would rather you look at porn... if she says yes you have problems.
another solution is to try to stop; like from hentai to ecchi to only a little ecchi to the occasional glance.
Or you can dump her if things get to rough, but thats not helping you or her so I wouldn't recommend that...
dude if i was in your situation, i would stop watching them. i'll do whatever i can to make my girlfriend happy. don't be self-centred.
Ouch... your in a tough situation
Well... for starters, have a little talk about your relationship with her and
hetai/ecchi, ask what she really thinks about, though she could get tick off but
you have to tell her to listen.
Tell her why you like Ecchi/Hentai and say that she is important to you, but this is one of your loving hobbies and that she needs top respect that as you respect her her. Try to put this in a manner were she will listen to every word you say.
This is what I would do in a situation like this, but I feel this could be the right thing to do.
She's jealous of anime pictures?
Okaaaaay...
Maybe you need to put her in perspective. Like point out the fact that she's jealus of anime pictures. ._.;
well if you look at it from her point of veiw she isn;t jealous she just wants him pay attention to a REAL person a.k.a HIS GIRLFRIEND
I do pay attention to her, I do all the time, she knows I do, she just doesnt want me seening anything with other girls in it.
Pretend you're married to her.
One day, you've gone off to work.
Your wife does some tidying up.
She finds a huge stack of porn magazines. This huge stack is more than Bill Clinton's complete Playboy bongo collection.
She gets upset and throws them all away.
What does this tell you?
Right now, she's thinking:
1. She is not attractive to you.
2. She thinks you don't love her.
3. She doesn't like the idea other women are a more turn on than herself.
4. She fear you don't like having sex with her.
5. She could lose her self-esteem.
If I was her friend, I'd advise her to dump you. Your continue refusal to stop looking at HENTAI without regarding her feelings is just very f***ing selfish of you!
I admit, I look at hentai occassionally, but I don't get obsessed over hentai like you do.
*cough late virginity loss cough*
In fact, if I actually knew her and liked her in real life, I would steal her off you (which would be so pathetically easy).
So, I'll write out my solution to your problem (if you haven't figured it already).
STOP LOOKING AT HENTAI AND START TO RESPECT HER FEELINGS, OR ELSE YOU WILL NOT HAVE A GIRLFRIEND AND WILL LABEL YOU A PERVERT WHICH COULD STOP YOU FROM GETTING ANOTHER GIRLFRIEND (when your current girlfriend has dumped you) IN FUTURE.
ok ok I hope this helps
Maybe she doesnt undertsand how an cartoon can pleasure you more then a normal porn.
Start watching the normal human porn instead thats probubly were she is getting the whole she isnt good enough for you thing.Its because you like cartoon more then human.
and sh must think if human porn girls dont satisfy you then how can she.
Let her know that you want more then hentia but one question why do you watch hentai if you can F*** your girl friend ?
or is it that you dont?
If thats the reason go a head and watch hentai but tell her thats why.
If not then you shouldnt watch hentai at all when you have a girl friend.
And any way there are some things you just dont tell women.
that wasn't smart to tell and show hentai to her. >.>
girls like yoai, am i right mt girls? raise ur hand, i know there are a lot of u here.
well anyways, blackalchemist is right. well since u do have a girlfriend (UR REAL WOMAN), maybe u need to cut with the ecchi/hentai.
ecchi and hentai are for losers that dun have a gf. no offence to those that do like them. =/
I dont look at it as much as you guys seem to think, Im not obsessed about it, its just something I would look at like once in awhile(I said in first post I hardly look at it). I pay more attention to her than anything else in the world, and she knows it, I tell her everyday how I feel about her.
What I was complaining about here, was how she went from liking it, to totally hating it, and the fact that she was getting it on the computer, and then complaining about me getting it.
Maybe I should have said in the first post, when I told her about hentai, said told me she had already looked at it before.
Then tell her this hentai/ecchi problem, she could be nervous and doesn't want to share her impressions with you, my thoghts only though, but tell her!
As a BF, you should be sorting out problems in your relationship WITH HER! You'll never know the truth unless you talk to her about it!
wow....that sure suck...
i actually tink she going too deep into ur live...lol
hentai and ecchi is pretty private.....
like watching porn...
who the heck tells people"I WATCH PORN"
i jus find that kinda wierd.....and plus...its 100%normal for sum1 to watch hentai
or u can jus watch hentai and ecchi wen she not around :P
Umm.. what can i say. this happened maybe because she doesn't trust u, or is that u haven't done much things to show her ur love towards her. If she really likes u and the relationship between u is TRULY strong, this would NOT had happened.
If i were u...
i would APOLOGIZE to her, say sorry to her, tell her that its all my fault that this happened...
i would DO what ever it takes to she could forgive me..so she would be happy..
i would SHOW that i truly love her at any cost. i would talk with her, exchange our thoughts more deeply and find out what i can do to fix this.
i would PROVE to her that she is more important to me than those anime girls. i would ask her what she wants, if she needs any help at something..
i would ASK that if any of my traits does not saticify her.. i would change my personality for her, if that will make her happy..
well those r what i would do...try them...i can't guarantee this will work.
Well, if you said so. Moreover you said she knows it (sure?). Sorry for insisting but it's to make sure you both shared the same point of view.
I think that you should go straight with her. Just talk to her, face to face.
First about the feelings you have for her, so that you both agree about what you both feel about each other.
Then about what you think of ecchi and hentai animes and ask her if something bothers her about this but tell her to tell the truth and don't stop her (even if the atmosphere is starting to burn, let her say everything she has in her heart).
Finally, after hearing her point of view, ask her about you watching ecchi and hentai. Don't forget to remind her that no hentai and ecchi can replace her. She needs to think that she is special and it is up to you to show her that she is at your eyes.
Good luck, pal.
Totally agree with that. Insist on these points. They are all important.
Why should he apologize? He hasnt done anything wrong, or did i miss something?
If you want a relationship to last, never blame the girl. Blaming her will do nothing but increase the tension. But of course make sure she doesn't overuse this as an advantage.
Maybe it's because she 'might' (not that she is) be taking this advantage without even knowing. It's relationship must involve two people and both are import, not the guy or girl, but both.
Whell i dont have a girl-friend so i dont have this kide of problem Whel just my sis sometime murmur what kind of shit i m waching i just ignore her! I say: "bug of this not your business what i m waching ":D