A bad event happened yesterday when I started to talk about my girlfriend. (I
knew her when I lived at hawaii) He told me "You know, you're such a DORK,
bragging about your girlfriend when you should worry about the people you tell
it to." Things got ugly and this conversation got stuck in my mind today,
messing my japanese test up today.
Do you think that online relationships are really stupid and shouldn't be done?
Also, would you call a person you know a "dork" if he or she is having
a online relationship? Tell me your opinion about it and I will accept your
critisicm.
hmm.. don't really get what you trying to say. do you mean to say that your gf
say that you're a dork?
also don't get what it means by worry about the people you tell it to.
but honestly speaking, i've been thru a long dist relationship before and most
of the time i'll onli get to talk to him online. it's quite unstable. such
relationship. but i've seen it worked out before. though not for my case.
also... i don't tink i'll go around calling anybody a dork.
probably this person who call u a dork might be upset over something and thus
maybe took it out on u. if you know this person well enough, probably should
understand where this come from. if the person had never done this before, i
supposed you could give her the benefit of the doubt and let her cool down
before ask her for an explanation.
i always say nasty things in the heat of a quarrel but i always regret it after
i cool down. the down side of your this relationship is tat it could be some
time before you'll get to talk to her again. so meanwhile chill out a bit.
I know this girl, but I agree that online relationship work only if the lovers
know each other really well.
The person that called me a dork was xde, but i don't blame him. We all make
mistakes and this is what makes me easy going and hard to understand sometimes.
The world is changing by the microsecond. Boys having gfs at 14, thunder! But,
anyway, about online relationships...
These relationships could work- but seldom they do.
I agree in short, marauder09
I call my friends dorks all the time, and they call me a dork all the time. We
get a good laugh out of it, and it's all in good fun. Nothing serious like how
it seemed with your friend. I'll only call my close friends "dorks"
which is rather ironic if you think about it... since with how we use the word
it's more of an affectionate term than it is a derogatory one.
Personally, I don't do online relationship because there are two many variables
that could go wrong, but I've seen it work out with some people. Your friend is
under the misconception that only the inept seek out online relationships, which
is not always the case. I find there is nothing wrong with it though, so you
won't hear criticism from me. You have a wonderful attitude about the whole
thing btw.
Polarie: He means he should pay attention to his real life friends instead.
I know people who have fell in love over the internet. I think a lot of people
are making a mistake in making someone their significant other BEFORE they've
met them in person. I think you really need to spend some time with them IRL
before you make a decision like that.. but then.. I also don't believe in casual
dating, or having a 'boyfriend' who I am not in love with. For me it's fall in
love, then make someone your S.O. Not, get a boyfriend, and maybe fall in love
with him later. :P
Online relationships are ok but can be very tricky to keep. Many problems start
to happen like bickering and arguments. And really, you only know the person
unless you've actually met them and seen what they're really like. Plus you
dunno what they're doing behind that computer, they might be with someone else
secretly and just playing with your heart.
I wouldn't call someone a "dork" because they're in an online
relationship but do be careful cos one of them is gonna get hurt. Online
relationships can break very easily especially with young people.
I think that relationships online isn't a bad thing, but as previously said,
they are a touchy thing to do. They require a little more concious thoguht into
things and it is often something most guys can't do b/c they aren't that
attentive. (I know that I occasionally say a thing or two in spite or cause I
think that it's funny and a couple of my lady friends don't necessarily think
the same way.)
And that's the other thing, people aren't always who they say they are. So you
think you're talking to some nice 14 year old girl, but you might actually be
talking to a 30 or 40 year old woman trying to feel young again...(that's very
scary to think about....doing that is just uber wierd...)
Dork is now a word that should not be used. As I can say most people have
different strokes and do different things in different ways, so people don't
consider that. And secondly, you know this girl from your days on the big isle,
so I don't really see what's wrong with that. You're just a bunch of
misadventurous star-bound lovers that are trying to keep in touch...how
sweet...
And next time that some says that to you, tell them to go f--- themselves. And
that they have no business in your love life.
I was gonna make a thread like this too...lol...coz i am confused..
i think online relationships are well...sad (no offence)
Coz u dont know who they are most of the time, its an easier way out of
everything coz its easy to ignore people, also u can lie about everything.
Sometime, i was kinda feeling depressed and this dude on the internet was always
there for me...but then i kinda felt better and he asked me out O_o...it kinda
wrecked everything...now i dont wanna talk to him.
I guess online relationship is okay...
Never tried though and i guess never will...
But I guess some people are bad and some are good...
But If you feel you like that person a lot..you should just still keep the
relationship
P.S: (don't really take my comments since I'm just a 14 year old girl) ^^
It's kind of difficult I think. With some people I only met on the internet and
never seen before, I have a good relationship. But when somebody like that is
going to talk like he or she knows me, then things are getting worse I think.
Because I think that people won't really 'know' you when they only met you
online.
One friend of mine, which I only know from the internet, said he was in love
with me. But I don't think you can say that, only by knowing someone by the
internet. Because I am really 'doing' different online, than in real life. In
real life I'm a little shy and I won't say things so easily, but online things
are more easy.
i have a few friends who i mainly talk online and our relationship is fine.. but
then again i've seen and hanged out with the person b4 hand... if u some how
make a friend online, i reckon u shouldnt take the relationship too seriously...
they mite seem nice online but they can b a totally different person once u see
them in person. I've seen some reports where ppl been murdered after meeting up
with their "online buddy".
i think what ur online bud is trying to say is that u shouldnt trust ppl too
easily especially when u havent met them b4
Quote by neesha But I don't think you can
say that, only by knowing someone by the internet. Because I am really 'doing'
different online, than in real life. In real life I'm a little shy and I won't
say things so easily, but online things are more
easy.
I question that. Because in real life you're shy, don't you feel that the
shyness is a barrier to your "real" self? And that with online, that
shyness can be shed so that you can actually be who you want to be? A person
online, without the cloak of direct consequences to their real life, lets their
"Id" run loose.
Take a look at the other spectrum of the argument. What makes people so
confident that they will know who the person really is by seeing them in real
life? Their body language? Their actions? Spontaneity? There are some people who
marry themselves with killers and rapists and won't ever realize it. Sam, a most
notorious serial killer, was your average next door neighbor. He was handsome,
charismatic, and practically everyone liked him. He even helped old ladies carry
their bags. You will never be able to
know a person completely no matter what you think.
Here's a personal example: I'm friends with this girl irl, and only after
knowing her for 4 years do I realize what kind of person she really is.
"The snake shows its tail" so to speak.
Our society preaches individuality, and that what is most important is on the
inside. Many of you follow this belief with the replies I've seen in your other
posts, but hypocrisy has never been more blatant. What correlates is a person
who is more into physical interaction would be less acceptable to an online
relationship.
Btw, my stance stills stands. I don't do online relationships, but if other ppl
want to then that's their game. It works for some and it doesn't for others. To
stereotype and say that people who seek out online relationships are
"sad" is rather narrow minded in thinking to my point of view.
It isn't his place or anyone else to judge you because of you having an online
relationship, but I do have my opinion of them.
In my opinion, you can't have a real relationship over the internet. Period.
Younger kids these days are doing this more often. You will never get to truly
know this person just by speaking to them over the internet (or even over the
phone). And in order for a relationship to blossom, you have to actually spend
TIME with that person, being around each other, doing things together...this is
what helps a relationship grow. You can't do this over the internet. You just
can't truly get to know someone off of here. There is just no way....and that is
just merely my opinion.
I'm Just Here To Make 1 Thing Clear, I Did Call Him A Dork..But My Reason For
Doing That Was That He Hurt Someone By Telling Her That Stuff Over And Over
Again, Call Me Evil, Call Me Whatever The Hell You Want, I Was Mad Because He
Hurt Her, Although Time Has Changed, And I Told Him That He Shouldn't Go Around
Bragging About A Net GF, If He Does Do That People WILL Make Fun Of Him,
Especially In School, So Think About What You Say Before Letting It Out, It
Doesn't Mean I'm Still Mad At You Marauder, And I Am Sorry I Said That BS, But
Just Try Not To Brag About Something Like That
i think that there isnt a problem if you have met this girl before and the
internet is the most convinient way to keep in touch. but i dont really think
its something to brag about. people should not be treated as a trophy
I think they don't work out because, even if the physic contact is not the most
important, it's nessesary, too. I think its impossible to love someone that you
only watch on a screem or just write letters saying sweet things to you.
I dont think online relationships are like actual relationships. This following
stuff I'm about to write is actually from a friend of mine:
"Real life is the medium through which you must consciously learn, execute,
and experience all things. The internet is not worthwhile unless it is put into
practice by the individual. Presence is far too important for encounters to
succeed, and neither person in a relationship derives a benefit from a non-real
life relationship. The only thing better than pretending to be somebody is to
actually be someone. I can say that I have friends in real life, and a life in
real life."
That pretty much sums up the way I feel about online life. Cause seriously, will
there ever be anything that can substitute for real life?
A bad event happened yesterday when I started to talk about my girlfriend. (I knew her when I lived at hawaii) He told me "You know, you're such a DORK, bragging about your girlfriend when you should worry about the people you tell it to." Things got ugly and this conversation got stuck in my mind today, messing my japanese test up today.
Do you think that online relationships are really stupid and shouldn't be done? Also, would you call a person you know a "dork" if he or she is having a online relationship? Tell me your opinion about it and I will accept your critisicm.
Hope the revision helped a little
hmm.. don't really get what you trying to say. do you mean to say that your gf say that you're a dork?
also don't get what it means by worry about the people you tell it to.
but honestly speaking, i've been thru a long dist relationship before and most of the time i'll onli get to talk to him online. it's quite unstable. such relationship. but i've seen it worked out before. though not for my case.
also... i don't tink i'll go around calling anybody a dork.
probably this person who call u a dork might be upset over something and thus maybe took it out on u. if you know this person well enough, probably should understand where this come from. if the person had never done this before, i supposed you could give her the benefit of the doubt and let her cool down before ask her for an explanation.
i always say nasty things in the heat of a quarrel but i always regret it after i cool down. the down side of your this relationship is tat it could be some time before you'll get to talk to her again. so meanwhile chill out a bit.
good luck!
online relationships are weird, awkward, person could be real weirdo, if you went to meet them and got to know each other better that would be ok
I know this girl, but I agree that online relationship work only if the lovers know each other really well.
The person that called me a dork was xde, but i don't blame him. We all make mistakes and this is what makes me easy going and hard to understand sometimes.
The world is changing by the microsecond. Boys having gfs at 14, thunder! But, anyway, about online relationships...
These relationships could work- but seldom they do.
I agree in short, marauder09
I call my friends dorks all the time, and they call me a dork all the time. We get a good laugh out of it, and it's all in good fun. Nothing serious like how it seemed with your friend. I'll only call my close friends "dorks" which is rather ironic if you think about it... since with how we use the word it's more of an affectionate term than it is a derogatory one.
Personally, I don't do online relationship because there are two many variables that could go wrong, but I've seen it work out with some people. Your friend is under the misconception that only the inept seek out online relationships, which is not always the case. I find there is nothing wrong with it though, so you won't hear criticism from me. You have a wonderful attitude about the whole thing btw.
Polarie: He means he should pay attention to his real life friends instead.
I know people who have fell in love over the internet. I think a lot of people are making a mistake in making someone their significant other BEFORE they've met them in person. I think you really need to spend some time with them IRL before you make a decision like that.. but then.. I also don't believe in casual dating, or having a 'boyfriend' who I am not in love with. For me it's fall in love, then make someone your S.O. Not, get a boyfriend, and maybe fall in love with him later. :P
how the hell does somebody "fall in love" online without any regular physical contact?
Online relationships are ok but can be very tricky to keep. Many problems start to happen like bickering and arguments. And really, you only know the person unless you've actually met them and seen what they're really like. Plus you dunno what they're doing behind that computer, they might be with someone else secretly and just playing with your heart.
I wouldn't call someone a "dork" because they're in an online relationship but do be careful cos one of them is gonna get hurt. Online relationships can break very easily especially with young people.
I think that relationships online isn't a bad thing, but as previously said, they are a touchy thing to do. They require a little more concious thoguht into things and it is often something most guys can't do b/c they aren't that attentive. (I know that I occasionally say a thing or two in spite or cause I think that it's funny and a couple of my lady friends don't necessarily think the same way.)
And that's the other thing, people aren't always who they say they are. So you think you're talking to some nice 14 year old girl, but you might actually be talking to a 30 or 40 year old woman trying to feel young again...(that's very scary to think about....doing that is just uber wierd...)
Dork is now a word that should not be used. As I can say most people have different strokes and do different things in different ways, so people don't consider that. And secondly, you know this girl from your days on the big isle, so I don't really see what's wrong with that. You're just a bunch of misadventurous star-bound lovers that are trying to keep in touch...how sweet...
And next time that some says that to you, tell them to go f--- themselves. And that they have no business in your love life.
I say online relationships are ok, but damn hard to find.
Yep, just like any relationship.
But like they're as good or as bad as you want them to be, just like anything it has its pros and cons.
online relationships are ok..provided u can last long enough for it, I've seen ppl who succeeded in it but there's very few of em
I was gonna make a thread like this too...lol...coz i am confused..
i think online relationships are well...sad (no offence)
Coz u dont know who they are most of the time, its an easier way out of everything coz its easy to ignore people, also u can lie about everything. Sometime, i was kinda feeling depressed and this dude on the internet was always there for me...but then i kinda felt better and he asked me out O_o...it kinda wrecked everything...now i dont wanna talk to him.
I guess online relationship is okay...
Never tried though and i guess never will...
But I guess some people are bad and some are good...
But If you feel you like that person a lot..you should just still keep the relationship
P.S: (don't really take my comments since I'm just a 14 year old girl) ^^
It's kind of difficult I think. With some people I only met on the internet and never seen before, I have a good relationship. But when somebody like that is going to talk like he or she knows me, then things are getting worse I think. Because I think that people won't really 'know' you when they only met you online.
One friend of mine, which I only know from the internet, said he was in love with me. But I don't think you can say that, only by knowing someone by the internet. Because I am really 'doing' different online, than in real life. In real life I'm a little shy and I won't say things so easily, but online things are more easy.
i have a few friends who i mainly talk online and our relationship is fine.. but then again i've seen and hanged out with the person b4 hand... if u some how make a friend online, i reckon u shouldnt take the relationship too seriously... they mite seem nice online but they can b a totally different person once u see them in person. I've seen some reports where ppl been murdered after meeting up with their "online buddy".
i think what ur online bud is trying to say is that u shouldnt trust ppl too easily especially when u havent met them b4
are u sure theres "online relationship" after all all u do is "talking" [[chat]] can u get feelings from that?
I question that. Because in real life you're shy, don't you feel that the shyness is a barrier to your "real" self? And that with online, that shyness can be shed so that you can actually be who you want to be? A person online, without the cloak of direct consequences to their real life, lets their "Id" run loose.
Take a look at the other spectrum of the argument. What makes people so confident that they will know who the person really is by seeing them in real life? Their body language? Their actions? Spontaneity? There are some people who marry themselves with killers and rapists and won't ever realize it. Sam, a most notorious serial killer, was your average next door neighbor. He was handsome, charismatic, and practically everyone liked him. He even helped old ladies carry their bags. You will never be able to know a person completely no matter what you think.
Here's a personal example: I'm friends with this girl irl, and only after knowing her for 4 years do I realize what kind of person she really is. "The snake shows its tail" so to speak.
Our society preaches individuality, and that what is most important is on the inside. Many of you follow this belief with the replies I've seen in your other posts, but hypocrisy has never been more blatant. What correlates is a person who is more into physical interaction would be less acceptable to an online relationship.
Btw, my stance stills stands. I don't do online relationships, but if other ppl want to then that's their game. It works for some and it doesn't for others. To stereotype and say that people who seek out online relationships are "sad" is rather narrow minded in thinking to my point of view.
It isn't his place or anyone else to judge you because of you having an online relationship, but I do have my opinion of them.
In my opinion, you can't have a real relationship over the internet. Period. Younger kids these days are doing this more often. You will never get to truly know this person just by speaking to them over the internet (or even over the phone). And in order for a relationship to blossom, you have to actually spend TIME with that person, being around each other, doing things together...this is what helps a relationship grow. You can't do this over the internet. You just can't truly get to know someone off of here. There is just no way....and that is just merely my opinion.
I'm Just Here To Make 1 Thing Clear, I Did Call Him A Dork..But My Reason For Doing That Was That He Hurt Someone By Telling Her That Stuff Over And Over Again, Call Me Evil, Call Me Whatever The Hell You Want, I Was Mad Because He Hurt Her, Although Time Has Changed, And I Told Him That He Shouldn't Go Around Bragging About A Net GF, If He Does Do That People WILL Make Fun Of Him, Especially In School, So Think About What You Say Before Letting It Out, It Doesn't Mean I'm Still Mad At You Marauder, And I Am Sorry I Said That BS, But Just Try Not To Brag About Something Like That
i think that there isnt a problem if you have met this girl before and the internet is the most convinient way to keep in touch. but i dont really think its something to brag about. people should not be treated as a trophy
I think they don't work out because, even if the physic contact is not the most important, it's nessesary, too. I think its impossible to love someone that you only watch on a screem or just write letters saying sweet things to you.
I dont think online relationships are like actual relationships. This following stuff I'm about to write is actually from a friend of mine:
"Real life is the medium through which you must consciously learn, execute, and experience all things. The internet is not worthwhile unless it is put into practice by the individual. Presence is far too important for encounters to succeed, and neither person in a relationship derives a benefit from a non-real life relationship. The only thing better than pretending to be somebody is to actually be someone. I can say that I have friends in real life, and a life in real life."
That pretty much sums up the way I feel about online life. Cause seriously, will there ever be anything that can substitute for real life?